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Changin' Me
How far do you think is too far when it comes to changing for your boyfriend? Is it the hair, the clothes, the attitude & friends?! I need to know.
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changing at all is too far. there isnt anything wrong with you. hes supposed to like you the way you are. isnt that why he went out with you? dont change yourself for anyone.if they dont like you the way you are now..tough shit!
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Your boyfriend should love you for who you are, and you shouldn't have to change for him! there is no reason that you should have to change who you are... if he asking you to change, than he isn't right for you!
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you shouldnt have to change for him! thats soooo ridiculous! first off, dont change your friends, theyre always their for you and this relationship may not work out. i wouldnt change my hair or style b/c thats part of who i am and probably a part of you as well. as far as attitude goes, thats negotiable. like i can understand how guys dont like people who are really clingy or whiney and that may need to be changed. but if it something like, the way you think or respond to things, again thats part of who you are.
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Well I think that you shouldn't change really anything for anyone. But sometimes it is okay for you to need to change for another person. For example I wouldn't change my hair or my clothes or even my friends for my boyfriend, but I would change my attitude. I wouldn't change my whole personality as a whole but I would try to change myself for the better. Like my boyfriend gets mad when I complain about little things like it being hot or cold. So now I try to not complain as much around him.
Kate
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You shouldn't change anything about yourself for anyone else unless you want to anyway. Be true to yourself.
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you shouldn't have to change anything unless you sincerely want to. if he says, "oh, your hair would look so beautiful if it were red." and you really want to dye your hair red, then go for it. but if you just change yourself because he says to, that's bull. i know a girl that changed completely for her boyfriend (we're talking, preppy chick turned cutter that wears black all the time and dyed her hair black). she used to be a nice girl but then she turned into a slut. then he broke up with her and now she's really screwed up. so just be what you want to be, and if you want to change something about yourself, then go ahead... but don't change if you don't want to.
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I agree with the person who answered before me. You shouldn't have to change your personality for a boyfriend. That's completely unreasonable. If he doesn't like you for who you are, then you are dating the wrong person.
It's one thing to try to dress a little nicer when you go out with your man, but it's another to go out and buy all new clothes because your boyfriend doesn't like what you wear now. You shouldn't ditch your friends for some guy that's only going to be around a few months at the most.. that's just STUPID. Don't sell out yourself and your friends. You will regret it.
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Hi.
You shouldn't have to change at all for anyone. If you're boyfriend doesn't like you the way you are now, he never will. You should just tell him in a nice way that theres no reason to change for him and he should just love you for being you. He can't tell you to change your clothes and hair and the way you act around your friends. Thats just crazy. Be yourself. If he wants you to change your personality and looks, then he doesn't love YOU he only loves who you're going to become if you change for him. Wait for the guy who respects who you are now. Guys that constantly want you to be different, arn't worth changing for. If he doesn't like the way you are now then a relationship can't work out. If you change who you are for him, then hes just going to keep telling you to change things and he'll never be happy with who you are no matter what even if you do everything he tells you to. Only change yourself for you, not for others because in the long run its not worth it. I'm sure you are great the way you are. And if your boyfriend doesn't notice that then he's not worth your time.
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[naturally_sadie]
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You dont need to change for your boyfriend. If he likes/loves you then it shouldnt matter what you look like.
You can change for yourself but never change for a guy. He'll take you as you are or he'll get over it.
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If he likes you enough to want to be your boyfriend then why should you change at all?
I mean he either likes you or he doesn't. Don't change the way you are unless its something you want to do for yourself. Get a Take me as I am attitude! :)
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