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Iam 16 years old and I want to have sex so I could get pregnant becouse I feel like nobody loves me and if I have a baby iam sure my baby will love me is this normal?

I know this is harsh and I'm sorry, but the baby isn't going to love you. The baby is going to take so much out of you and you're in no way ready for it. First there is childbirth. It hurts. A lot. Then you will have to get a job to pay for food, diapers, daycare, clothes, etc. Then the baby won't even give you the fullfilment you want. All it wants is to eat and sleep. I'm sure there are people who love you. Your parents or guardians, your friends. From time to time, everybody feels like they are unwanted. But you can't be the center of attention all the time. Talk to your parents, say you want to spend more time with them, or see a guidance counselor. Getting pregnant isn't going to solve any problems, it's just going to create more.

Ok i need help. Every quarter of shcool i have to read a book and write a paragraph about an element of the book. This quarter i chose to read "That was Then, This is now." by S.E. Hinton. I need to write a paragraph on the climax. I was wondering if anyone read it if they could tell me what the climax is cause i'm a little confused. Thanx

I haven't read it, but I'm sure it's easy to figure out. Stories usually build up to something big. When the book is at its most exciting point, when it reaches what it's been building up to, that's the climax. After the climax, everything gradually settles down. For example, if you have ever seen the movie Just Married starring Ashton Kutcher and Brittany Murphy, the climax is the part where Tom is fighting Peter Prentiss in the hotel. Everything before that was leading up to it and everything after that is coming to the conclusion, in which they live happily ever after. So I'm sure with just a little bit of thinking you can come up with three to four sentences.

im 17 male 5'7" weight 130 lb.'s its it ok for my age cause i look realy skinny how can i gain weight i eat a lot fat foods but don't gain weight. can some one give tips.

It's probably your metabolism--you might have hyperthyroidism. Then again, I'm not a doctor and I haven't given you a check up or anything. But either way, don't eat fatty foods to bulk up. They clog your arteries and are just unhealthy. You don't want to be FAT, you want to be buff. For that, you should lift weights. It won't make you skinnier, it will give you bigger muscles and even add to your weight. But I would also suggest seeing a doctor and getting your thyroid checked.

I have a question on MSN i removed the newer version of msn off my computer and then i thought it was all said and done and then someone said hey to me on the older version of msn and I can't find the icon or toolbar for MSN anywhere on my computer. Its not on the add or remove programs list either. Has anyone else had this problem or can someone help me please?

Since you asked "has anyone else had this problem?" and also since I don't list this as one of the topics I'm good with, I think you meant to ask this to everyone. You've only asked me, and I have absolutely no idea.

Go to http://www.advicenators.com/question.php and ask again, that way everybody can answer it and you'll get the advice you need.

i been with my gf for 2 months and she says she loves me. i told her its not love, we are getting 2 know each other love will deverlope if we meant 4 each other, time will say so. was that right?

If she says she loves you, it's probably true. There are different kinds of love. She probably didn't mean she wanted to get married right now and be together forever. She probably just meant, "I trust you, I like being with you, you make me happy." And you don't KNOW how she feels--only she does. I don't think it was neccessarily "wrong", but it wasn't entirely "right". You should talk it out with her.

ok i am an athiest i have read many things supportin the exsitence nad nonexstence of god. I was just curious as to why people believe so strongly in a religion or a single god.

When people ask why you don't believe in God, you probably can't come up with a really great answer. You might say, "Because it's stupid." or "Because organized religion brainwashes people and rapes them of their individuality." But most of the time you probably say, "I don't know. That's just the way I am." And you believe strongly in your non-belief, right? When people try to get you to change, it makes you frustrated, sometimes angry. Religious people are just the same, whether they are Jewish, Pagan, Buddhist, Christian, or something else. There isn't much of a reason why people believe what they do. They just believe.

I know that my best friend likes guys but sometimes I feel as if she acts like she’s a lesbian to me. Sometimes when I’m over her house and I’m lying on her bed reading a magazine or something she just jump on me, completely covering me with her body and it sort of scares me. She does when she’s usually excited about something and acts like its something normal. Once we were dared to make out with each other and I was a little hesitant out to do it (since I'm strait) but she wasn’t. But when she got dared to kiss a younger guy, she wouldn’t do it because she felt that it was weird. I find that strange that she would make out with me but not a guy (only one year younger) than her. Then again, she does point out which guys she thinks are hot. idk, my gut feeling is that maybe she’s a bit bi sexual, what’s your take on it?

My take is that you can't really tell these things. Sometimes people touch each other and it doesn't mean anything sexual, it's just something they do because they are close friends. Perhaps in your friend's family, people hug each other more than in yours, and that's why she sees it as normal. However, she is probably beginning to question her sexuality. I'm not sure how old you are, but you seem like a teenager and this behavior is pretty common in the teen years. This is sort of an experimental age for people, and your friend could be thinking that she wants to test herself, to see if she is gay or straight or whatever. She's probably experimenting with you because you are best friends and she trusts you. Personally, I would see nothing wrong with it but if you think that she is invading your boundaries you should talk to her about it. You should support her through anything she's going through. I know from experience that's it's really difficult and she could definitely use the support of her best friend. In some cases I would say to let her bring it up, but in your case I think you need to confront her. Make sure when you do it doesn't sound accusing--don't say, "Are you bi? Because you touch me a lot." Maybe you could start with, "You know that I would be your best friend no matter what, right? So if anything is bothering you, you can tell me." Listen to what she has to say, and afterwards explain that you're not comfortable with some of her behavior. She may not come right out and tell you anything--give her time.

i dont know why but all the sudden im VERY queit,not outgoing,not noticed,i just hate it!! im not lucky and i say EVERYTHING at the wrong moment.how can i become more outgoing? i need to find my true self! i need to become more outgoing and fun befor i seep into the walls! if this help... 13/f/aries.

Oh, you're just thirteen. You'll grow out of it, I promise. We've all been there.

i want to learn the dance to beyonce's check on it video...is there somewhere i can find for cheap or preferably free that i can learn the dance moves?

Go to www.youtube.com and do a search on it. Trust me, it's there. You can't download it but you can watch it on your computer.

ok, for language arts, i have to right a persuasive essay. My topic is america acting as the worlds police, why we shouldnt do this. I basically know what im going to write about, but i need a it of help. One thing ill be writing about are wars that it was unnessescary(sp?) for the U.S. to get involved in. Does anyone know what wars the U.S. was involved in that really didnt need to be involved in? like the original conflict didnt involve the U.S and we didnt get attacked or anything. I think vietnam is one of them....sorry its so long! ♥

How about the one we're in right now?

im a 13 year old girl. im really nervous that ill get my period one day in the middle of school. are there any signs that will let me know if im about to get it?

Okay, ignore what netsirk07 said. Everybody is different. The first time I got it there was quite a bit of blood. Also, it happened in the middle of school and I had no pads or anything. I was wearing black pants, so I got through the day without anyone noticing. Basically, you might get really angry or start crying a lot, have food cravings, have an acne breakout, and feel bloated.

http://www.coolnurse.com/menstrual.htm goes into more detail.

Be sure to have pads or tampons with you, and to be extra safe, don't wear white pants.

I'm trying to go running or do some sorta of exercise for atleast 30 minutes a day. However, I'm TERRIBLE with commitment. How can I keep myself on track so my plan doesn't just become something I tried and Failed at.

-Listen to good music while you do it.
-Don't THINK about it. My mom says that if you start thinking about exercising you won't want to do it. You have to just DO it, the same way you would just eat or go to bed.
-Do it with somebody else.
-Remind yourself WHY you're doing it, and that you can only benefit from it.

I NEED HELP!!!!!!! WHOEVER ANSWERS THIS ILL RATE 5!!!!!!!!

okay...well i recently found out that im a lesbian...and the other day my friend (shes a girl and didnit kno i was gay) came over. we were working on our homework and then...it happened ...i koodnt control myself...i just jumped on her and we started making out and stuff....we went rlly far if u know what i meen and she said she had a great time but didnt want this to happen again,....i love her sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much and dont know what to do...any advice out there????????????????????

It might be the first time she's ever questioned her sexual orientation. You and I both know how scary that can be! Especially when you jumped on her. She is probably experiencing a lot of conflicting emotions. Talk to her, and ask her exactly how she felt about the situation. It's important not to try to force her into anything. Just be there for her as a friend.

Okay, Why do guys care so much about a girls weight? Like skinny isnt in right now..and yeah thats a fact if ya believe it or not..most guys want meat on their girls bodies but why would they care? Like, I want a fit guy but a want some meat on him..i dont want him to be all ugh. I just wanna kno why they care!!??

I rate high

xox,
Confused

Most decent guys I know don't care about how much a girl weighs, as long as they are healthy. Mostly I find it is the GIRLS that care so much. Ask any girl what she thinks of her body, and the chances are pretty high that she'll say "I'm so fat!" On the other hand, most guys would say, "She's got niiice legs." or something like that. And maybe the guys that do care about a girl's weight are just getting it from the attitudes of the girl. For example, I never used to think my mom was a bitch until she started accusing me of calling her a bitch behind her back. Now I think it all the time. Maybe the boys subconsciously think that girls are too fat because girls are always SAYING that they're too fat. Although, obesity is a huge problem (no pun intended), especially in America and most people SHOULD be concerned about their weight--but there is a difference between concerned and obsessive.

Ok. So when I write
Favourite
And
colour.

And I spell check the things I wrote. The spell check says it’s
favorite
And
Color

Now I was wondering, what’s up with that?! Cause- according to my dictionary, my way is the good way,

PLEASE HELP I RATE

Colour is the British way, Color is American. Same with Favourite and Favorite. Both are correct. But you are much, much smarter than your spell check.

Read 'Ode to the Spell Checker' (http://www.geocities.com/tthor.geo/spellchecker.html). Every word in that poem got past a spell check, but very few of them are used correctly (it may take you some time to read it--don't concentrate on what the words are, just read the sounds). So don't rely only on a spell check--mine tells me my last name should be Breezeway.

If you want to make sure it never does this again, you can add 'favourite' and 'colour' to the list of accepted words.

is there any way i can change my username on advicenators? please and thank you!

You have to sign up for a new account.

I was wondering if there is a website to keep a ten year old occupied on. I would like it to have no pictures or videos or music and the most obvious one no porn. Also no viruses and adware/spyware. Oh and no games.

Well, I used these to keep my ten-year-old cousin occupied:

www.MaMaMedia.com
www.whatsherface.com
http://elouai.com/doll-makers/new-dollmaker.php\
www.neopets.com

But the whole point of those sites is that you can play on them. I honestly don't think a ten-year-old would like a site where there weren't any games or music.

If they like animals, www.dogchannel.com and www.catchannel.com are good too.

Im looking for a dog, and i dont like small dogs. My mom however, if like pretty afraid of big dogs, a neat freak, and cant stand dominent dogs. I really wanted a Lab or a Pit bull, but my mom says that labs are way too active for her, and pitbulls of course were always out of the question. I also really like huskies. i was wondering, do you know if they are like hyperactive and likely to jump on you like labs? i have a large back yard, and a big house.
THANX SO MUCH. i rate high.

Huskies need CONSTANT human companionship. They get lonely. If you can't be with a husky all the time, you should have two huskies. Also, your yard should be fenced because they like to go off into other people's yards a lot. Also, you should not have a smaller dog or a cat because sometimes huskies kill those. However, they are very loyal and friendly to everyone and LOVE children. I don't think they make a mess of your house, either (though they love digging in the yard--make sure that fence is deep!) and there is no reason to be afraid of them. Your mom would probably adjust to one pretty easily. I've never read anything about them being hyperactive, but they are friendly so they might jump on you. I have only known one husky personally (she wasn't mine...she lived in this house and I would stop to pet her on the way home from school) and she never tried to jump on me, even though she was very happy to see me and would wait for me. Then again, she was older. I'm sure a puppy would be hyperactive.

http://www.dogchannel.com/ has more information.

What happens when the unstoppable force meets the immovable object?

Serious answers only, please. Dumb answers will be met with horrible flaming death by pyromaniac ninjas.

The unstoppable force goes around the immovable object.

i hate fake people. i can't stand them. my freind is kind of shy around people. but when she gets online she talks to everyone. liek to all these guys who she would NEVER talk to in person. and the only way she knows these guys are because of me. she had a myspace and talkd to all these people and acts so fake! how can i get her to stop?

That doesn't really make her fake. Some people aren't that outgoing, but they can express themselves better through writing/IMing. But you can't get her to change, if you don't like it you either have to deal with it or stop being her friend.

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