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Ohk i notcie this big time do you?

When people say they are tottaly in love with boyfriend/girlfriend. for exmaple on myspace in the about me section people say yes im in love with my wonderful boyfirned/girlfriend or they have tons of pictures and him/her the first one on your top eight. But as soon they break up all words and pictures gone .. like he/she fell off the face of the earth.

Is thatplaying around with the words love in anyway? like i still have my ex boyfriends picture up on my myspace and we broke up 7months ago.

thanks (link)
When people break up they find it easier to move on when they take the pictures off and other things they have written about their girlfriend/boyfriend.
I wouldnn't call it playing around with words.
It's just something alot of people do.
I admit it doesn't really help to move on it just hurts you even more.
But when you are really hurt after a breakup you feel like you want to erase all the memories but you really can't.


For some reason when a boy looks into my eyes when they talk to me I get SO scared and look away! I don't know why, but it makes me feel weird and awkward!!! When my family went out to lunch with my crushes family, i sat next to him and when he talked to me he looked me in the eyes. My face got hot and I blushed and I looked away. IS this normal and how can I fix it?! (link)
This happens to me so much.
I hardly look people in the eyes when I talk to them.
I just can't. It just happens and it got to the point where I can't control it anymore.
I could be talking to a person but in less then a minute I have to turn away and look some where else.


Alot of people are like that. It's normal.


Who is the Bolivian teacher who gained fame in the U.S. for his success in teaching A.P. math to students in East L.A.? The movie, Stand and Deliver, starring Edward James Olmos, is about him. (link)
http://www.bc.edu/offices/ahana/about/history/escalante/


^That site should give you enough information.




i need to know is right...is it right to get your cat declawed...i rate 5's (link)
My aunt's cat got declawed on her front paws years ago because she always use to scratch things and people.
It really depends. If your cat doesn't scratch much and you have no problems with it having claws then no you shouldn't get the cat declawed.
But if it does scratch people or things such as carpets and/or furniture then there is nothing wrong with getting your cat declawed.


I am still in love with my first love. He asks me every day if i still love him and its hard for me to answer and he tells me everyday that he loves me and misses me and i still cant tell him how i feel. We were together for 3 years. What shud i do? (link)
Awww that is soo sweet!


If you don't have the courage to tell him in person that you still love him then maybe you can write a letter to him telling him how you really feel.


I think it's better if you just tell him in person.
Force your self to do it.
You can't let you being nervous or scared get in the way.
You have to overcome that.



Ok heres the deal right. I was with this boy for 1 year and he thinks that i was cheating on him(which i wasnt doing) So he left me and now i miss him so much he is my first true love and i wanna tell him but i dont know how please help me. I really dont know what to do? (link)
Awwwww that is so cute that he's your first true love!


You could write him a letter telling him how you truely feel about him.
With that letter you can make him a CD full of songs that remind you of him.
I think that is so cute to do.


You could tell him in person your true feelings that you have for him.
Apoligize for everything that has happened.
Explain to him that you never did cheat on him and you would never because he means so much to you.



I hope everything works out and if you need anything else drop one in my inbox or IM me.



whats a good way to introudce to a guy you havent met before without sounding stupid. lol thanks much (link)
You can go with a friend and walk by the guy. Tell your friend to go up to him and be like yo my friend likes you and then you can come up to them and say omg what? No I dont in a sarcastic voice and then just be like my name is ___ and dats my dumb friend _____ etc...


Or...


You can just come up to him and say "Hey whats up? My name is... What's yours?
And just tell him some things about you. Ask what school he goes to etc...




Well i want to have a great winter break..only like 7 more school days WooP wooP! haha but anyways..i want to do somethin sweeeet for new years ..like go to a party or something..but im not one to get invited to parties. i kinda wanna drink a lil and like kiss some boys ;) trust me im not a slut..dont worry. i just need a boy! lol what can i doo.. because i cant have a party..i wouldnt be allowed but i never get invited to any =( hmm..any suggestions? (link)
Your friends could maybe throw a party.
Are your friends the type of people to get invited to parties? If they are then maybe they can bring you along with them.
If they are not then go shopping! That's always fun to do.



You could go out with a guy or get your friends to hook you up with some one.


what happens if you talk to a guy for the first time and you think he is a hottie..but your face gets red =0 because then he will know your nervous to talk to him and also that he is very attractive..but yeah maybe if you could help me on what to say to introduce myself to them or what to talk about if im just meeting them for the first time..then maybe it would not be as akward..THANKS A TON!!!!

xoxoxo (link)
Well I used to turn red all the time when I talked to a certain guy and ironically he found it cute LOL.


To stop turning red every time you talk to the guy it just takes time.
You have to get used to being around him and talking to him.


Start off the conversation by asking him questions about himself.
Tell him to tell you some thing about himself because you want to get to know him better.
Tell him a few things about your self.



okay..well i kind of like this kid i dont even kno if i like him its just that im really attracted to him!!..he doesnt know yet tho..i dont know if he even knows me? maybe what i look like! haha anywaysss he likes to do stuff with girls i guess. or he has "gotten stuff" if ya kno what i mean. this makes me jealous because i know that he thinks other girls are hott! and that makes me really jealous..even tho i havent really even talked to this kid before but he is just hilarious and just a lil cutie! what do i do?! i really wanna makeout with him =0 thats a problem tho since i havent actually met him yet and i wont see him for AT LEAST about another 2 weeks..bummmer! but yeah and then when i see him its only for like 2 hrs and hes always talkin to other people..blahh! what do i doo? im really shy so that doesnt help..well when i first meet someone i am lol but i LOVE to flirt..just not right when i meet someone..well i do but yeah i dont knwo if you get it? and lately this guy is all i can think about seriously.. and i havent even met him i dont even think he knows i exist! but yeah .. when i go to bed i think about him every night before i go to sleep..like us bein together DREAMIN heheh.. maybe sounds obsessed? i dont know.. ahhh..got any ideas for me to get this guy!! (link)
Aww that is so cute and no it's not obsessions it's just a MAJOR crush.



I get what you mean about the whole shy thing.
I'm actually pretty shy when I first meet some one that I really like.
Do you have any friends that are friends with him or know some people that he knows?
If you do then maybe they could introduce you to him.
If you don't then really all you could do is find the courage to talk to him.


Something else you can do is like while you are talking with your friends stand/sit next to him.
Maybe he will come up and start a conversation.



I don't think I have an eating disorder but some people say I am on my way onto being annorexic. I mean I am 93lbs and 15 years old. I am always watching my weight making sure I am not over 95lbs. I know it may sound crazy but I don't know.. if I get at 95 or above not usually to 98 though I quit eating till I am back to 93lbs. I don't know why I do this but it is just how I am. I do not eat Breakfast or Lunch but always Supper. So please help me and give me some reasonable advice other than "you need to eat breakfast and lunch cuz its not healty" cuz that is all people seem to say, I mean my boyfriend is worried but to me this is the only way to control MY life. (link)
Hey hun.
This is not the right way to go.
You are 15 and you should be OVER 98lbs.
Talk to your parents so they could take you to a doctor because this kind of thing could seriously lead to having an eating disorder.
I don't eat breakfast either but I come home and head straight to the kitchen LOL.
You shouldn't starve your self if you reach up to 98lbs that's good that you do and you shouldn't need to lose weight; you should be gaining it instead.





hey im in 7th grade and so i was going out with a girl for like 3 weeks until today becaues i broke up with her and, well today i just found out that she thought i just liked her cause of her looks. and now im all pissed off and i want to get back with her.so today at lunch i go up to her and try to talk to her and she simply just walks away with her big group of friends. but like a week ago we were like makin out so im like confused? yea so if u could help me ill rate you a 5 even its retarded cause i think i am haha (link)
Since she walked away that means she does not want to talk to you right now.
The only thing you can do is write her a letter explaining everything.
If she still does not talk to you after that then just give it time.


ok there is this guy that i like alot but he has a girl friend should i wait for them to break up or just move on ?
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You should wait a while if you really like him.
If you move on and they do break up you could miss your chance with him.


What are some cute Christmas songs? Like--author/singer/band & song name please? I'm in a Christmas kind of mood =) Thanks (link)
Jessica Simpson - Baby It's Cold Outside


Jewel - Winter Wonderland


Jingle Bell Rock (various artists)


Britney Spears - Santa Can You Hear Me


Mariah Carey - All I Want For Christmas Is You





Hey Guys. This Question Isn't Gonna Be Long, But I Really want a boyfriend. I havent like went out with anyone in like 4 years. Yea I know..Loner. But No one (guys) likes me. I'm Ugly, Fat. You Name it. Everything About me is messed up. Whats wrong with me Guys? (link)
Hey love.
Every one is beautiful inside AND out.
You should NEVER feel so low about yourself.
The key to getting some one to like you is liking your self first and being happy with who you are.
You have to have self confidence.
I'm sure some one does like you but you just don't know it yet.
I'm sure nothing is wrong with you and you're a very pretty girl.



The only problem that I see you are struggling with most is having self confidence within your self.
Take a piece of paper and pen and list all the good qualities about yourself.
I'm sure there are plenty!



If you need anything else or some one to talk to you can IM me anytime or drop one in my inbox ♥


I need a good liquid eyeliner (link)
I use Wet n Wild Mega Liner Liquid Eyeliner.


I wanna come up with something cozy & comfy but cute for tomorrow. Any interesting style tips?

Thank you :) (link)
Jeans, a turtleneck sweater, and a scarf are so cute.
Or just jeans and a turtleneck sweater without the scarf.
Jeans and a cute blouse/shirt.



okay how do cingular rollover minutes work?? i have like 4,000 rollover minutes. what happens when you run out?? we're using the $9.99 plan so my total bill juss for me is only like $16.00.

thanks!! (link)
I have cingular and rollover is only for a 12 month period like when you first get your phone plan after the first bill comes that is when rollover starts.

If you go over you usuage minutes and you have rollover that means that you will be able to use those minutes without really going over and paying extra. Make sense?


Usually when you get a new phone plan for cingular, in the mail they send you a booklet that explains everything including rollover minutes.


If you still don't get it drop one in my inbox or IM me ♥


Yeah i know this is like really random, but i was just wondering, how do you guys feel about the store Abercrombie and Fitch. I was reading about it online and so many people seem to hate it!!!

i don't really shop there that often but i was thinking of getting some clothes there for christmas and i was just wanted to know some of yall opinionss on it (link)
I think the clothes there are so cute especially the jeans.


If you want to get clothes from there go right ahead you shouldn't care what people think.
What matters is that you like the clothes.


Hey I'm 13 years old and I'm a really advanced reader for my age (just so you know). It doesn't mean I can read/understand adult books but whatever! I really want a list of GOOD books from like all genres!! If you could give me the title, author, and genre of the books you're suggesting that would be great!
(link)
I suggest "Flowers For Algernon" by Daniel Keyes.
The genre of that book is Science Fiction.
And also "Go Ask Alice" (anonymous, no author).
Go Ask Alice is more like a diary. It's one of the best books I have ever read.





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