jbdreamer's advice column

You shouldn't buy any if this is where you are planning on getting stock tips. I wouldn't turst the words of some complete stranger in what to invest my money in.

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im a 21yr old single parent, amd am in love with a married man with two kids, we have been together for 4yrs this would be the 5th now, he tells me he loves me we always argue about our relationship for weeks but eventually amke up and all he teells me he is having major problems with he wife and wants to divorce her i dnt know how true this is or whether he just says so to get what he wants and it has worked for all these years, he doesn t not agree for me to see anyone else but he is married, i love him but im not sure whether it is worth waiting for he says he also wants to have a baby wiht me but what ifheruns away denies it my parents dont know about this relationship but my mum has emphasied never to go out with a married man what do i do, he also expects me to do all the contacting callin smsin and if i dont its a big story does he really love me is heworth the while????

You have been his mistress for the past 4 years! If he was going to leave his wife for you, he would have done it years ago. He is not going to magicaly change overnight. What do you want from him? You can't expect him to be your husband or father of your children becuase he is not dedicated to you. If he was, he wouldn't be married! It's time go grow up and face reality. I suggest you leave him and focus on taking care of your child, that is what the focus of your life should be.

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when i laugh really hard i start to pee..its starting to get embarrising. is this a problem? or what can i do to stop?

This is a more common problem than people realise. You may consider wearing a panty liner. You should also talk to your doctor. There are pills you can take to control a weak blatter.

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does anyone know any good products or home remedies to get rid of dark circles?? thanks... i rate high

A cool eye mask/washcloth or cucumber slices.

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hey i was wondering if any other columnists are unable to read your feedbacks? when i click on mine, i can only see one. the others are there, but i can't view the text. it has the number of answers that question received, and the comment is supposed to follow that number. i even set my fonts to black (in white background) and still nothing. plz help ??? i rate 5's

I checked your account, and you can't see your feedback becuase you have none. You have only answered 1 question.

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There is this woman at work who really is being rude to me.

The managers all like her, and I tried telling one of them that she was really being rude, and they all jumped on me.

what do I do? Should I just ignore her? obviously I can't go to any of the managers because of the extreme favoritism. help!

Next time she says something rude to you, tell her. "That was awfully rude what you just said." By being clued in, she should get the picture and hopefully stop. She might not realize she is doing it. If that doesn't work, keep a record of the things she does/says, and then present that to your managers.

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If a guy kisses you, does it mean he's attracted 2 u?
im not talkn bout drunk or nething, if he kisses you sober an does makes out w/ u alot does that mean nething?

I would hope you would know that before you make-out. I usually get to know someone before kissing them.

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My parents are in a very strict religon.
I dont want to be in this religon and I've told them so, and I don't go to their church.
But everytime I do something against the church rules, (even though I dont go)
they still go, "Your going to hell" "Your a sinner" bla and so forth.

I dont like this and it hurts my feelings. They even say I'm full of the devil and qoute scriptures at me. What do I do? its totally getting on my nerves and just because I dont go to their church doesnt mean I'm a rebellious brat like they think I am.

HELP!

I wouldn't want to be part of a religon either where is aceptable to be so judgemental and hateful to their children and tell them they are "going to hell". Next time they say hurtful things, tell them you are sad they feel that way, but you don't want to be a part of something that cause such hate. They are welcome to their beliefs, and you are welcome to yours.

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i used to like this guy kyle and i dont anymore. im goin out with this guy named andrew and whenever i say anything about kyle even if its mean it seems to pissed andrew off... wat do i do?

The solution is easy, stop talking about him. Your boyfriend doesn't want to know you are thinking about some other guy, wether they are good or bad thoughts.

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my mom said she would buy me birth control pills and to just tell her if me and my boyfriend are gonna ahve sex because she knows him and she likes him and weve been together for a while...were thinkin about it but i just wanted to know how effective against pregnancy is a birth control pill?? is it safe to use a condom AND birth control at the same time? and should i just tell my mom or just do it behind her back because i heard you have to go to the doctor to get the pills...thats embarassing

The pill is a very effective form of birth contol if taken correctly. And to use a condom and the pill together is even more effective. If you are too ashamed to ask to be put on the pill, I would take that as a sign that you are not mature enough for sex.

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if a woman is about 2 months or 1 month pregnant and not showing at all...and she went on an amusement park ride that had a sign that said no expectant mothers posted on it...what would happen to the baby? would it cause a miscarriage??

You are still an expectant mother wether you are showing or not. Going on violent rides shakes your body, therefore shaking your baby. Yes, it could cause a miscarriage.

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is it bad to pop your knuckles? Some people say it is and others say it isn't...

I don't think there is any real evidence that proves popping your knuckles is bad for you. But it is annoying and rude.

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OK i am going to paris on march 12 for a week with my school and i was just wondering if like anyon new the weather there at that time in march. Is it true that when you go in to the lue that you arnt souspose to show any skin. What time of clothes do they were lyk brown and blacks. Do they were a like pinks and yellow?

-Thank You For Any Help

There is no dress code in Paris, wear what you feel comfortable in. As long as you are not wearing neon, you should be fine, lol. I don't get your question about not showing your skin when you go to the lue. I remember there were outdoor urnials right on the sidewalk, but I never saw anyone use them. All the restrooms were private that I went to. Check the weather online, my guess is that it will be cold and rainny. Have fun!

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i am a 21yr old female and have a huge sexual disire for sex everyday cn not find a man to satisfy me i need help...

Get a vibrator.

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i have recently had a coldsaw but my girlfriend wants me to give her oral sex but im concerned that if it is not gone completely she may get infected. is it safe?

No, that is how herpes is spread. Wait until your cold soar is gone.

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Everytime someone comes up and touches me, I get paranoid and start shaking violently. It's only when I don't know when someone is going to touch me. I get so freaked out, and I hate it. I always start shaking and I can't help it. I have to curl up when I'm shaking to try to control it. And after I stop shaking I end up getting paranoid for the rest of the day. I've always been like this, and I don't know whats going on. Any suggestions on what might help?

That sounds pretty serious. I think you should talk to a counsler or pshycologist about your paranoia.

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My friend and I created a website yesturday where you can ask us advice or check out fashion, makeup, and hair tips. We don't know how to get people to view it though. Does anyone know a way to advertise our site so people will hear about it for free?

The Website is www.freewebs.com/babex3gurl

Just to let you know, you are spaming this site by advertising your web page. I went to your site, but for it to have a chance to succeed, you need a differnt server, it takes WAY too long to load, I didn't have 30 seconds to wait around. And your web adress is in no way memorable, or makes sense. The only kind of free advertising you are going to get is by word of mouth.

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panic attacks can you feel sick with them lifeless dizzy as though you are going to pass out can you help me please

Is that a sentence? It doesn't make sense. What do you need help with?

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my best guy friend and i tried to start a bf and gf relationship but we feel uncomfortable being that. we just wanna be really close friends. i was wondering should i ask him to the prom and just say we can go as friends?! and when should i ask him?!

Yea, there is nothing wrong with that. I think most people that go to school dances are just friends. Ask him today, what do you have to be scared of, he's your friend.

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I want to call the guy i like to hang out but we never talk on the phone or hang out. he cant go online eaither cuz his comps broken. He has a girlfriend but shes away and he might breakup with her. Were really good friends but i have no idea what to do!Sam/13/f

I really dislike women that go after guys that are already involved. It's very shallow and unattractive. Being friends in fine, but don't ask more of him until he is single.

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