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Hi, I'm Courtney. I want to become a pre-school teacher :] and I've been though a whole heck of a lot, so feel free to ask me anything, i'll do my best to help ! xxo."i refuse to sink."
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is there any way to get bigger boobs? i'm a junior in high school... is there a chance that i am still growing and i can do something to make my boobs get bigger without the rest of my body getting fatter?? thanks!
I wish ! hahaa, if only. I'm also a junior in high school, and I'm telling you, there really is NOTHING you can do but just wait it out and be patient. boobs aren't everything and yours will come in time. You could try doing one of those excersize things that some people say increase your "bust line" but I never did it long enough to see if it actually worked. all you need is like a rod of some sort that you can hold with both of your hands [and it has to be smooth so you can slide your hands side to side] clench the rod or whatever you choose to use tightly with both of your hands, bend your elbows about 4 inches, and slide your hands back and forth on the rod [tightly so you can feel your boobs moving [like the muscles or whatever, you just need to feel like tension in your chest area] the do this for however long you like [has to be at least 5-10 minutes everyday] and you may or may not see a slight improvement in a few weeks or so.
good luck ! hope i helped. you just need to be patient :] have fun. xxo.
Recently, my friend has been talking about how "hot" he thinks his teacher his. He keeps saying he fantasizes about her and he worships her. He said he likes walking past her room, he said he wants to buy the yearbook and school newsaper just to oogle and "jerk off" (masturbate) at any pictures of her in them. Worst of all, he said he wishes she was a pedophile and if she wanted to molest him he'd be all for it. Its kind of funny but its also kind of creepy to me. II always thought a teacher is someone you respect, not look at in that way. Is this normal
I don't know what grade you guys are in, but since 8th grade and throughout high school [im a junior in high school] I know that boys talk similar to the way your friend is talking about an adult/teacher. Boys are very hormonal, don't get me wrong, so are girls, but boys tend to be more open about their fantasies. If he sees it doesn't bother you and it isn't making you uncomfortable, he's going to keep saying things like this. It's not necessarily weird unless it gets out of hand and he starts to become obsessive, for example .. if it starts effecting his life and if he acts on his fantasies/impulses. then there will be a problem. But as of now, it's harmless thoughts of a VERYY hormonal boy. Just be like, "are you joking.. thats kind of sick." and see what he says. If you think this could potentially be/is a serious problem, talk to him about it first and then tell your parents or an adult about it.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! :] xxo.
Hi, I am a girl and i am weird.
When I am with my parents, I speak british accent. When I am with my friends, I speak the American accent. I cant talk to my parents in the American accent coz i get shy :P i know im weird. just reply something that could help me..thanks
good news: you're not weird :]
haha trust me, my friend is the same exact way. she has a russian accent around her parents and family, but with her friends [like me] she has a totally normal english accent. She didn't think much of it, until she was talking to me on the phone, and her parents heard her. haha. It's really no biggie :] honestly, you are jist doing what feels comfortable for you. There are actually alot of people who do this. It's just 2 different accents. don't worry about it so much, it's not like you're some strange person and people are going to think you need help ;] if you really want to change this though, you can slowly start using your english accent around your parents, so they can get used to it. or you can use your british accent a little bit every day around your friends.
But don't worry, you're perfectly normal !
hope i helped, good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
Hey! Okay. So. I am on the cheerleading squad and our team's last game before the tournament is coming up so the squad and I thought it would be nice to give the players little treat bags. We need to make 55 but we are still deciding what to put in them... It's going to be a surprise so I can't ask any of the guys/ my boyfriend. Soooo, do any boys have some ideas? Like if you play football (or any sport really), what would you like to eat before and after a game? Thanks so much!
My boyfriend is a football player and some of our mutual friends are too, so I decided to ask them this question for you :] they all basically said the same thing..
- cookies [a variety of kinds .. like chocolate chip, snickerdoodle, peanutbutter] .. but if you decide to do this, you hve to find out whos alergic to what, yuh know ?
- skittles/starburst
- that baseball chewing gum stuff, or just a piece of gum.
- orange slices [only a couple, because it contains vitamin c which helps them stay active]
- chips or pretzels [like the little snack packs or anything, any kind but cheesey ones, so like lays or whatever]
each guy said that they'd totally enjoy getting a bag with any of that stuff in it. so you can't go wrong either way haha. good luck ! have fun, hope i helped ! if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo :]
I am 19 and have a 4 1/2 yr old daughter and my boyfriend has a 18 month old son that lives with us. I am now very pregnant with twins.
Today, after I had picked up the kids from pre-school and daycare, I went into the store to pick up some things for dinner. While I was picking up the baby and putting him in the cart, my little girl was playing by the quarter machines. A woman (probably about 30 years old) saw me and said, "Aren't you a little young to have a baby with another one on the way?" I didn't get a chance to say anything when my daughter came running over, screaming, "Mommy!!!" The woman just looked at me glared, shook her head, and left. I just wonder what people must think of me. Yes, I made some really poor choices in my life but I would like the chance to talk about it so maybe some other girls wouldn't go the same route I did. It's not uncommon for me to get crazy looks or stares when I'm out with the kids--or even just one of the kids! At least I'm taking full responsibility for my actions by raising my children the right way. It's just A LOT harder with me being so young. What would you think if you saw me in the supermarket? What would you say to me?
Thanks
People can be so cruel.
That lady had no right to even say that. Some things should be kept inside of your head. I don't lie ... so I'm not trying to make you feel better when i say this, although I hope it does :] haha, but if I saw you, I would say "awww what a cute kid ! how old is she ?!" and smile. I'd probably also ask name and then wish you luck :] I wouldn't even think twice about your age. You're a mother, and no matter your age, people need to respect that. I mean, it's as easy as putting yourself in someone elses shoes, and that lady needs to be put in her place. you handled it very well, I would have confronted her, but also, it wouldn't have been a good idea to do that infront of your children. You seem very mature and level-headed, so I applaud you for that. Just keep being a good mother and don't care about what other people say or think. It's not their life, and in my opinion, you seem like a very responsible and caring person.. people need to stop judging and start accepting.
Anyways, that's what i would say ! and I wish you the very best of luck with your child and the 2 on the way ! they're very lucky kids to have a great parent like you. just keep your head held high and be confident in your own skin and with your own family.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
ok so there is this guy that i really like and he give hints to that he is into me too. it just seems like the only time he talks to me is when its just me and him but i dont know cuz when he is around his friends i guess i really never try to talk to him cuz ive had so many bad relationships and i just kind of back away. im so confused on what to do i dont want to get hurt.....
:/ aww yeah, I know how you feel. I've been hurt alot in my life too with relationships. and I made the mistake of letting that get to me.. don't make that mistake. Everything in your life is a risk, and if you don't go for it, you'll always be thinking, "what if i had let myself like him?" and do you really want to be thinking that for a long time ? I promise you, not every guy is going to hurt you. Not every guy is an asshole. My boyfriend is living proof of that. You just need to let go of your fears and try not to be afraid. I know, you're probably thinking, "yeah easy for you to say.." but really, it's not easy for me to say. It WASNT, but I couldn't let the fact that I didnt want to get hurt keep me from being happy.
If you are really that uncomfortable, do what I did. Talk to the guy. Tell him that you might be developing some feelings for him, whether or not he is feeling the same way, and that you have been in bad relationships and that you're scared of being hurt.
... he'll understand .. if he's a good guy. and if he isn't, then he's not worth it and you save yourself some pain. it's the best way to tell if a guy is sincere or not. but honestly? just start talking to him and his friends. Trick your mind into thinking you won't get hurt, and you won't. I know that for a fact. You just have to go for it. If you don't try, you'll never know. You sound like an awesome person, and if this guy knows ANYTHING, he'll be smart and treat you the way you deserve to be treated :]
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me [ive been in your positon before] xxo.
okay so i'm supposed to be going to the movies with this guy i like. it's not definitely planned, but i mentioned i wanted to the see the movie really badly, and he said he'd go with me.
just like that.
as of now, i believe it's just us, but i don't know what to think of it.
like, we're friends, but i like him, but i'm not sure if this is just as friends, or if maybe he wants something more?
I've been in that situation a couple of times before. Once with my ex and once with my boyfriend. You just go as friends, don't think of it as anything else other than that because I can guarentee you that he is thinking the same thing. Think of it as ... this will help you decide if you want to be something more than friends [thats what is gonna go through his mind too] if he wants something more, trust me, you'll know.
Go with the flow and follow his lead. But as of now, keep it in the firends zone until he makes the first move [at the movies or after because with my ex, it was like after the movies he told me he wanted to date me and with my boyfriend he told me he wanted to be more than just friends AT the movies]
dont sweat it so much :] since he was the one who was all, YEAAH ill go with you, thats a REALLY good sign :] no doubtt. good luck ! have fun ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
14/f
thhooouuuugh I don't think this is a romantic thing or anything, so it is a slightly different approach...
anyway today we had free time in class and our teacher is awesome so we can sleep till the bell if that happens, and so I was napping a bit and I wake up because someone burped real loud beside me, and I find this boy I've been talking to a little bit for a while watching me with this really sincere grin and so I smile a bit and say, "Hey.. I'm kinda sleepy, haha."
His eyes crinkle up with more smileyness and he says "Yeah, I know. I was..." and then he gets dragged into a conversation with someone else.
Now, some romantic girls may say "Ooohh, how sweet he likes you and thought you were cute sleeping~" but no, I don't think so. He does look at me sometimes, and if I'm talking to another guy he tends to take notice and gets in the middle of it (discretely, though I know he does this on purpose because any time I'm talking with a girl he never pays any attention) and he'll tease me, but the thing is he's a flirt as it is. He's always picking fights with girls to see their reactions and stuff.
so yeah, the main question here is--
......seriously, is a sleeping girl that freakin' funny?
I know I'm not ugly, even though I'm not a beauty queen, I don't snore (according to every family member who has shared a room/bed with me), I don't talk in my sleep, according once again to the family...
so what the heck was so funny or cute or whatever it was that made him smile?
Simple answer: boys will be boys.
In depth answer: like the previous advice given to you, he may only be 13 or 14 and still a bit immature. Girls mature faster than guys, it's a proven fact haha. From the way I see it, he was wither laughing at the burp or he was laughing at what you said. Sometimes, guys laugh or smile because they want to draw you in and flirt with you. or he could have been laughing at the way you just woke up and was like, "hey.. i was kinda sleepy, haha." if you laugh, he's going to laugh too because he doesn't want to make you uncomfortable. He wasn't trying to be a jerk about it, if that's what you're thinking. He probably just thought it was cute by the way you just looked at him and everything. all guys have different likes and dislikes ... just liek you may think something is cute or funny, but some other person may not.
Just don't read into it so much and keep flirting ir talking to him if you want to get to know him and are interested in that. if not, just let it go. good luck ! have funn :] and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
Okay so recently Ive been talking to this guy (I'm fifteen, so is he) we'll call him Mike and he's really nice and funny and sweet and sincere, you get the idea. Well for the past month or so we've just been hanging out as friends, flirting a lot, and a tiny bit of physical stuff. Well I've started to really like him. He's awesome and I think he likes me too. But see theres this like senior girl who likes him (kinda creepy, yeah) and her two friends who are also like okay buddys with me were talking to me about it. They said that Mike had sent their friend (the one that likes him) naked pictures of himself, like no pants... Ew. I asked one of Mike's really close friends/my friend if this was true and the friend said "I knew they were talking but I asked Mike and he said he never sent them." Now I think I can look at this one of two ways. 1. It's true and Mike lied to his friend, and the two girls (who said they actually saw with their own eyes the pictures) are right. or 2. The girls are making it up because they know their friend likes Mike and they know I kinda like Mike so they want to get me out of the picture... I REALLLLLY hope its option two. But I don't know what to do!!! So here are my questions; which option do you think it is, or do you think its something else? and also, what if it is true??? That is something that would really bother me... I don't know if I could look at him the same... And third... How do I deal with all of this???
In my honest opinion, I think it's most likely to be option number 2. Usually, guys don't send pictures first, and if they do ... then they know the reprecussions. Also, the fact that the senior girl likes he same guy you like is a HUGE red flag. Girls can become ruthless when it comes to getting what they want or the guy they want, so with that said, her and her friends who you are also friendly with might be trying to ruin what you and the guy have by making up a story about how he sent naked pictures of himself to her just to gross you out. But to prove all of this, you really need to ask the guy. It might sound awkward, asking him about this.. but you have to know the truth, and the only person who is going to give that to you is the guy. Just casually be like, "soo, someone told me you recently sent some ... pictures of yourself to a girl ... you werent really in clothes haha, is that true?" If you play it off like you're just curious, he'll tell you the truth. but first he'll probably say, "who told you that?" just don't tell him. you have to keep asking him if its true, he'll crack under the pressure if there really IS something going on.
and if it is true, then move on. any guy that is CLEARLY interested in you and then sends naked pictures [which is illegal, by the way] to another girl is NOT worth your time. if this is the case, you can DEFINETLY find another guy. I mean, I agree with you, if my boyfriend did that, I don't think i'd be able to look at him the same way ... it would make me VERY uncomfortable. and you're dealing with this just fine as of now :] you just have to talk to him about this, and don't always believe what other people tell you, there are going to be many people throughout your lifetime who are going to want to see you fall.
good luck ! it'll be okay :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
Hello my favorite columnist...I may even start calling you my advice guru lol. Well I talked to my boyfriend and I basically was straight forward with him. I didn't sugar coat how he usually would rather spend time with his friends than me and he cleaned his act right up. Now our relationship is better than ever. BUT now I want to do something nice for him, something really nice/romantic/fun/creative. I feel like he's been so good to me lately and I want to surprise him and do something nice for him. We live in a town where the only thing for people our age to do is either go to the movies or to the mall so I don't want to do that. My conscience is feeling kind of guilty too. I broke one of his expensive watches (accidentally!!) and ruined another (accident again), now he has none D-: So I want to make that up to him too by doing this surprise. Any ideas??
kerri! :] I haven't heard from you in SOO LONG, where have you been?! ahaha ;] well, I'm glad everything went well. trust me, my boyfriend and i have had somewhat of the same drama and talking to them just HELPS so much hahaa, if they think theyre gonna lose you, they actually TRY to be the person they WANT to be for you. so, good job girl :] :] I'm happy for you.
as for the surprise thing, you can do a buncha things. there are like, endless options, so ill give you a few ideas ... 1st rule, you have to tell him that you have a surprise for him, but that you're going to surprise him with it. he'll keep asking you what it is and when he'll get it, but dont give in. just be secretive and keep him guessing, it'll liven up your relationship, trust me.
- you can make him a bracelet. i know, it sounds gay. but i did it for my boyfriend and he never takes it off. it's one of those friendship bracelet things [i can tell you how to make one, step-by-step if you decide to do this. haha.] just ask him what all of his favorite colors are, 4-6 colors. and then make it for him, give it to him when you see him or in school, tell him to close his eyes and just tie it on him. he will LOVE THAT and he wont take it off. like, my boyfriend plays football, so he tapes it up every game around his wrist just because he doesnt want to take it off. it will also be a cute reminder that you made it for him. it will make him feel special, trust me.
- another thing you can do is find out what his favorite movie is, rent it, buy it, whichever, get some popcorn and his favorite type of candy, invite him over, then when he gets there, blindfold him and tell him to trust you. hahaa. lead him to the room with the movie and everything, holding hands, then sit him down on the couch or whatever and play the movie, then take his blindfold off. he will be so surprised and actually know you put alot effort into surprising him like that. he'll love it :]!
- you can also go to a park [im sure you have parks around there] or even your backyard could do.. just somewhere you can just relax on a blanket or something. then watch the sunset, and count the stars together :] bring your ipod though, and play his favorite music. he will honestly LOVE IT. also, bring a pen with you, then take his hand and draw a "watch" on his wrist. then tell him he can look at that until you try to get him a new one :] he will laugh and melt.
- does he like hats or video games or anything like that ? i know my boyfriend loves hats hahaa. and i noticed that the only color hat he didnt have was yellow. so i told him i was gonna find him a yellow hat and he had to wear it no matter what. [he forgot about this, which was good] because i got the hat [yellow yankees] and he hates the yankees ahahah. it was classic. i surprised him with it and he instantly remembered and was like awww :] :] it was great. so like, things like that will prove your love.
- you could also get him a watch, if you have the money.. i know im kinda lacking in the money category at the moment :] ahaha. but he'd like that. also. leave him cute notes in his locker or when you see him in school and stuff, just slip it into his hand, kiss him, and then walk away. he will love that :] trust me.
- get a box or jar of some sort that he can put his hand into. fill it up with a mixture of wrapped candy and slips of paper. the paper must have something you will do for him. like one back massage. clean his room. tell him why you love him. things like that and then give it to him. and everytime you guys hang out, he can pick a slip from the jar and you'll have to do whatever you put on the slip. he'll love that :] i can guarentee it.
well, anyways, if you need ANYMORE ideas [i hope those sparked some inspiration] then let me know. i hope to hear from you soon ! good luck, have fun, hope i helped, and yayayayyayy im sooo happy for you ! xxo.
can i have some relationship quotes?
:] hahaa sure thing ! i dont know what kinds you want .. so i'll give you a bunch.
- I really enjoy spending time with you, even if we're just going to be sitting around and talking about nothing. There are a million things I love about you, like your nose or the way you smile, the way you look me in the eye, too. And I just get the greatest feeling when I make you laugh. I feel as if my company makes you happy, and that's what I wish for you. For you to be happy. And when I see you laugh at my clumsy ways, it just makes me want to spend the rest of my life with you so I can see a smile on your face.
-It's not about the big things. The great gestures, the public displays of affection. It's all the small things, pieced together one by one. Like a puzzle, it's no fun unless the pieces are small and the challenge is high. The little things in life are what makes life worth living. Making memories, one step at a time.
-Truth is, sometimes you scare the shit out of me.
You make me feel as if I'm not alone.
Yet, I know any minute you have the ability to rip that feeling from me.
Truth is, I love you, and that itself, is scary enough.
-theres been a lot of ups & downs, but ultimately, at the end of the day, thats what makes you who you are. we all know how to laugh, we all know how to cry, & we all know how to love. we all know heartbreak but the world keeps moving, & we keep moving along with it. & everything we experience makes us realize how beautiful life truly is
-I like it when my fingers are entangled in yours; and my head is on your chest listening to your heartbeat it makes me feel safe; like at that moment, nothing bad can touch me.
-love and great relationships are when you cant get that certain someone out of your head. love is when you think about them non stop. love is when you draw hearts around their name. love is when you write those stupid " I
Sasha Katherine-Rose & Elena Ricci-Regine.
I think they both have a special ring to it. ^_^ Both middle names for the girls are named after parents.
Opinions?
I like Sasha Katherine-Rose the most. but I also love the name Elana, just not the Ricci-Regine partt.
good luck ! hope i helped :] beautiful names, by the way. xxo.
14-f
OMG so i told like my best friend about my ""one night stand" ?????/? am i a slut?
Well ...
you're 14. so you really ARE young and in my personaly oppinion, you're waaaay too young for a "one night stand" but uhm, you're not a slut. Everyone has different definitions for things, but if you were a slut you would go sleeping around with every guy you laid eyes on.
.. which you didnt, and I'm NOT saying go do that. But really, you're not a slut.
Let people talk. they're just maing you famous anyways ;] if you act like it doesnt bother you, it'll stop. so don't do anything, you're strong. you can handle this.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.
15 and still haven't developed boobs?
(as in completely flatchested, not small)
i know its completely repulsive and im so worried,i feel so self conscious and hate my body because of it
im 107 lbs, almost 5'4, have my period and all other signs of puberty (including hips and an otherwise curvy figure), and my mom started developing in junior high
ive also heard that you develop boobs a year or two before your period,and i've already had mine and they're still not here
i've asked this question a lot on here and no answers seem to be from people in the same position as me
thats why im so completely obsessive and worried over this is because there seems to be no one out there like me
is anyone else like me?/has anyone else been like me in the past and eventually got them?
Hey girlll.
okay so, I bet you feel like everyone around you has boobs, and you dont have any, but to be honest, my friends COMPLAIN about their big boobs. their a hassle apparently haha. not that i would know because i BARELY have any and i'm almost 17. even my sister [im a triplet haha] has boobs, and i don't. but there is NOTHING wrong with you. I was in your same exact position before, I had my period, just didnt get the boobs. ahaa. but my boyfriend doesnt seem to care :] and i dont either. having boobs isnt everything. like honestly.
anyways, im finally getting a bit of "boobage" hahaa. so dont worry bout it, it'll happen for you sometime. and just think ! when everyone else is old and wrinkly with their boobs hanging down to their knees, we'll have perky boobs :] hahaha.
kay well, hope i helped ! good luck, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
Basically, when I was in fifth grade I began self mutilation. It's been on and off ever since then. I'm a sophmore now. When I was in sixth grade I was at my worst, I cut every day. I cut over everything, anything that somewhat upset me. Eventually one of my friends found out, told everyone and someone went to my school guidance office and they then called my parents and what not. My parents would try, they truly would. They put me in counseling but I just could not open up to them because I truly have no trust in those people.
In seventh grade, I barely ever cut. I think I did maybe about, 5 times at most. In the summer going into eighth grade I cut myself one time. During the school year I didn't cut a single time, but I did however get involved with smoking weed. Only on occasion however. Once or twice, not too bad I guess. During January of this year (2008) I was sent to the hospital for OD'ing. Suicide has always been in the picture, since the beginning of cutting.. I have had numerous attempts at suicide. But for the first time, my parents actually took notice and I spent the night in the hospital.
In ninth grade, I attempted to OD I believe twice, but I didn't let anyone know. I just wanted out. I'm no longer suicidal, in fact death scares the shit out of me. But I have begun cutting again.
I don't want to get help from strangers, my parents, friends or family. I want to get better myself because each time I would receive help from someone else, it did nothing. That last time I cut myself before I fell back into the habit was the summer of eighth grade, going into ninth. The last time cutting since I've fallen back in, less than an hour ago.
I can't help it, I truly don't know what to do. I need to stop, and I recognize that. Self mutilation doesn't solve anything, it makes things harder. I know the first step is to admit, blah blah blah. But that's not true. I need to stop, and I need to now. But I can guarantee if I don't get some sort of ways to not do it, it's going to keep happening.
I have a few friends who cut. They've shown me, but it's like they don't want help. they just want to stop, I know that you think "oh, i got myself into this situation, im going to be the only person who gets me out." but everyone needs help sometime. yuh know ? if you've tried doing it on your own, and it isn't working, maybe you should give counseling another try. I mean, I would have NEVER suspected that my friends cut, they are these "preppy" girls who seem to "have it all" but nothing is ever what it seems yuh know ? i hate the stereotypes. but anyways..
What one of my friends did to get over cutting herself was writing and drawing. she would write poems, stories, feelings and then shed draw. she's not even a good drawer, but she mostly just scribbled really hard on a pad of paper, to take the urge of cutting away. One of my other friends got a punching bag and would obviously punch the bag whenever she felt that she wanted to cut herself, she also took an eraser and placed it next to her bed so that whenever she "wanted" to cut herself, shed use the eraser on her skin instead of a blade of some sort. [i dont suggest this, because it does burn your skin if you do it too hard]
i also think that if you take a pen, and write soething encouraging on both of your wrists, or places you would cut, you'll see it before you cut, read it, and it would stop you. like maybe a saying like .. "When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." or .. "When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." or just a word like, "life." or "live." or "alive." or "live life." maybe even.. "Fall seven times, stand up eight." [you could switch a quote each day.] I dont know if this would work for you, but i think its worth a try. or you could draw a smiley face :] or a heart haha, anything.
You just can't lose hope. you will get through this. you just have to really focus on what you want, and obviously for you, that goal is to stop self mutilizing yourself. You can do this. maybe start playing music ? or joining clubs and stuff. Just keep your mind on different things, and remember, you. will. survive. :]
good luck ! hope i helped, you're not alone. if you ever need to vent or talk about anything, im here, just send me an inboxx. xxo.
hey i'm the girl who asked if the guy i liked was being short with me. you made me feel better about the situation, and i did see him yesterday but it turned out different than i thought and i need some more advice on where to go from here please :] this will probably be long but i just feel like you need to know everything that happened!
joe is 18, hes a senior in high school. i'm 19. the two girls are 17 there names are syd and brynn. just some background info!
so like i said me and these two girls were meeting at my cousins house yesterday, which is joes neighbor. well i'm really close with my cousin and he wasnt home so he was like just go inside. well i was waiting for the girls to come and they got lost so i went outside and was giving them directions, and then i see joe coming down the street. i sort of ignored him while i was on the phone, and then after he was still outside so i went over there and was like give me my keys!:) and he was like alright hold on let me go get them. well then the girls came and parked in front of joes house. now, the girls go to the same school as joe so they know him. i am not in high school anymore, i just graduated. so then joe comes out and hands me the keys, and is like brynn way to park in my yard! he was joking around but then brynn throws the keys at joe and is like here you can move it if you want and he was like nahh. well then me and the girls and joe went inside my cousins. brynn was flirting with joe hardcore, it was upsetting me! she doesnt know i have a crush on him, i mean i dont want it to get around, i dont even know if its just a crush, an attraction, idk! anyways so i was like welll okay, and then laura starts giving joe this massage and stuff and i was getting jealous. i was just trying to ignore it. i felt weird at times because laura and syd are close, and they were telling joe these funny stories that happened, i felt left out a little. well then we all went in the living room, my cousin was home at this point. i was sitting on the couch with syd and joe was laying on the floor. we were all talking and he was like hey linds i think i might be able to go the that game tomorrow, because my games at 9. i was happy. well then syd and brynn left and like 10 min later joe left because he said he was going home to take a nap (hmmm, he left right after them?) well then later i was outside playing football with joes little brother who i love and my cousin! then joe comes outside and is talking to my cousin and i'm just jokin around with joes little brother. i didnt talk to joe, but i could tell he was looking at me. well then me and my cousin left, and then later i met up with brynn and syd again. i texted joe and was like so are you coming tomorrow then? and he was like yeah if can, i'll text you tomorrow after my hockey game. well today, he never texted me. i didn't even end up going to the baseball game because i didn't have anyone to go with. my cousin bailed out tooo. i was thinking maybe thats why joe didnt text me, because he might of found out my cousin wasnt going? i just dont know what to think anymore. when its me my cousin and joe, he flirts with me all the time. but then when the girls were over, he didn't talk to me very much. all the girls love joe, hes the stud of the school. and i dont throw myself at guys so when brynn was flirting with joe, i just let it go. i didnt want to feel like i was competing for his attention, thats not me. joes has a flirty personality though, and i dont like that about him hahaha. and i do too, when i'm around joe and the guys i guess i kind of flirt with the other guys, i think making joe a little jealous. i just dont know what to do anymore!!
You know how you said that you are flirty and you flirt with guys infront of joe ? yeah ... well, you know how he is starting to flirt with girls infront of you .. ? yeah, he's trying to make you as jealous as you make him. you may think that guys aren't that clever, oh but trust me, never underestimate them. ahaha. and that really is what this whole thing sounds like to me. a game of cat and mouse, to put it hypothetically haha.
what you need to do is talk to him. I know what you're thinking.. "easy for you to say." yeah well, it's easy for you too. you just have to do it. if you don't talk to him, or tell him how you feel, then nothing is going to happen and both of you are going to wind up hurting eachother.
I can tell that there is somewhat of an attraction between you two. you just have to be open about it, and unafraid. you need to ask him or tell him how you feel.
you can do it ! hope i helped, good luck, and if you need anything else, you know where to find me ;] xxo.
Hey im that guy whio asked the question on how to get the girl at work's number, then i posted another question the day after saying how i had gotten her number and asking somthing else.
i then sent out thank you letters to the people who answer'd saying how we went to a club the day after and we woke up on my sofa which my mum found us both asleep on the sofa, well this is an update
She's leaving for uni and she wanted to spare me the pain and frustration of a long distance relationship and has decided to split up with me. Ill be honest i saw it coming a few days ago... but i didnt think it would hurt this much while wanting her so badly. i havent stopped crying for the last 4 hours.
we both still love eachother very much and are going to stay in contact but just not be together. I think its a good idea but as much as i hate to admit its a good idea i hate to see her go too.
really im asking what do i do now? wait the 2 years out till she comes back from University? or do i just try to move on, we have such a connection i havent felt it this much with any other person ever and im not exaggerating.
Ps: thank you very very much for your help in previous question's. the last 3 weeks have been the happiest i have had in a long long time.
Awww, you're very welcome, anytime :]
But look, if she decided that it's best you guys split up, and you respect that, then don't wait 2 years for her. Imagine 2 years of your life; lonely, wating for a girl who isn't waiting for you too.
I know you've never felt this way before, but you'll feel it again, and maybe even more intense with someone else. But you'll never know if you don't try. Maybe, after 2 years, you guys can be something.. if you both aren't involved with someone else, but until then, enjoy your lfe, try to move on and have FUN ! :] totally keep in touh with her though, but don't wait for her, thats 2 years of your life you'll never get back. so be friends with her for now, cherish the bond you have, but keep your options open and experience other people. yuh never know.. ;]
whatever happens, happens. and if it's meant to be, it will be.
good luck ! have fun, hope i helped, and if you need anything else, im always herr. xxo.
I just broke up with my Ex... 3 days ago...
This other guy, whom I've REALLY, REALLY liked for
AGEESSS!!!! asked me out today, I told him I'd let
him know.
Do you think it's too soon to be with somebody else?
Because I really care about this new dude... And
have very few feelings for my ex.
What's your view on the situation?
xx
In my opinion, it's waaay too soon. I mean, put yourself in your ex's shoes. if he broke up with you and 3 days later started dating another girl, you would NOT be happy. no matter how little feelings you have.
so i say you either keep it on the down low or wait a little bit before you go straight into another relationship.
:] but follow your heart, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! good luck, hope i helped, xxo.
What's YOUR view on long distance relationships?
xx
It depends.
I think they are fine, yeah a little hard, but if both people are commited to eachother and have a mutual trust, they're not bad. It's like a regular relationship, without the constantly seeing one another in person part.
It takes some work and patience, but there's nothing wrong with it in my oppinion :] if its worth it, the distance won't matter.
good luck ! have fun, hope i helped. xxo.
I am in seventh grade I am going out with this girl that really likes me and I like her but alot of stuff has been going on and her friends make fun of me behind my back Say stuff to her about me and I have heard other stuff but. How do I break up with her!? Through a note or something? HELP!
The truth is:
if everyone were to break up with their boyfriend/girlfriend because people were TALKING about it or making fun of either one of you, everyone on this planet would be snigle. heck, i'd be single. ahaa. so I think you should really re-consider this. people are always going to talk, it just means that they're jealous. you need to follow your heart and do what you want, don't listen to anyone else. this is YOUR life, live it how you want. the only opinion that matters, is your own.
But if you do wind up breaking up with her, do it in person or over the phone [like call her] dont text it. dont email it. dont IM it. be a man about it, you at least owe her that much, yuh know ?
good luck ! hope i helped, if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me, xxo.