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naked pictures??
Okay so recently Ive been talking to this guy (I'm fifteen, so is he) we'll call him Mike and he's really nice and funny and sweet and sincere, you get the idea. Well for the past month or so we've just been hanging out as friends, flirting a lot, and a tiny bit of physical stuff. Well I've started to really like him. He's awesome and I think he likes me too. But see theres this like senior girl who likes him (kinda creepy, yeah) and her two friends who are also like okay buddys with me were talking to me about it. They said that Mike had sent their friend (the one that likes him) naked pictures of himself, like no pants... Ew. I asked one of Mike's really close friends/my friend if this was true and the friend said "I knew they were talking but I asked Mike and he said he never sent them." Now I think I can look at this one of two ways. 1. It's true and Mike lied to his friend, and the two girls (who said they actually saw with their own eyes the pictures) are right. or 2. The girls are making it up because they know their friend likes Mike and they know I kinda like Mike so they want to get me out of the picture... I REALLLLLY hope its option two. But I don't know what to do!!! So here are my questions; which option do you think it is, or do you think its something else? and also, what if it is true??? That is something that would really bother me... I don't know if I could look at him the same... And third... How do I deal with all of this???
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Dont believe anything until you see it. You will get thru life alot easier if you dont follow "he said she said" drama. When you see it with your own eyes, thats when you start worrying about it. Until then, dont let them get to you and dont worry yourself over it.
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In my honest opinion, I think it's most likely to be option number 2. Usually, guys don't send pictures first, and if they do ... then they know the reprecussions. Also, the fact that the senior girl likes he same guy you like is a HUGE red flag. Girls can become ruthless when it comes to getting what they want or the guy they want, so with that said, her and her friends who you are also friendly with might be trying to ruin what you and the guy have by making up a story about how he sent naked pictures of himself to her just to gross you out. But to prove all of this, you really need to ask the guy. It might sound awkward, asking him about this.. but you have to know the truth, and the only person who is going to give that to you is the guy. Just casually be like, "soo, someone told me you recently sent some ... pictures of yourself to a girl ... you werent really in clothes haha, is that true?" If you play it off like you're just curious, he'll tell you the truth. but first he'll probably say, "who told you that?" just don't tell him. you have to keep asking him if its true, he'll crack under the pressure if there really IS something going on.
and if it is true, then move on. any guy that is CLEARLY interested in you and then sends naked pictures [which is illegal, by the way] to another girl is NOT worth your time. if this is the case, you can DEFINETLY find another guy. I mean, I agree with you, if my boyfriend did that, I don't think i'd be able to look at him the same way ... it would make me VERY uncomfortable. and you're dealing with this just fine as of now :] you just have to talk to him about this, and don't always believe what other people tell you, there are going to be many people throughout your lifetime who are going to want to see you fall.
good luck ! it'll be okay :] if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me ! xxo.
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It's probably option 2. If it's true, then get over him. Obviously he doesn't respect you enough to talk to you & only you. When you like someone, you don't talk to other girls with an interest in them, it's rude.
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Girls can be mean...honestly she's probly trying to get to you. Go to the source, it might be kinda akward but it's better than wondering...if he says it's not true then it might not be try to trust him especially since he probly wouldn't lie to his friend about that cause thats how guys are. If the girls persist tell her to prove it! If she says she has already deleted it ask her to get him to send it again and if she has some stupid excuse then you know she's obviously a liar! If it is true and ut bothers you that much then he's probly not the right guy for you because as bad and illegal as it is guys who are willing to send pictures generally want some in return. Tell him that's not how you are and you aren't looking for that.
I HOPE IT ALL IS A LIE!!!
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