about

well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..




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well...im 13 (female) and i had this biyfriend last year...and we were really close...but we broke up...and we were friends for a while....but then he told me that he hated me...and now im really sad..and a while ago he called me to tell me about a movie..but then he said he had to go...and now im always thinkin about him....and i miss him as a friend....what should i do

talk to him about it. dont let everything you want to tell him build it up in your heart let it all out. explain to him how you feel. he might still feel the same way. and mayb you can also ask to the movies as friends. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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Im sorry this is so long.



I just don't feel right. I don't feel myself.


School is hard for me. Being in advanced math, its very hard.I used to be a very smart person till this year, when the computer took effect.

I guess seyin adds with skinny girls, made me think im fat. My friends don't think I am but I do.

I go into these random mood swings when I complain to my friends and tell me how im feeling.

I don't feel myself at all. I feel I can be a smarter, cooler, and better person, but I can't figure out how.

My friends are great. Although im very ugly, and very mean sometimes, I don't have alot of friends. I feel very unhappy often.

My parents don't let me go to the school dances. She says I have to wait till 8th grade. Its just not fair. Ive tried to explain to hr she can trust me and Im not going to dance with anyone, she still doesn't believe me. Ive tried to build up trust within my parents they just say maybe in a few years.

I feel like a nobody. I have no life. I used to be one of the best singers ever that anyone has ever heard. Guess what, I can't sing anymore. I sound like a dying moose.


Someone help me feel better about myself, Please.

Please, Im me at JackieIsONOMG and we can talk about it.

aww i am soo sorry .. i used to be the same way except i was allowed ot go ot hte dances but i was in ASB which meant i plan and decorate the dance you so i had to go no matter what..

back to what you said. if you say the girls online or on pictures then dont worry about it. you know computers now a days make you look thinner then you are. and can fix anything about you. and relax, dont worry about i mean you know how hard it is for those girls to stay in shape. some of them have to watch what they eat all time and have to have personal trainers to excerise daily to help me. and if you are worried about guys not liking you by the wya you look then dont belive that. a guy should like for who you are not whta you look like. if he doesnt then F*** him. he isnt worth any of your time. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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ok... heres the 411.. in my 2nd quarter at skool.. this boi jus came up 2 me outta no where... and talked 2 me... he waz realy cute and when i saw him my heart just froze.. and i got one of those feelingz when you really really like sum1... so i started talking 2 him every other mourning... then i decided i waz gonna rite him a note.. it basicly jus said if he wanted 2 go mall wit me diz weekend.. and if he liked me .. or sumthing ... well he wrote bak and gave me hiz number.. so i called and the coversation waz horrible.... and he waz being a total ass on da phone.. so i just stoped talking 2 him.. after that... hez tried saying hi 2 me twice.. but i kinda jus ingonored him. and now here i am in my 3rd quarter... and it seemz like whenever i turn around hez there. and he followz me and my friendz sumtimez... i think i may have feelingz 4 him still but i just don\'t know wat 2 do !! please please help!!!

since you just dropped the conversation with him and he doesnt egt the poin(most guys dont) you need to tell him how you feel about em. trust em girl you dont need an asshole with you were ever you go. there is already to many of them and dont start collecting them. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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So I have this boyfriend I love with all my heart. We've been going out for a little over a year. But like lately Uve been meeting other guys and I don't like them or anything but I always think of like what would happen if I cheated on my boyfriend with one of them. One of these guys, I will be seeing this weekend and I know it's possible something couldl happen. And I don't know. I don't want to cheat, but I might. Helppp!

ha i am just like you. i do that all the team except i never do anything with anybody because i always think of who i will heart and how my my bf means to me, and that no other guy can replace me. i would never cheat on my bf either and i am not planning to. yea sometimes we ahve or downs and ups but that wont make em the one i love with all my heart. think about what would happen if you did cheat on him. all the good times you guys have had together can never be replaced or forgotten. go wit the guy as friends and act like only friends to. it might be you just miss your boyfriend and want to have some fun. that is how it is with me. but if that is the case you see him and do whatever you wanted to do with the other guys wit your bf.

personaly i think we soemone cheats on another i think od it as the person that did was to scared to tell the first partner that they didnt want to be with them..

hope this helps yo uout girly. if you need anything else drop it in my inbox..

*~Stephanie~*

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well i like this guy n yes i am gay. hes a senior i like him alot a realy realy lot. n he is gay n my only problem is im a freshman. n we talk sometimes not often but we have alot in common. i need to know if i should bother asking him out. n e help would b wicked good.

thnx

ok well first of before you ask him out you should find out if he is gay. i mean if you ask him out and he striaght that would make you looks stupid and him being put down. if you already ahve found that then go for it and ask him out. if you dont face your fears you will never know the answer. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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I've tried to download AIM on my laptop, seriously, about 9 times now, & everytime I try to sign on, it says The AIM Service Can Not Be Reached.

And a couple of times that I've tried, it says that there were errors during the download.

Does anyone know what the problem is?

first off stop tryin to download it soo many times. second it is from your internet you get that when aim cant find the cord or anything that connects to the internet. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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Well, my friend and I were supposed to hang-out this weekend. I have called her numorus times, maybe 3 or 4. Most of the time somebody didn't answer, the line was busy, and then one time, her brother answered and told me she wasn't home. But, sometimes her brother will say she isn't home, even when she is. Well the thing is, I really want to get intouch with her. So should I just keep calling; it has been about an hour since I called. Should I just not call and wait til' she calls me. Or does anybody else have anymore suggestions?
Thank you so much if you can help!

just leave it alone. dont waste your time.. keep youself occupided doin other sutff and she will call. if not there always be another time.
*~Stephanie~*

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My best friend just got kicked off our school's cheer squad cause she failed math. This came as a complete surprise b/c the coach approved her when she showed the coach her report card. The principle informed my coach failing a class wasn't allowed if you play a sport so my coach told my friend to turn in her uniform she was off the squad. My coach said she ran into the bathroom and cried and refused to come out. ( She was also supposed to come home with me and spend the night after the game )

I feel horrible right now; me and her were such good friends on the squad and we dont have any classes together. I called her after the games I cheered at today but brother said she wasn't home. I personally don't know what to say to her; I'm bad at this sorta stuff. We have to wear our uniforms on game days and I'm afraid that will make her feel really bad to see us in uniform. What should I do? Please Please guys, I really need help.

you should talk to you coach and expail to her that instead of kickin her of the team the coach should put her probation or somethign but not boat her off the team. when i say probabtion i mean like let her stay on theam adn play but only if she stays after class and works on her h.w and if she needs help she will get it. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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My bf lives in another province because he has to work in the oil rigs. He works very long hours and has no internet so we hardly ever get to communicate. He has a cell but because he's working all the time it's hard to get a hold of him. The last time I talked to him was on Xmas Day.
Should I wait for him to make the next call? I was the one that phoned him on Xmas Day. I personally think he's being insensitive for never phoning.
I'll rate 5's!

you pick the phone and call your lover. dont wait for him. like u said he is busy. so you call him. when you are busy you dont get a lot of time to do stuff and when you do you cant really do what you want bc you can forget so pick up your phone and call him.
*~Stephanie~*

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Hey! I'm a 14/f. I got my period(or so I think it was) about 1 and 1/2 months ago. But it hasn't come back since then. Is this irregular? Isn't it supposed 2 happen the same time every month! I don't know cause I'm kinda new at this whole thing. Plus when I had my period it was brown....like the blood and everything was brown not red. I'm pretty sure it was my period but I could be wrong I guess. Can any one please help me! I'm worried its not gunna come back. Much luv xoxoxo

it wotn be regular for another 2-4 years. you are perfectly fine and you got nothing to worry abotu.
*~Stephanie~*

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i just got my period i take a bath soon i know that you have to take your pad off but how does the blood stop coming out if u take a bath or a shower. explain them both to me fast and i will right all 5s if u hurry

you cant really stop it. what i would do if i were you i would take a shower and not a bath justto clean it up. otherwise you will be bathing in blood. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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Ok this guy asked me out, hes 13 same as me, now hes not the best looking guy out there but hes really nice and sweet..and i know i should like him but for some reason i just dont

ive thought about saying yes but every time i look at him its like eww no i cant say yes to that

and i know it shouldnt be about looks yadda yadda yadda but i cant get past the way he look

what should i do? should i go out with him or should i not?

dont go out with him. if you cant get past his looks then there is no need to go any further.
*~Stephanie~*

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can someone with a yahoo screen name talk online to someone with an aim screen name? sorry if this was dumb, but i didn't know lol =P

nope they are to differnet progams adn ccant be used.
*~Stephanie~*

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Okay, y'all...I am a fellow advicenator. I am just wondering why advicenators who have NEVER had sex or don't know what the hell the are talking about are answering sex questions. These people actually might just TAKE your advice...at least learn about what you're answering before you hit submit. Oh yeah, and for all of you who think wearing TWO condoms is cool...you are so wrong.

i agree with you sometimes peopel do that and it gets on my nerves but that is why you ignore them adn dont listen to them. wearing to condoms isnt cool either. if you wear two it will cause friction and they wiull break..
*~Stephanie~*

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ok can you get pregnant by being AROUND sperm. not actually having sex?? like if it was on a surface er in the shower. like if you use the bathroom & theres sperm er anything??

thanks

nope you cant because after less then a minute it dies and it cant go in you if you are around it.
*~Stephanie~*

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Okay i am 17. I just broke up with my boyfriend ive had for the last 11 months. I wasnt happy and i told him that. He was too serious and talking about marriage n when wed hang out hed just want to stay in his room the whole time n lay down. And it wasnt makeing me happy. It would actually put me in a bad mood having to talk to him on the phone! So i broke up with him. Ive started liking another guy. Nothing serious! Just someone i liked to talk to and flirt with. I still talk to my EX for hours on the phone and i DO love him. Sometimes i just want to take him back knowing i wasnt happy last time. I think its because its the "safe" thing to do. Cuz i know how things will be. What i want to know is....Do yous think i should go back to the way it was or do you think i should see what happenes next. I just dont want to hurt him he says he needs me.... What would one of yous do??

P.S. im also a columnist...

follow your heart. if being with your ex didnt make you happy then dont do it. it will be hurtign you and him and wasting time on soemthign that uin the end will only hurt you. personally i think you should try something new and see how it make you feel if you dont liek ti then you can go back to your ex and plus it will help you find out how strong your feeling are for your ex. hope this helps.
*~Stephanie~*

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this may seem like a dumb question but i heard someone talking about it.

lets say you use a public bathroom & you're a girl. if there's sperm anywhere near the toilet, on the seat, in the toilet itself, is it possible to get pregnant?? if you were juss using the bathroom??

thanks!!

that isnt possible because after less then a minute when sperm hit the air it dies. so dont worry.
*~Stephanie~*

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I'm in the eight grade and I'm a 14 year old female. Some boys think that i am pretty. But I haven't had my first kiss yet. I want my first kiss to be spectacular, something that I will remember forever.
I feel really left out because all of my friends have had their first kiss and more. I just want to know the ages of people when they got their first kiss and details (like where, how, etc.) it will make me feel better. Thank you in advance!

hey1 well since i am your age i will tell you when i got my first kiss. to be honest wit you i got my first kiss 9 months agos. it was target in the cd section. yea i noe crazy place but he had to go and so did i and that is where i got my first kiss and he still dont know that he was my frist really kiss because he dont believe me..lol.. to be honest wit you when you get your first kiss it doesnt really matter where you get it you it matter who you give it to. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*

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My bf and I have been together for a long time, but we've never had sex yet. I feel that I'm ready now and have already gone and bought some really sexy pink lacy panties and a matching bra. I have a new bed that I decorated with pink throw pillows. I want this to be a night to remember. This is what I had in mind: I was going to decorate my whole appartment with scented pink candles, and throw rose petals on the bed. I was thinking of having a tray of strawbarries on the bed and a bottle of wine for us to have before we made love.
Does anyone have any other suggestions to what I can do to set the mood? What sort of music should I play?
I'll rate 5s!

i dont know if you are an R&B listener but you should play soft R&B music like marques houston (naked, sex wit you. and he has much more) and maub some Joe and stuff like that. hope this helps.
*~stephanie~*

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17/f
I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months. But whenever we greet each other, we don't hug or kiss. We just say "hey." However, he is affectionate when we are watching a movie or something. But I want him to kiss, or atleast hug me when we greet each other. How do I get him to do this? I don't want to be the first one to do it .. because it might be akward, and he'd probably think "what was that for?" Help?

if you think abotu it you got two choices one you do ti yourself or two talk to him about it. just be like how did you enough the day? did we do everythign you wanted to do? and just brign it up like that.
*~stephanie~*

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