Question Posted Saturday January 21 2006, 12:23 pm
So I have this boyfriend I love with all my heart. We've been going out for a little over a year. But like lately Uve been meeting other guys and I don't like them or anything but I always think of like what would happen if I cheated on my boyfriend with one of them. One of these guys, I will be seeing this weekend and I know it's possible something couldl happen. And I don't know. I don't want to cheat, but I might. Helppp!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? kailey answered Tuesday January 24 2006, 4:48 pm: How old are you? If you're young, it's quite possible that while you love your boyfriend, you crave the freeness that's usually associated with being a teen-- not having to settle down & be serious, but just date around & have fun. There's nothing wrong with being attracted to other people or having these feelings, but how you deal with them is within your control. Something can only happen with this guy if you let him, and if your heart is truly with your boyfriend, you won't let it happen. It's best to let your boyfriend know about your feelings so you can discuss a solution together- perhaps a break- as opposed to you making a mistake & cheating on him. [ kailey's advice column | Ask kailey A Question ]
CoWb0Y_tAy answered Sunday January 22 2006, 12:40 pm: i think if you really did love your boyfriend that you wouldnt cheat on him especially if its with someone you dont even care for because what if the guys you cheat with really does like you? then would be stuck with him along with the fact you cheated on the guy you love with a guy you have no feelings for. [ CoWb0Y_tAy's advice column | Ask CoWb0Y_tAy A Question ]
syireen answered Saturday January 21 2006, 9:21 pm: If your even thinking of cheating you dont love you boyfriend its simple infatuation being mistaken for love. Im mean i know what your saying but i really wouldn't do anything with this guy this weekend its not fair to your boyfriend. If anything maybe you should take a break and then fool around with these guys then after you'll see what you feel then, and whether you liked being in a real relationship or fooling around dont get me wrong sometimes people need to fool around to see what they truly feel is important to them in the end. just dont cheat its unfair plus you'll feel guilty afterwards not to mention people will somhow find out trust me things like that dont stay secret
tasuki answered Saturday January 21 2006, 7:00 pm: Everybody is attracted to other people. It's natural. But you need to learn how to seperate attraction from the love and trust of a real relationship. "Something" can only happen if you let it, it's completely up to you whether you cheat or not. But you need to ask yourself if it's worth it. Is it worth it to fool around with a guy you don't even like? Think about what might happen afterwards. You would feel guilty about doing it, and start to get paranoid around your boyfriend. You wouldconstantly wonder if somehow he knows. You would be under a lot of pressure to keep it secret, and in the long run keeping secrets hurts both of you. Who knows if this boy you had the fling with would keep his mouth shut? Somehow, the information would get back to your boyfriend. Your boyfriend might choose not to believe it and say "My girl would never do that!" making you even more guilty, or he might believe it and be really hurt. Then he would break up with you, and both of you would feel awfully bad. You might even try going back to the other guy for consolation, only to find that he doesn't care for you any more than you cared for him--you were only someone he was attracted to.
So basically what I'm saying is that you should keep your fantasies. Do whatever you want in your dream world. But don't compromise your relationship for a fling. If you decide that you don't want to stay in the relationship, break up with your boyfriend. It will hurt, but it would hurt even more if you cheated on him.
cjAdvice answered Saturday January 21 2006, 2:49 pm: If you really love your boy friend,you won't do any thing. Just keep that in mind, ok? Allso, why not invite your boyfriend to come with you two? That should work if you dont fully trust yourself.... so hope this helps,
sanj56 answered Saturday January 21 2006, 1:21 pm: You say you love your boyfriend...that maybe true but you haven't said if your relationship is a good one or not. From that i am going to guess it is not going to well at the moment, hence why cheating has crossed your mind. I could be wrong but im just telling you from how i see it.
I think if you do have problems you need to talk it out with him. And if you really do love him as much as you say you do, you wont cheat on him. You make it sound as if the other boy is going to force you to cheat or something will takeover your body and it will magically happen. well it wont the only person that will make you cheat is you. I know im being harsh but i have to be honest. Give it some thought..do you really love him as much as you think??why would you ever think about cheating on him.
SoInToYoUx0x answered Saturday January 21 2006, 1:18 pm: ha i am just like you. i do that all the team except i never do anything with anybody because i always think of who i will heart and how my my bf means to me, and that no other guy can replace me. i would never cheat on my bf either and i am not planning to. yea sometimes we ahve or downs and ups but that wont make em the one i love with all my heart. think about what would happen if you did cheat on him. all the good times you guys have had together can never be replaced or forgotten. go wit the guy as friends and act like only friends to. it might be you just miss your boyfriend and want to have some fun. that is how it is with me. but if that is the case you see him and do whatever you wanted to do with the other guys wit your bf.
personaly i think we soemone cheats on another i think od it as the person that did was to scared to tell the first partner that they didnt want to be with them..
hope this helps yo uout girly. if you need anything else drop it in my inbox..
jealousyxo answered Saturday January 21 2006, 12:53 pm: If you truly love your boyfriend,you shouldnt even think about cheating on him.I mean how would you feel if he cheated on you? When you hang out with one of the guys this weekend,if you feel the tension between you two starting and you think your ready to give in and do something with him,tell him that you have a boyfriend that you really care about and that it could really mess things up between you too,and then hopefully he will back off.If you hang out again with them and your afraid of doing something,bring one of/or a couple of your girlfriends along with you so they can stop you if you give in,and to make you feel comfortable.I hope i could help!
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