When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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Well I really like this guy and it seems like he likes me too. Should I ask him out or wait for him to ask me out? (link)
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Hey,
I think that you should take the first step in getting to know him better and be really good friends with him, and you could hang out sometimes and talk normally. But i have always believed that when a girl asks a guy out , then its as if she's desperate and has no one. So i am sure that you are not like that, so no don't take the first step, and wait for him to ask you out. But just do your part in starting a conversation with him and getting to know him better.
And then if he likes you and wants to be with you, then he will ask you out and not your friend. but its totally up to him, according to which he really likes most and wants to be with, so don't argue with it.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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okay... so im 15/f almost 16..
sorry that this is soo long and thanks in advance for your help and answers.
so i will start from the begining.
last june me and my friends were at some huge event. that was just kind of on a street. and my one friend lets call him jack. well he was talking to me for a while. and then he had to go do something that had to do with the event. and then i said to him oh yeah did you see brooke? and he was like shes here where? and he pushed me out of the way and went running away and didnt say anything to me the whole rest of the night. i just forgot about it.
Then August 7th he found out that i liked him because my friend had told him. The the next day (August 8th) i saw him at another kind of event thing near my house. I was driving by and i saw the event thing. so i went down and saw all kinds of friends. including jack. when the thing jack and my other friends were doing was over (a kind of performance thing) i went over and started talking to some of my friends. Jack didnt talk to me once. And he was with Brooke (the girl he pushed me out of the way to go running over to last time). And The next day was my birthday so i thought he might have came over and said oh yeah happy birthday if i dont talk to you or something. cause we were really good friends. but he didnt. he didnt even say anything to me.
So me and him got into a fight that night online. My friend christina helped me and him sort things out. And he had told christina that he was going to get me something for my birthday which was the next day. And before i had said to christina that he didnt remember my birthday and he would probally remember booke's birthday.
So The next day ( august 9th my birthday) i dont get a gift from him. i dont get a card from him. he doesnt even say happy birthday to me. So i got mad. and the next day he apologized and said well i thought it might make you mad at me.
And for his birthday i made him a really nice card that took me like a longgg time to make. And i know i deff. said happy birthday too.
So whatever.
This year for his birthday (which is in march) i made him a really nice card again that took me even longer. And i gave him 50 dollars too.
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He doesnt even remember when my birthday is. Because i asked him and he didnt know. So i didnt tell him.
And this really made me mad that he didnt know when it was after everything that happend last year he still didnt rememeber.
is it wrong that im mad? or is it normal.
Thanks for you time and please answer this.
=] (link)
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Hey,
ofcourse its not wrong for you to be mad at him, because the guy obviously is obssessed about brooke, and he is crazy in love with her.And he probably didn't really love you as the way he loved brooke, so when he heard that you like him, he was kind of embarrased to talk to you, and in the same time, he thought that you guys were freinds, and he was kind of disappointed to hear that you had another feeling towards him.
But either ways, no talking to you is definitelly not the way to deal with the situation,and is dead wrong in every action he is doing. He did remember your birthday, but he didn't do anything about it, because he was probably to busy with brooke, and he doesn't really care if you get mad or not.
So let me tell you something, i have had a best friend before (a guy) for 6 whole years, and then on the 7th he met this girl and was so crazy about her,and he just started ignoring me and ditching me and being so mean to me for no reason. And he even forgot my birthday and didn't care about me at all anymore.
And thats when i knew it, that he simply met someone new that changed his whole entire life, therefore he moved on and just simply left you. Thats what all people do, they move on and meet new people and leave the old ones. It may hurt so much, but thats the truth and sometimes you have to listen to it.
Sometimes, he could feel that what he did was wrong and go back to you, and sometimes he may not. But either ways ,don't wait for him, and move on with your life too. And don't run after him, and don't go talking to him, because if he wants to talk ,then he can talk, and if he doesn't, then its his loss. Because i am sure that he doesn't know that he is losing such a truly amazing friend like you, or someone who love him so dearly as you do.
So go on and find someone who really does deserve you ,and someone who loves you back and cares about you.
and if you need any other help or advice,
Please be free to contact me,and try to consider all i said.It will really help you to hear the truth and to hear whats right for you and what should be done.
Goodluck with your life:)
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Well i have this friend who told me that her parents (who my parents are best friends with) hit her and her dad tried to drown her in a pool. What should i do?? we are only 13 and i don't want her to get into trouble and my mom wouldn't beleive me! They already called DSS but that didn't help. (link)
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Hey,
I read your problem and that really sounds tough and all, but i have some ideas that could help you.
Maybe your parents didn't believe you when you told them, but maybe they would if your best freind told them herself, and told them what they do to her and how they tried to drown her.
Because there is no kid that would go and say that her parents are abusive and they tried to kill her.So i am sure that they would believe her.
And try to make her stay over at your house alot, if that is possible, and also alot out of her house.And call her to check up on her ,and go over to her house and make sure that things are okay. So just do your part, and then consider the idea of making her talk with your parents and ask for their help.
And goodluck:)and if there are any other problems troubles, worries and concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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umm this may be a stupid question, but how do you kiss? i mean do you just go for it? what do guys expect out of a 13 year old? closed mouth open-mouthed? please help! (link)
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hey,
When you close your mouth, then you are kissing each other on the lips, but when you open your mouth, then you lick each others tongue.
And you can do either, according to what the guy will do, if he opens his mouth, then you can open it too, and if closes it, then you can too.
And just go for it, don't wait to think what to do. Because if you love the person infront of you so much, then you will automatically kiss him back when he makes an attempt to kiss you.
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I want to pursue a job in something relating to nightlife. Perhaps, a promoter for a night club. Or something along those lines. What other fun career opportunities are there for a night club? Thank you. (link)
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You could work as a bar tender there, its lots of fun, and you get to make conversations with people and smile all the time.
Other than that, you wouldn't find anything for a night club except a stripper.These are the only two jobs there.
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How do I get my boyfriend, (From two years ago) back? We flirt sometimes, but we weren't in classes together last year. He's the perfect guy, like exactly what I look for. I'm great at flirting, and it'll seem like he likes me. But, I want us to go back out again. The new school year will be starting soon, maybe we'll get classes together. Tips? (link)
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Hey,
First of all, you have to make sure that he is not dating anyone else.
Second of all, you should call him and ask him to maybe hang out with you or catch a movie or something, and try to show him that you are going out like freinds, so he wouldn't disagree or anything, and then when you go out, try to make conversations and talk about different topics and remind him of your memories together, and flirt for a while, and then who knows, maybe he'd end up telling you that he still likes you or he kisses you or something.
So just try to consider some of the suggestions i said, and you would be more like if you end up in the same classes together.
So goodluck:) and if you need any more advice or help, then please be free to contact me.
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i gave head on july 11th. and now i have 3 canker sores in my mouthhh...do i have herpes? or is that a sign...should i get it checked oout.... (link)
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hey,
herpes is a Viral diseases causing eruptions of the skin or mucous membrane. i thought i could help you with the meaning.But either ways, you should definitely consult a doctor, because he is medically experienced and knows better than any advice that could be given to you on the site. But you are still welcome to post your problems, troubles, worries, and concerns.
So goodluck:)
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So I haven't started my period in nearly two months. It can't be stress, diet, or lack of exercise. I exercise, eat right, and I am happy-as-can-be. What could be possible things that could be wrong?
And if it helps I last started early June.
And also, please don't guess, or tell me you don't know. And please write with good spelling and grammer or I will take off. Thank you. (link)
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Hey,
Its normal, there is no need to worry. Usually the period is irregulat and unorganized,and sometimes it comes one month and it doesn't the other.
I know a friend who had her period for 2 years,and until now, her period is unorganized.
She had it one month, and then it stopped for 2 months, and came again on the 3rd month.
You see, alot of people have that with their period, but when you grow up more, then it will be organized and will come every month. So don't worry. And try to take vitamins or something ,because they help in orgainizing the period to come on time.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other advice or help, then please be free to contact me.
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So my friend (we will call him Tom) Tom and i have been talking a lot on MSN and Texting. We are JUST friends (tom has been going out with a girl for 5 months)but for some reason i feel giulty that we are so close. We always go on webcam and do silly stuff together like pretend we are rappers or act like gangsters and stuff. Everybody thinks we like each other even though neither of us have really ever thought about it...
so what i'm asking is do you think he likes me or should i feel giulty? i KNOW i am not leading him on, but ever since somebody kinda pointed it out to me, i geuss we are kinda flirtsy (not on purpose though) i am confused, but in the mean time....i will just continue to be awesome friends and keep on being silly.
your help is GREAT, so thank you for even just reading this mess, lol (link)
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hey,
In my opinion, i think that you should neither start thinking about the whole like and love thing, nor should you think about feeling guilty.Because your not doing anything wrong, and as long as your not doing anything wrong, then screw what anyone says, you shouldn't give a damn. This is your best friend, and this means that you should have all the fun you can have with him, and all best freinds do so, because if you don't , then you will never feel that you really care about him or that he is fun or anything.
So what i am trying to say is, that if a person wants to do something, and that from his point of view, there is nothing wrong in doing it, then go for it and live your life, and whatever people say, the just put it behind your back, and go on with what your doing. Thats my piece of advice, and thats my opinion, and thats also the right thing to be done. So try to consider what i said and goodluck:) and if there is anything else that you want, please be free to contact me.
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Okay, so the last time i had sex was about 2 months ago. (He did not ejaculate at all, the sex did not last more than 10 minutes) I got my period last month, and the month before, but right now, my period starting about between a week and 2 weeks 2, i feel bloated, and it feels like gas bubbles are in my stomache a lot lately for the past 3 days. I've checked sites to see the symptoms, and I have none of the symptoms, but I am just worried. Should I worry? Or do you think it's just my period, or something else? (link)
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I think that you should consult a doctor, because thats someone who would know alot more better than anyone on this site. But your welcome to post your problems, troubles,worries or concerns at anytime.
So goodluck;)
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My mom told my sister and I a few days ago that if she tells us to do something, we have to do it within 5 minutes or we "lose our privileges". She isn't patient at all. When she tells us to do the dishes, and we say "I will", then she looks at her watch casually to time us 5 minutes to do it. She constantly has to have us doing chores, too. Whether its vacuuming, yard work, dishes, emptying the trash, or putting something up, she can't wait and we have to do it NOW. If we aren't cleaning in some way, we're wasting time (according to my mom). What do we do? (link)
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Hey,
Alot of parents wait till we reach a certain age, and they start forcing all the chores on us, and making us do them all and no time, and if we dont' of if we are late, then they make a huge fight and ground us.
So i have an idea that you can do, why don't you finish all the chores you have, first thing in the morning when you wake up, either if it is the dishes, or yard work, or vacuuming or the trash, and make things look tidy and clean, so that when she comes she will find everything looking nice ,and she will be satisfied, and as well as after every meal, you hurry to wash the dishes before she tells you to do. And the point of doing all of this, is because thats what she wants you to do. At least do it for a couple of days, and when she finds you doing it by yourself , she will be very happy with you, because all she is trying to do is to make you responsible in the house, and show you that you have chores and tasks that have to be done on time. And if you keep on doing that for a couple of days, she will go back to being patient, and you won't have to worry about your privilege.
So goodluck and please be free to contact me whenever you like, if you need any advice or help.
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My mother's boyfriend is very inconsiderate to my little sister and I. He seems to think that anything that we have to say can not possibly be more important than what he might be saying, even if we need help with our homework or are cooking dinner and can't find something. He also does not seem to think that the rules of the house apply to him. Another big problem is his phone behavior. He will call while one of us is on the phone with a friend (we have call waiting) and when we tell him that we are on the phone and that we will have our mother call him when we are done, he still calls back about ever five minutes. He has done this when we were on the phone long distance, and we finallly got irate and yelled at him (he had called back six times, we counted) Then when he talked to our mother, he told her that we were rude to him. We have told all of these things to our mother over the last two years, to no avail. How can we get her to break up with this jerk? (link)
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hey,
You shouldn't be thinking of how to make your mother break up with this guy, because your mother might be happy and wants to be with him.
On the other hand, i suggest that you simply stay out of his way, and don't talk to him at all, if he wants to make a call,then he can do whatever he wants, and if he wants to act in a silly behaviour, then let him do whatever he wants, and don't show him that you care, because all i say is someone like him acting like a kid, a naive person.
So if you want to call someone or talk to your mom or do anything that he doesn't approve of when he is around,then do it when he is not around.
More and more, why don't you consider building a relationship between you and him, you could sit and talk with him, and tell him about stuff that are going on in your life, and share jokes with him, and make him feel that he is a part of he family, and not just someone who invaded in on it.
He just wants someone to love him and care for him, and make him feel that he's welcome. He maybe a little naive and has some characters that are unbearable. But every person has good and bad characters, and since you spotted the bad ones, then why don't you try to find his good ones. Please consider this, try to talk with him and ask about him, and know him better, because sometimes a person is fooled by the outside personality of the opposite person, but if you sit and know him better, then you will be knowing him from inside and from his real personality. So goodluck:) and try to consider all i said.
And if there are any other troubles, problems, worries or concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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There is this boy that I like and I don't know if he likes me... He used to live across the street from me for like a year, and we used to play outside a lot but, then he moved and we talk on the computer and we talk on our cell phones a lot. And he had a girlfriend, but then my friend told him that I liked him and the next day he broke up with her. But then when I was talking to him on the computer, he said "so your going out wit 'blah' and then he said wrong IM, so I'm just wondering if he likes me or not? (link)
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Hey,
First of all, there is a huge possibility that he likes you and is crazy about you. But do you know whats the best thing that should be done in that situation, is that you should just act cool and natural and pretend that there is nothing going on. Just call him, and chat with him, and just leave things to fall in place alone, because sometimes there are things which we have no control of, so all we have to do is to wait and see what will happen, So act as the friend you have always been with him, and if he really loves you and wants to be with you, he won't hesitate and will take a step forward and tell you about his feelings.
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How do you make tiny samosas? I don't cook at all and I am not from India/don't have relatives. I ate it somewhere once and it was delicious! (link)
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Here is the recipe for the samosa, there could be meat or vegetable samosa, so i got both of them anyways, so here goes:
Meat or Vegetable Samosa
Vegetable filling:
4 T. of clarified butter or Ghee
1 lb. potatoes peeled and cut into 1/4" dice
2 cloves garlic, peeled and minced
1 C. peeled and finely chopped yellow onion
1 tsp. grated fresh ginger
2 tsp. Garam Masala
1 T. chopped fresh coriander
Pinch of cayenne pepper
1/2 tsp. turmeric
2 tsp. lemon juice
1 cup frozen peas, thawed
Salt to taste
Method:Heat a large frying pan and add the ghee, potatoes, garlic, onion, and ginger.
Cover and cook on low for 10 minutes, to sweat the potatoes down. Stir a few times. Don't brown.
Add remaining ingredients and continue cooking, covered, until the potatoes and peas are tender, about 5 minutes. Set aside to cool.
Ingredients for Dough:
2 C. sifted all-purpose flour
6 T. vegetable oil
1 tsp salt
1/2 C. water
Oil for frying
Method:Using a fork, blend the flour, oil, and salt. Add the water and knead to form smooth dough.
Wrap in plastic and refrigerate for 1 hour. Knead the dough for 1 minute.
Cut in half. Cut each half into 12 pieces. Roll each in 7" circles using additional flour.
Cut each circle in half. Form a "cone". Fill and seal with water into a triange.
Fry in 2" of oil at 375 degrees for 2 to 3 minutes per side. Drain
Meat filling:
1 T. ghee
2 cloves garlic, peeled and minced
1 med. yellow onion peeled and finely chopped
1/2 lb. finely ground lamb
1/2 lb finely ground beef
1 tsp grated fresh ginger
2 tsp Garam Masala
1 T. chopped fresh coriander
1/2 tsp turmeric
Pinch of cayenne pepper
1/4 ground cinnamon
2 tsp fresh lemon juice salt to taste
Method: Saute all ingredients until they are crumbly and most of the liquid is absorbed. Set aside and cool.
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So i really liek this kid thats 2 years older than me..and i think he might have an interest in me..but we used to be able to talk for hours and now..when he signs on i get a weird feeling in my stomach..and i can never get him off my mind. and now i dont know how to IM him. I really like him..and his one close friend said he did. But, i dont know if i should get more info out of his friend or not. Please help! (link)
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hey,
I know how it feels to really love someone, care for him, and be so attached to him, that when he is away for a while, its exactly as if your heart was broken. But why waste all my time thinking of someone and running after him, when there could be a possibility that he is just busy with something and that he will be back soon, talking to you and hanging out and having fun. Sometimes, we can't do everything, and we have to wait a while, till everything falls down in place where it should be.
So i am suggesting that you give this situation sometime,you may have to wait alot and maybe not. but either ways, its not in your hand to do anything, and don't ask his freind because he probably goes and tells him about you ,and he may think that you are so desperate, and guys don't like that. So just act cool and natural, and hang in there for a while. And if you finally succeed in IMing him, then you could maybe ask him if you could hang out together or something, and have some fun. Then when he knows you much better, he could make a step forward and ask you out or something, then you wouldn't be having this weird feeling in the pit of your stomach, but you will be happy to have him with you and to own him, no more running after him.But then again you have to go back and know the reason that made you together, and its because you gave the situation sometime, and you didn't sound desperate, but you simply acted cool and natural.
So try to consider what i said, and don't try to force yourself on him. You are sweet, loving and caring person, so take advantage of that in a good way, and use it right.
And if you need any other advice or help. Then please be free to contact me. Goodluck:)
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When I talk and flirt with a boy, he usually flirts back. Then I jump on the fact that he likes me just as much as I like him. How do I chill out, and idk, "play that game" where it doesn't seem like I'm desperate to be with him. Sometimes I can scare guys away like that, what should I do? (link)
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Hey,
Alot of guys out there play tough, and flirt with girls just for the fun of it. so thats why,you have to play too. And when a guy comes forward, put in your mind that he's just there to play around with you, and go with the game.
Give him good comebacks and play really hard and tough. And then if you do, HE may actually like you, and find you really cool and tough and all.
Its simple, because not every guy we stand and talk to, hang around with and flirt with, is someone we really like .There are friends, best freinds, good friends, and the people we have fun with. And these guys who come to flirt with you are a prime example of the people looking for fun. So don't scare them away, but just play the game nice and tough.
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would it be wrong to date a guy a year younger than me. the thing is he lives in my neighborhood and me and his sister and others all hang out. would that be wrong. (link)
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hey,
i read your problem, and i have actually came past alot of similar ones before, and my answer was always" There's definitely no problem in dating a guy who is a year younger than you".
As long as this guy is nice ,sweet, caring and loving, and you love him dearly ,then why don't you date him.
And let me tell you something else, that there could be a guy older than you, who is childish and naive, but then ,there could be a guy younger than you, who is very mature and seems older than his age. So ask yourself this question, which would you prefer to be with?
yOu see, age difference will never stop you from loving someone or wanting to be with him.
So why not try to talk together and hang out, and see for yourself what i am talking about.
Goodluck:) and if you need any other help or advice, then please be free to contact me.
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First question.. I guess I'm about 5'6, 5'5, and I want to lose weight around my thighs and stomach. Running isn't an option. And I'll admit sometimes I fail to stick to schedules.. Think ya can help?
Ok... I was just planning on asking you that one question but when I saw 'Location: Egypt' I have to ask you.. What's it like there? (link)
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Hey,
first of all, i just wanted to tell you that running is the most important thing that should be done when considering to lose weight. So if you can do it every once in a while, then that would be really great and it would help alot.
Or if it is definitely not an option, then at least go for long walks everyday, and maybe even with a freind or something to keep you company.
Other than that, you can do some exercises at home, like stretches and jumping and all the exercises that you can do. And you should also quit junk food completley and eat nothing that contains fats or sugar. And you can consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan consisting only of the four food groups.
And you can go the gym and consult a trainer to show you some exercises that you can do which will help you to lose wait and be fit.
And maybe you could consider taking up a sport, if there is anything that you like, and the practise would help you lose weight.
I think thats all you can do for now,but you have to try and run once in a while, at least twice a week. And don't say that you fail to stick to schedules, because if a person is really serious about something, and really wants it so badly, then he will do anything to achieve it and have it. so please try to consider all that i said, and work on it.
On the other hand, Egypt is definitely not the place you want to be in nor is it the place I want to be in. I don't like egypt at all , and i can't wait to leave it when i grow up. when you try and make friends, you won't find anyone but mean ,cruel, horrible, liars and back stabbers. You can't trust anyone with anything,or even tell anyone anything.
I was born in saudi arabia, and it is my real country, but then when i came here to egypt.Everything went wrong and i stopped believing in freindship, and believe it or not, i don't have one good freind that i trust.
so when you ask me whats it like here,then i will tell you that its exactly hell.
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There's this guy at my work whom I'm interested in. I'm into him mainly because he seems like a very nice, smart, hardworking guy. I'm quitting this job in about a month so I'm not worried about anything interferring with work. I know that he's single for sure, otherwise I wouldn't consider dating him. We've rarely spoken, but I believe he he may be interested in me too because of some signs he shows. For instance, whenever we pass by each other, he says hello to me in a nice soft way with a great looking smile. The way he smiles at me and the way he smiles to other people are different. When he smiles at me, he tends to look at me significantly longer than other girls and it just seems kind of familiar. It's hard to explain. We never actually talked before, we only exchanged a few words, but for some reason, we smile at each other like we already know each other. The first time we saw each other from a distance, it seemed like our eyes locked in and I cracked a little smile and so did he. Sometimes when I sense someone looking at me and I turn around and catch him looking at me, he looks the other way. When we pass by each other I sometimes see him look back at me. When he sees me coming to work in the same area he's working in, his face kind of lights up and smiles and says hello in a nice soft way. However, these little signs don't fill me with enough confidence that he finds me attractive.
You may be thinking, "If he really likes you, he would've asked you out already." Well, this guy seems shy and a bit insecure and we rarely get a chance to talk. He seems like the type of guy who wouldn't want a girl to know that he likes her if he wasn't sure if she likes him, too. He just seems like he would be too shy to ask a girl out.
I don't know if I should consider making any moves on this guy because I'm not totally sure that he likes me. Normally if I like a guy, I would try to have conversations with him before making a move to get to know him better, to see if he likes me and to find out if we're compatible. But in this case, it's difficult because most of the time we have different work schedules. When we do work in the same hours, there's rarely an opportunity for us to talk because we work in different sections of the store that are far apart and obviously because we're too busy working.
I have a few questions:
What indications would tell me that this guy finds me attractive and is interested in dating me, if he's a shy person and we rarely get a chance to talk?
Should I just stop worrying about having conversations with him at work and quit trying to find out if he likes me for sure because of our different schedules?
Should I let him know that I like him by telling him that I find him attractive and wait for him to make the first move or should I just approach him first and ask him out?
If I should make the first move, where, when, and how should I do it? (link)
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Hey,
I have read your problem several times, and now i am ready to give you advice and tell you about my point of view.
Now in my opinion, i think that this guy likes you, because of the way he looks at you, smiles, talks...etc. These are the indications that tell you that this guy finds you attractive and maybe interested in dating you.
But obviously, he looks like one of these shy guys who are afraid to make the first move unless they are 100% sure that you are crazy about him. so he is probably just expecting you to make the first move.
Although, honestly i think that women who make the first step are desperate, and its not appropriate at all, so always keep that in your mind.
Therefore i won't tell you to ask him out, or tell him that you have a crush on him. And i understand how its difficult for you to talk to each other because of work and stuff.
But in my opinion, i think that you should go and talk to him or if you have his number ,then call him, and suggest that maybe the two of you could hang out together somewhere and get some coffee or catch a movie or anything of the sort.
but make it appear as if you are freinds, and that you are not just coming on to him and wanting him desperately. and trust me, he won't turn you down.
Then when you go out together, just get to know him well and know about his life, and family.And maybe you will like him even more, and he will finally open up and tell you about his feelings or ask you to be his girlfriend, or something.
Its worth a try, but you have to consider it, because the only way each of you can get to know if you really like each other is to hang out as freinds.
And if you need any other help or advise, please be free to contact me.
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i'm 15, i way around 115 pounds, i'm a size 3-4 in jeans, i think my butt is way too big for my body, i have a bunch of stomach and thigh fat, and i'm only 5'2. sometimes i feel like i don't have enough confidence or self esteem because of all these issues i have with myself. i'm 5'2 with a big butt, i no that sounds funny but i need to get rid of it. if i was taller then my butt wouldn't look so big. but i'm short and i have a small head plus my legs are HUGE and i'm a size 4 in jeans! please give me some advice on how to lose weight as fast as possible especially in the stomach, butt and thigh section thank you (link)
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Hey,
There are alot of methods that could help you lose weight, and i have answered similar questions before, thats why i will help you:
1- You should go everyday to the club in the early morning and run the track, then go to the gym. And at the gym, you should consult a trainer to help you and show you the exercises which would keep you fit and make you lose weight.
2- You should also get used to going for walks, because it really helps.
3- There are those exercise machines that could be used to help lose weight
4- you shouldn't eat junk food at all, or anything that contains carbohydrates or fats.
5- consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan consisting of the four food groups
6- When you wake up every morning, make sure to do stretches and some exercises, to keep fit and energetic
7- If you feel very hungry or in need for junk food or anything, just drink plenty of water, and you won't feel hungry anymore.
I think thats all i can advise you with now, but if you need anything else, you could refer back to my advice column, and you may find other suggestions. But if you try and consider working on these tips, and if you take it seriously,then you will lose the weight you want in less than a month. But these tips work only with the stomach, yet i am not sure about the butt an thight part.
Another suggestion, is that you can also take pilates,but if i were you, i would just stick with the easy things, then if it is necessary, then i could consider using them . so goodluck:)
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