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Abusive parents
Well i have this friend who told me that her parents (who my parents are best friends with) hit her and her dad tried to drown her in a pool. What should i do?? we are only 13 and i don't want her to get into trouble and my mom wouldn't beleive me! They already called DSS but that didn't help.
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you need to get help imediatly!! tell someone weather its your parents or whoever. you need to get help for her. if that doesnt work you should call the abuse people
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Go to a teacher. They are compelled by law to report all cases of suspected child abuse, even if they don't believe it. If your teacher blows it off, go to the school principal.
HOWEVER, make sure it is your friend who reports it, not you. Go along for moral support, but make no accusations of which you do not have first-hand knowledge. It is not impossible that your friend is exaggerating or even making the whole thing up, and you don't want to be caught in the middle of that mess. You can say "my friend told me this happened" or "She looked scared to me", but do not confirm or deny events you did not witness. Remember, YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT REALLY HAPPENED.
I don't know what DSS is; I assume it's some kind of Child Protective Services organization.
This kind of thing can become extremely complicated. Document what you say, when you say it, and who you say it to. Assume that you may one day end up on the witness stand, and prepare to defend yourself and your actions. Your purpose and duty here is to support your friend, but make sure you support and protect yourself as well.
This is a very difficult situation for a 13-year-old to be in. You're going to have to grow up quickly and think like an adult. Good luck to you and your friend.
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Well, first off it's called the DHS
And if she has marks on her, she needs to call the DHS and they will help her.
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first of all you need to make sure your freind is telling the truth cuz some people say this stuff to get attention.Tell your mom again and convince her,tell her your freinds life is in danger and she has to beilive you!!You need to convince your mom or dad to help you and if THAT wont work,talk to a trusted adult or older freind that will asist you.You need to act fast cuz you dont know WHAT her parents might do to her.
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You need to tell your mom a.s.a.p im sure she will believe you! your mom needs to get her out of that house and call social security. and if your mom wont listen to you, you need to call 911 yourself and have them help you-it's important for your friends safety.
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Hey,
I read your problem and that really sounds tough and all, but i have some ideas that could help you.
Maybe your parents didn't believe you when you told them, but maybe they would if your best freind told them herself, and told them what they do to her and how they tried to drown her.
Because there is no kid that would go and say that her parents are abusive and they tried to kill her.So i am sure that they would believe her.
And try to make her stay over at your house alot, if that is possible, and also alot out of her house.And call her to check up on her ,and go over to her house and make sure that things are okay. So just do your part, and then consider the idea of making her talk with your parents and ask for their help.
And goodluck:)and if there are any other problems troubles, worries and concerns, then please be free to contact me.
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tell your mom again and again until she believe you
this is serious
if she still wont listen, get another friends parents as soon as you possibly can
also, try and get your friend out of her house as much as possible for her safety.
call 911 if it gets to that point.
this is nothing to step around lightly, she needs help right away
you did the right thing telling your mom, why she doesnt believe you, i dont know, because thats not something people joke about
good luck, and if you need ANYTHING else, fell free to ask.
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