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patience.
My mom told my sister and I a few days ago that if she tells us to do something, we have to do it within 5 minutes or we "lose our privileges". She isn't patient at all. When she tells us to do the dishes, and we say "I will", then she looks at her watch casually to time us 5 minutes to do it. She constantly has to have us doing chores, too. Whether its vacuuming, yard work, dishes, emptying the trash, or putting something up, she can't wait and we have to do it NOW. If we aren't cleaning in some way, we're wasting time (according to my mom). What do we do?
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alright. this is how my friends mom is whom i basically live with. she even makes me do chores. of course i call her mom. Unfortuantly. i dont think it can be stopped. whenever we talk to her mom she just is like This is my home My rules. Im sorry but while shes in charge theres no way to stop it. I would deffeintly bring it up though and say to your mom that your a kid and you want to live your life not have to do chores etc.
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Your mother may be in charge of you, but she needs to understand that you guys need to work as a team. Sit down with her and your sister to go over a list so each of you has an equal ammount of chores. It works! Oh and communication is the key!
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Hey,
Alot of parents wait till we reach a certain age, and they start forcing all the chores on us, and making us do them all and no time, and if we dont' of if we are late, then they make a huge fight and ground us.
So i have an idea that you can do, why don't you finish all the chores you have, first thing in the morning when you wake up, either if it is the dishes, or yard work, or vacuuming or the trash, and make things look tidy and clean, so that when she comes she will find everything looking nice ,and she will be satisfied, and as well as after every meal, you hurry to wash the dishes before she tells you to do. And the point of doing all of this, is because thats what she wants you to do. At least do it for a couple of days, and when she finds you doing it by yourself , she will be very happy with you, because all she is trying to do is to make you responsible in the house, and show you that you have chores and tasks that have to be done on time. And if you keep on doing that for a couple of days, she will go back to being patient, and you won't have to worry about your privilege.
So goodluck and please be free to contact me whenever you like, if you need any advice or help.
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my mom is the SAME exact way!! so i totally know how you're feeling right now. try to just get up and to it right away and get it done really fast so that she can't say anything else about it. and after you're done, ask if there's anything else you need to do. that way, she won't be able to get on your case after that either.
good luck & hope i helped!!
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Wow this reminds me of my mom growing up! Well here is what my sister and I did, Basically we told my mom that we were not wasting time, we were entitled to "down time" as we are kids. Her response was of course that the reason she had kids was that she didn't like to clean! So then we reached a comprimse; during the summer we set aside 2 days/week for major chores e.g. bathrooms, dusting, vacuuming etc. and 1 day during the school year so that we could study properly (usually a Saturday). As for dishes we agreed to 3 nights a week each, the other night was her turn, keep in mind this was before dishwashers! This allowed us more free time and we had clear expectations that we knew we had to meet.
If she is expecting you to do more then this it is not ok. Ensuring that the house is tidy and you are doing your part is one thing anything else is her issue and I would talk to either your dad, if he is in the picture, or another close family friend or relative who can talk to her and tell her to chillax!
Good luck.
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You should probably prove to your mom that you can do your chores.I would suggest that you talk to your mom and ask her to make (or do this yourself) a chores (check) list so you are not alway pushed for time and also explain to her that if she makes you hurry you might not always do it the right way.
~Erin (fargo)
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