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Ok, last week I asked what I should do about my "crush" on this girl I work with. I havent told my husband still and I'm just wondering... should I tell my husband that I'm sexually attracted to this woman? Do I tell her? Will that open a can of worms and hurt the good relationship that's going on so far? All I think I'm looking for is maybe some exploring as far as other women go but I dont want to hurt anyone. How can I be true to myself and still come out good in the end (if that's a possibility)?
Definitely dont tell your husband. i mean we have all been sexually attracted to different people and i think you are just curious. telling her could ruin how well you guys communicate in the work area. i suggest you give it time. if you need to talk just email me at princess.milena@gmail.com
Ok so i have this friend...and I think he's bulimic. I saw him eating the other day and when he was done...he threw up and it looked like he made himself throw up.
What should I do? Should I confront him about it? Tell someone? Both? Please help, im really worried about him.
Follow these steps:
1- observe: watch what your friend does in a period of 5 days to see if this is a frequent thing.
2- Take Action: once you are over 50% sure he is making himself throw up, bring up the subject of Bullemia say things like, "i wonder why people are bullimic, do you ever wonder?" and if he seems nervous, confront him. if he doesnt seem nervous go onto the next step:
3- Confront: Just bring up the questions and calmly ask until he gives you an honest answer. then encourage him to get help. if he admits to it, then you can try telling someone else (an adult) that you trust.
I hope i helped!
Can people tell me some freeky things that happeened between them and God? It seems really interesting. I have some myself. If you would like to discuss them give me your Aim Sn.
my sn is mellybabiix3 i have always had the same thing as you and i think people will think i'm insane if i talk about them.
i saw this movie like a year ago and it was really good but i cant think of the name...hayden pennitere was in it along with this other boy... it was about this kid who drowned and went to a place between heaven...the place was magic and when he left he had to decide to go ooff a trapeze and if he was caught hed go to heaven...if he fell hed go back to earth... it wsas weird but it was really good...anyone know what it was?
The Dust Factory.
hope this helped!
My mom told my sister and I a few days ago that if she tells us to do something, we have to do it within 5 minutes or we "lose our privileges". She isn't patient at all. When she tells us to do the dishes, and we say "I will", then she looks at her watch casually to time us 5 minutes to do it. She constantly has to have us doing chores, too. Whether its vacuuming, yard work, dishes, emptying the trash, or putting something up, she can't wait and we have to do it NOW. If we aren't cleaning in some way, we're wasting time (according to my mom). What do we do?
Your mother may be in charge of you, but she needs to understand that you guys need to work as a team. Sit down with her and your sister to go over a list so each of you has an equal ammount of chores. It works! Oh and communication is the key!
My 6 year old daughter recently started saying she wants to meet her real dad (he hasn't seen her since she was two years old except for a brief chance meeting at a friends house a two years ago.) I'm not sure what brought this on, except that I just had another baby with a different man, and he and I share custody, so maybe she's feeling a little jealous that her baby brother's dad is around but hers isn't. I'm no longer involved with my son's father, but we are civil for our child's sake so it isn't like he could be a father to her. But I need to know- do I call my daughter's father and make him have a relationship with his daughter? I don't know what to do, or what to say to her.
You need to make sure that this man takes responsibility for his daughter. It is simply unhealthy for a girl to grow up without a father. I mean, sometimes it's good t have that strict father there and i think he would be grateful to have a chance with his daughter.
if you need to talk, please email me at: princess.milena@gmail.com
So I haven't started my period in nearly two months. It can't be stress, diet, or lack of exercise. I exercise, eat right, and I am happy-as-can-be. What could be possible things that could be wrong?
And if it helps I last started early June.
And also, please don't guess, or tell me you don't know. And please write with good spelling and grammer or I will take off. Thank you.
That is perfectly normal! That happened to me as well and i even went to a doctor who told me that sometimes periods can be irregular. If i were you, i would be thankful!
I hope i helped,
Milena
13 Female.
School starts in 10 day's, and I want to come back with a splash. I'm getting braces tomorrow (finally) my hair's grown and taken an adorable shape, and my boob's have gone from being a 34B to a 36C. I've done alot of shopping and my face has cleared up.
Now I want that personality to go with it. You know, friendly, outgoing, confident, cute, and flirty. I'm sick of being too loud, or too obnoxious. How do I tone myself done, to be the calmer, cooler, collected girl I am? Thanks!
Hmmm i would have to say that you can't really change who you are, but you can affect how you present yourself. Like, think before you talk and review what your going to say before you say it. Don't get over excited about everything and try to make sure that you won't look back on a conversation and go, omg i shouldn't have said that!
I need a program that will just tell you what the color code is.. like if I clicked on white on my picture it would pop up and tell me the color code.. Please help me and thank you!
well i have Paint shop pro 9 it was sixty bucks and along with telling you color codes, you can easily create beautiful graphics!
i have a samsung phone with verizon and i have the unlimited text messaging to anyone in verizon and 50 to people who arent in verizon
my phone also has aim i went on aim and starting talking to my friends thinking it was free but im not really sure if it is..does anyone know if it is?
it depends on the service. i did the same thing and i thought it was free but it was really 2 cents per message and 4 bucks a month. isn't that unfair???
im aj ,im 16, grade 11, im a shy person just meeting people, but when i get to know them im very comfortable and fun , but i need a girl so i can get my mind off this other gurl i fell for, but i dont know wat girls in my school are available, and for some reason i attract girls i dont find attractive at all, theres so many girls in my school that look intresting, but ive never talked to them and i dont no if they have boyfriends or not, how can i open up a convorsation with sumone ive never talkd to before? its hard for me because its like, hey , i dont no you but im gonna talk to you anyways, i think i would look stupid, what should i do to meet some new people?
okay. well i suggest you just either look at something they have: book they're reading, movie they've talked about, cd they have. and try to relate that to your life. For instance, if you see a girl who is wearing a shirt that says green day and you like the band green day, go up to her and say, "i saw the shirt you're wearing and i love Green Day!" she will reply and that can open up other conversations. i hope this helps!
i like this guy but he likes someone else but he also kinda likes me i want to ask him out but im afraid what should i do?
okay thats a hard question. I definitely think you should get to him through friends. Get a friend to ask him what he thinks of you. or if that seems too cheesy just go for it. What could happen? Just make sure you ask him out in private with no friends around. And if he says no tell him not to tell anyone what you did, and if he is really nice, he won't. and if he does tell then you can say that he cant keep secrets.
Hope this helps!
well this gurl in my school likes me and i like her but im afraid to ask her out because what if she says no
Well you should just go for it.
I suggest that if you don't want to be embarrassed, ask her in private. Make sure you ask in person because in an IM or Email shows that you're 2 scared to face her in person. Just go for it. If she says no, then she wasn't worth your time. Good Luck!
so as most of you know i WAS in a relationship with a abusive guy and i told him that i want to break up with him..and he brok two of my ribs...and gave me a cuncution...:-(
but on the flip side hes goin to juvey!! and i realized (thanks to ALL of u!!!!!) that he was an a** hole. plain and simple..and all i get are threatining letters/phone calls..but what i am afraid of is his friends. his friends stick by him 100%..and my house got TP (toilet paperd) and lilke a dead rat was on my door step (says my mom) and like i got threating letters in my locker saying "bitch if u tell ill kill you" or "we know you told hoe, were ganna do what jake did" (jake rapped me.)
so PLZ help!!!!
You must tell the police. Get the guys' names and tell. Tell everyone you know. Just get the word out there. Stay by your friends or an adult at all times. I know people will say you're a baby, but it's for your own good.
I am going to this really formal prom and i don't know how i should dress, how to act, or how to dance! How can i learn all this in 2 hours??
Well, Follow the steps below and you will be just fine!
1- DRESSING - I suggest that you wear a pale blue sparkly dress like the one here: http://www.promdress.co.uk/manufacturers/samuelmarks/photos/784thumb.jpg
2- HAIR - If you have long dark hair i suggest long waves. like the one here: http://www.prohaircut.com/image/celebrity_haircut_0000.jpg
3- MANNERS MATTER - Remember that you are being formal. My first piece of advice would be to not eat too much because people would think you're a pig (Girl i know you're not but that's life) And when drinking hold the cup firmly so it won't fall. Try to keep a good posture and walk proudly like you are happy to be there.
There are these girls in my school who get all the guys. I don't get it. To tell the truth they are pretty ugly. They don't really have a personality either. I don't know if they're doing stuff with the guys or what. How can i get the guys 2 notice me???
Well those guys are either blind or there is something you are missing about these girls. Just be yourself. i know i sound like a mom but it's true. Maybe if you take care of your body and show your personality more there is no way the dudesss can reject you
I am 13 years old and my parents treat me like i am 5 years old. They won't let me go to the mall alone and i always feel left out of things. How can i tell them nicely to back off?
OK so you have quite a problem. First sit down with your parents. and do he following steps:
1- LET THEM ASK THE QUESTIONS - Say something like: Mom i'm 13 right? What did you do when you were 13 (make it seem more of bonding than complaining.
2- DON'T BUTTER THEM UP - Come right out with it but don't use force. Make your voice sound firm and make it look like you have done research by taking surveys and stuff.
My boyfriend and I have been going out secretly for almost two months. He really wants to tell people, and i guess i'm okay with that. It's just that he also wants to kiss me and stuff, but i really don't feel comfortable with doing that. I don't want to break up with him i just think we both need more time. what do i do?
Even though in my rules it said not to use kissing and stuff i guess i can answer this.
Well you should never let anyone pressure you into getting into a physical relationship. Just one kiss could lead into a few more kisses which could lead to who knows what. Only when you are mentally prepared should you enter a relationship that has that big of a commitment.
I like to wear unique outfits like brown peasant skirts with yellow shirts and blue sweaters. My friends are always laughing at me and whispering. I don't like it! My family isn't exactly the richest so i can't afford the newest styles! How can i get my peers to accept me?!
that's not fair and those "friends" are totally not what they seem. Don't change yourself to be what they want you to be! Try to let your personality shine in other ways. Like during class at school be more outspoken and stuff. Don't let those skinny blonde dumb girls tell you what to do. Take charge!
Well my bff and i like the same guy and i think he likes me but i don't know for sure.
Should i ask him out first and make my friend deal or should we both not get him?
Well, I don't think it is a good idea to do that to your friend. I think you need to ask him who he likes better or just let it go. but love doesn't last forever whereas a friendship can.