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Married and still have a crush on my friend at work, (we're
Ok, last week I asked what I should do about my "crush" on this girl I work with. I havent told my husband still and I'm just wondering... should I tell my husband that I'm sexually attracted to this woman? Do I tell her? Will that open a can of worms and hurt the good relationship that's going on so far? All I think I'm looking for is maybe some exploring as far as other women go but I dont want to hurt anyone. How can I be true to myself and still come out good in the end (if that's a possibility)?
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I suppose most people get attracted to other people all the time. The best thing for your marriage, if it is what you want, would be not to act on it.
You tell her and you do open a big can of worms. If she feels the same you may act on it. Exploring should be done before marriage if you want other partners, not after. Your husband would be hurt if he found out. You'd feel guilty because of lies if you kept quiet.
If she doesn't feel the same then you might lose a friendship. Then of course you run the risk of gossip which could also get back to your hubby.
If you tell him he could very easily freak out and walk. If you love the man why take a risk that big for a few seconds of possible pleasure?
Good luck what ever you do. :)
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You are really getting ahead of yourself here. Tell your husband first and foremost, before you do anything. Tell him before you approach this woman, before you run a million fantasies through your mind and before you go off and explore!
I can't imagine how a person could be true to themselves, but lie to their partner in life! Your marriage is an integral part of who you are. Maybe even more integral then your sexual attractions. Your responsibility, first and foremost, is to your marriage. If you husband can be gently brought around to the idea of you exploring your attraction to women (And hey! He might be even more excited about it then you!) Well then great! Awesome! Have fun!
After your sexual attraction is out in the open with your husband, then the two you, together, can figure out what you’d like to do about this specific co-worker and how to best approach it (or if to approach it at all.)
The only way that this will be good in the end, is if you are true to yourself (obviously) AND to your obligations in life. You have no obligation to your co-worker, but you do have an obligation and moral responsibility when it comes to your husband. Deal with that, that real thing that is on your plate, first. Then, when you’ve gotten things straightened out there, you and your husband can start to figure out how the two of you, together, will approach this new chapter in your sex life.
Really and seriously, put this woman on the backburner. As much as you might like her, right now she isn’t vitally important. Always deal with the things in reality first, and your fantasies second.
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Don't listen to what the other person said...that your bi-sexual. You can't label yourself that if you've never done it. Your appropiate label in this case would be bi-curious. You need to ask yourself a couple questions before procedding in this matter. Am I in love with my husband? Would I be hurt if my husband came to me and told me he found someone else attractive and wanted "permission to explore"? and Could being with this woman damage the relationship I have with my husband? Think long and hard before you say anything to anyone about your feelings. What if your hubby was ok with it and wanted in on the action? Could you handle him having sex with another woman? Would that by chance ruin what yall have if you felt jealous? If you still want to move forward on this, then the best thing I can tell you, is to bring this subject up with your hubby first. Like maybe while yall are having "hot sex"....get all into moaning and everything and then say what would you think if I were with another woman? That right there will tell you if he would possibly be up for it or not. If he's like NO then you know right then that if you want to keep your hubby you stop right there and doing it this way, there's no hurt feelings on your hubby's part. Best of Luck to you.
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ok, well this probably means that your bi-sexual. dont worry, just dont tell your husband, or the woman, because she might be straight and your married so you can't go out with her anyways.
hunny, its just a crush, so it'll go away, and you'll stop liking her after a while. just dont think about it, and your feelings for her will pass.
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your mind doesnt care if its a boy or girl, your mind looks at sumthing and says o look pretty, or ew ugly, and knowing you cant have a crush on somone makes it even more of a temptation to do sumthing. id keep it to urself maybe go to sum1 private (like a priest or counselor) or sumthing like that and just let it all out there.
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Definitely dont tell your husband. i mean we have all been sexually attracted to different people and i think you are just curious. telling her could ruin how well you guys communicate in the work area. i suggest you give it time. if you need to talk just email me at princess.milena@gmail.com
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