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I have a crush on a guy but I don't know if he likes me.
There's this guy at my work whom I'm interested in. I'm into him mainly because he seems like a very nice, smart, hardworking guy. I'm quitting this job in about a month so I'm not worried about anything interferring with work. I know that he's single for sure, otherwise I wouldn't consider dating him. We've rarely spoken, but I believe he he may be interested in me too because of some signs he shows. For instance, whenever we pass by each other, he says hello to me in a nice soft way with a great looking smile. The way he smiles at me and the way he smiles to other people are different. When he smiles at me, he tends to look at me significantly longer than other girls and it just seems kind of familiar. It's hard to explain. We never actually talked before, we only exchanged a few words, but for some reason, we smile at each other like we already know each other. The first time we saw each other from a distance, it seemed like our eyes locked in and I cracked a little smile and so did he. Sometimes when I sense someone looking at me and I turn around and catch him looking at me, he looks the other way. When we pass by each other I sometimes see him look back at me. When he sees me coming to work in the same area he's working in, his face kind of lights up and smiles and says hello in a nice soft way. However, these little signs don't fill me with enough confidence that he finds me attractive.
You may be thinking, "If he really likes you, he would've asked you out already." Well, this guy seems shy and a bit insecure and we rarely get a chance to talk. He seems like the type of guy who wouldn't want a girl to know that he likes her if he wasn't sure if she likes him, too. He just seems like he would be too shy to ask a girl out.
I don't know if I should consider making any moves on this guy because I'm not totally sure that he likes me. Normally if I like a guy, I would try to have conversations with him before making a move to get to know him better, to see if he likes me and to find out if we're compatible. But in this case, it's difficult because most of the time we have different work schedules. When we do work in the same hours, there's rarely an opportunity for us to talk because we work in different sections of the store that are far apart and obviously because we're too busy working.
I have a few questions:
What indications would tell me that this guy finds me attractive and is interested in dating me, if he's a shy person and we rarely get a chance to talk?
Should I just stop worrying about having conversations with him at work and quit trying to find out if he likes me for sure because of our different schedules?
Should I let him know that I like him by telling him that I find him attractive and wait for him to make the first move or should I just approach him first and ask him out?
If I should make the first move, where, when, and how should I do it?
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ok look lady .. i think he's just being nice .. tell him you like him and wait for him to make the move if he doesnt then just be his friend eventually you'll start to grow on him "meaning he'll like you more and more" then he'll make the move.
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ok well i think he likes you... sometimes you can just get little feelings that a guy does.. and i think he does... im a girl and not a big one on making the first move... but i would for sure start flirting w/ him... maybe not so obvious... kind of joking flirting... he seems like a shy guy.. so i would not be forward at all.. you might scare him... but look cute to work.. smile and say high... look at him like wow dont no how to describe it.. like you are happy to see him.. but not increadbly happy that you freak him out... make him want you... i think if you flirt more.. maybe ask him to go get something to eat on the lunch break... i am 99% positive something will happen and i wouldnt be too sure u might end up a little together before you are done with work
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Hey,
I have read your problem several times, and now i am ready to give you advice and tell you about my point of view.
Now in my opinion, i think that this guy likes you, because of the way he looks at you, smiles, talks...etc. These are the indications that tell you that this guy finds you attractive and maybe interested in dating you.
But obviously, he looks like one of these shy guys who are afraid to make the first move unless they are 100% sure that you are crazy about him. so he is probably just expecting you to make the first move.
Although, honestly i think that women who make the first step are desperate, and its not appropriate at all, so always keep that in your mind.
Therefore i won't tell you to ask him out, or tell him that you have a crush on him. And i understand how its difficult for you to talk to each other because of work and stuff.
But in my opinion, i think that you should go and talk to him or if you have his number ,then call him, and suggest that maybe the two of you could hang out together somewhere and get some coffee or catch a movie or anything of the sort.
but make it appear as if you are freinds, and that you are not just coming on to him and wanting him desperately. and trust me, he won't turn you down.
Then when you go out together, just get to know him well and know about his life, and family.And maybe you will like him even more, and he will finally open up and tell you about his feelings or ask you to be his girlfriend, or something.
Its worth a try, but you have to consider it, because the only way each of you can get to know if you really like each other is to hang out as freinds.
And if you need any other help or advise, please be free to contact me.
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It seems to me that he likes you. What I would do is either hang around him whenever you get a chance at work and just be totally confortable and just strike a conversation with him. Another thing that you could try is getting his number from your boss. You could say that you want it so you can call to ask him if he could work a shift for you. But if you want a more direct approach then you could just go up to him and ask him if he wants to go grab a bite after work. Then that would give you guys alot of time to talk. good luck! hope i helped. =]]]
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