hey yea well i have had the same problem. i hate to admit it but i am very jealous of a couple of my long time best friends. both are prettier and cooler than me. its a pretty bad feeling. you may have already heard this but im sure your friend is jealous about something that you have that she deosnt have. And i know its hard with her having more friends but its a good way for you to meet knew people and make a lot of friends. but what is important is knowing that she will be your friend forever. its much more important to have at least one best friend then to have a million good friends.

~*~SaReBeAr~*~

if telling your mom deosnt work which it hasnt and probably wont unfortunaltely. whether he's joking or not it could happen agian. to prevent him from losing control and actually doing it you need to find someone maybe at school you will take you seriously and speak with your father and try to convince him to get help on controling his anger. whether he wants it or not he sounds like he needs it. a dad in his right mind deosnt threaten to break his daughters bones. ya see what im saying. hes not allowed to do that. it is against the law to hurt you like that. you need to stop it before it happens and the threat becomes real. at least tyr to make him see that saying that isnt funny and that it scares you. its okay to be afraid. i would be. well good luck. things will work out.

~*~SaRiE~*~

well youre not gonna die. your head or whatever isnt feeling that great should feel better. i would recomend only taking the correct dosage on the label. that way you dont have to worry and your pain goes away. taking more is dangerous. you sound like you know that. you could pass out, get sicker, and so on. so next time think before you take more than you should. unless you wanna die and are attempting suicide. thats not good either. so dont worry me and take like two instead of five. you will still feel better with the right amount.

~*~Sarie~*~

well heres the thing. she did it once for a reason. since she hasnt had help unless shes found another way to cope with whatever made her cut then she is sadly likely to do it again. checking her and sticking with her is definatley a good start to helping her. i know wha tyou mean when you said you dont wanna lose her friendship. my best friend cut and i had to make the same decision. you and i both know its not easy but you really do need to tell someone. it could really help your friend and it will ease your worry. think about who you and your friend both trust. an adult that you both trust or at least have respect for. that is probably your best bet. it could be a teacher, her mom, your mom, some other school official, a counselor, anyone who would be willing to take it to the next level. if you do it righ tand find the right person there is a chance your friend will never know you told. slim but theres a chance. in the end she should be grateful. but be prepared sometimes when you tell about this nothing happens. your friend deosnt get help if her mother or father wont follow through. or if she has the wrong additude and isnt willing. it wont happen overnight. its a major letdown but its happened to me. just stick with her and itll all work out. if you do tell and she does find out and she is upset keep taling to her. do your best o get her to understand how you saw it and why you did what you did. dont let her walk away form you. youre an awesome friend and it sounds like she really needs you. im sorry this is so long. i tend to have a lot to say when it comes to this since ive been here a million times unfortunaltely. good luck to you and your friend.
oh and first before your do anything see if she did this for attention. there is help for that too.
~*~Sarie~*~

i hate it when friends try to get into your love life. well if youre best friend id really a best friend then he wont stop talking to you forever. chances are good that he likes you and might be jeolous.now to decide whether to give this guy a chance you need to be sure of why it didnt work before and make sure those problems are no more. adn it deosnt matter if your friends see a change in him. it only matters if you see the change. if both of you are willing to give it another go and i mean he understands its his last chance and that it cant be like last time then go for it. give it your all. your best friend should get over it. its not very mature to put yourself between your best friend and their boyfriend unless its for your good not your best friends. good luck.

wow. okay ill take it one thing at a time. first of all guys are really hard to get. i dont even think guys get themselves. anyway he might not have seemed bothered because he might like you. or he just doesnt care that people are runnin their mouths. and there really isnt a way to stop a rumor. i know thats not what you wanted to hear. all i can say about that is that they tend to not last long. people get bored and knew gossip starts.just keep denying it and try not to get in any fights over it. its not worth that. now everyone probably thinks you like him because you guys are so close. its hard to hide a really good friendship. and when the really good friendship is between a guy and a girl its usually mistaken for being something more. sometimes it is. the last question seemes like the easiest to answer. i think you actually already know and just dont want to admit it. i think that maybe you do like him more than a friend if hes all you can think about and you seem to care about him an awful lot. but thats really confusing trying to draw the line. ill warn you though that if you do get together with him just remember that of you guys break up it will never be the same and you might never be as close. some people are better to have as friends forever rather than boyfriend for a little while. only you can decide that. im sure you will make the right choice even if it means hiding your true feelings, at least for now. you sound like a very bright girl. email me again or IM me if you need anymore thoughts. or let me know how it works out.

well you could start with not everything you hear is tru. especially at school. If Lisa isnt gay then you need to just tell kaytee. prove your point by telling kaytee that lisa has never done anything with a girl and has never had a crush on a girl. that would make her not gay. im assuming she hasnt done any of those things. if lisa is a bit wild and has you can lie this one time. tell her that being afraid of gay people isnt very smart. especailly if youve known them for a long time before they come out. their personalities stay the same and some gays are really cool to be around. theres nothing to be afraid of. and you can tell lisa that i feel for her because the rumor going around that youre gay when youre not sucks. its happened to me. and im not gay by the way.

well this definately isnt fair. You prbably already know that. The good thing about jv is that you will probably play a lot especailly with your experience. Some poeple are just naturals at somethings and others have to work hard. i think that is what you must do. Work hard and improve youself. Dont give up just step up. In good time coaches will notice. be patient play hard and it will happen for you. Lots of Luck.

i know its hard to overcome these feelings. Whenever you eat get up and do something, whether its a household chore or riding your bike or roller bladeing or something. this should help you feel less guilty. situps and crunches help tone down tummy fat. that fat you described is normal and healthy though. as for how much you should wiegh depends on how tall you are. AVOID SCALES. i know that part is hard too but you really need to do that. if you decide to eat right and healthy and just cut out junk and sugars then maybe weigh yourself every other week. at first with exercising and eating more you should gain weight so dont worry about that. drink lots of water. it helps fill you up and lose weight if youre still bothered. youll have to pee like a racehorse but thats okay. Dont sqeeze your stomach either. it will make you feel bad. You can get through this. i know you can.

lets see sometimes it depends on where you live but here is a national suicide prevention hotline. 1 800 621 4000. You can also try the youth crisis hotline. 1 800 422 009. and theres the National HOpeline network. 1800 SUICIDE or 1800 784 2433. For something local try the phonebook. And be there for your friend.

alright well you just have a different way to cope with things. You sound like a little tough girl. thats fine. theres nothing wrong with you. but about the surgery. you should take care of that now before you get the "you cant play" speech. i play soccer too and ive been there. You should definately be there for your friends that cut but make sure your other friends understand what youre doing. they sound like really great friends that care about you a lot. you will eventually have to find adult help for your friends that cut. But try to wait until the best moment to speak up. your friends have to have the right additude if help is going to help them. My best friend used to cut real bad and still does it sometimes. you cant make them stop on youre own. if you do then you need to be the one giving me advice. good luck to you and all your friends.

i would have to say billy . i mean if you know he likes you adn you like him then theres a better chance of it all working out. and if it doesnt go well with him....then theres always bob.

Alright heres the secret... a best friend deosnt do that to you. If she betrays you once she will do it again. its unfortunate but true. Obviously your trust deosnt mean that much to her. As far as your families go just get along with her when you have to otherwise your friendship with her deosnt really concern them. As much as it would hurt i would have to draw the line. Its the only way to make her see how much she hurt you and that best friends dont do that to each other. Its just against the rules. betrayment(is that a word?) is just against the law and your friend should suffer the consequences.

well if you ignore her and avoid her calls and make excuses for not going and doing anything with her than she should get it.

If she deosnt get it then just come straight out and tell her what you just told us. Who knows... it could help her get it together and go do something with her life....if shes got any smarts at all.

stick with bball. you sound like an awesome player. you can play golf on the side. like on weekends. just for fun.

go for it. it wont hurt to add it. it makes you look like a lot better candidate.

i will try to make it easier for you. tell somebody. an adult that can get her help. she needs it and she might actually want it even though she didnt stop when you asked her. you are definatley doing the right thing for your best friend even if she is not happy with you for a while. but youre her best friend so live up to that job and do what you can to bring her through this.(telling somebody)i wish you both the best of luck. and some strength too. you both could probally use that too.

umm i dont think its anorexia yet but it could definatley go there if you dont eat more. you have to or it will start to take over and then it gets worse and you become ADDICTED. i had the same thought a few months ago and it took me halfway to hell. i wouldnt advise putting youself through that. chances are your thin enough and shouldnt worry about it. keep yourself active like get up and do something anytime you feel your fat. it helps.

well one good thing is that the people that really love you will always come back to you no matter how hard you oush them away. but look there could be a million reasons why you do this to yourself. i dont know enough about you to say what that reason may be. and an addiction can be defined several ways too. but i think everyone battles this one at some point in their lives. i kno this probably hasnt helped at all so far. being alone is honestly my greatest fear. and the way i deal with that is by constantly putting myself with people i enjoy being around. instead of worrying about why youre doing this think about how youre going to stop. suicide is not the way to do that. i know you feel like its the only way out but really just hang in there and take it one damn day at a time. i wish there was more i could say but i think this is it. please stop attempting suicide because the one time you succeed could be the day you realize you wanna live and the day before things start to get a little brighter...and it would be too late.

well u could try to be a little more optimistic. Chances are really good that he wont cheat and that he really likes you if he's standing by you when youre having these low self esteem thoughts. and everyone's insecure. especially for a first time for anything. also no one would take the time and 'force' themselves to be nice all the time especially a guy. they just dotn have the patience. so no worries. relax and just have a good time with him.

alrite if ya wanna know anything then simply ask and i will gladly tell.

i definately like to assist people. i have for a very long time. some say im good some say i suck. but whatever you can decide for yourself.

Sarah Elizabeth......

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