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well my friend to,d me the other day that she tried cutting and she showed me the scar. i told her it was bad and everything..i was like yelling at her not to do it again and what it could do to a person. she told me she would never do it again and so far she hasnt i made her let me see her wrists..and i know there are other places that she could cut too like her stomach and stuff..but im not going ot do a full body search on her everyday and im really worried about her. she made me promise not to tell anyone else..but i told my other really good friend i know she won't tell because i know she would be worried about her too. i really dont want to do and i dont know if shes lying and is still cutting..and i don't want to tell anyone because it was just one time and if she really stopped i would feel bad she would be really mad if i told on her. she would never tell me anything else again and im scared i will loose her friendship. im really worried about her please help me i rate high**
--michelle <3
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you should tell an adult that you feel really comfertable talking with. even if she's done i think counciling would be a good step for her. your friend will thank you in the end. if someone shows you that they are cutting themselves it might mean they are asking for help. hope i helped!
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well my opinion is that u should tell an adult..I mean yeh what if she stopped...sh may be mad at u..but what if she didnt?....she could kill herself...I would rather be wrong and have her mad at me for like 3 days..then be right and lose my friend....ya know?..hope i helped...
<3 dLw
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Your responsibility as a friend is to make sure that if one of your friends is in trouble that you'll get help. It doesn't matter how much love and support you give her, because if she cuts she'll probably do it again. People who cut don't usually have much control over their actions and don't think about the consequences until it's over. Please tell her parents or a school counselor about what is happening to her because the longer she remains untreated the worse her situation will be.
I know this is a difficult thing to do, because I had to do the same thing once. But no matter how mad she gets at you, just remember that she needs the help. It's far better to have her angry with you than to have her cutting herself or doing more drastic things (ie suicide)
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Ok I used to cut and if she did it most likely means that something stressful is going on in her life and she doesn't know how to deal with it. If she said she just tried it then she's not addicted to it so you don't have to worry about that yet. You should talk to her if there wasn't anything stressful going on then she might have just done it for attention and then you have nothing to worry about because she probably isn't cutting deep and it was just a one time thing. If there is something stressful going on that caused her to cut then you should talk to her about it. Tell her that there are other, healthier ways to deal with pain besides cutting and that you are there for her if she ever needs to talk. I wouldn't worry about it as long as she knows she can trust you then she will tell you if she cuts again and then you can talk to her. Making her promise you she won't will probably help that's what I did with my friend and it helped for a whil because I didn't want to break my promise. Just talk to your friend make sure she knows that you care about her and that she's worried and it will work out.
Good luck and I hope things work out
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well heres the thing. she did it once for a reason. since she hasnt had help unless shes found another way to cope with whatever made her cut then she is sadly likely to do it again. checking her and sticking with her is definatley a good start to helping her. i know wha tyou mean when you said you dont wanna lose her friendship. my best friend cut and i had to make the same decision. you and i both know its not easy but you really do need to tell someone. it could really help your friend and it will ease your worry. think about who you and your friend both trust. an adult that you both trust or at least have respect for. that is probably your best bet. it could be a teacher, her mom, your mom, some other school official, a counselor, anyone who would be willing to take it to the next level. if you do it righ tand find the right person there is a chance your friend will never know you told. slim but theres a chance. in the end she should be grateful. but be prepared sometimes when you tell about this nothing happens. your friend deosnt get help if her mother or father wont follow through. or if she has the wrong additude and isnt willing. it wont happen overnight. its a major letdown but its happened to me. just stick with her and itll all work out. if you do tell and she does find out and she is upset keep taling to her. do your best o get her to understand how you saw it and why you did what you did. dont let her walk away form you. youre an awesome friend and it sounds like she really needs you. im sorry this is so long. i tend to have a lot to say when it comes to this since ive been here a million times unfortunaltely. good luck to you and your friend.
oh and first before your do anything see if she did this for attention. there is help for that too.
~*~Sarie~*~
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well lets see here... i was kind of in the situation you were but i wasnt going to tell anyone about it and i dont think you should go around telling other people about her problem because you never know when that one girl you told could let it slip out accidentially(sp?) and just sit down and talk about it to her and tell her over and over again that its the worst thing you could do to yourself my friends told me that and i listened to them and stopped but i told someone and they told someone else and then soon enough almost everyone knew i was a cutter so yea dont tell anyone because the person i told was my best friend and they said they wouldnt tell either hope i helped
x0o hOlly
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Cutting your-self is a easy way of leting out pain on your-self! if you want her to stop that bad then when or if you see a scar then just sit her down and talk to her because u really care about her!
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people that cut there self does it cause there eiither stressed or beiing pressured! ii thiink you should tell her to stop and iif she dont and keeps goiin then you should take her to a guidance councler or something to get her help before she hits the wrong place in her wrist and kill herself! <3 Lindzie <3
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i'm kind of like your friend. i tried cutting once and it wasnt good. i regreted the whole thing and i promised to myself that i wouldnt do it again and i havent. maybe your friend is the same way. she probably wishes she didnt do it becuase it wasnt worth it. just ask her and tell her to be honest. look her in the eyes when you talk to her though... most people can't look at people in the eyes when they are trying to tell a lie. p.s.... if you want to try and get a peak at her ankles or inner thighs... thats where alot of people cut. ask her to go swimming somewere!! then you will have a really big chance to see.
hope i helped!
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You werent suppost to tell ANYONE YOU RAT!!!
I bet that friend told her best friend too! Now the whole world is gunna know!
You broke rule number 1 of keeping secrets. NEVER TELL.
Here is my secret to you, dont tell anyone okay?
You're dumb!
Anyways, your friend is retarded. She'll probably stop. If she doesnt, duct tape her hands to the wall and forcefully spoon feed her dog poo. She will stop after that.
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