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Q: i am afraid of callpillars andnt to keep one as a pet but im to afraid to hold it or even touch it.

This isn't really a question; I'm assuming you just want an opinion on this. Personally I really don't have any idea why you would want a caterpillar as a pet if you're afraid of them. Even if you WEREN'T afraid of them, they don't really make good "pets"; they're just little insects that feed on leaves in their little container until they form their coccoons and emerge as butterflies.

But whatever, to each their own. If you REALLY want one, like I said, they just eat leaves. You wouldn't have to hold it, touch it, or do anything other than put leaves in its container.

Q: hello im a 13year old girl and i live with my mum and dad;i dont have any siblings.a couple of years ago my parents seperated for about a year because my mum found out that my dad was cheating on her...theyve been back together now for the past 6 years but i fear my dad is still cheating on her.

a few days ago i went on my dad's phone to text my mum and i saw in the contacts list somebody called 'sexymama'.seeing the name i was curious who this was so i looked at the conversation with her and my dad.the conversation was quiet disturbing!also i did a bit of digging on my dad's computer and found a photo of a naked woman and a semi-naked woman.i went on the history list on his computer and found loads of websites which are pornos.

i feel really depressed about this and want to tell my mum but she has bipolaria so i dont want to because last time she found out he was cheating(when i was 6) we moved out and my mum had to go to hospital and i had to stay with my granparents...also my mum makes most of the money in our house because my dad isnt payed very much at all.what should i do please help!

thankyou

Sorry to say but I disagreee with adviceman49.

Your mother's bipolar condition has nothing to do with whether or not it would be okay for your dad to cheat on your mom. And no, having a sexual texting relationship with another woman is certainly NOT "normal" for the husband of a woman who is bipolar, and honestly how that makes sense in anyone's mind is beyond me.

But I do agree that at 13, you are very young, much too young to be put in a difficult position such as this one. I don't think you should get in the middle of this, and I definitely don't think you should go and tell your mom about this.

A lot of it is assumption. I hate to say this to a 13-year-old, but watching porn is not necessarily a bad thing and it doesn't mean that your dad is cheating on your mom. It's just a sexual release, something you may not understand until you're older.

BUT, there is still the matter of "sexymama". Honestly, I really don't think it's just a "nickname for a friend"; that's ridiculous, and that's inappropriate anyway. You say you read the text conversations and they were inappropriate. I did say you shouldn't get in the middle of this, but if anything, I would talk to your dad about this rather than your mom. I suppose, but because it seems that the situation is taking its toll on you, it may not hurt to confront your dad, so that way, he can know how you feel and maybe do something about his behavior, or clear it up if it really is just a misunderstanding.

Q: I have really dry skin on my face. It's most noticeable on my nose. It's constantly flaking and it's really gross.
Usually I just use this blackhead face wash (I also have really black blackheads on my nose), rinse, then wash my face again with moisturizing face wash. It helps a little but my face is still dry and my nose still a bit flaky.
So can anybody suggest to me some good face LOTIONS that they know work? Nothing extremely expensive since I'm 17 and don't have the money to keep re-buying things that cost 30+ dollars.

Also can anybody suggest some good dandruff shampoos? I have really fine, thinish, pin straight hair if that matters at all.

First off, rather than just cleansing your face with a blackhead wash, I highly, highly recommend finding a good exfoliator. That will help buff away some of the layer of dead skin cells on your face that can make it look dull, dry and flaky. I personally am on the hunt for a good one so I don't know of too many I can recommend, but you can do some easy research online and find a bunch of reviews on YouTube for instance. I'm sure you'd be able to find a lot of drugstore options.

As for lotions, the moisturizer I use is the Olay Active Hydrating Beauty Fluid, which you can find for around $8. I apply a generous amount and I don't find that it gets greasy, just leaves my skin nice and supple. Others I've heard good things about are the Aveeno Ultra-Calming Daily Moisturizer or the Euricin Facial Moisturizer. If you're willing to go just a bit pricier (not TOO high-end, though; just beyond the realm of drugstore), you should definitely look into Clinique. They specialize in cosmetics that are supposed to be good for your skin, and have different products designed specifically for different skin types, and I'm sure you could find something perfect for less than $30. I suggest the Dramatically Different Moisturizing Gel/Lotion (especially good for VERY dry skin). The Moisture Surge is good too, but definitely pricier.

Remember though that it's not enough to just have a good moisturizer, you need to find a routine that works for you. everyone is different, but I do suggest applying moisturizer EVERY day, right after you wash your face, and every time before you put on your makeup (but give your skin about 15 minutes to absorb it before applying makeup, don't just do it rright away).

I went through a phase when I started getting a lot of dandruff, and Head & Shoulders worked for me. Plus they now have it in an awesome apple scent. Otherwise I'd look into a shapoo with microbeads to buff away the dead cells in your scalp.

Q: I have been dating this great guy for four months now. I love him so much. Is it weird to give him a blowjob after four months of dating? What's a good age to give your first blowjob? I feel like I'm ready to do it. Also, I'm a very strong Christian. Do blowjobs go against my religion? Have I gone too far by giving handjobs? 15/female

I don't really think there's a "right age" to give your first blowjob.... I'm 20 and have never gone that far. I have a friend who is 19 and gave her first at 16, but she's still what many would consider a "good girl" and not at all promiscuous. I've known of people older than me who have never engaged in oral sex and people as young as middle-school age who have. Personally, I think it's more about emotional maturity. You need to evaluate what YOU want, how YOU feel about this, and whether or not YOU personally feel ready for this, not ask other people what they think because everyone will have differing opinions, none of which you have to listen to. If you do decide to, just make sure it's really what you want, not what you feel like you're "supposed" to do; remember that you NEVER "owe" a guy sex. Most importantly, be SMART about your decisions, and be safe. You don't want your first sexual encounter to turn out with bad consequences like an STD. Talk to your boyfriend.

But I'm getting off topic... your religion. Ok. that one's tough. In my personal opinion, I don't see what sex has to do with faith or Christian beliefs. Yes, conservative religions in general are just that--conservative. They frown upon premarital sex & things like that. However, I feel like that's much more of a personal decision than one that needs to take an entire community's opinion into account. Lots of things are frowned upon or considered sins in the eyes of Christianity: premarital sex, lies, homosexuality, and the list goes on and on and on. In the end, I don't think Christianity is about whether you're a virgin, or how far you've gone with someone, or about avoiding anything the community has considered taboo. What I think matters is your faith in God, your desire to live a good life as a good person, and your intentions behind everything you do. The simple fact that you're even concerned about what giving a blowjob would mean in terms of your religion shows that you are of very strong faith and consideration, that it matters to you. Someone else can be a virgin, never even be kissed their entire life, but that doesn't mean anything if they are an otherwise horrible person.

Ok, I know this was long, but the bottom line is this: It's up to you. I'm not saying you should do it, and I'm not saying you shouldn't. I'm saying it's not up to anyone else to tell you that, not even church. Just know that whatever you decide won't make you any less of a Christian.

Q: i put my fingers in to my verginal 1 year back, so am i still virgin? i feel some pain but i dont remember if i bleed or not i think i didnt bleed but anyways my hymen is broken now so please tell me if i get marry my husband will find me virgin by bleeding or not ?

From what I know, everyone is different. Some girls will bleed and be in pain their first couple of times, their first time in a long time, or they might not even bleed at all their first time. If your hymen is broken, you most likely will not bleed when you have sex, be it on your wedding night or whenever it may be. Whether or not your husband will consider you a "virgin" depends on who it is that you marry and his definition of a virgin, as well as how much you decide to tell him. Personally, I don't think that should even matter.

Q: Please help me. I never wanted to have any sex till marriage. I heard of oral so I didnt do that. But I hadnt heard of fingering & the guy I was seeing said it wasnt sex. So I let him do it. He knew I hadnt done anything before & this was only our first date. I said will I still be a virgin if you do that & he said yes. He asked if I finger myself & I said yes, but you cant loose it to yourself. i didnt like him doing it but he's 22 & Im 17 so I trusted him. In my country 16 is the age where it is legal to have sex. Am I still a virgin if he did this to me 3 different in a space of a week? Can someone please explain the anatomy of fingering & why am I still a virgin then! I feel like Ive done something but not.. I keep crying cause I feel like Ive cheated Mary cause I know she never did that. My mum said im still the same person I was before I went in & when I came out of his house. Is that true ause why did I bleed! Ive only nled from my period. Please can someone explain the anatomy of fingering to me. I know sex didnt happen with the penis but something else did. Im just confused cause I think Ive done something wrong. I dont feel pure anymore. Its like he put his finger in there & left it there. I feel dirty inside. Not like I used to be. Even though he did it to me three times & when my husband does that to me wikk I still be a virgin then if we dont. Why do people say how do you define virginity then! I just feel different that someone else did it. How far dies their finger go insiee! Is that what cherry pop is when you were pure but now youre dirty!

The reason this is difficult to answer is because different people have different definitions of what virginity is. Some people think virginity depends on whether the hymen is still intact; other people think you're a virgin until you have actual sex. Most people would say you're still a virgin since you didn't have sex.
BUT, you were still penetrated. This is why you bled; the hymen was broken (he popped your cherry) when his fingers went into the space where the penis goes in during sex. So, if you're someone who believes virginity is lost when the hymen is broken, you could say you lost your virginity.
So in the end, it only matters what you think. What matters is how YOU feel. Virginity doesn't have anything to do with whether you consider something "dirty"; that is subjective to the individual.
From the sound of it, you regret it. Whether you're a virgin or not (which personally, I would still say you are... but that's just me), I don't think that affects how YOU feel about it, which is "dirty". Don't worry about what other people think; neither me, nor any other advice-giver on this site, society, not even your future husband. And no, not your boyfriend either. He shouldn't have pressured you to do something you weren't sure about, especially not on the first date. If you're still with him and he cares about you, you should let him know how you're feeling and he should respect YOUR boundaries.
And as for you, you shouldn't do ANYTHING you're not ready for, no matter who the person is or what they tell you. I'm not making any judgments about you, I just think it's a shame that you went with something you weren't sure about and are now feeling so badly about yourself. Don't; just remember next time to take things at YOUR pace. If the person cares about you, they'll understand.

And don't worry about being "dirty". From what I can tell, you're far from it if you care so much about your personal virtue.

Q:

I got a letter from financial Aid offices of the school I'm going to next year and they said I need to send them a letter explaining how my family survives on a certain income and what kind of assistance they get from others and what they spend on bills. It also says I have to send signed documents or they will be unable to process my financial aid. It just says send signed documents and a letter.What kind of documents do they want?

Sounds fishy to me. I've NEVER been asked by FAFSA for any explanations or details about how my family's money is spent. Not to mention that whenever I HAVE been asked for documents, they've specifically stated exactly what I need to send, they don't just say I need to send "signed documents". Sorry this isn't much help but if I were you I'd make sure the letter is legit. I got e-mails my first year of college that I honestly thought were from FAFSA asking me to resend my information that supposedly hadn't gone through and my dumb ass filled out about half their inquiry before looking more closely at the e-mail and website and realizing it wasn't legitimate.

If it does turn out to be real, contact your school directly and ask about it. They should be able to give you some answers and provide you with accurate assistance.

Q: Hey im 14 i need advice!
My ex asked me if I wanted to make out with me and he is one of my best guy friends. and i aked him why and he said that cause I didnt do it when we were going out so now i wanna. My friends tell me I should. But I find it werid thats all but he doesnt find it werid i Havent answered him yet...
WHAT SHOULD I DO????

He's using you.

You shouldn't do it. He just wants to mess around. If he liked you or respected you or wanted to be with you or any of that, he'd ask to get back with you rather than to just make out. And I mean, if you didn't do it when you were going out, why do it as friends? What would that even make you guys?

There's the whole "friends with benefits" thing but... Just the fact that you find it weird shows you're not really comfortable with it, so if you go along with it, you'll just let yourself be used. You'll be confused, and on top of that, there's no telling how it could twist your relationship with him. Plus I just think you're too young to be dealing with that kind of messy, unnecessary drama (trust me, you'll have allll the time in the world ahead of you for that.)

Bottom line, don't give in to something you're not comfortable with just to please someone else.

Q: Recently my cuzion has past away, at 24 years old! She is really young!:,( it just happend so fast and unexpected, everyone is taking it soooo hard! What can I say to cheer em up, make em feel better, and to help them stop crying? Thanks and god bless you

I agree with Doktor Tammy.

The grieving process is different for everyone, depending on the situation, the individual, etc. Unfortunately, there's no way to speed it up, as much as you'd want to. But the thing about that is, it's actually a good thing. Yes it's sad, and you want to help your family, and by extension yourself, but you'll find that you really don't want to push it; it's best to just let it runs its course. Everybody feels better eventually. Everything always becomes okay. Eventually. Pushing it would probably only prolong the suffering, really.

If you really want to help, though, it's as simple as leaning on each other for comfort. I know that sounds cliche and like not much help at all, but it's true. My dad passed away a couple years ago, also sudden, unexpected, out of the blue. It turned everyone's world upside down. It was depressing. It was the absolute worst experience of my life. It truly felt like my life, my mother's my sister's, my family's was just shattered. But from my own personal experience with that, I realized that I didn't want anyone to do anything. I didn't want people "trying" to cheer me up any more than I would have wanted them to ignore me. All I wanted was them, there. It was all I needed. And I was perfectly content with that.

Like I said, it sounds ridiculously helplessly simple. But you'd be amazed at what a great support system can do.

As for the crying, it's such a relief. Let them cry if they want, but if you want, sometimes crying with them and talking at the same time, as depressing as it may sound, can sometimes turn up a few laughs about the person, a few happy moments, memories... it'll ease the pain little by little, trust me. And pretty soon there will be less and less crying.

I wish the best for you & your family during this time, & may your cousin rest in peace. I know it's hard, but it'll be fine, it really will. Keep your chin up. :)

Q: ok well when my bf uses a condom i am only 12 so how much would sex hurt ???????

... A LOT. so don't do it. with or without a condom. you're 12 for crying out loud; at that age girls should be worrying about what to do with their tongues and hands when they kiss, not worrying about how much SEX will hurt with their boyfriends. you just have no need for that right now.
i'm sorry but for once i don't care if i'm giving the kind of answer the asker was looking for. just trust me on this.

Q: My husband has this meeting he has to go to this weekend and I thought it would be sweet to tie his tie up for him like you see in the movies. I never told him I didn't know how but I've seen him do it a couple of times and it looks kind of confusing. I did look up some diagrams online and I'm still really lost.

Can somebody explain to me how to tie a tie right so I don't embarrass myself? Please?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5g-nn_P5TgE

Q: when you dream off someone is it cause they went to bed dreaming of you? or when you think of someone is it cause they are thinking of you?

Neither. Not necessarily, anyway. It's just your subconscious coming out to play.

Q: i need to transfer colleges and i particularly want to go to california. so i'm a bit nervous to go in a city but i want to be near one. i've got two questions. 1. what city is best: LA, San Fran, or Sacramento?
2. (if you dont know an answer for this part its okay, i dont care as much right now) have you heard good things about pomona college (claremont) or California State University Stanislaus (Turlock)

LA. Everything's in & near LA;) Entertainment central. Plus it's got the most awesome weather. Well, unless you have a massive problem with heat... >_<
San Francisco's cool too; big city, VERY diverse, it depends on what you're looking for. The thing about SF though is that it's usually chilly & often foggy.
Sacramento's.... ehh. Nice weather too I guess? The other 2 are better cities, though:)
That's city talk of course... Collegee-wise... well, that's different. Your answers may vary.

Q: Alright before I tell you anything you should know that the guy I'm in love with can be beyond a complete total asshole when he wants to be. Well I broke up with him about two weeks ago because I heard he was cheating on me. Four hours after I did I realized I had made a mistake. So we have been talking about getting back together and he is coming to my house for a week. Well today a girl messaged me on myspace and asked me if we were dating. I told her no we werent but we were gonna get back together. He texted me and asked me what I had told her and then called me a cockblock. He said that since he's single he could do whatever he wanted and that he was just looking to get laid while he was single. There are two questions I have. One. What should I say to him. And two. Since he's goin to do that would it be alright for me to mess around with another guy to see how he likes it?

ONE: Say "Go screw yourself."

TWO: Sorry, but it doesn't seem like he'll care much. Even if he does get a little jealous, what do you xpect? Do you think he'll suddenly realize how much of a jerk he's been and he feels like his heart's been ripped apart & he never wants to lose you & he wants to staart all over & be together forever? NOT gonna happen, sorry. Not only that, but you'd just be making a slut of yourself by doing that for a guy who's NOT worht your time (harsh? sorry, it had t be said). I say it's time to get over him. You say you're in love with him, but for God's sake, the guy admitted to being a douche RIGHT to your face; he DOESN'T want to be with you, at least not have a real relationship. He's NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU. And you know what? The fact that you'd even consider messing around with another guy makes it clear you're not even in love with him either. Break things off COMPLETELY with this asshole.

Unless of course you wanna go ahead & let yourself be used & humiliated & let him step all over you & do whatever he damn well pleases. If that doesn't hurt you, or if you're just willing to get used like that, then go for it. It's a matter of self-respect, mostly.

Q: I don't want to be just friends with this person I want to be more. So that's what I'm doing I emailed him it's just I can't pretend I don't have these feelings I don't want us to catch up as friends more like catch up and get to know each other as more than friends I mean we use to hold hands hug all that stuff we spoke about being with each other so many times I know he must care more than a friend but I just don't want to be only his friend I love this guy its hard to accept him as just a friend. He told me he keeps the messages because it makes him happy when he reads it its so confusing lol

...So tell him? Sorry, it would help if you gave some more background info other than just saying you wanna be more than friends. Doesn't sound like you have anything to be confused about, if you talk about being together, hug, hold hand, etc. he might be thinking the same thing. Unless he's actually straightup TOLD you he JUST wants to stay friends, I don't see any reason not to go for it. Talk to him about it, & chances are he'll feel the same way.

Q: 19-female.

why is it that i feel the need to act subtle and shy around my best guy friend who i also have a crush on?

i'm not myself when i'm around him. i know we would have soooo much more fun if i was myself, because usually i'm crazy, i never think before i speak, i'm a craaaazy lady. i talk loud, i dance and sing like a mad woman (: i just love to have fun.

but when i'm around him i barely talk, i always think before i say something to make sure i'm not going to sound stupid. i don't sing or dance, in fear of looking dumb!

but if i do start acting like myself i'm afraid he will think its a little werid and out of the ordinary, yah know? i always feel like i have to impress him, i always have to look in the mirror.

why cant i just hang out with him in my sweatshirt and sweatpants with no make-up on and my hair thrown up? i know he wouldn't care! we love each other! we've been friends for like 6 years now.

yeah i know, 6 years, crazy! and your probably thinking, "how are you not comfortable with him yet?" but he does something to me that when everytime i see him, my heart skips a beat, and i get super shy and don't know what to say!

oh, yah forgot to say, he has a girlfriend. which makes things more difficult.

he is very outgoing, he's funny, he makes me laugh like no other. i wish i could do the same for him. i remember once i said something like i'm not myself when i'm with you and hes like why? and i was just like i dont know! i'm different when i'm with other people and he was like why arent you like that with me! so i know he wants me to be myself, but i can't let myself go.

how can i overcome this? anything is appreciated (:

I know exactly what you mean, but the thing is, there's nothing anyone can tell you to help you overcome it. You know both what the problem is, and how to deal with it: Be YOURSELFFFFFFFFFFF!!! You say you feel the need to impress him all the time. Acting shy and reluctant ISN'T impressing him. If anything, your dorky, outgoing, weird self is obviously more appealing to him. Just think: you could be having wayyy more fun and not feel pretentious, AND he could be appreciating the real you if you'll just... let go. Don't think. Just be. Simple. TOO simple, right? Right. I'm sorry, but that's all I can tell you. The only one complicating things is you! He liked you before, he likes you now, so chances are he'll like you even if you end up making a fool of yourself in front of him. Hey, he may even just find that endearing.=] And best of all, you'll be enjoying yourself more instead of stressing over how you look or how you're acting. More laughs, fonder memories, better bonding. Just remember: DON'T THINK. JUST BE.=]

Q: 14/f almost 15

I've been cutting since I was in 8th grade. I'm going to be a sophomore. I hid it from my parents forever. A couple months ago I like had some weird panic attack or breakdown or something. I was crying like almost screaming. My brother came knocking on the door asking if I was ok. Then my dad started banging on it and almost broke the door down and I was screaming, "OK I'll open it!" I did and my dad grabbed me and looked at me. I was all cut up. I mean my thighs and my arms were horrible. Then he took me out to my mom and they both were screaming at me. I wasn't still bleeding so they didn't want me to the hospital.

Before that I was crying to my friend on the phone. She ended up coming over begging my dad to let her see me.

My dad took everything away from me. My phone, my computer, my mp3. He even took away my church and wanted to keep me away from my friend that came to help me. He hates her. And doesn't want me to have anything to do with her.

I don't understand. I don't know what to do at this point. They expected me to stop after all that. Like taking my stuff away is gonna help. Not seeing anybody for the whole summer?!

What am I supposed to do? I cut myself before because of everything. To be honest I didn't hate my life. I just mostly hated myself. I thought I was ugly, fat, stupid, ect. I know I'm not but I made myself believe it. Because that's what my parents told me. It made me feel horrible. Then my mom had drinking problems going on. My brother was stealing things and I was failing a couple subjects in school and...it just came along to me.

My dad thought I was suicidal. When he was yelling at me he mentioned that he would help me kill myself because he doesn't care if I was dead because if I'm gonna do this to our family it was my choice. Then in another lecture he said the same thing.

Now all I do is cry every night. That's not what I want. Really. All I have is my friends. I actually have time to get on the computer when my parents are at work. So I always wondered what happened to unconditional love. That night when he was talking to me he told me I could tell him any problems that are going on. How am I supposed to tell him anything when he just tells me its ok to die. He mostly said "yeah I would be upset later on but I would realize that's what she wanted anyways" This makes me feel so bad.

Anyways, they just... I just don't know what to do at this point. My friend told me she went through the same thing but her parents got her help. I was told I had depression. It makes sense but I just haven't really talk to anyone about this except my friends.

I know my dad cares...sorta. I thought he did but after hearing that he would be ok if I was dead then it makes me not care about him anymore.

I just keep getting made fun of in my family. My mom calls me bad. My dad calls me stupid, crazy, and once, he called me a zombie. This doesn't make me feel great.

Anybody know what I can do?

First of all I'm really sorry for everything you have to deal with, and the fact that you've been thinking for the past 3 or so years that cutting would make it better. But I'm even more sorry about your family. What your dad said was harsh and insensitive, and just downright cruel. It seems your problem isn't even so much with yourself anymore, but rather your family.
Although this wouldn't make it ok, I'm going to give your dad the benefit of the doubt and assume he said those things simply because he's never had to deal with anything like this before and has no idea what to do or say, and that he doesn't know how his words affect you. After all, we all have a tendency to talk out of our asses & say things we really don't mean when we're stressed and confused.
Again, it doesn't make it okay, and in any case, you're totally right. Your parents handled this terribly. But then again, would anyone really know what to do? They're still your parents, and although you may not want to, maybe talking to them will help them understand better, because right now all they know is that you're cutting yourself... that doesn't make you crazy or anything, but that's definitely not the most sane thing to do. Talk to them. IF they truly love you, they'll have to try to understand, and by doing so, hopefully work with you rather than against you to help you get better.
Now, if this doesn't work out, talk to the school counselor, a doctor, SOMEBODY who can actually help you. Bottomg line, you have to talk to someone about this, and i mean REALLY talk. It may not seem like the most brilliant piece of advice, but if you don't, you'll be doing the same thing you're doing now: feeling sorry for yourself and crying yourself to sleep. No one deserves that.
As for what you can do in the meantime, to help YOURSELF, be with your friends. I know, it sounds so uselessly simple, right? Something you obviously want to do without having to be told. But that's just it. If you're feeling the way you're feeling, you're not surrounding yourself with the people who make you happiest, or cutting the people who make you feel at your worst out, which is exactly what you need to do. Many people will say that's actually the key to happiness. Again, uselessly simple, but really think about it. The feeling you get when you're with those you love the most, those laughs you want to get the most out of... that's what's going to get you through the day, and the more of that you get, the happier you'll gradually feel.
But first thing's first: Please STOP cutting. You know it isn't helping anyone, and if anything, it's only making life harder for you.

Q: 14/f 8th grade

Ok, I really don't understand what's going on here. Last year I got grades at the very worst a B- up on my report card. But this year, for the first quarter, I got a D in math and a C in science on it, but all the other grades were As and one B+. My parents weren't very happy. And I really DON'T know what's going on-- I've NEVER gotten anything below a C+ on my report cards. In math, I always totally get what we're doing and I get like 1 or 2 questions wrong on the homework, but I realize I just made a little mistake. Then I take a test and I think I do really well and it comes back, and I have a D or an F on it, and I don't know how!! And I really have no idea why I got a C in science... I turned in most of my homework and did pretty well on tests.
Ok so anyways, we have this thing called Powerschool where you can go online and check your grades, and get this-- I have a C- in math and a D+ in French (and everything else is an A)!!! I don't get it!! So now my French teacher is like calling my house to tell my parents about it, and the thing is, she's only actually graded like 5 things. So my mom is REALLY upset and won't even let me explain and always yells at me and threatens she'll take the computer and TV and etc. away if I don't get better grades. So it's really frustrating because I don't know where I'm going wrong! I've always been a procrastinator and I don't always turn in my homework... but I really don't understand. Can ANYONE help me???

(Super long, to bear with me).
Wow, this sounds extremely familiar. Oh yeah, it's HAPPENED TO ME. Like, right now, actually. The thing is, I'm the biggest procrastinator you'll ever meet, and while I'll admit I'm pretty smart, getting by on good test scores won't work forever. Trust me. Now, with the French thing, explain to your mom that with only 5 hings graded, one little thing can make the BIGGEST difference on your overall grade, it's really not as big a deal as it sounds. BUT, I hope you realize that this is just how it starts. It goes from one little thing to another to another, and before you know it you've dug yourself in a deep-ass hole. So explain that you're just hitting a bump in the road, but don't make up excuses. TRUST ME. Don't just talk about trying to do better, DO IT. I know, I know, I'm not telling you anything you don't already know, but take this from someone who's BEEN THERE (quite a few times, I might add), it accumulates.
If you really don't get what you're doing wrong, go straight to the ones who do-- your teachers. Let me guess, don't feel like it? don't have time? Not necessary? It won't hurt. Talk to them, ask them what you're missing and what you could do to improve your grade. It's better than struggling with it yourself. By the sound of things, though, I think you KNOW that you're not turning all your things in and that's what's affecting you the most. Just do it... easier said than done, I know, it's hard to convince myself sometimes, but it really is the only way. At the VERY LEAST, focus on the work that's worth the most. Teachers tend to give out extra credit opportunities. TAKE THEM, wherever you can get them , especially since sometimes (depending on the teacher of course) they're easy points. Just remember to do first things first, though.
I know I sound like a total mom, but I KNOW EXACTLYYYYYY what you're saying, so you're just gonna have to trust me on this.
Sorry if I'm not much help, but I'm telling you for your own good, especially since 8th grade is just the beginning=/ And in the end, there's not much anyone here can do to help you anyway. It's kind of up to you.

Q: In the movie ''21''.
I would've googled it myself, but I couldn't make out the lyrics from the song.
The song that I'm thinking of is in the Stripbar called ''Foxx'' or something, and it's after Fisher throws his drink at some woman, and her husband goes insane.
So Ben storms up to Fisher in the Strip bar and attacks him. I want to know what song's playing when the scene in the strip bar starts.
It's kinda slow, with a good beat and a guy singing...

Sorry if this is confusing :P

I have no idea. But here's the track listing, so I've narrowed it down from about a bajillion possible songs to 15. Sorry if I'm not much help.=/

1) You Can't Always Get What You Want -- The Rolling Stones (Soulwax Remix)
2) Time To Pretend - MGMT
3) Big Ideas - LCD Soundsystem
4) Giant - D. Sardy featuring Liela Moss
5) Always - Amon Tobin
6) Young Folks - Peter Bjorn and John
7) Mad Pursuit - Junkie XL featuring Electrocute
8) Sister Self Doubt - Get Shakes
9) I Am Unknown - The Aliens
10) Shut Up And Drive - Rihanna
11) Alright - Knivez Out
12) Tropical Moonlight - Domino
13) Hold My Hand - UNKLE
14) L.S.F. (Lost Souls Forever) - Mark Ronson featuring Kasabian
15) Tender Buttons - Broadcast

Q: i love hair curled with a curling iron...but problem is i did it for my schools dance and like the first half hour-hour it came undone =( i used hairspray and everything too. does anyone know any good products for thick long hair that will make it stay?

thankss.

Hmm... I'm thinking your hair might be kind of like mine. It goes flat not too long after I curl it. I can't really think of any good products, BUT what I do when I want it to last all day is get slightly smaller sections of hair, spray a LITTLE bit of hairspray on each section, and THEN curl it--yes, if you hear a sizzle, that's what I do. I know, I know, it's probably causing some major damage, but that's the only way to make it last. Otherwise (or also?), you might wanna try switching to a thinner curling iron, which will make your curls tighter. Even if the curls seem TOO tight at first, they'll gradually loosen up and look fine after about 20 or 30 minutes, so running your fingers through them wouldn't be necessary.
Like I said, it will probably damage your hair a lot (not to mention, it's a total bitch, ESPECIALLY if you have a lot of hair), but that's the only way I can get my hair to hold the whole day-- even if it's just a little undone by the end of the day, but you'd at least end up with soft curls.

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If you think my username's dumb, you should see the one I made when I was 13...

Hi, I'm Marisol :) I'm 24 years old. I try to look at all different sides of a situation before forming an opinion. I may not always know what to say, but I always have something TO say. So as far as giving advice goes, I just give my best input and hope I can help. Let me know how I do with some feedback. :)