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Are blowjobs against my religion?
I have been dating this great guy for four months now. I love him so much. Is it weird to give him a blowjob after four months of dating? What's a good age to give your first blowjob? I feel like I'm ready to do it. Also, I'm a very strong Christian. Do blowjobs go against my religion? Have I gone too far by giving handjobs? 15/female
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Greetings./according to Mark 7:21-23 You are practicing FORNICATION/which is premarital sexual activity/2 Corinthians 7:1 emphasizes to cleans yourself//meaning to stop committing any actions that is evil in the sight of God weather it is a physical act or a spiritual state of mind/Matthew 5:27-28 emphasizes a internal state that God calls a SIN/Jesus said if you love me keep my commandments John 14:15/John 3:20//The light that it is talking about is God 1John 1:5/You seem to believe in Jesus Christ but you don’t follow through with his commandments Revelation 14:12/It’s your choice to live Holy God will help you Philippians 2:13/Romans 12:1 and 1Corinthians 6:18//God Loves You so much He doesn’t want to be apart from in this life or the next/Sin committed and not repented of will separate you from God/If your boyfriend doesn’t want to stop disobeying God then he is not worth having because he doesn’t care about you soul and weather you will go to Heaven or not//again it’s all up to you Luke21:19.By the way sexual activities in marriage is ok Hebrews 13:4.
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In short NO. Just because you engage in a sexual act does not mean your relationship with GOD is any different. Nothing has changed there. You love him, and him you regardless of any religious doctrine. As long as you follow the teachings and live and work following a Christian lifestyle you're fine.
Age doesn't have a lot to do with things it's about being READY and mature enough to handle sexual aspects of a relationship and consequences. If it's something you're totally comfortable with than for you it's okay.
Also the act you mentioned you already have done to him is pretty normal with teens and adults. It's a form of self-pleasure and doctors as well as most religions find that to be normal behavior.
Just because you did something sexual or will be doing something sexual cannot and will not destroy your religious beliefs or make them any less stronger than they are.
You're not going to face eternal damnation for it either as most people you know including adults no matter how strong beliefs are engage in this activity together. I would relax about it and only engage if you feel 100% ready. If uncomfortable don't. No need to rush things either as the relationship is still new and fresh. Become comfortable with the idea of it first and talk about it before deciding anything.
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Lets take a look at the last part of your question first. Let me first say I am not a very religious person. when it comes to organized religion I am what is referred to as an agnostic someone who believes in god but no one religion.
That being said, in the strictest sense of the Christian faith any type of premarital sex is considered a sin. Sex is strictly for procreation, birth control and abortion are forbidden. Sex in any other for other than the missionary position is forbidden. SO to answer your question; by the tenants of your religion any type of masturbation, Oral Sex or sex in any other position than missionary is a sin in the eyes of your religion. Oral sex is considered Sodomy and the Bible does speak on Sodomy
I have purposely said religion and not God. I did so for there are other forms of Christianity that do not condemn these forms of sex although most all religions while not condemning premarital sex do frown upon it.
As for your age. There is no right age as to when to give a blow job or hand job. What is thought to happen is once you start down the road of these lights you are not far from having actual sex. For that I do think you are to young. So for that reason I will say you should wait and stick with hand jobs for now.
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there is no restriction about the age if u and your boy friend like that then you should go for it it a great fun...... as far concern of religion it depend on every ones own mind state...
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I don't really think there's a "right age" to give your first blowjob.... I'm 20 and have never gone that far. I have a friend who is 19 and gave her first at 16, but she's still what many would consider a "good girl" and not at all promiscuous. I've known of people older than me who have never engaged in oral sex and people as young as middle-school age who have. Personally, I think it's more about emotional maturity. You need to evaluate what YOU want, how YOU feel about this, and whether or not YOU personally feel ready for this, not ask other people what they think because everyone will have differing opinions, none of which you have to listen to. If you do decide to, just make sure it's really what you want, not what you feel like you're "supposed" to do; remember that you NEVER "owe" a guy sex. Most importantly, be SMART about your decisions, and be safe. You don't want your first sexual encounter to turn out with bad consequences like an STD. Talk to your boyfriend.
But I'm getting off topic... your religion. Ok. that one's tough. In my personal opinion, I don't see what sex has to do with faith or Christian beliefs. Yes, conservative religions in general are just that--conservative. They frown upon premarital sex & things like that. However, I feel like that's much more of a personal decision than one that needs to take an entire community's opinion into account. Lots of things are frowned upon or considered sins in the eyes of Christianity: premarital sex, lies, homosexuality, and the list goes on and on and on. In the end, I don't think Christianity is about whether you're a virgin, or how far you've gone with someone, or about avoiding anything the community has considered taboo. What I think matters is your faith in God, your desire to live a good life as a good person, and your intentions behind everything you do. The simple fact that you're even concerned about what giving a blowjob would mean in terms of your religion shows that you are of very strong faith and consideration, that it matters to you. Someone else can be a virgin, never even be kissed their entire life, but that doesn't mean anything if they are an otherwise horrible person.
Ok, I know this was long, but the bottom line is this: It's up to you. I'm not saying you should do it, and I'm not saying you shouldn't. I'm saying it's not up to anyone else to tell you that, not even church. Just know that whatever you decide won't make you any less of a Christian.
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