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what do i tell my family to cheer em up
Recently my cuzion has past away, at 24 years old! She is really young!:,( it just happend so fast and unexpected, everyone is taking it soooo hard! What can I say to cheer em up, make em feel better, and to help them stop crying? Thanks and god bless you
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I agree with Doktor Tammy.
The grieving process is different for everyone, depending on the situation, the individual, etc. Unfortunately, there's no way to speed it up, as much as you'd want to. But the thing about that is, it's actually a good thing. Yes it's sad, and you want to help your family, and by extension yourself, but you'll find that you really don't want to push it; it's best to just let it runs its course. Everybody feels better eventually. Everything always becomes okay. Eventually. Pushing it would probably only prolong the suffering, really.
If you really want to help, though, it's as simple as leaning on each other for comfort. I know that sounds cliche and like not much help at all, but it's true. My dad passed away a couple years ago, also sudden, unexpected, out of the blue. It turned everyone's world upside down. It was depressing. It was the absolute worst experience of my life. It truly felt like my life, my mother's my sister's, my family's was just shattered. But from my own personal experience with that, I realized that I didn't want anyone to do anything. I didn't want people "trying" to cheer me up any more than I would have wanted them to ignore me. All I wanted was them, there. It was all I needed. And I was perfectly content with that.
Like I said, it sounds ridiculously helplessly simple. But you'd be amazed at what a great support system can do.
As for the crying, it's such a relief. Let them cry if they want, but if you want, sometimes crying with them and talking at the same time, as depressing as it may sound, can sometimes turn up a few laughs about the person, a few happy moments, memories... it'll ease the pain little by little, trust me. And pretty soon there will be less and less crying.
I wish the best for you & your family during this time, & may your cousin rest in peace. I know it's hard, but it'll be fine, it really will. Keep your chin up. :)
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Dear "what do i tell my family to cheer em up",
Grieving the loss of a dear young loved one is natural and you should let them cry if they need to. It is better than going out and getting into a fight because they bottle it up.
It is good that you want to sheer them up. Maybe you could gather together pics of your cousin and make a memory book, or video collections dedicated to her. People do that as a way to remember loved ones in life, instead of focusing on the death.
Be happy that your cousin's death was sudden, and not painfully drawn out like some.
My advice is to help your family remember her in life, and not focus on her death. At first, life without here will be odd, painful, and unreal.
Help them get up everyday, help them live, and move on. If there is forgiveness to be had, let it be forgiven. Love cannot exist without forgiveness.
Good Luck!
Doktor Tammy
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