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Hi. I left and came back. But I don't like this column anymore. Check out my new column.

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i want to know how i can meet bi/lesbian teen females or where i can. i've never been with one because i dont know how to find out if someone is gay or not. i dont want to hit on a girl whose straight. how do you make getting with one happen??

I know on livejournal.com there are groups for lesbians and bisexuals, but I don't reccommend actually meeting anybody online because that can be dangerous. However, it's good to talk to other people. You can ask around if there are any LBGT gatherings in whatever area you're in, or if there's like, a lesbian club or a gay straight alliance. Sometimes, though, you will just have to talk to people and get to know them.

-Lea

what kind of grades do you need to get into Boston University or NYU. mostly major in photography or journalism or mostly photojournalism.

If you go to the websites of those colleges, they will usually have a list of requirements that tells you the average grade needed, and since you're looking into photography, it will probably tell you about what you need for your portfolio.

Just look for the websites with google:

Usually the information you're looking for would be under "admissions". If you can't find it, you could contact the college or talk to your high school guidance counselor.

Good luck!

-Lea

14/f
idk if any other bfs and gfs do this, but me and my bf do this thing like sex w/ clothes on and we like move up and down, and i get this feeling like i cant feel my legs, is that normal? and why cant i feel my legs?!

Yup, it's called dry sex or dry humping. I've experienced that feeling, so I don't think it's anything to worry about. But if it really bothers you, maybe you could change your position. It could be that your legs just fall asleep.

-Lea

What are some easy ab work outs that I can do to make my stomache defined.. er.. haha so i can get abs. Or a flat stomache?

Take up bellydance. I recently got into it, it's very fun and a great workout. I reccommend getting a tape or DVD that teaches you how.

-Lea

ok hi this is a random question but do you guys no on tv where it usually says PG or G for a show on the left hand corner? underneath it it has little letters like D or L or S what do they stand for? i no L stands for language but thats it thank you in advance!!

D is drugs, and S is sex.

-Lea =)

I'm 18 he's 21. We are thinking about getting married after 1 year together. He has a lot of sexual fantasies of being with other girls but says he can try to forget about having sex with more people and settle down. Is he REALLY ready for marrige?

Whether or not he's ready doesn't have anything to do with his fantasies. Fantasies are just fantasies, and everybody has them. They are actually good--if you can fantasize while having sex, it will actually improve the sex. But I digress. If you truly feel in your heart that either one of you is not ready to be married, then don't get married. But don't let imaginary women that don't even matter ruin what could be a wonderful relationship.

-Lea

Me and my husband love sex. We have it all the time, always safe sex. Is there anyway to make it different, fun, and exciting everytime we do it? New positions or fun games or something?

I rate 5s!

http://www.seductioninsider.com/sex_tips/kama_sutra.shtml

That's a great link to information about the Kama Sutra, I suggest you purchase a copy or check it out of your library. ;-)

-Lea

hey guys! i`m not really sure the purpose fo me posting this but yeah.. i am a 15/f and a Christian. i met this guy at church about two and a half years ago. his name is nick. he is the sweetest lil kid. he is one year younger than me and really cute! now i know he doesn`t like me but the other niite he called me and we somehow got on the subject of masturbation and whether or not i thought it was riite or wrong. i told him i didn`t think that it was wrong or anything and it kinda escalated from there. he told me to go to my computer and he sent me some sites of porn and i really liked them. then last niite, we watched tons of law and order episodes together because it had chris meloni in it (one of the guys from the sit he sent me). and then i mastubrated with him on the fone several times and he was too. is this wrong? i really don`t know what my question is so any comments or thoughts would be helpful!

Whether it's wrong or right is your decision to make. You already did it, so there's no sense in feeling guilty about it. But it's perfectly okay to be experimental with your sexuality. However, I think I would be wary of this guy. You like each other as friends right now, and shared a sexual experience together, but sooner or later your emotions will get mixed in. A fourteen-year-old boy is basically just a hormone bomb, and a fifteen-year-old girl is no better. Whether you do this again or not is entirely up to you, but just try to be careful.

-Lea

Hey,

Im 15, and I still have not had a boyfriend, or hooked up with a guy...

it never really bothered me before but lately it has been.

My best friend since 4th grade (who lives in Texas) (I live in Philly) has had alot more experience with guys than me.

It makes me kind-of jealous, and i dont want to be like...behind her if that makes sense?

alot of girls at my school just give in and do any guy that is willing to do them. There's not alot of people who are in an actually relationship.

I hate my school. All the guys are a-holes.

and i have confidence in myself too i model, im sweet, im funny...

im just really shy.

now im just babbling.

To get to the point I dont want to just hook up with some ass hole who doesnt care about me. But.. i dont want to be prude.

Thanks.

-Anna

You don't want to hook up with some asshole? Then DON'T! It doesn't make you a prude--it makes you SMART. You feel a little insecure right now, and that's normal, because you're judging yourself based on the other girls. Don't. This is going to sound awful, but someday you are going to have a career and a loving relationship, and many of these other girls are going to be living in a trailer with five kids and atleast one STD. And let me tell you something--I'm 18. I've been out with one guy, and it was hardly a relationship. I kissed him. It was my only kiss ever. This happened when I was sixteen. There is no law that says you have to have sex, or have any experience with guys, for that matter. Just enjoy your life for what it is. =)

-Lea

Let me start of by saying: I would not be asking this if I didnt already feel bad && want to change this. SO please, don't preach.

Down right to the point?
I stole my friend's new 300 dollar digital camera. (reminder: I know it was wrong, no lecturing)

While doing it, i KNEW it was wrong.
When she noticed it was gone, she cried.
It broke my heart.

I know God forgives, but my gut tells me..he won't.

I don't know, I want to send it back to her.
I think I will, as soon as I get her adress.
i CAN'T APOLOGIZE THOUGH. I CANT TELL HER.

I don't even know why I did it.
I love her. Im not jealous of her.
I don't need a digitial camera.
I don't want one.

But I did it anyway.
Just because I knew I could.
I knew I wouldn't get caught.

I'm evil. I'm a really bad person, I know.

Yet, I can't change it.
Here's where I need help.

- appologizing to God for this.

HOW? I knew it was wrong while doing it, I knew the devil was pushing me and God was telling me not to, yet I listened to the devil.
It's happened before. I never learn.
I'll always do the wrong thing.
So what? he's just going to keep forgiving me?

- how do I stop this

any ideas?

- this feeling

even if I give it back, I'll never forget what I did. seeing her cry. knowing how much it meant to her yet still taking it. how can i forgive myself for it? what should I do? I know myself very well. I wont change, I'll do it again. And I wont let myself forget it. I know I'll always feel bad because of this.

AHHH GOSSSHH just help me please, I feel awful.
what should I do? with everything?

this feeling is sick.
I want to die.

Okay, maybe I'm biased here because I'm not religious, but it's not the devil's fault. It's yours. You need to take responsibility for your actions. It doesn't make you evil, you weren't possessed by anything, you just did something bad. It happens to everyone. I stole a huge collection of my friend's comic books, and once I destroyed my mother's shoes with scissors. And I know from experience that if you tell your friend and apologize to her, and return the camera in person, you WILL feel better. You say you "can't", but I know you can! I've done it. Before you expect forgiveness from ANYONE, be it God or your friend or whoever, you need to forgive yourself. And the first step to that is apologizing to your friend. If she doesn't forgive you, well, that's the way it goes--but YOU will feel better because in the end, you did the right thing. =)

-Lea

How does one become the perfect girlfriend? Internally and externally, how does a girl make her guy feel completely fulfilled?
Thanks

If that is your goal, you really need to take a step back and re-evaluate yourself. First, nobody is perfect. You need to accept this before anything else. Everybody has flaws. Second, never go into a relationship thinking you must completely fulfill your partner! Thinking that way will get you taken advantage of, even abused! In a normal, loving relationship, both partners have their flaws. They fight and are not always happy with each other, but they love one another despite this. Relationships do involve sacrifices, but if you are sacrificing everything just so that a guy can be "fulfilled", you need to get out of that relationship! Be who you are. When you love someone, all you need to do is show him that you love him. You don't exist for his pleasure. I really hope that you get this way of thinking out of your head, because so many people let themselves be abused because they want to make their partner happy. A relationship should be equal. And if he really loves you, then, in his eyes, you WILL be perfect. ;-)

-Lea

I`m going to be asking this guy that I like out tomorrow or sometime soon, whenever I see him next. I want to look cute / sweet / pretty, you get what i mean. But I dont want to look to sluty or anything! what should i wear? p.s im pale so sometimes i dont like wearing skirts but i kno its summer so yeah..

any suggestions?

Wear something clean and comfortable that you like. It's not that hard. Nobody on advicenators can pick out an outfit for you, I'm sorry but that's the truth.

-Lea

16/f

I have horrible cramps. They are so bad I can't stand up straight and I'm almost in tears. How can I lessen the pain? I tried ibuprofen but it's not helping and a heating pad doesn't work either.

This could be very serious. You really need to go to a doctor right away. Usually they give you birth control when it's this bad. Don't worry about it too much, but definitely get to a doctor as soon as possible.

-Lea

stupid questions but many people write xoxo under there names . what does that mean?

X is a kiss, O is a hug. So it means kiss-hug-kiss-hug.

-Lea

i heard something about like when either your like right eye/eyebrow twiches, it means good luck will happen and if your left eye/eyebrow twiches it means bad luck.. does anyone no if this is true or not?

It is a superstition, just like black cats and walking under a ladder. If your eye is twitching too much, you should probably try and get some sleep, or drink a lot of milk.

-Lea

im 13/f
how do i like permately remove my hair from my legs so they will stop growing but only on my legs and no where else

You will have to get electrolosis. It's very expensive and will probably take more than one try.

-Lea

Hi all I would like to know how it feels like to be kissed? Anyone can feel free to share your stories with me cos I love listening to these stuff.

Btw, would it be wierd if i just tried it on any one of the opposite sex?

Hard to explain. Physically, it feels like someone else's lips touching your lips. Emotionally, it depends on a lot of things and varies from person to person. My first kiss was awkward, and not that great. Yes, it would be weird if you tried it on just anybody. I didn't like the guy I kissed, and I regretted it for a long time. I suggest waiting for somebody that you actually care about. Even though I've made my peace with kissing this guy (I could've done a lot worse), he is burned into my memory forever as my first. I know it sounds sappy and stupid, but the first kiss really should be special. Just my advice.

-Lea

how many holes are there in ur vagina?

There are about a billion tiny holes called pores on the skin of the vagina. Hope I helped.

-Lea

Why do people say its special to kiss in the rain?
What makes it diffrent then kissing when its not raining?
Does it feel diffrent or something?.

Thank you
please answer a.s.a.p

Because not that many people go out in the rain, so it's like you're the only ones there. And you don't have the sun blaring down on you, it's nice and cool. And you can like, lick the raindrops from your true love's lips. And rain just smells cool.

-Lea

i don't really think this is in the right category, but anyways,
when i put soap or acne wash on my face, should i wash it off as soon as i put it on, or leave it on for a little while to get into my skin?

thanks in advance.

It depends on what you are using. Look on the back of the package, and it will have instructions that tell you exactly how to use it.

-Lea

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