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Guilt, christianity, morals, FRIENDSHIP ... and so on.
Let me start of by saying: I would not be asking this if I didnt already feel bad && want to change this. SO please, don't preach.
Down right to the point?
I stole my friend's new 300 dollar digital camera. (reminder: I know it was wrong, no lecturing)
While doing it, i KNEW it was wrong.
When she noticed it was gone, she cried.
It broke my heart.
I know God forgives, but my gut tells me..he won't.
I don't know, I want to send it back to her.
I think I will, as soon as I get her adress.
i CAN'T APOLOGIZE THOUGH. I CANT TELL HER.
I don't even know why I did it.
I love her. Im not jealous of her.
I don't need a digitial camera.
I don't want one.
But I did it anyway.
Just because I knew I could.
I knew I wouldn't get caught.
I'm evil. I'm a really bad person, I know.
Yet, I can't change it.
Here's where I need help.
- appologizing to God for this.
HOW? I knew it was wrong while doing it, I knew the devil was pushing me and God was telling me not to, yet I listened to the devil.
It's happened before. I never learn.
I'll always do the wrong thing.
So what? he's just going to keep forgiving me?
- how do I stop this
any ideas?
- this feeling
even if I give it back, I'll never forget what I did. seeing her cry. knowing how much it meant to her yet still taking it. how can i forgive myself for it? what should I do? I know myself very well. I wont change, I'll do it again. And I wont let myself forget it. I know I'll always feel bad because of this.
AHHH GOSSSHH just help me please, I feel awful.
what should I do? with everything?
this feeling is sick.
I want to die.
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This may be an old question, but oh well.
Very simply, it hurts to see someone you care about in pain. Watching someone cry because you took something of their's and not knowing makes you feel pretty crappy. Especially when you know you could comfort them by telling them what happened to it. However, you can't blame the devil for what you did and its right to want to be forgiven for it. By God by your friend, by anyone really. God will always forgive you if you mean it. Your friend might not right away, but in my opinion telling them what happened is much easier than trying to lie about it. Cause there's always possiblity that they'll find out about it and know that you lied to them. Unlike some atheists, like Saint_Gasoline, I think that practicing the things taught in the New Testament will help you deal w/ stuff like this and keep you out of such problems. Anyhow, that's your call. Have fun and I hope it gets better =D.
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simply say lord, i know that i have sined, i know that i fall short of the glory of you, i fell really bad for what i have done and lord please forgive me for taking this camra. Yes he will forgive you, Why because he loves you. God will never give you more than you can handle so this is no reason to die. Are you a Christian like have you been babtized, and asked Jesus Christ into your heart and to be your lord and savior? if not it may be a calling from God, that he wants you to be his child again. You also need to ask your friend for forgivness. it is part of the process. Your friend may be mad for a while, but it is really something that you need to do. May God bless.
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God knows that your sorry just talk to him about it in prayer! Ask for strength in Christ whenever you get the urge to do somthing wrong just say GET BEHIND ME SATAN IN JESUS NAME with complete athourity over satan and complete faith in God.
i hope it helps... :D
-ASHllYN♥
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its okay. if you are really sorry, then God will forgive. Tell her, dont lie. thats wrong. Tell her. just do it.
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Prayer for Inner Peace and Calm
Dear Lord and Father of mankind,
Forgive our foolish ways;
Reclothe us in our rightful mind,
In purer lives Thy service find,
In deeper reverence, praise.
Drop Thy still dews of quietness,
Till all our strivings cease;
Take from our souls the strain and stress,
And let our ordered lives confess
The beauty of Thy peace.
Breathe through the heats of our desire
Thy coolness and Thy balm;
Let sense be dumb, let flesh retire;
Speak through the earthquake, wind, and fire,
O still, small voice of calm.
Prayer of Repentance
Merciful God,
we have sinned
in what we have thought and said,
in the wrong we have done
and in the good we have not done.
We have sinned in ignorance:
we have sinned in weakness:
we have sinned through our own deliberate fault.
We are truly sorry.
We repent and turn to you.
Forgive us, for our Saviour Christ's sake,
and renew our lives to the glory of your name
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First and foremost, you must return the camera. Quickly, and by whatever means necessary. Don't wait until you have her address; do it now, because until the wrong is righted there will be no forgiveness from her or yourself. I can't speak for God.
I think you should come clean. When you do this, you may lose a friend, and that's just tough. I suggest that you get some counseling immediately, whether through your church or otherwise, because this is a serious matter that may end up causing you far greater consequences than losing friends; you could lose your life, either by spending it behind bars or through an angry victim of theft who owns a gun. And, if I understand your beliefs, you could lose your soul.
The inability to forgive yourself for it is very much tied to the fact that you feel you won't change, that you'll do it again. You need to fix that before you will ever feel good about yourself. Do not delay.
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First of all, if you really mean it in your heart that you are sorry - God will forgive you.
Second of all, if it's happened before (as you stated), you should seek counseling.
Third of all, maybe God is letting you have these feelings because He knows you need to tell her you did it. Sometimes surrendering to God's will isn't the easiest path. Bad things might happen. But the truth shall set you free.
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Dude calm down It's good that you feel bad and don't worry I'm not going to lecture you. Give her the camera back, right up to her face. She will forgive you. Tell her how bad you feel and even if she wants to kill you, she will forgive you and she will remain your friend. Trust me I know what I'm talking about and The feelings that you have it's...odd. I know it's guilt but the way you put it, it's almost like i don't know but it's different. God will forgive you stealing isn't the end of the world. It is a mental dissorder that you are having, you see something and your brain naturrally wants it because it's such an easy target. Help is good and give it back to your friend. And don't become suicidal that's were this is leading you find help go to a proffessional tell them your problem. Everyone has problems, this is yours and it can be fixed. I promise you will be better even though guilt will hang heavily over your shoulders.
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First about the camera. Admitting to her is letting her know that you stole her prized possession. Regardless of how noble/honest it is, she will never completely trust you. You can trust yourself. So I would recommend this: The next time you see her, bring the camera along and sneak it into her bag when she is away at any time. Or if she regularly goes to a particular place with a lost-and-found (like a church or school), put it in the lost-and-found.
Don't blame God or the Devil on your wrongdoings. You have full control over whether you do a bad thing or not. In my opinion, people just make up "the devil" as an excuse to do bad things. You can definitely change yourself without the help of God. I don't believe in God or the Devil; if I can be a good person, you can too.
First, set yourself away from God and the Devil for a moment. I see your problem is mostly that you feel the Devil is making you do all of these things. It's not the Devil. It's yourself. Next time you are tempted to do something bad, tell yourself "the Devil can't control what I do. Is stealing this worth the tears of *insert name here* afterwards?" Then, exercise as much self-control as you can, and don't take the item.
I'm sorry if this wasn't much help. If you need anything, feel free to give me a word in my inbox.
Best of luck.
Loma
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Okay, maybe I'm biased here because I'm not religious, but it's not the devil's fault. It's yours. You need to take responsibility for your actions. It doesn't make you evil, you weren't possessed by anything, you just did something bad. It happens to everyone. I stole a huge collection of my friend's comic books, and once I destroyed my mother's shoes with scissors. And I know from experience that if you tell your friend and apologize to her, and return the camera in person, you WILL feel better. You say you "can't", but I know you can! I've done it. Before you expect forgiveness from ANYONE, be it God or your friend or whoever, you need to forgive yourself. And the first step to that is apologizing to your friend. If she doesn't forgive you, well, that's the way it goes--but YOU will feel better because in the end, you did the right thing. =)
-Lea
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return it by however you please "it got mixed in with my stuff" "i accidently took it"
"i stole it"<<u better go with that one.
demonstrate some frickin self control. get a damn psychiatrist if you need one.
***i will not discuss my views on god, but we respond from a religios perspective be it mine or not***
god will forgive, for that is the nature of the almighty. You say you feel he wont forgive you, well thank the lord that you are not he.
Try to strive to preform to please the lord.
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Well, just don't do it again, find some way to return it without letting her know. It sounds like bad news mailing it. If it is mailed to her without any explaination it'll seem weird, and she'll know there's something fishy a-foot. I have no idea what a better way to return it would be, mind you, but if I was more immersed in the situation, I could usually come up with a clever way. The thing is, everyone makes mistakes and I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't go to any sort of hell for it. I doubt $300 is anything important to God, and material posessions are really unimportant as a whole. The important thing is that you grow and learn from the situation. Stealing from others is rarely a good way to ingender friendship and loyalty.
I guess that the best way to avoid doing things like this is thinking something to the effect of "What would the purpose of this be?" or "Why would this be a good thing to do?" Knowing what is right and wrong is fine and good if you are a flock, but asking questions about your actions and their consequesces is the best way to gain understanding. I think the most important thing is to learn something from what you've done. This has done nothing but hurt someone you care about.
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If you are truly sorry for what you have done, then God has forgiven you, even if you havn't asked for it. Remember: there is rejoice in heaven over 1 who repents rather than 99 who remain faithful. Use this and any other past experiences to remind you of what you felt like afterwards - and that doing things like that got you nowhere. He will continue to forgive you if you are truly sorry and really do want to make things better and be a better person. Mortal sin, if you are familiar with that, is not a one time thing. You can't commit a mortal sin in once isolated act. Mortal sin is sin that causes a seperation from God; it is determined by full knowledge, full consent, and intentions. It is gradual and is done by many, many acts. Right now you are not guilty of that, and God will forgive you.
How do you stop this? Depends. Have you ever been caught? Gotten in a lot of trouble for it? If you felt guilty about it, then that means you are upset because you hurt somebody knowingly. Guilt is not a bad thing. Use that to remind you not to do those things. Say to yourself: hmm ok maybe this time I don't have to do/say this. Pray often, and everytime you do, remember to end it with asking God the power to be a better person in that area. Hopefully the constant reminder will sink in on itself, and God will help you.
Write it all down. Everything. What you did, how you did it, what you were thinking, and how you feel now. You need to vent and let it all out. You also need to tell somebody about it. Giving it back to her in person and explaining how you felt and what you did and everything will take that part off your conscience. Realize that while God will always forgive you, constantly and repetatively doing those things will only hurt the relationship between you and God, you and the people you know, but most of all you and yourself. Learn to live with yourself and learn that learning from your mistakes and remembering them is what makes you a better person. Hope that helped and good luck.
P.S. If you live in NY, please drop me an inbox. This recently happend to my sister and was just wondering if my strange coincidence you could be related to this. No offence or anything, but it is a small world. Thanks, and if you're not, sorry, don't take it personal!
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as far as God forgiving you: yes, God always forgives. But, while you are asking God for forgiveness, ask him to give you the stregth and help you not to do things like this anymore, if you feel that you will continue. or go to confession
about the camera: you saw her crying and it touched you! so, you know you have the heart to give it back to her. whether you are going to admit to her that it was you or not is your choice! auno how old you are or how old the girl is, but if that girl lives with her mom, she's probably gonna give her a hard time about the camera, and how much it cost. she is probably telling her "i can't believe i bought someone so irresponsible something so expensive" or the girl herself probably feels irresponsible. but, if her mother knows someone took it and is giving it back, maybe she'll give her daughter a break
i hope i helped xoxo
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Imnot goingto preach to you or tell you that you were Wrong. And that is only because you asked me not too.
You love your friend && you should give the Digital Camera Back to her. You need to give it to her in person. When she cried you were heart broken. If you owned a Digital Camera & she stole it you would cry. Calll your friend and tell her that you need to meet up somewhere and talk. birng the camera with you and explain to her that you took the camera. She will probly be dissappointed in you but hug her and tell her that you are sorry. Maybe you don't want to apologize but it would be better and it will help you feel better. Explain to her that you have a problem with stealing.
You said you don't know why you stole it but you also said that you stole it becuase you knew you could get away with it.
You don't want to ruin a friendship with this girl you have to be honest with her.
You have to ask god for forgiveness. Explian to him that you need help && that you are truely sorry for what you did. He will listen to you.
hope i helped.
kimm-
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