can you be a member of more than one church and if you can't how do you switch memberships?
Well, mate, if you want to be a member of another church, you need to see what that church's requirements for conversion are. Though, you could just go to the church if they don't require any specific initiation. If they're both denominations of Christianity, you can usually just go there and you'll be considered a member. If it's something like switching between Lutherianism and Islam or Judaism, you would normally need to go through some sort of formal conversion process which the mosque/temple's Imam/Rabbai would inform you about. But, yeah, if it's the same religion practically, like Methodist and Presbyterian you could just start going to the other church. Especially if they're both just evangelical protestants.
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Okay, well I'm 13/f turning 14 in july
This question is regarding my birthday party...my parents are allowing me a sleepover and i'm going to bring a few friends to an amusement park for the day. The problem is, the park admission is $20 per person and obviously that would be a large amount of money for my 4-5 friends, then my family, and me. I want my friends to pay for it, but what is a polite way to put it on the invitations? I was thinking a good way to go might be to write on there "instead of a gift, admission to the park is $20." or something of that sort. What do you guys think? Thx very much =] And yeah my bday is a month from yesterday (6/14) so I don't need the answers urgent... (like, tomorrow.) I dunno if that matters on here or what, but ok I'll stop talking now haha.
Dude, it'd be really lame for you if you had them bring money for their own admission instead of a gift. You could just put something like "We are going to the amusement park, which is $20 for admission." I doubt anyone should expect you to cover it. Plus, you miss out on the gifts that might be totally awesome. If it's too late, it's cool, but I'd hate for you to miss out.
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Ok just recently I had sex. Well it was to dark and I assumed he put on a condom.Well at the end of it he jumps of me real quick so he wouldnt cum in me. I know you can still get pregnant off precum but i was wondering should I worry at all?
Please help me.
probably. One of the main things to worry about when not using a condom is STD's. I am on a personal quest to instill the fear of God in everyone who doesn't worry about HIV and the lesser members of the pantheon of sexually transmitted infections. Plus, you can get pregnant when someone pulls out. It is still sperm, and sperm's main objective is to get you pregnant or die trying. You should seriously talk about this sort of thing with your paramour. It's really ungentlemanly to not use a condom, and if he's planning on having sex, he should carry one around.
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Let me start of by saying: I would not be asking this if I didnt already feel bad && want to change this. SO please, don't preach.
Down right to the point?
I stole my friend's new 300 dollar digital camera. (reminder: I know it was wrong, no lecturing)
While doing it, i KNEW it was wrong.
When she noticed it was gone, she cried.
It broke my heart.
I know God forgives, but my gut tells me..he won't.
I don't know, I want to send it back to her.
I think I will, as soon as I get her adress.
i CAN'T APOLOGIZE THOUGH. I CANT TELL HER.
I don't even know why I did it.
I love her. Im not jealous of her.
I don't need a digitial camera.
I don't want one.
But I did it anyway.
Just because I knew I could.
I knew I wouldn't get caught.
I'm evil. I'm a really bad person, I know.
Yet, I can't change it.
Here's where I need help.
- appologizing to God for this.
HOW? I knew it was wrong while doing it, I knew the devil was pushing me and God was telling me not to, yet I listened to the devil.
It's happened before. I never learn.
I'll always do the wrong thing.
So what? he's just going to keep forgiving me?
- how do I stop this
any ideas?
- this feeling
even if I give it back, I'll never forget what I did. seeing her cry. knowing how much it meant to her yet still taking it. how can i forgive myself for it? what should I do? I know myself very well. I wont change, I'll do it again. And I wont let myself forget it. I know I'll always feel bad because of this.
AHHH GOSSSHH just help me please, I feel awful.
what should I do? with everything?
this feeling is sick.
I want to die.
Well, just don't do it again, find some way to return it without letting her know. It sounds like bad news mailing it. If it is mailed to her without any explaination it'll seem weird, and she'll know there's something fishy a-foot. I have no idea what a better way to return it would be, mind you, but if I was more immersed in the situation, I could usually come up with a clever way. The thing is, everyone makes mistakes and I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't go to any sort of hell for it. I doubt $300 is anything important to God, and material posessions are really unimportant as a whole. The important thing is that you grow and learn from the situation. Stealing from others is rarely a good way to ingender friendship and loyalty.
I guess that the best way to avoid doing things like this is thinking something to the effect of "What would the purpose of this be?" or "Why would this be a good thing to do?" Knowing what is right and wrong is fine and good if you are a flock, but asking questions about your actions and their consequesces is the best way to gain understanding. I think the most important thing is to learn something from what you've done. This has done nothing but hurt someone you care about.
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i am really scared. (no this isnt anything to do ith 6/6/6 its just that 666 got me thinking of this) when the world ends, how exactly is it going to end? i do not have very good knowledge of the bible. i know that no one knows, but everyone says all this horrible ways like it will go up in flames. but why would god torture us like that? why can't he just make everything dissappear in a split second? why would god want to make the world end in a horrible way, and why would he even want the world to end. please explain this is a clear way cause im not good with this stuff. and pleaaaaaaaaseplease don't say "don't worry about it wont happen/it wont happen in your lifetime"
man, have you ever toyed with ants' writhing bodies until they die slow, horrible, agonizing deaths that put an end to their short, pointless insect-lives? That's what we would seem like to any omnipotent being. Feelings and pain are nothing in objective reality. It is all internal and based off of your perceptions of how you feel and how you read others' feelings. I can see it being perfectly acceptable for an omnipotent being crushing all the life out of each individual being in the universe in any perverse and gory way that amuses him.
Aside from that, the end of the world will most likely have something more to do with our sun exploding and compacting into a black hole or neutron star. Or we could just run into it eventually. I'm not overly sure whether we'll run into it before or after it's expended all of its energies. By moving closer and closer to the sun, the temprature of the earth will increase exponentially (excepting of course if the sun is a black hole at the time, in which case the earth would be a cold, lifeless sphere completely unrecognizable to you or I. The actual process of the end of the world will probably be more like a process of evolution via natural selection due to climate change or any other fundimental change in the way humanity reacts with the world. We would slowly evolve into other forms of beings which would percieve the world differently. Dinosaurs didn't die out, you know, the scions of many species died out without leaving any heirs, mind you, but most avian life is decended from these beasts. The slow and omnipresent process of adaptation and survival of the fittest, so unpercievable in our limited scope will always affect us.
Though, when it comes down to the end of the world, it has more to do with your perceptions. Once you're dead and cold in the ground (or your ashes have scattered in the wind over some beloved landscape from your youth if you perfer), your world is over. Nothing exists without the perciever, and thus the world is over. Though, if this is how you choose to percieve the world, then perhaps reincarnation makes more sense, seeing as it's hard to see one percieving it any differently later.
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Can you be forgiven for being gay? Is it really a sin? What if you just want to try it and see what happens are you going to be penalized for that? Can someone help me asap.. these questions are for a friend who really needs it
The only thing I know about the bible saying that it is a sin is the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, and that is actually just an assumption made by certian biblical interpreters. Anyways, If you do really like Christianity and all, you can be assured that you will be forgiven for any sins for which you ask forgivness for. There is no reason to think that homosexuality is an abomination. Rape, murder, pedophelia etc. are abominations, I don't think any God would really seek out retribution against someone for harmless desires that were imbued by him.
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ok well im 20years old and im a girl; junior in college right now.
so basically ive been best friends with this girl for close to 2 1/2 years now. after i went away to college, i lost a lot of my close home friends for no real reasons, we just all changed and went in different directions in life. i had a hard time with it at first because they were the only friends that i had ever known but i came to realize that i have found such a great group of people since moving away to school. like the people i found in collge mean more to me than all those people from home..especially my best friend now (from school). so my problem is jealousy. i have never experienced jealousy like this before with a friend. like i hate it when she goes and hangs out with other people without me, talks about her home friends and all that..and she could have a boyfriend soon (no one really knows whats going on in that situation)..and that drives me crazy just the same. i get this constant feeling that im going to be replaced. and i know like i shouldn't worry about it because nothing has happened yet and you can't get upset about something that might not actually happen..and as much as i tell myself that, im still so jealous and i get upset sooo easily if i have to hear her talk about this potential boyfriend or goes and hangs out with other people. she knows im this way too because ive talked with her about it, but shes one of those people where you say something and she thinks about it for about half a second and then moves onto something else without actually dealing with it/trying to help me. like when you take away all those factors of other people and its just like me, her, and like a few of our close friends, i have the best time with and i think thats when im the happiest..but like the second she does something else or talks about the boy..i just cant stand it. i kinda want to get over this because i know how rediculous it sounds, its just the matter of figuring out how to do that. so how do i find a balance?i want her to be happy..but i want to be happy too..?
I guess that you just have to accept what will come. I don't think that because she has a boyfriend she'll entirely ignore you, but if you prevent her from going out with someone, or hanging out with other people, she'll resent you. I think the best think is just to see what will come and diversify. Just like with a stock portfolio, you need to have more than just one friend to rely on. If one of your friends was away for a couple weeks, you'd need to spend time with other people, and that's the same thing here, you really need to make more friends, but I know how you feel, after we graduated high school, most of my friends went to different colleges than I did, and you do feel really protective over the few friends you first make. Maybe you should try to be like her, seeking out new people, new boys etc. instead of just trying to stick with only what you have right now. That's one of the main reasons people go off to college is to learn how to socialize and create new relationships.
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Im 14 almost 15 and I havent had my first kiss yet. Is that okay. I understand that a lot of people have had their first kiss like younger or sumthing. Is it okay that I am waiting for that right person. I dont want the guy I have my first kiss with to be all like wow you havent had your first kiss yet and all. Anyway Its okay not to have it yet right??
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As long as you don't make a big deal out of it, no one else will. The guy probably won't think that you're lame for not having done it yet.
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Ok, this isn't exactly a random wierdo question , I just didn't know where else to put it.
I'm taking a cruise to the Caribean with my family this summer, andi was wondering if anyone had any suggestions of what kinds of excursions might be fun. Thanks!
Well, I'm a huge nerd, so I would suggest that you go to the Yucatan and look at Mayan Ruins, I've always wanted to do that. The city of Cartagena in Colombia is also supposed to be beautiful, it has a lot of old spanish colonial buildings, and that's on the carribian. Everyone loves Jamacia, you can tan, probably buy some Ganja, and scubadive, I'm sure that there are some nice golf courses there too, if you're into that.
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My friends and I have had our own little club. We came up fun little moneymaking schemes/fundraisers for our parents whenever they visited, but now, my mom got really angry because she "raised me by hand and I expect money out of her." I told her it was just for fun, but she took it personally. So that's out of the question.
Ever since then, we've spread apart a little bit. I talked to them and they all agreed that we needed to be as good together as we used to. Do you have any ideas that could maybe transfer a little club into something "out there"? Please don't suggest charity donations for homeless people or donating to Katrina Relief because that's not our purpose. We want something creative and maybe...artistic? We're really good with musical instruments and drawing cartoons.
The Iranian government is offering a lot of money for people who can draw cartoons mocking the holocaust in retaliation for the Prophet muhammed cartoons published by Jyllands Posten here in Denmark. But aside from that, I always think having a little concert or something every now and then, or you could invite a bunch of other musician types out to try and work on your pickin' skills. Maybe start some sort of beatnic group of artists, poets and musicians or something. Concerts and exhibitions are always a cool way to raise money. And, the best way to get your parents to pay is to not treat it as a fee, so much as them helping you out with your club thing.
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But I can't help it if I'm just a fool
Always having my heart set on you
'Till the time you start changing the rules
I'll keep chasing the soles of your shoes
what do these lyrics mean?
I assume that it's about infatuation or limerence. About someone who is obsessed with someone and wants them desperately. It can seem romantic to some, but if the other person really doesn't like the person, it's just creepy or scary.
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sry if this is in the wrong category. ok, so my high school is having their blood drive tomorrow, and they were going over what you had fill out before giving. and there was some mention of sexual history. for those who donated before, do you have to tell about your sex life? i understand that its probably confendential, but i prefer not to give that out in my high school.
Last time I gave blood, all they asked about is if I had had sex with a gay man or had unprotected sex. Also, it asked a lot of questions about if you've lived in certain european countries because they are the ones thought to have Bovine Spongiform Encephalopathy. The questions usually don't get too personal and none of it will be divulged to anyone for any reason. (maybe it would be used by law enforcement if they had a court order, but that's unlikely as it tells them little about you.) You can also just refuse to give out any information that you object to, thus opting out of giving blood.
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ok i am an athiest i have read many things supportin the exsitence nad nonexstence of god. I was just curious as to why people believe so strongly in a religion or a single god.
I think that a lot of it has to do with fear. More frightening than going to hell is the prospect of nonexistance. being tortured for an eternity is a lot more comprehendable than the idea of someday not existing. But, again, most people who believe in a heaven and a hell expect that they're going to heaven, so it's something that is comforting to believe in. The reason that they believe in this originally is mostly because it is what they were told when they were young, and thus it seems most feasible. Plus, the majority of other people believe this, especially if they were raised in a family that regularly attends church. They grow up with peers who believe the same thing, and many of the elderly figures in their life also tell them this and believe it as well. This is a bit of a confirmation bias, the people have heard it at all sorts of places and thus it must be true. Also, they are lumped into a group and given a sense of community by being a member which is something people like, it is instinctive to want to be a member of a group, to be accepted. We are socail animals, after all.
It is easy for this kind of person to discredit science due for a need for consistancy. When someone is told all their life one thing, i.e. that God created man, yet they are given very compelling evidence for evolution by natural selection, they are in a state of cognitive dissonance, and thus they have to resolve the conflict. When the idea of creation is supported by all their friends and culture, it has more resonance than something presented less strongly, and thus they resolve the conflict by dismissing the statement that natural selection is how man came to be. Also, the community of people who believe in evolution isn't as much of a tight-knit, supportive group as is that of those who believe in a God. Plus, most people of a more scientific nature (such as scientists) feel that it is futile to argue because most people are very stubborn when it comes to this sort of ting, and it is not that important to sway that sort of person anyways, they probably wouldn't make any great contributions to science.
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Omg. I just saw this huge flock of birds in my backyard. I can't tell what they are. The are bigger than ducks but smaller than turkeys. They are brown, have flaps of skin on their chins, and iridescent wings and tails. They fly. What could these be?
I don't know if this question has been adequately answered yet, but I would doubt that they're guineafowl, because I believe that they're supposed to live only in Africa (hence the name, Guinea is a country in Africa) I from what I know of fowl in my area (The northern midwest) I'd say that what you saw was either a Grouse, or some species of wild turkey, but, seeing as I have not seen them, it is hard for me to say. Grouse are quite a bit smaller than a turkey, but they seem to match your description pretty well. Most turkeys have bald heads, but certain species of wild turkeys would have a bit of plumage on their heads, and female turkeys are smaller and slimmer than the males. I suggest you type in the names of all the birds mentioned into google image search, and see if any of them match your mystery avian.
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I've been really interested in the guitar lately, and my brother found some of his old beginners books that teaches you how to play basic chords and such. He told me that it would probably take about a month to learn the chord. Is this true? I expected much longer than that.
Learning the more basic chords is pretty easy, it's learning how to switch between them, and learning how to play the right sounds that takes a lot of time. In a couple days, you could learn most of the more common chords used in most popular songs. But, yeah, Chords are pretty easy, I suck at guitar, not because I don't know chords, I just don't know how to weave them together very well.
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Warning ahead of time, this will be long.
I am 22 years old. My brother is 21. He still lives at home with our mother and I am out on my own in another city and going to college. Things were o.k. between us (somewhat fizzling but still ok) until I moved out, which was this past October. My friend is also his friend and he told her that he thinks I should not be allowed back at the house ever again. Every time I have visited, he locks himself in his room and turns off the light and will not come out to eat or use the bathroom or anything because I am there. My mom and I were having a good time once when I was visiting and when I left he put her through a guilt trip saying how could she just ignore him and have such a good time with me when he was literally sick because I was there, but he wont even answer his door because I am there for anyone.
I am beating myself up trying to figure this out but here is what I know. First of all, I have always been good to my brother and treated him well. I am actually the reason he is friends with my friend. My dad, on the other hand, has sort of ignored him through his childhood, although my mom and dad divorced when he was 10. My dad has payed some of my bills to help me get through school. While he was paying them, my brother asked him for money a couple of times and was turned down because "he didnt have enough". But he has given him money as well. My brother said to me "I think sometimes he cant give me money because he is helping u." I feel especially guilty about this now but I would have to quit school in order to live! I would have to give up my dreams. I think that dad owes it to us both to give us both money but that is a different story. And I told mom to tell him (he wont talk to me) that I would end my relationship with dad for him and he said "what does that have to do with anything?" But then he said it is because of dad in a way. But he also says the whole family abuses him, which is absolutely not true. He says he would be happy to leave and not know any one of us ever again, including mom, who has been nothing but good to him his whole life, who has tried to make things fair for him, who has worried every day for him.
He left with his friend on thanksgiving and didnt spend it with us. He locked himself in his room on Christmas and didnt open his presents for days.
I wrote him a letter trying to reconcile (though I dont know what happened between us). To summarize, I told him how much I cared and worried about him and he could write back saying anything he wanted and I promised not to get mad. I just wanted to know why he hates me. Well, I didnt have his email address so the friend who is both mine and his friend sent it to him, and here was his response:
Okay, you know what? I'm really quite upset at the moment. You have absolutely no business trying to play mediator between Amber and I, regardless of whatever relationship you have with either of us. You know quite well that I want to put all of this behind me, and how much pain I've dealt with in-between. You know how hard I've searched for the motivation to fight my adversity long enough to get the hell out of this miserable hell-hole. However, suddenly trying to bring her back into the picture certainly won't help, and you had no business trying to involve yourself. I don't care what you say about it, either -- you were involving yourself the moment you agreed to send that message, which I won't bother to read. The mere notion that you feel I owe it to Amber to read that message makes your position in all of this quite clear. Don't pretend to be neutral about it -- that won't absolve you of your involvement in this. Not in my eyes...
Moreover, she has no business trying to contact me. She and I have no relationship and, for that matter, anything which could be reconciled. That should have been apparent enough. Regardless of sharing the same blood, it does not matter; I would readily put my entire family out of my life, rather than be forced into suffering by their ongoing nonsense. I don't care what anybody says -- there is no excuse for what I deal with. My family is far, FAR lost to me, and I have no hope of ever reaching out to them. I want to move on, and be done with this for good.
Lastly, I expect you to turn right around and judge me for being such a thoughtless bastard, as you can't stand the thought of me turning my back on my own family. Well, I don't owe any of them shit. Quite frankly, you don't know what goes on in my life, and the years of abuse which I've had to endure from practically everybody. I suggest that you stay far away from this issue, and let me get on with my life in peace. Don't try to convince yourself that this is something which it is not, either. I'm telling you here and now what it is -- abuse. There is no other name for it. I have taken my stand against it, and if Amber can't accept to acknowledge the truth, then she would be better off covering her ears and eyes and living in delusional sollitude.
Let me make something clear: It's over with. Please, leave it alone and do not involve yourself any further. I would prefer never to revisit any of this again.
That was his response to her, not me. He would not even read what I said.
I know I havent been a perfect sister, but he hasnt been a perfect brother either, and I would never expect that of him. I have never, never abused him or his emotions in any way. I have always cared about him very much, and I have always wanted what is best for him. I still do, but part of me is so angry that he couldnt care the same way back. If you need me to tell u anything else, just ask. I am trying to make this short as possible for your sake. I desperately need advice. He wont talk to me and wont read my letters. I dont know what to do. Im afraid the longer this goes on, the worse things will be.
well, from what you've told me, he seems to have some sort of dillusion. He seems to be suffering from some angst, and sees himself as being picked on by everyone. I'm unsure what the actual reaction would be, but I would probably just do what he wants and leave him alone. If he no longer has you to blame any of his problems on, I figure that his malice will eventually settle and dissipate. I figure that trying to get back into his life will actually aggravate him more and push him further away. He seems to have resentment for the whole family and would probably do well to move out and find his own place, but I don't think that you should suggest it, it can easily be taken as unsolicited judgement on his character.
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i have acne prone skin, especially on my forehead and cheeks. i went to the dermatologist and got medication to put on at night and was told to wash my face morning and night with a mild cleanser...i did and my skin started to look great..SO much less acne...but suddenly one day ALL the acne came back (not even kidding..it was literally a day it took)...i'm doing all the same things to my skin so i don't understand what's wrong. any tips?
Have you done anything different with your diet? I've heard tell that eating a lot of fatty or greasy foods can promote acne. If you're going back to your dermatologist, ask them about it, because they probably know a lot more than I do, but yeah, what you eat is important to avoid breakouts.
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I wanted to help someone with an advice question about a death in teh family, and I thought I'd explain a little bit of what the bible says about Heaven.. Only, I couldn't find any descriptions! Yeah, I found some for the new city of jerusalem God will make later, but nothing about the current heaven.. help?
Signed,
don't know where to stand...
If you want something that describes heaven, read the last section of the Divine Comedy by Dante. It's a book written in the 14th century by an italian poet that describes heaven hell and purgatory. It's from him that we get our current view of hell, and that is probably the best place to get a poetic view of heaven.
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does anyone know any websites where i can find out what my dreams mean? cause i'm having weird ones!
thanks!
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I know that there are a lot of websites that claim that they can analyze your dreams, but to be honest, they're all junk. Symbology in dreams is all based on YOUR personal experiance, therefore anyone who is analyzing your dreams, is using models off of themselves and other people which won't usually work to understand yours. Freud went into dream analysis later in his career, but like everything freud did, by today's standards, his work is very psuedoscientific and not trustworthy. My advice is not to go to some website to find out. Also, some scientific evidence says that what you dream may have nothing to do at all with your inner psyche, and that it is just wholly random. Dreaming is caused by the firing off of random neurons in your lower brain, and thus it probably has nothing to do with anything.
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hey
I was wondering, how come everyone all of a sudden hates preps?
Like my friends and I were at the movies tonight. And i hate labeling myself but im deffinetely in the prep catogory. And all these punk emo girls were mocking us and and following us saying " like omg im like such a prep like omg" And all this other stuff. MY friends thought they were jelous but i dont know. Does anyone know why everyone doesnt like preps? Like on myspace people are posting bulletins saying " Wow i hate preps" and all this other stuff. Im just being myself,and who i am.
Does anyone know? thanks
Dude, I didn't know preps were still around! I thought you guys all turned into emo. That's all emo seems to be anyways, it's a more sub-culture-ified version of preps. But, when it comes down to it, being against preps is just the new popular thing, because it represents being rebellious. Don't worry, once you get out of high school it all goes away. There are very few groups like that in college or the real world. By the way, being a prep doesn't have any specific requirements, it only has to do with how you dress. Same thing with most other parts of youth sub-culture. As a side note, preppy clothes are considered quite en vogue in the world of high fashion. It's mostly for novelty, though so I wouldn't feel too proud of it.
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