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My name is Brittany, i'm fifteen years old and i live in New York, it's pretty lame here if i do say so myself, but the people are pretty rad; For the most part. I love to hang out with my friends and just be a teenager [pretty cliche] but oh well. I love music, but i guess every teenager does. My favorite band of all time has to be Circa Survive. I know basically anything and everything about them. I have five sibblings; three sisters and two brothers, all in which druve me crazy. But i deal with it. I have an amazing boyfriend, his name is Derek and we've been together since Christmas. He's the most amazing thing i could ever ask for. I love helping people, all of my friends say i'm pretty easy to talk to so thats why i decided to make this advice collumn, to help people. I also love meeting people and making new friends =]

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I really like that short sleeve tunic style, but I don't know where people find them. Please help me! I'd like website links, please =]
Here's an example of the style I'm talking about:
http://store.delias.com/item.do?categoryID=649&itemID=46710&sizeFilter=&colorFilter=&brandFilter=#

the link worked fine, and to answer
your question. the tunic stlye seems to be
getting more and more in As the days go by,

i have several tunics, i buy most of mine
at delias, the store in the link you just sent,
and forever21. but thats just me.

i hope you have those stores near youu.

well i am 13 and having my second child. that pretty much says it all. help?

darling. you don't need any advice.
it's self explanitory. if you are only thirteen
and having your SECOND child, clearly
you need to stop having sex. you are way way too younh.
and obviously not ready or responcible enough.
seeing as you didn't put yourself on birth
control. i hope i dont sound mean,
i really dont mean to but you need to hear
the truth yanno?
=]

Can anybody tell me where to find piano/vocal sheet music for "Autumn's Monologue" by From Autumn to Ashes?

I've been looking at sites, but I can't find it.

first off i love that song. second, have you tried
to just goodle it? maybe search for vocal sheets or
something of that nature, i wish i knew a site with that
kind of stuff but im afraid i dont =[ if i come across
anything ill let you know =]

I am female, 15 years old, 5'2 ish and 136 pounds. How much weight would it be necessary to loose to be average? Don't tell me to get a doctor's opinion, I already have, but I want to know what you guys think. I'll rate; Thanks in advance!

it doesnt sound as though you are overweight.
that weight is very normal,
maybeeeeee? 5 lbs?

thats ONLY if you feel you need to though.
i think youre probabbly very healthy looking.

definitaly not fat.

ok so i probally sound stupid for asking this but what does it mean when someone pops your cherry i dont get it

stupid probally but help anyways

when someone "pops your cherry" it means they
broke your virginity. which is the hymen inside
of your vagina, but if you play vigerous sports
or use a tampon it could have alreadybeen broken.

but don't worry, that doesnt mean youre not
a virgin anymore!

there are many other ways of saying it, such as:

losing your v-card
losing your flower
broken her in.

etc etc

hope i helped :)

Ok, so right now I have a 50% in math. Which is failing. I have to bring it up to a 70% by April 4 and I don't know how. I went three times already to ask my teahcer for help and it doesn't work. I stink at memorizing things. I really don't want a tutor because the one my mom would send me to is my crush's mom! I'm in level one.. taking algebra and it's just so hard. I have A's in all my other classes but this one. My teacher only counts hw and quizzes. What should I do??

ive had the same problem before.
all i can say is, do your homework,
and do it everyday. have an older friend
or parent check it, if your teacher grades
them, but if he/she just looks to see it's done;
make sure it's always, and i mean always done.
by having all the full points for having your
homework in, it will boost your average alot.

gooodluck

Okay, I got most of my fathers genes in me. I have extremely hairy arms, I do shave them though. As a girl, it embarrasses me very badly. I've been to doctors and they've given me pills to see less hair growth, but the hair that was already there will just keep growing. (Which is a lot) I'm in my first year of highschool, and I'm VERY self conscious about my arms. I wear long sleeves/jackets until I can't take it anymore. (And I live in Texas, so it is already sooo hot right now) What do you suggest I do? Keep shaving them? It's time consuming, every other day I have to do it cause my hair grows back so fast, and it's just now fair other girls have basically no hair on their arms & they do nothing to them. Ahh, what to do, I have to start wearing short sleeves, the heats too much.

i agree with the person below me.

there are many options for hair removal,

1) dying it blonde
2) nair it off
3) waxing
4) shaving
5) hormone pills

the list goes on and on,

goodluck=]

wat are some good kind of sad songs..that you can listen to while you broke up with some1

well bu seeing the other people's responces
to your question, i think you have enough songs.

but, what im concerned about is, why would you want
to listen to sad, break up songs when youve been
in a break up? i mean if you like to, its your choice, but sometimes sad songs can make you feel worse, maybe you should try listening to more happy upbeat music, it might help you feel better =]

just saying from experience, i was dumped on friday.
=[[[ happy music makes me feel better.

hey
iv heard that if u straighten ur hair it falls out....... is this tru?

well, not necessarily 'falls our'
but it can becoms damaged and start
to break off, this is because the
heat from the straightener damages
your hair, making it mroe brittany and
thinner, which causes it to break.

not to mention split ends. yuck!
you should try using a hot iron prtectans
serum. it works for me! =]

Hola, i need some serious help for my thighs! I HATE them and summer is coming up, i dont want to spend another summer ebing emabaraassed in my bathing suit. PLEASE if anybody ahs got any tips on how to lose the flabh from the thigs and/or lower stomach. Diet tips are helpful too, im desperate, and WILL RATE 5's!!

hmm. i have the SAME problem darlin.

have you tried thigh lifts?
its when you lay on your side
and lift one leg up and lower it slowly,
and repeat about 25-30 times.

then go on your other side and do the same,
also you could try lower body aerobics.

doing the thigh lifts every night before bed and
doing the aerobics 2-3 times a week and your
sure to have stronger/slimmer thighs
by summer. not to mention with the aerobics
youll prolly be shrinking everywhere else too =]

i straighten my hair everyday, and i dont use any special conditioners or anything. Is that bad? i use garnier fructis shampoo & conditioner, if that helps. thanks xOx [♥]

well, it isn't bad pursay.
but it probabbly isn't all that
healthy for your hair, i mean
you're burning it every single day.

now don't get me wrong, i do the same;
but maybe you should consider buying a
hot iron protecting serum, it's just like
a spray you put in your hair before straightening
it and it helps shield it from heat damage.

i'd give you the name of the one i use,
but i let my boyfriend borrow it cause
he straightens his hair too [lol] sorrry.

What does wishing on 11:11 mean?

making a wish at 11:11 is just, well making
a wish at 11:11. it's fun me and my boyfriend
would always make one together just for the fun
of it, people say 1:11 or 2:22 or 3:33 works too,
but i dont think it's as fun cause all the numbers
(all four) arent the same.

but i also wish on 12:34 =]

[ 1 2 3 4, get it?]

haha im lame.

so... i finally got my first makeout. me and the guy had it planned. well, i went in and i'm sure either i messed it up ors omething but he said i wasn't bad at all, but i don't know.... i didn't really like it, kinda? i think it was just the guy. but now i'm scared that i'll think kissing/making out isn't fun at all. is it really fun? or do you think that i just didn't think so 'cause my first time i was nervous and it was all planned...? haha sorry, i'm just really confused, any help will be great. :D

you're not alone!

this is so common it's not even funny.
my own first makeout was a disaster!
the wrong guy, the wrong time, the wrong place.
nothing was right.

but theres good news! kissing CAN be fun.
it's all about who you're doing it with,
and how comfortable you are around this person.

my boyfriend and i are so close. so kissing is
completely fun! we always fool around and try new
things or joke around, it's really a great thing
to trust the person youre kisssing.

ANYWAYS, darling don't worry. you will start to
enjoy it more after youve found the right guy.

and as far as planning it? haha. boys are silly.
my first kiss was planned. BAD IDEA. it kills the
moment. you were just nervous, dont think you were
bad there really isnt a "bad" kisser, everyone
kisses differently. some are just more to your
liking.

hope i helped darlingg.

i'm 14 and i'm always exhausted!! everyday i want to come home && take a nap, but i'm not aloud.

also i've had a headache since feb 12th & its horrible!

i've had a histroy with headaches & had many tests.

any possible things you can say? blood test be good?

& alot of times i'm so tired and i want sleep so bad, i take 2 tylenol pm to get to sleep. i'm affriad i wo'nt get enough slepe so i take it to fall asleep

thanks

i completely agree with partygurl. this sounds
like a case of over stress.

do you eat breakfast& lunch everyday?
i used to not eat those meals and by the
end of the day i had no energy, and always slept
after school, im not sure if its this case with you.
but if you arent, try to atleast eat something,even
if small. small is better than nothing.

but as far as the tests go, perhaps you're being overworked. this is very common in kids' situations.

just pase yourself, and don't get all worked up
over tests, study for 30-45 mins a day,
not 4 hours in one night.

im not sure if you do, but just in case.

hope i helped darlingg

i'm 14/f

my father is taking my mother to court because i won't go to this house.

don't call me a bad child for not going, i mean theres solid reasons.

by law, could they make me go over his house?

&& could they determine if i had to go based on the reasons why i'm not going? hes trying to take my mom to jail bc she is "not allowing me to go over"

but i'm the one who is the reason why i'm not going there!

any help please!!!!!

ok i had this same EXACT problem.

if you have solid reasons, the court WILL listen
to them, yo're old enough to have an oppinion
concerning visitation. however, if your reasons
for now going are like, "he makes me clean"
"he's mean to me" "he grounds me for no reason"

they might not take you seriously,
if he hits you, or abuses you mentally,
let the court know. and your mother will
not get into any trouble.

just make sure you let the court know it's YOUR
deicision to why you're not going to your fathers
house, not hers.

good luck sweeetie

will first time sex hurt even if your hymen has broken? will you still be tight or will it be good the first time?

your first time will most likely be painful.
and also, pretty akward as well.

im just speaking from friend's oppinions,
but even if your hymen is broken you still
may be tight and it will be pretty uncomfortable
at first. but if the person youre going to be with
loves you he'll be gentle, as long as you tell him.

i like my bf's best friend! hes available but he doesnt really want a gf rite now he flirts with a lotta girls but i reallly reallly like him but i still like my bf too i dont know what to do really i no this is probably a common question but ill rate high thanks in advance

this can be pretty common.

well, do you like your boyfriend or his best friend more? that may answer your question, however if he doesnt want a girlfriend you really shouldn't trouble yourself with this guy, and risk the relationship you have right now.

this it well over before making any decisions.

and don't forget to discuss how you feel with
your boyfriend because it isnt fair to not let him know.

good luck

I am looking for a fast paced techno song preferably with no words. Any suggestion will be greatly appreciated!

have you ever hear dj tiesto? he's amazing.
all his music is amazing, search anything by him. or ferry corston.
good luck!

I really really like one of my best friends ex's. If he asks me out idk what to say! Cause I love my best friend but I really like him too!

And if this helps, my best friend decided to like the same guy I used liked right after I told her I liked him. ( I like her EX now ) And I was really hurt cause she started flirting with him constantly and won him over and now they're going out so she took a guy away from me, would it be wrong to go out with her old ex?!

hmmm, i think this all depends on HOW MUCH she liked
this guy. if it wasn't a huge amount, go for it.
but if they were obviously in a more serious
relationship that might make it difficult.

think about it this way, how did you feel when she
decided to like the guy you liked? i'm sure you probabbly felt hurt, and bad, and possibly even
back-stabbed.

it's hard to try to understand, but sometimes you
need to make the better choice that she failed to
make. if you decide not to date this guy, be sure
to let her know WHY you chose not to. If you tell
her you cared about her feelings because you knew
what it felt like to have a guy taken from you,
she will feel bad, and HOPEFULLY.. she'll learn
to appreciate you more as a friend, and not do
that to you again in the future.

always remember, it's just a guy. friends should
always come first. but i can understand how you
are feeling right now. my best friend took my boy-
friend from me, after us being together for 6
months. so i can understand both aspects of this
situation.

maybe if she sees that you two get along
really well, she might start to accept the
idea of you liking this boy. who knows.

good luck darling, hope i helped !

-Brittany

how do you take a tampon out?

just simply pull the string, but you should wair a bit before talking it out because if it hasn't absorbed anything, it could hurt a bit.

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