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my father=sperm donor
i'm 14/f
my father is taking my mother to court because i won't go to this house.
don't call me a bad child for not going, i mean theres solid reasons.
by law, could they make me go over his house?
&& could they determine if i had to go based on the reasons why i'm not going? hes trying to take my mom to jail bc she is "not allowing me to go over"
but i'm the one who is the reason why i'm not going there!
any help please!!!!!
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i know that you dont have to until you turn 18. you need to meet him once, then thats it.
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Write a letter to the judge with the reasons you do not want to go to your Dad's house. Make sure you explain that your Mother will allow you to, but you don't want to. Write the facts and leave the emotions out.
Go to a notary and have the letter notarized (you will have to sign it in front of the notary and have a picture ID). Most banks have a notary of the public.
Keep a copy of the notarized letter.
Go to the courthouse and ask to file the letter as an affidavit in the case of: ___ (your parents names).
The judge will have time to review the affidavit before the court case, and you may be called to testify.
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Well I had the same problem...and well I got to stay with my mom althought it was like joint custody my dad doesn't come to see me again. This is so tough because you become so emotionally fit and esp at your age...I was 7-10 wen it happened to me. Well the first thing is try to get ur mom or lawyer to seek a child physcologist...n then from there she/he will determine who is fit for you. you're jus 14 and you won't be able to go to court so the closet u can get is the physcologists. I hope your mom doesn't get in trouble and you get to stay with her!!
BEST OF LUCK...and stay strong!!!
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ok i had this same EXACT problem.
if you have solid reasons, the court WILL listen
to them, yo're old enough to have an oppinion
concerning visitation. however, if your reasons
for now going are like, "he makes me clean"
"he's mean to me" "he grounds me for no reason"
they might not take you seriously,
if he hits you, or abuses you mentally,
let the court know. and your mother will
not get into any trouble.
just make sure you let the court know it's YOUR
deicision to why you're not going to your fathers
house, not hers.
good luck sweeetie
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This is definitely a hard position for you. I think the best thing to do now is to testify in court for you mom's behalf. I mean, if it isn;t your mother isn't at fault for your actions, don't you think you should let the judge, jury, and everyone else know that you are really the one who doesn't want to go, and that you mom is not the reason for your doings. Also, I greatly consider you talking to your mom and others about why you don't want to go to house. It's your decision, so I'm pretty sure that no one can force you to go to his house. Maybe if you feel uncomfortable in his house or something, you could have someone stay there with you. There's a solution to your problem, all you have to do is find a way to locate it and apply it. I hope I helped and I hope all goes well for you and your family.
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You can try to get the judge to let you speak in court I suppose. Moms lawyer will be able to tell her if you could.
If the judge doesn't allow it, then yes you're not going could get your mom in trouble. If you are ordered by the court to go...you gotta go.
Have mom ask her lawyer what you can do to help. :)
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