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Heyyy, I'm Mary:)
I've been on here for over four years--Ask me anything, and I'll try my best to help you out. :)

Alpha female, always tries her hardest, analyzes the situation too much, overthinks what the other person says, tries to please others, stresses easily, high achiever, loooooves to laugh. I'm still learning the facts of life, but I can always share my mistakes and lessons learned. :)

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Okay, so my best friend and I are guy crazy..but she has like a new boyfriend every week and/or has this "hott guy" whose like 5 years older than her who likes her. I mean when we talk on the phone THATS ALL SHE TALKS ABOUT and she tells me every single detail and wont shutup about "oh my gosh he's really cute". But whenever i have guy news she doesnt comments or she's like "oh,wow" then she continues on with her stupid conversation. I MEAN YEAH SHE'S A HOE!!! EVERYONE AT SCHOOL SAYS IT. But how do i tell her to shut the eff up without sounding so mean?

"If she turns on you, she was never your friend to begin with." NOOOOO. Do not yell at her. Simply tell her you are tired of hearing about this guy and explain why. Tell her that you are tired of seeing her with a new guy every week. Do not yell at your friend..she does not know she is bothering you. She is not doing it intentionally..she is just excited about this super "hot guy." Calmly tell her you do not want to hear about this guy anymore for the main fact that she will probably dump him in the next week or so. She can find someone better. Ask her to hang out in order to develop inside jokes..so she can take her mind of this guy. A friendship is a two way street. Yes, I understand that when she says "Oh wow.." to you, it is very inconsiderate. I have had friends that were like that as well. Whenever they wanted me to listen, I would listen. But when it came my turn to talk about a guy? "Haha, that's funny" AND THEN THEY MOVED ON. Yes it bothered me..but it was just their personalities. It may be a little selfish, but it's just who they are. If you and your friend can't find something else to talk about besides this guy of hers, you don't need her or her friendship. Find a friend who WILL listen to you.

I entered in the contest on sugarloot to audition for the Clique Movie, and I was wondering if I was good. I mean i'm confused because some girls on that website showed no emotion or interest in winning whatsoever and they are getting rated better. I really tried to act like a nervous Claire. Do you think I have a chance of winning? I can't take off my entry because already alot of people have rated this one and it would be a bad idea to take it off. What is your honest opinion about me?

http://www.sugarloot.com/entry/232143834

I love The Clique! Honestly, I liked how you portrayed Claire's nervousness, but you moved your eyes a lot...like you rolled them..I mean, I know you're not supposed to be looking directly at the camera, but you could have been more calm and sad..instead of whiny and hyped. You do portray Claire as scared and nervous though.

I have been dating my girlfriend Caitlyn for two years in October. She is the most amazing girl i have ever met and about 7 months ago i gave her a promise ring and i know Cait is the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with. Sometimes we get into little fights and blow them way out of proportion. About a month ago we had one of these fights and she wouldn't come to a party with me that night. At that party, i got pretty drunk and slept with a girl from another school. I didn't tell her about it and everything seemed like it was fine until this girl i slept with showed up at my baseball game and just so happens to sit down next to Cait and her best friend without knowing it was them. They start talking and pretty soon Becca, the girl from the party, has to go so she asks my girl friend if she could give me a ring back that i had left at her house (the promise rings we gave each other. i guess i left it there that night) of course my girlfriend gets curious why this girl has my ring and so she asks becca about it and she told her the whole thing. After the game Cait brought the ring up to me and said that my "little friend Becca" thought i would want it back and asked her to give it to me. I was totallly shocked and had no idea even what to say. Cait broke it off right then and there. I need to find some way to make it up to her. She is the love of my life and i totally regret what i did but she won't even talk to me which is really awkward since i am at her house all the time since her brothers are my best friends and her dad is my football coach. How can i get her back?

Oh wow. The typical thing to say would be "If you really loved her, you wouldn't have slept with somebody else..." But I guess it wouldn't help your situation any further if I said that, now would it? The only thing you can do is explain EVERYTHING to her and hope that she understands. You need to beg, ask for forgiveness, TELL HER YOU CARE ABOUT HER...but not only tell her, you must PROVE IT. Tell her you were drunk and out of your mind. Make her understand that you know what you did was wrong, and you regret it with everything inside of you. In order for your relationship to rebuild itself, you must pick up the pieces. If she does decide to forgive you (then obviously she loves you enough to give you a second chance), you're going to have to rebuild the trust in the relationship. It's not going to be easy...but if you claim to love her this much, then I assume you must be willing to go to any extent to get her back. Good luck!

I can't read far away such as if I'm in the back of a room in a classroom, I can't read the chalk board. I can define the color, but not the words. I can also see shapes at a distance, but not words. I sometimes have a hard time reading street names. Also, if there is words on the television and I'm far way, I can't read the word because it's a blur. Am I nearsighted and what happens when you are?

Yes, you are nearsighted (also known as myopia.)

(Wikipedia) Those with myopia see nearby objects clearly but distant objects appear blurred. With myopia, the eyeball is too long, or the cornea is too steep, so images are focused in the vitreous inside the eye rather than on the retina at the back of the eye.

-Don't worry! You're not going to be blind. This is common in a lot of people. You should go get your eyes checked, and then the optometrist will prescibe glasses/contacts for you (whichever you prefer!) Your vision will be better and you will not have trouble seeing objects in distances anymore.

Sooo i have this freind who hurt me really bad....for discreation purposes lets just call him "C".

I just dont know what to do! He was a great freind and then almost overnight he despised me! It hurts to see the anger in his eyes, almost enough to forgive him for all the awful things he said and did to me. I am not one who holds grudges too long however if i forgive him for this wont i jsut be a push over, and who can forget the cruel things of the past? I know "sticks and stones break your bones but words can never hurt you", but personally that motto is overrated, words can be painful and leave scars.

School is about to start and i will have to see "c" several times a day!

What should i do?? Play the good guy and forgive and forget?? Or stand up for myself..and refuse to forget until there is a true feeling of remorse from him??

:)

Well, it seems as if neither of ya'll are willing to give in to the situation. Unfortunately, "forgiving and forgetting" is not as easy as it sounds. Don't go through the school year worrying about him...because then you will always be on the look out for him, and that will make you self-conscious and leave you with little time to actually enjoy your high school years. I don't think you should play "the good guy," as you have mentioned..because, why should you? If "C" hurt you THAT much, why should YOU be the one to apologize to him? Standing up for yourself could be an option, but how would he react? Does he feel the same way. You need to figure out how HE feels about the situation and look at how he reacted from his standpoint. Holding on to a grudge is something you do not want to do. Trust me, it weighs you down, and will make you feel horrible 95% of the time.

Although from what you have told me, it seems like it is HIS fault...did you ever think it could possibly be yours? Think about it...what did you do to him? If it's something stupid, and he hurt you over it, then he's not a real friend if he's not willing to patch it up. Stay neutral right now...because over time, things will straighten out. "C" needs to grow up and learn to get off HIS high horse and apologize. ;)

If you are infact, the victim in this situation, don't APOLOGIZE...wait it out because a REAL friend will overcome anything, no matter how big the obstacle.

What if HE is feeling the same way you are feeling? Look at his viewpoint..do you agree? Or can you find a reason to disagree?

Let him know how you're feeling. If you've already done so, how was his reaction? I am assuming it wasn't so great, since you are asking for my advice...All I can say is wait it out. Don't do anything else if you've done all that you've can. Best of Luck!

Okay so my state (TN) has decided to mandate that every student K-12 get 90 minutes of excersize a week. Well they are using our homeroom time at my school to do just that. I think it is incredibly stupid because its not the school's responsibility to tell us what to do as far as excersizing goes. It is so damn retarded I can hardly stand it. I HATE coming to school now. OMG as if it wasnt bad enough LETS THROW IN SOME EXCERSIZE!!! Plus my homeroom teacher is strict with the rules, so if we dont do these excersizes every morning, she will write us up. I dont feel like I can talk to her because she wont understand. And I cant sit there and object while everyone else is doing it because that will draw negative attention to me. I get enough attention as it is for being fat. And thats not the reason I dont want to do the excersizes. It's just that 15 minutes is a long time for someone who is as heavy as I am and its embarassing to have my fat jiggle around for the whole freaking class to watch and laugh at. I would much prefer to excersize in PRIVACY where I dont have to worry about what I look like. High school is bad enough as it is. I think this is pure torture and I really want to refuse to do it. But I dont want to bring negative attention to myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? and what is your opinion on our new state law??

Honestly, I wish my school would make us do that! It would wake us all up in the morning AND we'd be getting 15 minutes of excercise! There's NO HARM in that at all..it's going to make you more fit. Plus, 15 minutes is NOTHING. What's 15 minutes of excercising per day going to hurt? I understand you're self conscious, but this 15 minute excercise thing should be a wake up call...and be honest with yourself, if the school didn't make you excercise everyday, would you REALLY do it at home? Sure, the first few days will go according to plan, but it will fall through unless you're REALLY serious about losing weight/getting in shape. The state is not "torturing" you; they are infact, HELPING you. No one is laughing at you because everyone has their own insecurities and don't you think they'd be worried about themselves too, rather than you? I think this new state law is FABULOUS, and I know it seems totally lame, but in the long run, it will be better for you, your classmates, your school, all the schools in your city, and practically your state. Obesity is something that is in 60% of Americans, and it is nice to know that the state is at least TRYING to take action to reduce those numbers.

My friend gave me a gift card to abercrombie. Generally I fit way better into their store Abercrombie and Fitch. Abercrombie just has smaller sizes.. because that is the store for younger kids, and I'm pretty skinny so my friend gave me the gift card for there.

Anyways..basically I'm wondering, since technically Abercrombie & Fitch is not the exact same store as Abercrombie, if its even possible for me to use the gift card at abercrombie and fitch? Sine its for abercrombie..

Yes, you can still use it for Abercrombie & Fitch..I've done it. :)

my cousin and his friends are going to be down here this weekend and we will be wearing bathing suits im not fat i just need to tone up and they are all toned cause they can drive and go to the gym! i feel embarased

start doing situps/ crunches..nowww. :)
infact, once you stop reading this, go do it..
although, i don't see who you have to impress..they're your cousins. lol. you probably won't get a toned stomach within a matter of 2 days..but if it makes you feel good, then go for it.

I heard this song at Fenway Park, and I googled it and can't find the lyrics to it.

The chorus is kind of like come on over, sister and a brother, feel the sunshine, it's gonna be alright?

haha..i really don't know much of it, but does anyone else know it?

I'm pretty sure it's "Streetcorner Symphony" by Rob Thomas. :)

im either a 1 or 3 in hollister jeans or a 2 or 4 in a&f jeans. what size of jeans would i be in the sizes like " 28, 29, etc.?"

No, I don't think you'd be a 25 because when I was a 00 at Abercrombie, and a 0 or 1 at Hollister, I was a 25. Maybe you should try like a 26 or 27. It also depends on the kind of jeans you try on..not all sizes are exactly the same.

Can anyone please tell me why Ginger Spice left the Spice Girls?

Thanks so much!

On May 31, 1998, Geri Halliwell announced her departure from the Spice Girls. Through her solicitor, Julian Turton, she issued the following statement: "Sadly I would like to confirm that I have left the Spice Girls. This is because of differences between us. I'm sure the group will continue to be successful and I wish them all the best." Halliwell claimed that she was suffering from exhaustion and wanted to take time out. However, rumours persisted that she had fallen out with one of the other girls (reportedly Melanie B). Although this has never been confirmed, the autobiographies of Victoria Beckham, Geri Halliwell, and Melanie B all hint that this was the case. Geri’s departure from the group shocked fans and became one of the biggest entertainment news stories of the year, making news headlines the world over.

-wikipedia :)

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i need opinions.
kay.. for spring im getting ed hardy sneakers & clog birkenstocks. im trying to not spend alot of money though, so i can get more clothes.

so i found the betula birkenstocks, (for 40.00),
-http://item.express.ebay.com/__Footwear_Betula-Birkenstock-TAUPE-TAN-SUEDE-CLOG-36-Ladies-5_W0QQitemZ150099580114QQihZ005QQptdnZFootwearQQptdiZ199QQcmdZExpressItem
but i hate wearing fakes/ copies. but it would
save me money and they are "made by birkenstock"

what do you guys think? the birkenstocks or betulas?

or where can i get real clog birkenstocks cheaper (not ebay, or amazon)?

So I went through many pairs of clogs before I got my birkenstocks..from walmart to american eagle to betula to birkenstock. Honestly, just go for the real ones. The quality is better and it lasts longer..and IT'S REAL! My betulas broke after a couple months because the staple holding the straps together came out. Birkenstocks usually don't have a lower price than what it's sold for...UNLESS you catch a sale or something. Nordstrom's usually lowers the price of Birkenstocks down to like $70 I think during their half yearly sale..so you could wait, if you want..but other than that, $120 is the price you pay.

_____ is a bay located in South Of America. It is well known because of it's natural funnel shape.

what is the "____"?? I'm going crazy!!! I got it wrong on a quiz and I have to find the right answer!

Well, I just googled "funnel shaped bay in South of America" and the Bay of Fundy came up. :)

any idea where i can get a dress similar to
http://www.toywebb.net/images/spice-girls-logo.jpg
the girl infront wearing like the british flag?
its soo cute! and i live in america..
unless i have to go to england to get it.
thats okay, too.

My friend got a dress similar to that for our Sadies dance at http://mydivascloset.com/britflagspan.html

im a senior in high school i think i hav to go to a community college, i've had prenty of "d"s in 10th and 9th grade. This year i stopped slacking of and took ap courses. i havn't take sat or act. im wondering if i can still go to a uc, during the fall 07 instead of a community college. my big prob is that my mom wont allow me to go to college she wants me to go stair to a university?
im in a biggy, what now?

You can go to ANY college you want. Just because you've made some mistakes in the past doesn't mean it should hold you back from achieving you you want to do. Although I must admit your grades aren't as great as they should be, (considering the d's), prep for the SAT/ACT and aim high. No, you don't have to be some perfect score genious but just try and range towards above 1500. If you're good with time, take the ACT because it's more straightforward but the time contraint is horrible (but also consider the fact that ACT doesn't count off for wrong answers.) Your mom just has high expectations for you. If by any chance, you can't make it into a university RIGHT NOW, go to a community college for one year and then transfer out. If you work hard right now though, I promise your chances will increase and more opportunities will open up for you! It's never too late! :)

I was talking to my friends like an hour or more earlier and they were at one friends' house hanging out. Since they were going to leave his house soon, they told me they were going to another friend (he lives like 2 minutes walk away from me)to watch a movie and that they'd call me when they get there so i can go over. They told me they'd call me in 10 minutes but they didnt, so i called them like 5 minutes ago and they were like "oh yeah, we're watching the movie right now". They didnt even invite me or remember that they were suppose to call me or anything. Needless to say, Im annoyed and slightly hurt. I don't know if i have a right to be. There's like five of them and not one of them bothered calling me or asking me if i was coming over. My friend was like "Yeah we're watching the movie.. why are you calling us?" I didnt feel like explaining that I thought i was invited... apparently i wasn't? I dont know. So now I'm quite upset.. my question is do I have a right to be? Or am I just overreacting?

Yes, you have a right to be mad! I would personally be enraged..but that's just me. They said they were gonna call you but they didn't, and that's understandable that you would be upset. However, I don't think you should confront them about it..just let it go instead of making it into something that shouldn't be made into. They may have just forgotten to call you. I understand why you're mad and you def. have a right to be upset because it was kind of rude of your friend to say "Yeah we're watching the movie.. why are you calling us?" when they OBVIOUSLY said they were going to call you back. Just let it go this time..and if it happens again, confront them.

Have you ever felt like theres just to much going on in your life? Like im just so mentally exhausted..its goes from school, to cheerleading tryouts, to soccer, to work, to cleaning my dads house...and constantly getting bitched at for being to tired to do anything productive. I love everything i do i love the sports im in.. i hate my job but ihave to pay for my car..and tryouts is worrying the shit out of me...i mean im getting so stressed out. Im tired all the time and i kinda hit a depression. I know what everyones gonna say is that i need to quit one of those things but i dont want to quit i just want to find a way to relax and feel better. Any advice?

Take a mental health day and do NOTHING related to those things. Go to a spa or go shopping and SPLURGE. Trust me, you'll feel better. I understand how you feel because sometimes I feel overwhelmed with everything going on in my life, but I just have to stop. Do something that can take your mind off of your responsibilities like car washing or hanging out with friends. You'll feel much rejuvenated after that day, I promise:)

i hate my job with a passion. Like i seriously get depressed thinking about going to work. I get yelled at all the time, i work ith none of my friends, everyone i work with is so annoyingly bossy and takes there job TOOOO seriously. I like the job because its the only one that will revolve around my schedule plus i make about 35 bucks a night on tips and 6 bucks an hour ontop of that so im making about 60 bucks a night for 5 hours work. What would you do? would you quit? Would you try harder? PLUS i always get yelled at cuz everyone thinks i suck..

Personally, I would quit because I wouldn't want to keep feeling like total crap. If everyone thinks you suck, then why stay at your job if you're going to suffer? If you dread going to work, then why go at all? My suggestion would be to look for another job..SURELY, there's another job out there that can work out according to your schedule...maybe the pay won't be the same, maybe the people won't be the same, but a new environment may be good for your emotional health:)You don't have to put up with those frigid co-workers.

i have a sony cyber-shot digital camera and when i turn it on the screen is all white, did i do something to it, do i need to have it repaired or is it ruined. your help would be much appreciated.

yeah i have the same camera and that happens to me sometimes. mine's about 2-3 years old. just take the batteries out and put them back in. idk just turn it on and off a couple times..if it doesnt work, then take it to where you got it and see if you can get it fixed (if you have a warranty)

i have to find the whole number ratio of
0.04 g-atoms of iron to 0.034375 g-atoms of copper. can someone help me i have no idea how to do this. thank you

what do you mean by g-atom? like from grams to atoms?...if that's the case, then I would take the 0.04 and divide it by the GFM of iron--which gives you moles-convert the moles to molecules (atoms) by multiplying by 6.02 x 10^23. take the grams of copper, divide by GFM, which gives you moles, multiply times the molecules conversion number..then compare.

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