Ok, I have this friend who just broke it off with her bf a month ago. All of sudden she has 'my happiness' on her snapchat stories and all sorts of stuff like that. The next day she comes to me crying. I find out that he is texting her saying that he wants her back even though he is dating someone else. Then today he went up to her and yelled at her face pushing her. I don't want her sad no more. And she isn't over him and he keeps fuxking up her emotions. And mind I say she has been cutting too. Please help me. I don't want her like this. I love her as a friend and I don't want to lose her completely.... ://
This sounds like a manipulative and a nasty guy. He broke up with her to go off with someone else but at the same time does not want her to go off with someone else so that he can go back to her whenever he wants (I assume after he had his fun with his new gf and then got bored). Either way, this guy sounds like someone who is an abusive, controlling douche. Your friend needs to completely cut him loose and if he doesn't leave her alone she should talk to someone about it. I have no idea how old you or your friend is but am assuming you are young so she should try speaking to perhaps one of her parents who she can talk to about how her ex won't leave her alone - then something can be done about it.
However, it is easy to say that this guy is really bad news and she should cut him out of her life completely but this will not happen unless it is something she actually wants. As you said, she is not over him and this gives him the edge and he knows it too, he knows that all he has to do is push the right buttons and she will just come running back to him. It will be down to her friends (you) to talk to her to make her see what he is doing to her.
No one deserve to be treated the way he is treating her - like an object that he can order what to do and what she can't do (like who she can talk to). That is not a healthy relationship and in fact all it will do is slowly eat away and her confidence until it becomes something that is normal, and it is NOT normal. She should snap herself out of this circle of abuse at his hands (because that is what is it if he is just messing with her emotions) and give herself time to heal away from someone toxic like him. She will feel like she won't find anyone else and how she loves him and all that stuff and she may genuinely feel that way now but eventually it will all go and when she does find someone who is willing to treat her with a measure of respect I can promise she will look back and think, "What the hell was I thinking, being with someone like that?!"
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This is not really a question. I just want to have someone hear me bitch and talking to the people close to me could cause problems.
So I am GMing a tabletop RPG, and currently, I have one troublesome player, Lance. I have made the mistake of complaining about him to one or two of the other players. This is a bad thing to do because it makes the other players more aware of Lance's attitude and can turn the whole group against him. This is not what I want. I want everyone to have a good time, including Lance.
A little background info, we are playing Vampire the Requiem. I have made a few small chances to how exp is rewarded but other than that we are following the core rules. Before char creation I explained my changes and how the theme of the game would work. The players were not expected to all be in a group and where free to pursue whatever goals they wanted within Pittsburgh year 1902.
Why is Lance such a problem you ask? In short he is impatient. Due to the nature of the game I am dividing my attention between four players all of which are following their own goals. I have the players paths cross often so that there can be more player-players interaction. However there is bound to be some times where a given players is not in the scene with the others and they just have to wait their turn. That is when Lance starting signing and moaning.
Here is the part where I stating bitching. I was having an NPC talk to another players when I heard Lance say "longest... session... ever" that made my blood boil. I put so much fucking work into these NPC and this world. I have spent days crafting an in-depth world. I have interesting character with conflicting goals and build in opportunity for the players to get involved in the tense politics, if they so choose. I actively strive to give each player equal time. I make sure to be fair to everyone. None of my other players are unhappy and they understand that they cannot be in scene all the time. Lance has made other comments about his boredom and it makes me want to ring his neck. It is always this small passive aggressive bull shit. I feel like if you don't enjoy playing then don't fucking come. The group does not need him he does more harm than good. The main thing that gets to me is how disrespectful it is to me and the rest of the players. I did not pick the Vampire theme. The players wanted that. If it was solely up to me I would run Mage, but the players wanted vampire so here I am. I create a face book group keep everyone organized help make characters. All the other players understand that this is a team effort and that it is not all about them personally enjoyment. We are all in this together. Lance is over here interrupting other people's fun with his impatience. Sometimes you just have to wait your fucking turn.
I have dealt with disruptive players before the best solution I have found is to dedicate sometime to them early in each session, and make them happy asap. His character is a 100% social character. I gave him a long social scene right at the start of the last session and made sure he came out on top. That seemed to satisfy him for most of the game. However if I do that every game I will be giving him a lot more time and rewards relative to the other players so I have to be careful, It may just be a temporary fix. In one of the supplemental book it talks about a social combat system. I think this might make social stuff more engaging for him and the rest of the group. Maybe that system may be a long term fix I hope.
When it comes to games like these, players like Lance will always be a problem and a test of the patience of a GM/MOD. I have had to deal with people like this many times on a game I used to Mod for (it was a mobile game though). I think you have actually gone out of your way and really tried to help him out but he seems like the kind of person who is only happy when he gets his way and is at the centre of attention and as you said yourself this is not something that is practical as it would be unfair on the other players.
Sometimes you just have to put your foot down and be the person in charge as opposed to trying to be everyone's friend and this means that you may have to tell him, "Tough luck, wait your turn like everyone else."
As you said yourself, if he has that much of a problem with it he doesn't have to play but then he keeps on playing anyway. As a Mod I had been in a alliance of lots of members but I did my job as a Mod regardless of this and warned/muted various players even in my own alliance because they violated the rules. They complained and such but I made it clear that although I am on their side and their team I am also a Mod and I have been entrusted with a job to do which I will do regardless. A large majority of the people understood this and never had a problem with it.
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23/f
I started dating this guy that I met at a bar around November 2016 and I really liked him. During the first couple of months though we fought a lot. We fought mostly because the majority of my friends are male, which I understand. He didn't really know me and he didn't know that they were platonic friends of mine. I realized very quickly that he was a jealous kind of guy. We got together as a couple, we broke up, we got back together, etc.
Then in February 2017, he cheated on me with a girl at a bar. We broke up and eventually got back together.
Fast forward to now, May 2017. I moved into his house and as far as I know, he hasn't talked to any girls that he shouldn't be. We still fight about the dumbest stuff though almost everyday. Every time we get into a huge screaming match I sit there and I think, "how is this my life? Is this really the kind of person I want to be with?" because I don't fight with people. Fighting is my least favorite thing to do, especially with someone that I love. He still gets mad at me when I make a decision to hang out with someone, even girl friends. He doesn't trust me and we always get into the fight that if I wanted to go out and do something that that's not the kind of girlfriend that he wants and "we want different things out of life". I love the kid and I love the security that we have financially (which I wouldn't have if it weren't for him).
Onto the real part of my question:
I had a job at a video store a couple of years ago and I worked with this guy that I became friends with. We had hooked up a couple of times the summer before I met my boyfriend and I really, really liked him. I figured our "relationship" was just a series of booty calls and thought this guy was way out of my league and would never pursue a real relationship with me. It kind of hurt so I broke off the physical relationship we had and I got over it when I met my boyfriend. Well, this guy just got ahold of me a few days ago and confessed that he actually likes me and doesn't want to cause problems in my relationship but really just wanted me to know that he had feelings for me. I always thought that he was the kind of person I wanted to be with and that could provide me with a fun, loyal relationship.
So now I'm at a crossroads because I finally realize that I don't have to settle for someone who treats me like garbage because someone good CAN actually like me, even if nothing came out of this guy that I used to like. What do I do? I'm so very much in love with my boyfriend and sometimes I think that I'm happy with him but when we fight it seriously hurts and depresses me. I don't have any freedom to be friends with anyone I used to be close to or do any of the things I used to love doing. I miss having a fun relationship and doing things together instead of just staying home all of the time. I guess I'm scared of losing him but I'm not 100% happy. Is that how relationships are supposed to be? You just work through it? I'm scared of breaking it off, moving out and then regretting it. I'm just so lost I guess.
If this doesn't make any sense, just let me know haha. I know I'm all over the place and it's a pretty long question. Thanks for reading!
Hi. Surprisingly, this is not something new to come across as I see it happen far too often here where I am (in the UK). What I need to say about your current relationship leads into this guy you mentioned who has suddenly shown up again so I will start from your current relationship...
To answer your question, no, this is not (in my opinion) what a relationship should be like. Every relationship has its ups and downs so there will be disagreements and arguments but I think in your case this is a lot more serious than just this. You are unhappy because of the control your boyfriend has over what you can and can't do and this is turn is where everything else stems from such as the arguments every day over unnecessary things - it is because you are lashing out from being treated like you are an object.
In my opinion I have always seen any kind of relationship as a partnership be it boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife. We all have our own opinions on things ever a couple who are together in whatever capacity but then it comes down to them to sit down and work through it and come to some kind of middle ground where both are going to be happy with the decision reached. This, is what a relationship should be - an equal partnership. But when one person takes charge and acts like they set down the rules you have to follow, this now becomes less of a partnership and more of a dictatorship. It really angers me when I hear about how someone tells their partner what they can and can't do and run their life for them - they DON'T own you! Marriage or being together as a couple doesn't mean the person becomes your object you can boss around or own. And this is what I am trying to point out to you here. Yes he may be the jealous type and this is something that many suffer with especially if they have had bad experiences in the past with trust but your boyfriend not only has been jealous and keeping you away from your friends but then on top of this also is the one who ends up cheating while worrying the whole time that you would be the one who cheats on him. Maybe hes more paranoid about it now because he thinks you may try get him back, I'm not really sure, but up to this point the person in this relationship who is trustworthy is you - you haven't cheated on him, he has cheated on you.
The first thing to do is talk to him about how you are feeling. You are not happy and this is down to how he has caused you to alienate yourself from your friends. This in my opinion is not healthy, everyone should have their circle of friends who they can hang out with and just go out with. I have never changed what I do with friends just because I got into a relationship, I have always made it clear that my friends both male and female are important to me and I like spending time with them to chat about things and just catch up on what has been going on and I will never ditch my friends for the sake of being with someone. Try talking to your boyfriend and see how things go and explain how you are feeling trapped. Explain what you want and if its something he doesn't like then you both need to come to some kind of agreement on it where you are both happy because doing it his way and only his way is not working for you and is quite simply just unreasonable and unfair. I've had people say how you're under their roof so you need to listen to their rules... if they were your mom or dad then yes, I agree. But they are your partner not your parent so no, that is rubbish!
As for this guy who has come along, I find it funny how he said he didn't want to cause any problems yet still told you something that he knows will do JUST that! That alone makes me question his moral standing but that aside, this is still someone who has just come out the blue and is there at a time when you are feeling vulnerable - this is a bad combination. The last thing you want to do is in a disillusioned state do something you may end up regretting, like dumping your boyfriend who you love for someone who just happen to show up at the right time. This other guy should NOT be the reason you break up with your boyfriend - the last thing you want to do is break up with your boyfriend to be with this other guy only to realise down the line he's a jerk. You will end up kicking yourself for walking out on what might have been a good thing for the wrong reasons. So, deal with the issue of your relationship first and foremost - you said you love him so try salvage it by talking to him and telling him how you feel. He won't know what is wrong until you tell him, never just assume the other person knows, you will be surprised how dense some men can sometimes be and will not see the most obvious in front of them so sit down and have a serious talk with him. Don't turn it into an argument otherwise it will get no where, have a talk about it and about how you feel and how hes making you feel. Tell him how you feel and what you want changing so you can feel more like yourself but explain that you want to reach a middle ground where you both can feel happy so its not all just one sided like it is at the moment.
If nothing changes and you feel you have done your side of things to fix it but nothing then if you decide to leave then after that you can pursue this other guy or any other guy (or woman if you prefer) but this other guy should not be the reason to walk away from what you have. If you need to walk away then it should be because you are not happy. Not all relationships are perfect but you do need to feel like you are a partner and from what you said that is not the impression I get. You sound like someone who is feeling trapped and unless you try resolve this, he will end up loosing you and he will only try to fix things if you make it clear that something is wrong.
Sorry this is so long a reply but I hope it is of some help to you. If you need any more help or more details I can help with please don't hesitate to get in touch. Good luck with whichever way things go but remember, don't be scared to pursue happiness.
I leave you with this quote by T. Brady: "Too often in life, something happens and we blame other people for us not being happy or satisfied or fulfilled. So the point is, we all have choices, and we make the choice to accept people or situations or to not accept situations."
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Well, sorry it's bit long but straight to point, he says he trusts me and I reckon, he's been chatting about me with his friends because when i saw his few friends in town they said, (mentioned his name) he says you're kind and he loves you, we mean, he loves your personality, I looked at them and we all just smiled. However, we hardly text unless we have to but when I text him saying hi or hello, he don't seem to be into it, he does reply though. When we see each other we're like non stop chatterbox and joking with flirty comments. I ain't got a clue with this boy. I absolutely wish to confront him but not sure enough. Anyways, we've known each other for quite a while now. Good friends. Right guys, so him saying he trusts me and his friends saying he loves me, means anything or nothing at all?? Do guys talk to their friends when they are into girls and are the girls has to be trustworthy?? Thankyou. Terribly sorry it's really long.
Hello.
Firstly, him being a little off with you by text but the complete opposite when you talk to him in person might just be how he is when it comes to using texting to keep in touch. Some people can't express themselves unless they do it by text whereas others might be the opposite way around. One of my friends is a prime example of this, he will absolutely refuse to pick up his phone to answer a phone call unless he really has to because he prefers to text instead whereas there are others who can't stand having a conversation by text and prefer to just talk instead.
As for what his friends have said to you, this all depends on how old you guys are but I have found that there is always a small amount of truth to things but to take it all with a pinch of salt because hearing something from a third party could be embellished or exaggerated. For example, he may have said he likes you, they told you he loves you because that is what they assumed he is implying. I think the one thing you can take away from it is that he clearly must like you but in what capacity he likes you is something that you may need to discover for yourself. You did say you guys joke around and flirt and stuff when around each other so you could just ask him about what his friends said and say that you heard he likes/loves you and see what he says but this might also push him away, popping something like that on him so suddenly.
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20/female
I'm at a perfect weight, but my upper and lower arms are still SOOOOO fat. My stomach still looks as if I am 3 months pregnant. My thighs still are WAY too fat as well as my lower legs.
I dont want to starve myself or anything. but like what should i eat/drink and what exercises (i have 3 pound dumbbells and a stability ball and a treadmill, btw) should I do to lose (or tone) all this fat? Like ***literally*** lose/tone it.
(****** I DON'T WANT ANY MUSCLE WHATSOEVER******)
Hi.
If you are at the perfect weight then I think what you need to focus on is toning up as opposed to losing weight.
The best thing you can do is speak to a personal trainer who can advise you on exactly the exercises to do to get the best benefits and results. You should be able to visit a gym to do this (ask if they offer a consultation with a personal trainer with membership) but if not there are a LOT of personal trainers you can approach who will be more than happy to draw up a plan for you to follow for a one off fee or alternatively you can check online as there as many professional personal trainers who offer this service online (I actually know one who does this and is very good - he offers personal visits to his clients but he has many clients who are based entirely online too).
I am by far no professional when it comes to personal fitness so I can't speak as a personal trainer but I think for the results you are looking for it will come down to training more than what to eat and what not to eat but again, I can not say this with absolute certainty. I think all you really need to do is tone up the specific muscles where you think they don't seem right.
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Me and my had protected sex 2 days before.i think he came inside me. But with condom on. According to my app i was ovulating on 27th so the fertile period was over by 28th. I had sex on 30th. Today i found brown spotting. Am i pregnant? Also i feel his nails were big. Cause it hurt my vagina once. And he did finger me. And even after sex i was bleeding a bit. What are chances of me getting pregnant? Please help.
If you had protected sex then it is unlikely but that is not to say it is not impossible. If the condom was damaged in any way or torn then it is possible he may have came inside you without realising especially if he has long/sharp nails and he put the condom on in a hurry.
However, saying this, I am assuming you had sex literally a few days ago and if this is the case then it is far too early to make assumptions on you being pregnant. It takes at least a week for the egg to become fertilised so you'd not have started noticing any real symptoms for up to 4 weeks, sometimes longer. The first sign is usually a missed period. If you are concerned however, you can always visit a clinic and get yourself a morning after pill which is effective for up to 72 hours after unprotected sex (3 days).
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18/F .. I am 18 and a few months and my mom is still telling me when to go to bed and what to do. She is constantly trying to run my life and won't let me do things on my own. I tried talking to her but she just brush it off. I'm sick and tired of it. I just want to do my own thing and I need her to let go of me a little. Please help me??
There are two ways for me to answer this. The first is that if you are living with your parents and under their roof, they make the rules and you just have to follow them. I am older than you and living with my parents means that I still have rules I have to follow.
The second is that they are your parents and no matter how old you get, how much anyone will tell them you are now a grown adult, in their eyes you will always be their baby girl/boy. Yes it is annoying but take it from me when they stop fussing over you so much you will end up missing it. Many parents hate it when their kids reach adulthood and just don't want to let go - you have recently turned 18 so many your mom is having some trouble letting that go, let her enjoy it for a while longer. If she asks you to go to bed then just ask if you can stay up a bit longer instead of trying to argue your point that you are an adult and she can't tell you to go to bed. She's far more likely to listen to you (and you get your way) if you just ask and be polite instead of trying to argue a point that she knows is true but just isn't quite ready to give up and then after a while (month or two maybe) try talk to her (not argue) about it again?
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Everybody says bands are tight knit. I've heard that all my life but never experienced it. Try as I might to make friends, it never happens. In my last band I think it was because I constantly screw things up, even when I try my hardest. I recently moved to a new school and I thought I might actually succeed in making friends, but I didn't. At least at my old school I had at least 1 friend that was my friend before band. It just depresses me that I can't experience that tight knit band relationship that I always hear about. It doesn't help that I'm not the best player. I can't practice very much since I live in an apartment and the walls are extra thin. I'm also very socially awkward. Usually everybody just hangs put in their own groups while I'm stuck in the back reading or playing. I truly love playing my instrument, but this lack of friends is just really depressing me. Why is it so easy for them to get to know each other, but for me it's so difficult? I do have friends outside of band, but it would be so nice to just have someone there to hang out with that can practice with me, or sit beside me on try long bus rides. Any ideas for what to do about this situation? I'm not gonna quit band, but not having anyone there for you just kinda hurts.
Making new friends is all about putting in the effort. You can't expect others to be the only ones who make the effort because to them, you will just seem lazy or someone who just doesn't care to know them (I'll come back to this in a moment though).
When you said you recently moved to a new school I am assuming you have joined part way through the school year so the people in band already have been in there a while already and you have been the new kid to join? If this is the case it does make it harder on you because they have all had the chance and time to get to know each other and form friendships whereas you are having to only now do so coming in new.
You said that you spend time at the back reading or playing while others hang in their own groups. This is where what I said earlier applies about making an effort. If you sit at the back reading many people will just leave you to it because your body language is simply saying you want to be left alone to read. This is the same when, for example, at a club you sit looking miserable. That negativity you project pushes people away, there are some exceptions but for the majority people will just avoid you - I see it happened all too often when out at bars and clubs.
The whole process though is that much harder as you said yourself you are socially awkward and this probably makes it hard for you to approach people but it does take some work on your part. Put the book down and maybe approach one of the groups next time and just ask if they would mind if you join them. If they say no, it's no big deal you can try another group but most likely they'd say yes and it will give you a chance to join in and get to know the others and begin the process to make friends. It certainly won't happened over one day but it will happen in time and with effort but it would begin the process. It just will need some effort on your part. If you sit and just wait for them to come to you, you may end up waiting a long while before they do so you just need to try meet them half way, so to speak.
As for why it's easy for some and not others - this all depends on each person and their personalities. I hated talking to random people I don't know and just couldn't approach strangers and start talking to them until I started working as a magician. Working as a street magician meant I had to walk up to and talk to strangers but at the same time also be confidant and be able to manage them (directing them where to stand and such) and this took a little courage and time but I managed it in the end and if I could do it I know you can do it too.
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As i've noticed recently, my friend has become more touchy during the conversation but not in a gross way or pervert way but more like a patting on my shoulder or like when someone comforts the other person either they touch their arms or pat on their shoulder gently, that sort of touch. I ain't got a clue but he's a lovely lad and we laugh and joke a lot. He says he will miss me when I'm away on a summer holiday, 'i said, yeah you will, you'll miss me big time, he smiled and said, no, we will stay in contact ok, I said, alright then. He's curious as well, asks me questions not a lot but he does about how I am and if I'm going on a holiday with my bf and I replied no, he's not, this time. He always offers me a drink or sandwich if he's having one, sometimes KFC. I'm just trying to understand why is he being so nice as We're only friends?! Or am I being a fool? I do admit I fancy him. Thanks a bunch you all.
From my perspective I don't really notice anything odd in his behaviour. Looking at my own friendships as well as many other friendships many start off with friends having a boundary around them but over time this boundary becomes thinner. I am very close to my friends and we are always hugging, holding hands and such things and many times we get mistaken for being together. I hate eating alone especially if anyone else is with me so I always ask them if they would like something too - this is not just down to not wanting to eat alone though but also just good manners. It could be that your friend is the same in terms of this?
I have always seen this kind of behaviour you've described as being a part of what friendships are, you ask how they are, what things are going on in their life, compliment them etc. I don't really see anything here that is out the ordinary but IF it is (this is a guy that you know better than me so perhaps he may have developed feelings for you that go beyond just friendship) then you'd need to ask yourself what you want to do about them. You have already said you have a bf so if your friend was to say he likes you as more than a friend are you prepared to end things with your current bf to give him a chance? Are you and he prepared to turn a friendship into something more and then deal with the fallout if it doesn't work out? You said that you do fancy him and this might well be true but fancying someone is a one thing but terminating your current relationship with your bf for them is another. You didn't really say how long you've both known each other or been friends for but you could always just ask him about his behavioural changes and just mention something like how you have noticed small changes in him and see where it leads to from there - he may even tell you if there is something more to it or not.
It all really depends on you and what it is you want. Ask yourself if it turns out that he fancies you and wants something more than a friendship together is that also what you want? If it is then just ask him about his behaviour if if he tells you want you want to hear the ball is in your court on what to do next. If the answer however is that although it is a nice idea that he may feel something more but you are not prepared to end things with your bf over it then there's no real point it pushing him to reveal how he feels because it would really not achieve anything. You will know how he feels but he will hope that you feel the same and expect some kind of a response from you where you'd then have to either disappoint him in some way or another or disappoint your bf.
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just curious, when I get a missed call twice in a day from a boy and while I ring back he replies it was by accident which is kind of weird because I would never call anyone accidently twice. however, when he calls it's always hi and hello, that's all. I don't know if he thinks of me when that accident calls happen or am I dreaming way ahead?? by the way, he's my crush and we go to same college. I reckon he likes me coz he does say you're a good well mannered girl. anyways, thankyou all
Unfortunately with the newer touchscreen handsets it would surprise you how easy it is to accidently call someone or pocket dial someone unless you have some kind of security coded screen lock. This is happened to me a good number of times and I have even accidently called friends whilst using my phone and has taken me a good few seconds to get back into the correct screen to cancel the call, by which time on their phone it would show I called them. Unless you really think he is lying about it being an accident then I would say there's no reason to think anything more of it especially if after you called him back and he didn't stay on the line to talk to you.
It could be that he is just shy but I am assuming this missed call thing has only happened once and not repeatedly? If it happened once then I would think you are just looking into this far too much and overthinking matters but if it has happened many times maybe just try talking to him if you call him back. If he is shy it may just need you to engage him in conversation. Again, I must stress though that this is assuming it was not an accident in the first place.
I know this response probably is not what you want to hear but given what you have said it would be a big jump for me to say he likes you in the same way you like him. What he said to you about being good mannered could just be him being friendly, or making an observation about you. I think you may well be making far more of things than they are but this is not to say there can't be more. As I said, talk to him and try get to know more about him, engage him in conversation, you could try text or something similar which may put him more at ease so it won't just be a hi and then nothing.
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Well I'm a 22 almost 23 yr old female, and well I met this guy on the dating app Tinder at the beginning of February around valentines day.. he's from the same country as me so we share the same cultural interests..
Ok straight to the point from that moment we clicked on straight away our banter has always been jokes and till this day we still speak everyday, and lately but slowly I've started becoming more and more interested in him. We flirt but we don't make it so obvious,so I start to get the impression that he's into me.. don't get me wrong he seems like a great guy, we only just met up for the first time on Friday which was so out of the blue and it was a first for me because I never meet anyone from Tinder, it was a meet up.. but it felt like a date he paid for everything and we ended up kissing towards the end.
He's the type of guy who's not really 'soft' or romantic, so its so hard to know if he's into me or not, I don't wanna ask or say that I'm into him because I will feel that I'm coming off to desperate. He said that he's been soft with me, caught a soft spot, fair enough but its annoying when the guy you're into isn't the sweet type.. he was affectionate towards the end of the meet up which I loved we hugged etc... and there was a lot of eye connection which was very flirty..
my problem also is the fact that he is the type of guy that loves going out a lot, I don't mind but it kinda makes me uneasy.. because he's very attractive, he goes clubbing whenever its a friends birthday which has been often..
Sometimes the way we speak makes me feel like he wants me, then in the back of my head I feel like he's also speaking the same way with another girl..
I feel like we've had a great connection even before meeting up, but I also don't want to waste my time
I don't know how to feel or what to think , I've started to catch feelings for him...
I think first off, you have only really met this guy once so to really get to know him a few more dates will be in order to find out what he actually is after and if what he is after is the same as you. You guys have met using a dating app that is also notorious for being used as an app for people to use just to find a quick fling and the last thing you would want is for this to be the case here.
I think arranging another date or outing may be the best thing to do from here and then asking him what it is he is looking for because before telling him you are into him you will probably want to know if what he is after is the same thing you are after which I assume is a relationship. From there I would suggest just dating a few times, provided you both are wanting the same thing, and seeing how it goes from there. However, I will say that although caution is in order (you wouldn't want to just be another person he met on Tinder) you also don't want to sit around waiting and hoping he will say something to you because he may well think you are not into him and move on to someone else. He could just as easily meet someone else on Tinder if he hasn't already. So although there is a good thing in waiting there is also a bad side to waiting too long but I think all this really just comes down to common sense.
Your fear that he may be speaking to others in the same way as he is with you is justified. He is a guy who is single and clearly from what you said is a person who likes going out and socialising so it would seem almost naive to think he does not flirt with anyone else (as I pointed out above he is on a site for flirting and dating and he is likely talking to others on there too and maybe even dating others on there). It just seems very unlikely that he would put all his eggs into one basket, as the saying goes, in assuming that you are going to be the one who will be with him considering you guys have only just even met up and gone on a date.
I know my response may seem a little all over the place but this is mostly because of how many different directions this can go into as there are so many different variables to consider. I think that first and foremost make it known you do have some level of interest, this is something you can do simply by just asking him if he would like to go out again for dinner or something similar - a date but you don't have to actually say it's a date. That way you won't come off being desperate but at the same time you are showing some interest so he knows that you do like him but you're not just throwing yourself at him. Otherwise he may well think you are just not interested at all and move on. From there just see how it goes and go with your gut instincts.
Spend time together, this is really the whole point of dating - to get to know each other and see if you like each other to take it to the next step. Find out what it is he is after - is he looking for a relationship or is he just after casual dating and nothing more, once you know that then you can decide where you want to take it.
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I never told my dermatologist about my psych medication because he wouldn't put me on accutane if I did. I've had derms turn me down before.
If you were turned down from being given something to take because of a different medication you are on it was more likely because of the effect that the combination of the drugs can have on you - usually a harmful or negative effect. This is one of the reasons you should be careful about telling anyone who is prescribing you any kind of meds that they know exactly what you are already taking. It is the reason (at least here in the UK) when you go to a dentist or such places they will ask you for a list of medication you may be taking so that if they prescribe you anything it will not conflict with your current meds.
I would personally suggest you call them and ask them and just say you forgot to mention it or alternatively you should speak to either your GP or a pharmacist at a pharmacy and ask them, you need professional and accurate information on this otherwise you could well be risking taking them both (on the word of someone on here who knows nothing about them or about your medical history) and doing some serious harm to yourself.
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Hey guys,
Just curious, ny crush is saying a lot that he likes my company and he says we have a good banter. Haven't got a guts to ask him out but I just want to make sure that he's likes me even though we've known for half a year. Thankyou
If you have known each other for quite a while and are friends then chances are he is just saying he enjoys hanging out with you which pretty much speaks for itself but from what he has said it doesn't really hint one way or the other so there's not really anything solid to go on to suggest he may have a crush on you or likes you. This might be something that you would be better able to judge as you know him better alternatively you may just need to be patient until you know for certain but have you remember that the longer you wait the more there is a chance he may think you are not interested and/or can end up meeting someone else.
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I really want to start a blog, but the problem is, I can't seem to find a good website to start it off of. Every site I've tried lets me create a whole website, but I want something simple and basic. Are there any good blogging sites where I can just ask a question of the week, get people's feedback, give my own thoughts, and maybe do a poll every now and then?
I found wordpress to be a pretty good place. There is an initial set-up process involved where you would need to set up your blog which doesn't take very long at all (it lets you create a web site too but if you select blog you won't have to create a whole web site).
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I'm 19 and had an incident with my car where an architectural issue in a parking lot damaged my car. The owner of the parking lot contacted their insurance and they paid for the repairs on my car, but it took them a while to do it and submit the payment so their insurance company set me up with a rental vehicle.
They DID pay the first week of the rental car, but it turned out they didn't pay the last 3 days. When I talked to the rental car company they said it wasn't a problem and that they'd contact the insurance agent to extend out the payment. I then signed off releasing the car and giving it back to them.
Now a week later the rental car company called me and said that my insurance was refusing to pay for the last 3 days and that the balance due is $300.
I don't have that money...I work part time and have classes full time so I don't earn a lot. I don't even have $100.
Idk what to do, I feel cheated? I also feel like I shouldn't have to pay anything because I was mislead.
What do I do?
Best thing you can do is contact the rental company and try speaking to them about this and how you were told it wouldn't be a problem only for you to then be sent the bill. You may need to speak to someone in the company that is higher up in terms of position because I doubt anyone at the front line will be able to do anything about it. You could also try speaking to the insurance company that refused to pay, if you had to wait that long for your car to be repaired then it would make sense they would cover your rental costs for that duration so I don't really understand why they then refused the last 3 days of the rental. It will likely be a pain but to get this resolved you will probably need to call around to find out what is going on and where it went wrong. An alternative might be to seek some legal advice about this but this is something I suspect will cost where you are located (in the UK they offer a service where you can talk to a solicitor for one session of free advice who can give you some guidance in matters like these so if a service like this exists out there it might be an idea to get in touch with them to see if there is anything you can do from a legal stand point). Otherwise you can refuse to pay the bill as you deem it unfair and something you did not agree to in the first place but I am unsure of what the repercussions of this could be.
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First off, this is really my friend and not me. She's in her 20's and her parents are stalking her. She doesn't live with them, but rather in an apartment they pay for and she lives two hours away from them. They're part of a strict faith, but she's already denounced herself from it and they know that.
Yet, her dad is constantly texting her right after she gets home from driving somewhere asking her questions about where she went and why. He tells her she better not lie to him about whether she went out or not and usually already knows when she has.
He's even told her she better not go outside without telling him. It's really crazy.
My question is what can she do about it? We already eliminated the chance that he was tracking her via her phone's GPS or by bank account transactions. Now we think he might have hidden a GPS tracker maybe in her car but she's has two people look through her car and they didn't find anything.
She doesn't have any social media accounts to track her by.
Now we think maybe he's paying somebody to stalk her.
What can we do about this? She's too scared to go to the police and ruin things with her family because they pay for everything for her. I think it's gotten out of hand though and the paranoia is really getting to her. She's scared to leave her house now. :(
A lot of cars come with built-in GPS systems that can be used to track where your car is (especially if it gets stolen) and many companies also use it to ensure their employees are not abusing company cars for their own personal use. I would suspect the reason no one found anything in her car is because the GPS is built into the car so is not a stand alone device to find. In regards to this GPS and her parents using it to track her, she has a few choices. She can take it into a garage or workshop that deal with her model of car (calling them before going to ensure they can carry out the work would be a good idea) and she can ask them to disable the GPS. However, her parents may know what she has done when they see that the last trip she made was to a workshop/garage and after that the GPS went dead. Alternatively you can look up her cars make and model online and see if there is a guide available on finding and disabling the GPS. The last and best choice in my opinion will be to call around and see if there are garages who can disable the GPS (they may question why she wants to do this) and if they are able to come out to her car to do this instead of her having to take it in. Depending on where the GPS is located and how easy it is to get to they might be able to do this.
Taking care of the GPS though is only part of the problem here. Although she may have denounced her faith, it does not change that she is still her parents' daughter and they are perhaps concerned about her. I am an adult and my parents still treat me like I'm a teenager, this is just how some parents can be and it is not always a bad thing either. The biggest issue here unfortunately is that her parents are paying for everything so as much as she may want to push back, they still have the last say because they are the ones providing for her to even live by herself in the first place. If she truly wants to be independent she will need to consider paying her own way. It will be the only real way that her parents won't have anything to hold over her head.
The only other way I see around all of this which may avoid a lot of drama is for her to use her car when going to work or shopping and such so when her parents ask where she went she can just tell the truth and be done with it. When she wants to go somewhere else without being tracked she should use public transport, a taxi or arrange a lift to and from the place with a friend. It's probably annoying but given the circumstances her parents are happy and she will not have created any kind of rift with her relationship with her parents. At least until she manages to get her own place or is able to take up the costs herself of her place and such.
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My last description was very confusing, and I apologize, so Im retelling it. I am a female (17) who dated another girl for half a year, and I was the first girl she was ever with. She had cheated on me with a guy around spring time last year, but denied it, until she finally broke up with me. We fought alot over summer, since I was friends with almost everyone in my grade and they were mad that she cheated, which made her think i said bad things about her. Well, school starts up again and she decides to ask me out and I say yes. Then my parents take me out of the school, but I still saw her on the weekends. Well, up comes December, which was our most eventful month (when we started getting close romantically, t il she asked me out on the 19th), and when I texted her on her birthday and on our anniversary she just left me on read, then stopped reading my messages altogether. Then I mailed her gifts, and she didnt mention anything about our anniversary to me or send me anything, but bragged to others about how I had sent her stuff. In January she begins hanging out with this very popular boy, who only uses girls for pleasure not love, but nonetheless is very attractive, anf his name is Will. I find out that she is flirting with him and two other boys, and that during December time she was cheating on me with someone who was completely aware of my relationship with her, and he had been my friend. In February she admits to "lightly pecking Will on the cheek", but I later find out she was making out with him. I get mad at her, and she breaks up with me but continues to tell myself and other people that shes in love with me. I see her at a mall in February, and Will is grabbing her butt with his tongue in her mouth and she is moaning, in front of everyone at the mall! I turn right around instead of talking to her, but I guess she saw me, because she gets furious that I didnt walk up to her ("I would have fallen to my knees and kissed your hands if you had come over. You know I love you.") So we meet up in very late February (still broken up, both of us single) and she gives me a ring her German grandfather made ( to signify loyalty, apparently) and she kisses me, which is fine until she tries making out in public, which I politely pull away from. Idk what the "loyalty" bullshit was because she sat there snapchatting Will the whole time, then later that night they were seen making out at a party, but he is not interested in a relationship with her, he just wants to hook up. Well now there are rumours circulating that she gave him a blowjob, but people have lied about her having sexual relations with people before, so I dont know whether to believe it or not. She still tells me shes in love with me... umm what do I do?
There is being in love with someone and then there's committing to a relationship and I think she may actually love you but that alone is not enough if you are after a relationship where as she is not, which is the impression I get from the way she is acting and the stuff she is doing.
I don't really have a problem with people being intimate in public nor do I let it bother me but some people can find it unnerving and awkward and I am assuming you are one of these people that don't like to show intimacy in public? If this is the case, for whatever reason this might be, then perhaps tell her so she knows the reason you pulled away was not because of her but because it was in public and you don't like that.
It seems to me that she does like you and maybe does love you but she is just not ready to commit to a relationship and settle down to one person and at her age (I assume she is the same age as you) this is not surprising in the least, she is young and wants to explore what is out there and her sexuality. If this is indeed the case which I suspect it may well be, then you need to decide what you want. Are you wanting to be with her and if so then perhaps you need to talk to her and ask her what it is that she is wanting? Because if you both are after different things then perhaps now just isn't the time to pursue her, she seems to just want to be free to explore but perhaps after that she will want more but this is not to say you should wait for this to happened because you don't want to put your own life on hold waiting for something that may never happened.
Rumours happened all the time and most of the time they may well be rubbish but in this case you also have to remember that you both are single, if she wants to do stuff with someone else then it is not like she is cheating so personally I don't think you should judge her on it. If this guy is as bad as you say then perhaps you may need to fill the role of being a caring friend to her instead of coming across as a jealous ex and tell her what he is about so she knows what she is getting herself into? It seems from how she has been with you and with him she may even have feelings for both you and him. She already knows you are there for her and are a sure thing to fall back on and so is trying her luck with this guy to try see if she can make him into more than what he is, it's only a guess at this point but the only way to really know what she is thinking will be for you to talk to her.
Sorry if this reply seems a little all over the place but given the circumstances you've described there are so many possibilities or things that can be going on it is hard to be able to pinpoint anything definitive and each possibility I think of just spawns out further possibilities. You need to ask yourself what you want (a relationship?) and then perhaps ask her what it is she is after at this moment in time because if she is not after the same thing then this problem will just keep happening and you would, for lack of a better way to put it, be wasting your time pursuing her and in the process getting hurt. You may realise that the best thing to do is just try be a friend to her until she realises what it is she wants because she may have no idea, and move on with things. You were her first female relationship so she could be conflicted about her sexuality, she is split between you (her first female girlfriend) and a guy she also likes... as you can see there are so many possibilities but the only way to be certain might be to talk to her about it all.
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So I dated this girl for half a year, and everyone was suprised bc I was the first girl she'd ever dated so everyone thought she was straight... over the summer she broke up with me for another guy, but when school started up we started going out again. Well, first off she started telling the guy from summer that she wanted to date him again once she broke up with me, then she cheated on me with someone else a few months later. Last month we met up and she gave me a ring and kept kissing and hugging me but then she started snapchatting this guy Will while I was with her, who a few months before she had made out with at a party, and now goes to the mall with her friends and makes out with him. All her friends give the guys theyre with blowjobs in the bathroom, but my ex always told me she wasnt sexually attracted to guys... Theres a rumor that she gave Will a blowjob and theyre trying to have sex now. Should I believe the rumors? Should I confront her??? People have made up things about her before that turned out to be false, so I just dont know what to do. PS. Maybe I should mention that shes really popular bc shes "sexy" and her and her friends do rebellious stuff like drinking and drugs and shoplifting, while im popular bc im nice to everyone so therefore they all like me. But she says mean stuff about my best friends bc she thinks theyre too "pure"..
Hi. First and foremost I just want to point out that doing drugs, drinking and all that stuff is not rebellious, it's just stupid. The fact that you are the opposite to her, at least from the way I read your post, is a really good thing - don't change that.
As for the situation, it's hard to determine what to believe in this situation but given her track record and what she has done (cheated on you before) but I am also a little confused because I thought that you both are actually together currently but then reading your post again it seems that is not actually the case? Can you clarify?
If you guys are not together then I suppose you could ask her about the rumours but she could just as easily say that it is none of your business or shouldn't matter because you both are not actually together. But if you guys are together currently then by all means ask her about the rumours and just explain that it's things people are saying that you overheard and just wanted to let her know and wanted to hear her side of it. From here really it will be up to you on whether you believe her as I would think you know her better than anyone on here and might be able to tell if she's lying or not.
The most important thing I think you should think about before doing anything is ask yourself, do you trust her? If you are having difficulty answering the question or the answer is no then I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to move on past her because if you are having difficulty with trusting her it will cause issues in your relationship. For example you'll wonder constantly who she's messaging, where she's going when not with you.
I'm sorry I can't really be of much specific help but I will say just go with your gut instinct and go with what feels right.
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I am a Senior in College. I had a huge crush on thia girl since i was a freshman ! After a long gap of 3 years, i confessed my love to her,since i did not want to regret it. I was a bit scared, so i first confessed everything anonymously to her. It was a platform for confessions where it remains private between 2 people. I revealed my identity after a couple of weeks. She was surprised ! I told her everything i felt about her,But it was over text. She seemed to take interest.I told her how crazy i was about her. But there was one thing. I used to get late replies. On her birthday, i played guitar for her and she loved it. I asked her that i would like to talk Somethings in private so i asked if she could meet me 20 minutes before lectures start.It was in college campus and i had no otherwise intentions. I wanted to propose. She said she would let me know after lunch. I waited till evening. Nothing ! The next day we met and were in a group of friends. She acted as if nothing ever happened.! Even i acted the same talking casually.She never even revert back for apologies that she didn't tell me when to meet.I never understood what happened ! If she wanted to reject why did she accept meeting me in the first place ?
Why did she listen to my feelings and royally dump me. She obviously could have rejected and i would have respected it. But this was insulting and weird. Help needed
Hi. From what I have read you asked her if she would meet you and she said that she'd let you know after lunch but never got back to you? From my perspective she didn't agree to meet you in the first place so she didn't really say she would be there and then not show up. Saying she dumped you as well is an exaggeration because she can't dump someone she is not involved with.
I understand you like her and you've not told her, the best thing you can do now is wait to see if she wants to pursue this with you although I would suspect that at this point and from how she has been acting this may not be the case and she is just trying to be nice by not saying this and hurting your feelings.
I don't think she can really be blamed for anything here other than perhaps just saying she's not interested if that is the case. Some may say that perhaps she is shy about talking about things and this could be true but it is equally possible that she may just not be interested in wanting what you want. She listened to your feelings because you had chosen to tell her but whenever anyone does this there is a chance those feelings will be returned and there's a chance you will be rejected - this is something everyone who wants to love needs to know and perhaps you are also learning. It happens unfortunately.
You can try and talk to her about things if you want to and it may even be easier by text just to ask her where you and her stand in terms of how you feel and if she feels the same or not but this may even come across as being pushy. However, at the same time it would give you a definitive answer and you will know for certain where you stand. What you choose to do is up to you but just be prepared that she may not feel the same way and this is not something you can blame on her. This is just the way things are and all you can really do is get over it and move on.
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I am trying to fill out my first job application and I messed up on the first one so I printed another one off the computer and the computer automatically highlighted the first page . Does it it look professional for the application to be high lighted? I am also having trouble understanding some of the questions on the application.
.Are you an alien authorized to work in the United States. Could someone explain to me what this means? I also have no work history so on the work history section I am stumped. On current or last employer do you put your supervisor's name or the company's name ? Remember all I have is volunteer woork. Thank you so much for your help.
I am unsure what you mean by the printer highlighting the first page but it should be okay so don't worry, the main thing to look for is that they would be able to read your answers clearly.
In regards to them asking if you are an alien authorized to work in the United States, they are asking you if you are from overseas/abroad (not a US citizen) who has permission to legally work in the United States.
As for your work history, include all the voluntary work you have done - this still counts as work history. As for where it asks who your employer is, this should ideally be the company name but if you were working, for example, for a person (like a gardening job where you were working for a person and not a company) you can put the name of the person. The only place ideally you would need to put your supervisors name is for references (if the application asks for them) or if the application specifically asks you for the details of your supervisor.
Hope this is of some help.
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