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Little confused with my crush!
Hey guys,
Just curious, ny crush is saying a lot that he likes my company and he says we have a good banter. Haven't got a guts to ask him out but I just want to make sure that he's likes me even though we've known for half a year. Thankyou
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Hey! How cute! Human emotions are so strange. Am I right? In situations like this, we are confused with several emotions, like excitement, nervousness, anxiousness, its all enough to give you butterflies! But the only way to know if he likes you, is ask. It sounds stupid I know, but it could turn into a relationship right their. Men are just as nervous as women(and i should know, i'm a guy). I never can get the guts to ask out my crush. She's the part that would complete me! But the only way to know if your crush likes you, is just ask.
I wish you good luck :-)
-Dr.D
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Since you've been friends for 6 months, there's a perfect way to find out if he likes you only as a friend, or if he feels chemistry with you or is open to trying that.
Since some guys are scared of rejection or just scared to ask when not sure how the girl feels, he might not ever ask in words that you get. A guy might think he is leaving hints that tell you he is interested in moving on to a romantic couple but sometimes the hints are not obvious or the girl doesn't pick up on it.
Having good conversation is important but since he said he likes your company and since being best friends is one of two solid foundations to a successful relationship, I would say to go for it and say the following:
You know, we've been getting along really well as friends. It makes me wonder how we might do as more than friends. (Putting this image in his mind, if he doesn't feel anything towards you that could support a dating relationship, then he will be quick to steer you in another direction so you need to ask the following after the first part, "What do you think?" No were here have you said anything as scary as you are crushing on him or professing existing feelings which can scare away a guy if he only wants friendship. Asking his opinion in this way does not hint that you already like him and that's how you want to do it. If he's been wanting to find a way to start dating you in a romantic relationship, then he'll easily see this as his chance and give you a positive answer. If he only wants to remain friends, then you'd have to be content to just be friends but at least he won't feel awkward knowing how you truly feel so you won't lose your friend. If he wants to be only friends, continues to prefer your company and doesn't start dating in the next couple of months, and you are too miserable being only a friend and willing to lose him as a friend, then you could take a chance to be a bit more revealing in what you say, "I am starting to have deeper feelings for you. Wondering how you feel." Key is to say 'starting' cus this leaves the impression that you aren't there yet, just starting and it might give him a chance to convince you to only remain friends, or in the extra 2,3 4 months perhaps he may have changed his mind how he feels but be afraid to say so since he once said no. This would be your last chance to say something that is non threatening for a guy to hear. Either way, you need to respect his wishes if he doesn't feel the same. Chemistry isn't something that comes later, a person will know at the beginning. Feeling chemistry and feeling love are two different things. I don't believe there can be a good solid loving relationship if two people don't have chemistry together. Love can be there in the beginning. However for many, rather than love at first sight, feeling like you caught cupids arrow, it is a subtle change over time as you learn more about the person you have chemistry with, and all these things about you, endear you to him. Some love isn't an instant blazing fire but starts as a glowing coal and works slowly toward a blazing love. How soon that happens has no specific date. But those who spend alot more time together can learn the things they need to know and experience to fall in love.
Hope this helps you dear.
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If you have known each other for quite a while and are friends then chances are he is just saying he enjoys hanging out with you which pretty much speaks for itself but from what he has said it doesn't really hint one way or the other so there's not really anything solid to go on to suggest he may have a crush on you or likes you. This might be something that you would be better able to judge as you know him better alternatively you may just need to be patient until you know for certain but have you remember that the longer you wait the more there is a chance he may think you are not interested and/or can end up meeting someone else.
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