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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).
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well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we're always messing around but lately we haven't it feels like our realationship isn't the same anymore.i told him i didn't feel like it was the same and he told me he was feeling the same way so he suggested that could be the problem that we haven't been messing around with each other and he thinks we should start again,but i feel that why should we mess around juss so we can feel that spark between us again.shouldn't it juss be like we don't have to do anything like that juss so our relationship could be the same.i don't like the fact that i always have to satisfy him juss so he can be happy with us.i feel like if i don't do it our relationship will not be the same.wat should i do?should i do it or not.he's not pressuring me to do it he was saying that as a suggestion but i don't know i juss need some advice i guess and i will rate a five for juss sum good advice o and i don't mean messing around like having sex with him i haven't done that yet and we love each other alot it's just that we want the love to be on a high level right now. we don't want it on medium i guess u can say but he's like my best friend.i really care about him and i know he feels the same about me.
Physical satisfaction is a big part of a relationship (as horrible as that sounds), but if 'the beginning spark' is all the relationship is built on... it's not going to last. If he needs to mess around and do stuff with you to be happy with the relationship, then it's not love, sorry to inform.
If you, with all of your heart really believe I'm wrong, then talk to him about all of this stuff. If he's your best friend you should be able to tell him anything- including when he's making you feel uncomfortable. Compromise with him- that's what will keep your relationship alive.
well im going out with this one girl and her best freind told me that she told her that she dont really like me shes just going out with me to have a boyfriend.She said she liked me before and they would be talking on the phone and she would say i love him soo much and the girl im going out with said ew!!! how can you go out with him and she said she said mean things about me...i dont know who to believe.....what should i do???
Sounds like an all out cat-war. Jealousy is always fun to deal with, right?
Don't take sides until you get the whole story.
Confront your girlfriend with what her best friend said about her. Not only for your sake, but for hers as well. Trust is important in relationships, but if you really think your girlfriend is lying, and she only wants a boyfriend, then get rid of her.
Talk to the best friend about exactly what your girlfriend said. Does it sound like something she'd say? How does she treat you?
You have to judge your girlfriend's actions and her best friend's words, then choose who to believe. Don't automatically side with your girlfriend, because you could be making a fool out of yourself.
hey im 14/m and im stumped. i cant thing of sweet things to say to my gf i love her to death and she thinks im the sweetest thing in the world but i like went stupid and cant think of anything else and its really bugging me can someone tell me some things so say i really need it to help me get going again. ill really appreciate it thx everyone.
I don't think sweet sayings mean much. You should show her that you care if you want to impress her.
Do something sweet for her, it means a lot more. For example, my boyfriend ran to my house from school (three miles) one day to see me, he took my family out to dinner for my Dad's birthday, when we didn't buy tickets to the dance, he gave me an earpiece from his i-pod and we slow-danced to our song. For Valentine's Day, I got a charm bracelet and a silver-tabby kitten to replace Rili (my old, dead silver-tabby cat), on our two year anniversary he gave me a promise ring in the park next to the school we met, and got down on one knee and everything... my one friend begged him to write a book on his ideas, so she could give it to her boyfriend.
Enough of my rambling.
I'm just saying it works- cute doings are a lot more memorable than cute sayings.
O.K. there is this boy who is a friend a my brother and is in the 10th grade. He has a girlfriend, but was feeling on me and kissing me. I liked it. His girlfriend stays in my are, but I don't know her. I really want to go with him. I am in the 7th greade suposed to be in 8th. Should I stay with him?How do I know if he is just using me?
You know he's using you when he's cheating on his girlfriend, and going pretty far with you when you're only what...13?
This guy is probably three years older than you, way more experienced and if he really wanted to go with you, his girlfriend would not be in the picture at all.
If you want to chase him go ahead, but I think you'll regret looking and feeling like a fool.
my bf and i have always got along and always had fun well today he told me he hated me and walked away nd i asked him if he was breaking up with me he said no B*tch i was uhh i am soo confused was he showing off for some reason and then i called him he was like hello whos this i was like your gf he was like oh and it was silent i was like well why are you being mean to me he hung up soo I IMED him and he blocks me but i got on my old name and the thing in his info still says my name and now it says Ill love you forever and always babe you mean the world erg im soo confused
sorry its long =[
ill rate 5's !!! =]
Actions speak louder than words, and in this case he's not even giving you words to excuse his behavior by.
It sounds like almost a freak attack- tell him you're not going to put up with it. But at the same time, ask him what's wrong. You can confront him... or...
You can wait for him to come to you with what he wants to say, which is probably the better way to do it. When the pressure's off, he'll be able to explain himself and his behavior better- and you get to decide how you want to deal with it.
Brace yourself though, it's not going to be happy news...
he is always making me uspet even over little things. im really over sensitive so i just leave it alone.
today he told my firend he didnt like the "rules i was giving him and all i asked as these so called "rules" was he didnt smoke or drink and didnt ignore me when friends were over and he goes and tells my best friend he is mad at me cause i asked those "rules" so he lied and told me he was never mad and yells at her. so now she hates me and he is mad at me and im crying my eyese out. i dont know what to do. please help me im crying. :) thanks a lot.
You're over-sensitive? Well I think he's a pompous jerk. Tell him that. Stop crying.
Allright, so nobody should come between you and your best friend. It's time to make your boyfriend, your ex-boyfriend. If he can't respect you or your friends, get rid of him. Can you just imagine him meeting your family? Not pretty, right?
A nice guy will take your family out to dinner instead of just the two of you on Valentine's Day because thier reservations got cancelled; a nice guy will open the door for your friends and answer thier never-ceasing questions about the two of you; a nice guy will follow whatever "rules" you give him, because he thinks you're worth it.
A nice guy should replace your crappy ex-boyfriend.
Apologize to your best friend for your bad taste in boyfriends, then move on to a nice guy that is really close to deserving you.
Well like 3 weeks ago i told this boy i liked him alot. Ive liked him since july so quite a long time. At the time i told him he told me he had a girlfriend i was like ohk. Well like a week later that realtionship was over. But he hasnt told mee yet. I had found out by a friend. Im just wondering has he not told me because he has no interest in me or he isnt over his ex yet?
--We go to the same church and thats the only time i really see him we dont talk alot at church we talk alot more online.
--HE was standing right next to me at chruch and all i wanted to do was hug him but i didnt.
--what do you think i should do? I dont want to sound desperate so dont tell me to tell him that its ruining me or anything i dont love him, i like him alot.
17/f
This isn't really an answer, but something to think about. Usually, when a guy wants to ask a girl out, he makes sure she knows he and his girlfriend broke up.
If you seriously want to find out more about this whole thing, ask how his recent ex is doing.
I personally think that right now you should strive for more of a friendship with him than a relationship. You've given him a couple of months to ask you out now, and he hasn't done anything. Let him see you as a friend, and gradually allow feelings to develop. If it never moves past friendship, well, friendship is forever... and you didn't waste your time chasing one guy who wasn't interested in you.
EDIT: Three weeks is still enough time to ask you out, and if he was interested, he'd jump on any chance to ask you out.
well i'm almost 17 and ive been with my boyfreind for about a year and a half now, and he is quite the control freak. he is amazing and sweet but he tends to get angry about the stupidest stuff, he jumps to conclusions and makes false accusations. he's even hit me a few times. i dont know if hes being over pretective or if he just thinks he's some kind of pimp. i know deep down he's insecure but he acts like such a show-off especially in front of his freinds. and it's hard to talk to him about this subject, because he ends up getting mad and feeling "disrespected" about it if i bring anything up. later on, he'll apoloogize & sweet-talk. what should i do to solve this problem? i love him but i dunno if i need all this right now.
I'm going to let you in on a bit of a secret.
Sometimes hits me, gets angry over stupid things, thinks he is a pimp, and is a control freak is not amazing and sweet.
Amazing and sweet is respecting YOU, no matter how angry he is.
I'm not saying I think you should leave him, I'm saying I know you should leave him. It's going to be hard, especially because you've been together for so long. But if you keep putting up with this guy, you'll either end up dead or abused. It seems a little extreme, but it happens.
In this situation, if you respect yourself at all, and care about your life, you should get out of this relationship ASAP.
SORRY ITS SO LONG.. BUT I'LL RATE 5'S FOR EVERYONE NO MATTER WHAT.
ok so my ex ((james)) broke up with me in April and we had been going out for 4 months.. i really liked him alot.. he was probably the one guy i liked the most.. well i really missed him for a while and i would talk to him online and we'd be friends.. but then he started to become popular and snobby to me... then we were fighting and he called me a slut.. so i blocked him and he's been blocked.. and now its summer and i never see him or talk to him.. but i still have feelings for him.. i mean i don't like him as much as i used to but thinking of him makes me sad and i miss him.. i can't tell if i really still like him.. but i wanna hate him so badly!.. so then i have my other ex boyfriend ((pete)) who i broke up with in novemeber.. and he's still in love with me.. he really likes me a lot.. and he's such a sweet guy with a great personality and he always makes me laugh.. so here's the deal.. whenever i see pete.. i like him.. but then a few days after i see him im like.. well i don't know if i like him.. but he's like the perfect guy for me.. but there's not a big spark.. so my questions are.. do you think i still like my ex james??.. do you think i should give pete another chance and go out with him??.. and what can i do to get over james quicker?? sry its longg
I apologize if you believe anything I say is harsh, but I strive for real answers:
No matter how much you start to miss James, remember he broke up with you for a reason. There's a reason you're all alone right now, and apparently, he found it. He found the reason to break your heart. Sounds like a great guy, doesn't he?
It doesn't matter whether or not you like James. You want to be with a guy who calls you a slut, and breaks your heart and treats you like crap? I didn't think so... get over James and find yourself a new guy who will worship the ground you walk on.
I didn't mean Pete!!
Ok, in my opinion, exes are the worst people you can date. There's a reason the relationships over, and I think, because of that reason, it should STAY over.
If you don't feel any sparks or chemistry with Pete, it's perfectly ok not to date him. No matter how perfect he is, if there's no spark, there's no spark. He may be perfect for some other girl, but apparently not for you. Don't just settle, it's a waste of time, I promise you.
Allright, I've liked this girl I've known for a while, but everytime I start to make a move she hooks up with someone else. I know I'm waiting too long, I just don't know when the opprotune moment. For the past year she's been going out with my best friend. My best friend recently broke up with her girlfriend, but he told me what he was going to do beforehand.
She's one of my best friends; I've known her nearly all my life. And someone found out. That someone told her everything. She's not acting any differently towards me and I don't know what to make of my situation. Should I back off? OR should I hope for the best. Please, I don't know what to do.
I'd like to apologize if any of this sounds harsh:
It's a human relationship, involving emotions, other people, and mistakes. Expect the worst before ever hoping for the best.
If she knows, and she's not acting any differently, that's probably a signal to back off. If you've been 'making moves' on her, and she doesn't respond, or hooks up with someone else.. that's a sign also. Girls are pretty intuitive into that sort of thing (I think half of them even make up signs). But if she's not doing anything about it that means, to put it simply, she just thinks of you as a friend.
You can talk to her, and see if it changes anything, but usually you can't change someone's feelings by talking to them. You can try though.
My advice is basically to back off, and find someone else... someone who isn't just your 'friend'.
Well okay I have this best friend whose a guy named Joe.. me and him went out before well a lot? and actually a few weeks ago we liked eachother (and i'm like still madly in love with him) until this other girl came into the picture.. her name is brooke (i dispise her) well see the thing is me and him talk 24-7 and stuff and we still hang out and he flirts so much but him & brooke are together still =/ but he doesn't really seem to like her that much? he considers me and him bestestest friends forever.. we even share secrets together? but i am in LOVE with this kid =( .. well last nite we had a school dance (he slowed danced with her obvisioly) and like when the fast songs were on i was like getting low and stuff tehehe =] and he was all near me i loved it =] and brooke and all her friends were like ugh but oh well for them? but idk what 2 do..? hmm what should i do
You count the times you guys got back together. I'll count the times that you and Joe broke up.
I'm going to guess at this and say that he broke up with you? (Maybe you broke up with him. I don't know.) but either way, there had to be a reason for the break up. And that reason, if it hasn't gone away, is keeping you apart. And even if it isn't, there's another reason. He has a girlfriend.
If he wanted to be with you, wouldn't he be single, trying to ask you out? I mean, you can excuse him and say he doesn't know, but I think you're giving some pretty obvious signals. If you doubt me, you can tell him you like him. Find out for yourself that he'd rather date Brooke than you. (Ok, that was a little harsh, sorry..) but seriously, don't be this pimp's hoe. Please.
okay i really like this guy and i have for 2 yrz! the thing is hes 2 yrz older than i am...i kno i kno its a bigg diff...but i still like him...sometimes i see him looking atme and smiles and ugh! i want him to like me but the thing is tat theppl he hangs out with i HATE! and like then theres no way to talk to him...i have his sn but idk wat to say i mean its hard and confusing! so please help idk wat to do!
A great way to chase a guy off is to hate his friends. Make an effort, if he hangs out with them, they're probably okay people. I mean, he hangs out with you, right? (I am supposing you are an okay person too.)
You say what you feel like saying. Ask him about himself, tell him about yourself (not too much, though!) and talk about random things (movie, weather, work, etc.)
If you want to get to know him better in person, try joining a team he's on, or a club at school (if you both go to the same school) or just get a job at a place he goes to a lot.
hey,, well my brother has a friend,, his friend is 17 and im 13, joe, his friend and me a pretty tight, and stuff,, i really like Joe but idk if he likes me, and even when his g/f is there, hell look at me alot..his g/f is also 13..but shes ugly and he doesnt like her that much,, so, like, what should i do??
I wouldn't make a move until his girlfriend's out of the picture... but that's just me and my morals talking.
Once he and his girlfriend are through, I'd say talk to him about how you feel.. but remember, he's 17 and you're 13-- there could be more differences between the two of you then you realized. (Especially when it comes to where the relationship is going, how far, etc.)
As he's older, just watch your back, to be on the safe side.
Okay, so I like this girl, she knows I like her, but I asked her if she liked me once, she said that she likes me as a friend. I really want to hang out with her, etc, so that maybe I'll get her to rethink her response, but I'm at an age where co-ed is kind of discouraged. So, like, I got into an advanced science class, and there's only 20 people in that class. I was thrilled when I found out she had gotten in. The bad news? One of my other friends---a guy---also got in, and so I'd probably be expected to sit next to him, if we had a choice in seating.
Also, whenever I throw a party, should I invite her? I mean, theres some 15 guys there, hanging out, talking about DnD or how far we just got in Warioware, but then it would be kind of awkward to have just one single individual girl theere. I'm really kinda screwed in the head right now, she invited me to her parties, but then again, there were like ten guys there. What should I do, advicenators?
Allright, so she knows you like her, and she only likes you as a friend. If she's stubborn, that probably won't change... but if you want to try and change her mind, go for it. Just try not to mess up the friendship in the process (as in, probably nothing physical)
As for the whole science thing, you can always find a seating place for three (or, well, you can in my school) so go for that. If there isn't one, tell your other friend that you like this girl and want to sit next to her, or whatever. Hopefully, he won't be an ass about it.
As for the party thing, if you want to invite her to a party, get more girls there! That would be awkward and possibly boring if she's not interested in the things you all are talking about.
i'm 15 and my boyfriend and i have been going out for like a year and a half. my question is:
if your boyfriend has been ignoring you for like a month, but hasnt like hinted anything about breaking up, whut does it all mean?
- confused
It could mean a variety of things: good and bad. But as this is a relationship involving mistakes and emotions, expect the worst.
Because if you don't, it'll be like a slap in the face.
Just because he hasn't hinted doesn't mean he isn't planning on doing anything. Talk to him about it, and see what's really on his mind. But if you do talk to him, be warned that he might find the courage to tell you how he feels.
i broke up wit my exgirl a couple months ago but i cant stand bein away from her i want her back i feel like i cant live wit out her wut should i do?
You could either try and get over her, or try and get her back. I suggest the first one, because chances are she's not going to want the guy that broke her heart to mend it again.
There had to be a reason you broke up with her in the first place, am I right? She'll be haunted by that. But if you want to get her back and think your feelings are sincere, go for it.
If it's meant to be, it'll work out. If not, then don't dwell on it, and find something else to do.
OK my ex boyfriend calls me everyday to talk about his day. He slips in a sentence about me and him then he talks about his girlfriends. Yes that is plural. He has more than 1. He asks me to rate him on how hot he is on a scale from 1-10. I rate him a 7 and a half. He has a nice body but he's not niice to me when we date. This guy, does he still like me or not? I rate! Sorry so long. We had a relationship for 2 months before I found out he cheated on me.
To me, he doesn't sound like a boyfriend. He sounds like a pimp.
Don't fall for his games, and don't believe what he says. If he calls you again, just hang up. The harsh truth is, that he probably doesn't like you, he likes your body. Don't become one among the vast number of his many girlfriends(whores?).
In short, move on. You deserve better.
Im going into 7th grade and never had a bf!
Everyone tells me im pretty and I've been popular and everything at my school. Im even a model!
But I dont brag or anything
But anyways theres this boy I like and I really want to get closer to him. Once he tried to kiss me but my mom walked into the house and he stopped. And now were kinda like friends. Is there anything I can do to get him to like me again?
You sound like this friend of mine, her name was Amanda (of course, she's in 10th grade now...)
Well, you're already friends with this kid. You might as well let him know how you feel.. if he tried to kiss you, that probably means he has some sort of feelings for you. And there's a good likelihood that he still does. If not, well, then forget him.
O.K. My boyfriend cheated on me like... 3 weeks ago. I forgave him, as long as he never did it again. It was pretty hard trusting him again after that, but I did. After I had THOUGHT I had gained nothing but love and respect for him again... he CHEATED ON ME AGAIN with my sister! I know it's pretty weird but I don't trust EITHER one of them. How can get over the fact that my OWN sister could do that to me? I miss my boyfriend but I have been hurt enough and don't NEED him in my life. I love my sister but what she did was wrong and I have still not forgiven her.
I can't believe this could ACTUALLY happen to me! I'm so depressed all the time and I have lost hope in ever finding the right guy again! I really thought he was the one for me. He was so right for me, so perfect and then, BOOM! He's sleeping with my sister! I don't know what to do! I'm so confused. I'm so depressed that I'm throwing up and crying non-stop. It's really sad for me. My sister keeps telling me she's sorry but I still have not forgiven her. I haven't even talked to her! Please help! This is really devastating for me and I need someone to tell me what to do!
I rate high!
Katie Marie Sanchez- age 17
If he was the 'one' he wouldn't have cheated on you the first time. In fact, he wouldn't have cheated at all. Going with the cliche, there are other fish in the sea.
As for your sister... I get jealous when my sister just likes my boyfriends... I don't know how you could stand that. But, if it were me, I probably wouldn't really trust my sister and my boyfriends alone together-- ever. Let her know you're mad at her, do whatever you have to do. Then be a nice person and forgive her. I'm not saying trust her, just forgive her.
As for yourself, don't get all depressed just because one guy has gone mental. Date, work, trust your sister, buy a book on getting over him, do whatever you have to to get over him.. eventually, you will.
If it makes you feel better, he chose you to be in an actual relationship with rather than your sister. This has to show something for your personal/physical qualities! He chose you over the other sluts! And some other guy will do the same thing, without the whole sleeping-with-your-sister-thing.
a guy that i like a lot thinks i have lost interaste in him which isnt true at all. i tryed tellin him but he still thinks i dont like him as much and i need a way to prove it to him that i love him a lot can someone plz help me out??
If he doesn't believe you, it's not your loss, it's his. What he's basically saying by not choosing to realize your feelings is that he doesn't trust what you say.
But if you really need a way to prove to him that you like him, ask him out.