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messing around
well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we're always messing around but lately we haven't it feels like our realationship isn't the same anymore.i told him i didn't feel like it was the same and he told me he was feeling the same way so he suggested that could be the problem that we haven't been messing around with each other and he thinks we should start again,but i feel that why should we mess around juss so we can feel that spark between us again.shouldn't it juss be like we don't have to do anything like that juss so our relationship could be the same.i don't like the fact that i always have to satisfy him juss so he can be happy with us.i feel like if i don't do it our relationship will not be the same.wat should i do?should i do it or not.he's not pressuring me to do it he was saying that as a suggestion but i don't know i juss need some advice i guess and i will rate a five for juss sum good advice o and i don't mean messing around like having sex with him i haven't done that yet and we love each other alot it's just that we want the love to be on a high level right now. we don't want it on medium i guess u can say but he's like my best friend.i really care about him and i know he feels the same about me.
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believe it or not, being physical with eachother is a very important part of the relationship. its pretty much the line that sets puppy love apart from the real deal. you may not think so because so often guys will pretend to love you just so that they can get some.. but when you know somebody loves you, and you have a caring and loving relationship.. messing around, can only make things better. i cant think of any way it could possibly hurt the relationship. but yeah.. just try spending more time with eachother. dont make it a point to mess around every single time your together.. just try and fit it in to your scheduel.. if you know what i mean.
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Physical satisfaction is a big part of a relationship (as horrible as that sounds), but if 'the beginning spark' is all the relationship is built on... it's not going to last. If he needs to mess around and do stuff with you to be happy with the relationship, then it's not love, sorry to inform.
If you, with all of your heart really believe I'm wrong, then talk to him about all of this stuff. If he's your best friend you should be able to tell him anything- including when he's making you feel uncomfortable. Compromise with him- that's what will keep your relationship alive.
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i think you should try messing around, sometimes it takes that to make a relitionship work because its an intamate level that talking cant get too. Your never gonna no what works in relasionships and what doesnt unless u try. Hope i help! good luck!
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