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This weekend im suppose to be going out with one of my friends to a different town around people i dont know and people she does know. How can I hang out with them and be cool w/o making a fool of myself. How do I meet knew people..i thhink im scared a little, but how do i overcome that? Does anyone have any ideas of how I can not be afraid? Maybe Im just scared people will hate me or something? Any Advice ? thanks!! (link)
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Sounds like you don't need any help to me. Think about it...when you first met your friends...you didn't know them (unless they're people you've known since you were born) but anyways..yeah~ You had to make friends in school 'n stuff didn't you? It's kind of the same with this situation. Just be yourself. And I know everyone always says "just be yourself" but it's the truth. It's better to be friends with people that actually know you and like you for who you are, instead of people who think they know you and like you because you changed your image, and your personality for them. Good Luck, 'n hope I helped!
-tori
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There is this one kid who goes to my school and his name is Jamie. He's been at my school since second grade and I have always just thought he was kind of an annoying and weird kid. He used to like me and he still flirts with me but I have always sort of acted like I hated him (because i thought i did). Anyway I figured out that all this time I have liked him. It seems like a good thing (because he might still like me) but there is a problem...He's moving to Hong Kong in January! He's kind of a geek in my grade but he thinks he's really popular and stuff and I was going to tell him right away that I like him but then I decided that it would be really weird if he didn't still like me too and then he would tell everyone that I like him and then I would be thought of as a loser for the rest of my life at school. So after that I thought that maybe I would tell him on his last day of school but I'm not sure if that is the right thing to do....Please help me...SOON! (link)
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Hey~ just tell him how you feel.'N if he still flirts with you, I think he still likes you. So, I'd tell him. You'll regret when he moves to Hong Kong if you don't tell him before. Trust me..I know. If he ends up not liking you, then ask him to not tell anyone. Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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Hey...I'm not sure how to say this but I will anyway...I want to start dating but I don't know If I can build up enough courage to ask my parents if I can have a boyfrined. They are the most protective people in the world sometimes the don't even let me go anywhere with my frineds. I do have a guy and we're frineds but they get suspicious of him...I do like him but they don't know that
Do you have any tips for me to ask them if I can ask him out?
It aould be appreciated
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I had this same exact problem. I couldn't go anywhere with my friends either. All my friends would go to sleepovers except for me, and when the next day came, they would all talk about how fun it was and they would be like " oh remember when she did this" and " Oh my gosh, that was so funny!" I hated my parents for never letting me go anywhere. Whenever I had guy friends, my parents would always be like " So do you like him?!?" I came to the point where I wanted to start dating. I knew that if I told my parents..they'd go crazy. But I ended up asking them if I could have a boyfriend. I was 13 when I asked them. 'N to my surprise..they said "yes"..but...it wasn't just a "yes" to everything. They said, " You can have a boyfriend, but you can't go out with him" I figured out they meant that I couldn't go anywhere with him, and that all I could do was talk to him on the phone and hang out with him at school. I didn't like that..but hey, trust builds up that way! So, just say, " Mom, Dad, when can I start dating and have a boyfriend?" Let them know that you're mature enough to handle things your way. Good Luck, 'n HOpe I helped! *Sorry it's so long*
-tori
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Hi. My name is Toni and i'm a girl. My friend has been putting things about me on her profile and they are really mean things. I saw them and they made me feel bad and when i was alone, i cried for hours. I can be a dramaqueen, but who isn't one at one time or another?
Also people in her guestbook were calling me a bitch and saying that i was immature and they dont even know me! Should i tell my friend? Thanks in advance!
Toni
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Yeah! Tell her! I wouldn't exactly call her your "friend", but I think you should tell her. 'N it seems to me that she's the one that's an immature Bit**. But hey~ that's my opinion, if you still wanna be good friends with her, talk to her about it. 'N if she doesn't listen to you when you talk to her about it, forget her. She's not worthy enough to be called a "friend" Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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well..i just went to the movies with alot of people last night (friday) and i was there with the person i like..and we were holding hands and stuff.. then right befor the movie ended..he made out with me..i didnt know what to do..is it true that it comes naturally to you? cause it didnt to me..i know i did terrible..and he is much more advanced than me..this was my first kiss..it was so embarrising cause i know i did a very bad job.. will i ever learn? and why didnt i know what to do right away like everyone told me i would? please help me.. (link)
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Hey, don't worry, you probably did fine! You probably kept panicing on what to do that all you could think of was "Omg, I suck at kissing!" And it was your fist kiss! I don't think anything comes perfect the first time. 'N hey~ for all you know, what if he thought you were a great kisser?! lol You'll get better at it, so don't worry! Wish ya'll good luck! Hope I helped!
-tori
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alright well i dont wanna be like another girl saying oh my relationships arent workign out its only been a month blah blah .. yeah thats not a real relationship .. see for about 3 years now on and off i've been with my boyfriend .. this is the third time we've been together adn its been about 2 months but for some reason it just hasnt seem the same at all .. and he is completely obsessed and always says to me how im like his life and idk what to do because i know how badly i'd hurt him .. and im scared because what if me and him really do have a future with eachother but just not right now and if i ruin it with him now he might not want me later in life .. please i could use any advice (link)
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Well, if you don't break up with him now because you're afraid you're gonna hurt him, think about when you think you need to break up with him later. You're gonna end up hurting him even more because he'll care for you more.'N also, you said "what if me and him really do have a future with each other but just not right now" and you also said "he might not want me later in life" Well, if you say you might have a future with him, then it will happen in the future, but just not now. Don't worry about "later in life" because if anything's supposed to happen "later in life" it will. My advice, think about it, but I say, break up, and my reason is the very first two sentences.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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This might be a stupid question, but how do you know when you're in love with someone? How does it feel? (link)
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First of all,your question isn't stupid.My teacher always tells me,"There is no such thing as a stupid question, it's only stupid when you don't ask it." You'll know what love feels like when it happens to you. It's a very special feeling you get perhaps the greatest feeling ever. It seems like you'd die for that person and just think of him/her 24/7. lol, it's hard to tell because most kids think they're in love when it's really just a crush.But yeah~ when you love someone, I think it feels like nothing else in the world matters anymore, just you 'n that person only. Hope I helped!
-tori
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Okay...my friend who is 13. Recently just went oit and got hammered..on whisky. and its not like this is his first time either. He is my best friend..and yeah i kinda like him. He said a lot of things when he was drunk..but i wouldnt know because i got up at 2:30 am and walked alone, all the way home..and he just stuck his head out the door and said :make it home safe: well..my step sister said that she mothered him the whole night. he drank half a bottle of whiskey. He said that he wanted to fuck me, that i was going to be so pissed at him..a lot of shit.
Should i beleive anything he says? he keeps on apologizing to me..
well my question is, how do i tell him that im really dissapointed in him without making him feel shittier then he already feels? (link)
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First of all, he shouldn't have been drinking anyways! But hey~ when you're drunk, ya say a lot of crazy things. So, be understanding about that. Tell him that it's not right to be drinking, and just tell him it makes you upset and everything you just explained.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks. (link)
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Just ask him. If you wanna know, then ask him! See if he really wants to meet you. If he just doesn't sound like he does, then I say you should move on. 'N you won't sound pushy, you just wanna know because he keeps holding it back. Or whatever he's trying to do. Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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Okay, Im 14 and my boyfriend and i have been on and off for about a year and i really think im in love with him. A year isnt that long but weve been through A LOT. But we are two TOTALLY different people. We dont agree on anything except the way we feel for each other. So us not being alike at all causes us to argue all the time. We argue more than we are nice to each other. But we only argue when were not with each other. When were together everything is perfectly fine. Hes the best bf ive ever had and he wont believe me everytime i try to tell him that. He just puts himself down and thinks i deserve better but all i want is him and i tell him that all the time. He thinks we need time apart to make things better but i dont. (see we disagree again) and i love him with all my heart and i know he loves me too. Just the disagreements get in the way and i really dont know how to solve that. I'll do anything i have to to make this work. I really love him. (link)
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Wow...well, it's kind of a problem to not have a lot in common. But that doesn't mean a relationship can't work. Ya'll can make it work.Just keep telling him that you really like him. Try not to argue with him too. If ya'll start to argue, think about how stupid it is. If it's a good enough reason to argue over then okay, talk to him about it, just don't fight over it. All you have to do is think before you speak. I know it's easier said than done, but it can happen if you really try to think before you speak.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
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i have a problem with my ex boyfriend.... when i was going out with him he hit me a few times.... twisted my arm and hurt my side and i have bruses from him.... but lately i have been with him more and more and then last nite he kissed me and he told me that he loved me still... i don't know what to do? (link)
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Sure he said he loves you, but I say actions say a whole lot more than words. He can say whatever he wants, but that doesn't change the fact that he hit you when ya'll were going out.If he hit you in your relationship before, what makes you think he won't do it again? I don't think you should go back into an abusive realtionship. But hey~ follow your heart! Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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my bf lives like an hour away nd i see him every weekend nd i love the kidd soo much its like scarey nd i kno he loves me too. but since i started school ive started likin this otha kid too but i kno if i wasnt goin out wit my bf i wouldnt eva do ne thin more than hook up wit him cuz hes like madd cool nd i wouldnt want him to like hate me or ne thin. im so confused cuz i have no idea wut to do is that even rite to hav a bf nd be feelin someone else too? wut should i do? i need help fast im like soo confuzed
thnx!!
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You're emotions are just...kinda mixed up I guess? lol. It wouldn't exactly be called love if you're starting to crush on this other kid. It's not right 'n it's not wrong to have a boyfriend and kinda like someone else. Just wait, a while. It might be because you miss your boyfriend a lot. But like I said, wait a while. Give yourself some time to sort everything out. Hope I helped!
-tori
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im 15. in year 11. there's this boy. i REALLY like him, but i don't think he even knows i exist. whenever im around him i can't even speak to him, i juts get all embarrassed. i really want him to at least acknowledge my existance, but i don't know how! like i said, i can't even speak in front of him! any advice? i really need help! (link)
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Well, my advice, get over your fear, 'n just go up to talk to him. At least say hi! How will he acknoweledge your existance if you can't even say hi?!?! Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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I met this guy I really like at a football game this past Friday.. Well.. he called me Sunday and asked me out. Since he asked me out.. we talk on the phone for HOURS at a time. I mean like 3 and 4 hours for each call.
Im really starting to like him ALOT! Is it possible to fall in love with someone u barely know? (link)
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Yeah it's possible! Sounds like love at first sight. lol. Hope I helped!
-tori
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There is this boy that i love oh so much and we've been dating for a long time and we both go to different schools. there's this other girl though, that flirts with him alot and im scared of him liking her. what should i do?? (link)
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Ask him if he likes her, he'll most likely deny it if he does, but if he really loves you, then he won't lie to you. But ya gotta trust him!Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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How do you get someone to like you? Its sounds like a dumb question but i dont know what to do. Whenever i am around a guy and i like him, i have a funny way of showing it. I have never had much luck and never really had a boyfriend who was serious. Do you know what i can do? (link)
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Two words...be yourself.You may hear everyone telling you that, but it's really true. You should be yourself, it's better than changing everything about you to get attention from someone you like. Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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I went out with this guy for 9 months, and I was in love. His family had to move so we broke up:( It was really hard but now were good friends and we talk on the phone and on IM. When we were going out, he was really over protective of me and he always kept me safe and all. Now that its over, I flirt with guys a lot and my "friend" told him that. Hes soooo mad at me and I dont know why. He shouldent even be mad because its over!! I just wanna tell him to shut up..but I wont..so what do I say to make him understand that were not going out and he doesnt have to be over protective and all? He even has a gurl-friend and he doesnt see me getting all mad..ugh!! (link)
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Just tell him the point you just told us. Tell him that there's really no reason that he should be mad at you cause ya'll are just friends now.'N also tell him that he shouldn't be mad 'n overprotective because he has a girlfriend 'n like you said, he doesn't see you getting all mad about it. Don't get all pissed at him though. Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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My boyfriend is at war, and I miss him very much. I need advice on how to get through this tough time without him at home. The kids keep asking about him and I haven't answered them yet. I'm not sure what to tell them when they ask why they're Dad is over in Iraq. Can you please help me so I know how to answer my kids' questions when they are upset and ask for their father who hasn't been home in over 4 months. Thank you! (link)
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Don't lie to them, just tell them the truth, even if it does kinda hurt them...but, they need to know the truth don't they?'N plus, they can write letters to him, 'n send him stuff. So, it's not all that bad. Wish you luck, 'n Hope I helped!
-tori
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Well, ok my b/f moved to Oregon like 1 month ago and we are still goin out..coming up on our 11month anniversary. I miss him sooo much and i dont know what to do. There's this guy at my new skool that likes me and i donno if i like him...but i kinda flirt with him. I think that i do that cuz i miss flirtin with my b/f..even though me n my b/f talk every night..my heart aches all the time. I really donno what to do..i love him and yet we are so far apart. I dont wanna loose him :`( (link)
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Yeah~ long distance relationships are hard to handle..but you can go through it! There will be other guys, but you're gonna have to handle that the right way. Wish ya luck with your relationship! Hope I helped!
-tori
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I always feel left out and out of place and I always wonder what life would be like without me. I know I have friends who love me but I always end up thinking what would happen if i died... would it make a big difference? I especially wonder what my ex-boy friend would say ... I just want to feel needed, someone who will love me back ... some how when i have a boy friend or someone close to me i feel like i have a purpose ... is that normal ... to want to be needed? (link)
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I say it's pretty normal to think what would it be like if you were gone. I think about it all the time. But be positive about it! Of course it will make a difference. Maybe not to the world, but yes, to your true friends, 'n your family. Hope I helped!
-tori
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