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My boyfriend is at war...
My boyfriend is at war, and I miss him very much. I need advice on how to get through this tough time without him at home. The kids keep asking about him and I haven't answered them yet. I'm not sure what to tell them when they ask why they're Dad is over in Iraq. Can you please help me so I know how to answer my kids' questions when they are upset and ask for their father who hasn't been home in over 4 months. Thank you!
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Don't lie to them, just tell them the truth, even if it does kinda hurt them...but, they need to know the truth don't they?'N plus, they can write letters to him, 'n send him stuff. So, it's not all that bad. Wish you luck, 'n Hope I helped!
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Depending on the age of your kids its best to be honest with them.
My friend is at war and his little sister always asks where he is and this is exactly how we explain it to her:
"There was a man in iraq and he was very mean, he hurts lots of people and isnt very nice to the people in his country, the army was sent there to help all the people in iraq and they arrested the bad guy. Now that he is in jail your brother is over there with the army trying to help everyone get their country back so they can be safe now."
We try to keep the major details out of it and just basically say that hes helping people over there, it seems to work pretty well and its mostly true. shes 6 and think he brother is very brave to be helping people. We just tell her to pray and not worry her brother will be back soon. Try not to make it sound like its a bad or scary situation for him.
Hope all goes well :)
*princs
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This can be a very difficult situation. It is probbaly really hard on you since you have children with your boyfriend. If I knew how old your children were, it might be easier to tell you what to tell them. If they are very young, you should probably just tell them that thier Daddy is at work, becasue technically, that is what he is doing. You don't wanan deveistate a young child with talk of war. But, if they are old enough to understand what is going on, you can be honest and say he is Iraq fighting for our country, trying to keep the bad terrorist away from us. Let them know to have faith and, and prey for him. he will be home soon.
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