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I like this guy named bob(random name) and he goes to my school. He rides the same bus I do and we always like look at each other like glazing in each others eyes. My friend Aliza told him to sit next to me on the bus. So he said yes.. in an instance[[like quickly]].

Also i like this other guy named billy(another random name) but he doesnt live in my town he lives where i used to. I dont know him too well though. But we are meeting up tomorrow[[the 6th of oct.]]

So if anyone has awesome advice can you help me.. please

You shouldn't pick either, if you really have to ask others about it.

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i am 7 months pregnant. i honestly do not like my boyfriends mother that much . she is 37 years old and i am 20. she is a very very pushy woman and always needs things to go her way and has no problem whatsoever putting her 2 cents in any given situation, even what to name our son. to make things short, i want my mom to be in the hospital room when i give birth, however, do not want my boyfriends mom in there because she makes me uncomfortable and i do not care for her much. i understand and respect the fact that my boyfriend loves and adores his mother and would never do anything to try and change that, however, we have not always seen eye to eye(his mother and i) ..my question is : i need my mom to be in the room when i give birth, but is it wrong of me to request that my boyfriends mother stay out? ..it would really hurt my boyfriend, since he wants his mother there, however, would really bother and hurt me if she were in there because i feel she would ruin my experience of bringing my baby into the world. Also, my mother feels that since i am her daughter, she should be in the room and she does not like my boyfriends mother as well. i feel as if she will be offended and hurt (my mom) if i invite my boyfriends mother in the room as well because she feels like she is fighting for the fact that i am her daughter and she is my mom, not his mom.

I would privately talk to the doctor and request for him limit the amount of people allowed in the delivery room and explain this situation to him. Than you can just tell your boyfriend and mom that they are only allowing two people in the room, and that should be your boyfriend since he is the father, and your mom, since she is your mother. There is no need for him mom to be there over your mom, he isn't giving birth you are, you are going to need your mother. She needs to understand that, and if she doesn't than tough. As far as your boyfriend, explain to him that your mom has always been there for you and you need her at a time like this because you are scared.

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Does everyone have some people that hate them?I was just wondering.

Yes, one person's trash is another person's treasure. We are all very different, of course we have to be or the world would be really boring, and when different people are around personalities clash, conflicts are created, and feelings of hatred are developed. Occasionaly we have people that hate others for no reason, that is either based on a insecurity, or lack of intelligence.

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ok, i laugh ALOT!!! and the main reason is my boyfriend! everytime i try not to think about it, that leads me to someting else, and then that leads me to thinking about something funny that he does. i just know that one day im going to be sitting in class one day, and im going to think about something funny, and im going to get in trouble!

any advice?

I did that a lot through out High School. If you get in trouble just tell the teacher im sorry, talk to him/her privately and let em know that you mean no disrespect, and your just having a hard time containing your laughter. You shouldn't get in to much trouble.

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do guys act like jerks to show out when theyre around a girl they like? i met this guy [17/m] the 1st day of school, a couple weeks later he says he likes me and weve been talky/flirty ever since. hes a sweetie, but lately ive noticed when other people are around he can get real like snappy and stuff, well mainly just towards other guys. not to me but just to other people. my friend [his friend also] even called him out on it today, saying 'you werent like this an hour ago [before i got there] now youre just being a jerk' but i mean nothin had happened, hes friends with them and he doesnt act that way towards me? wuts his deal?

He could be trying to show off, or maybe he is really emotional and has insecurites, and he wants to show you that if you hurt him, he's not going to be very nice to you. I don't know if im explaining it correctly, but i believe guys are just as emotional as girls, they just have a different way of showing their emotions. If you do get in a realtionship with him (friendship or dating) i would definitely talk to him about it, and ask him if something is bothering him. He also could be having problems at home or personal problems in his life. Lastly, some people are just like that, one mintue they are ok and they next they have a mood swing.

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i was so close to going out with a kid i really like but then he changed his mind about going out wuth me now he wont talk to me and i dont know why what should i do

Move on, anyone that doesn't want to be with you doesn't deserve to be with you.

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Please read this article first (not boring at all):

http://www.squeezeoc.com/blog/fashionfix/2006/09/the_skinny_on_d.html

Well, I have the similar problem as hers with the legs and hips even though I'm a size 1, My legs are kind of what she explained about hers and I want good legs like the ones in the picture so I don't have "chicken drumettes."

I never actually tried on skinney jeans before but I have a similar pair of jeans JUST like that one but more bright blue and it flares at the bottom..so maybe it'll look ok?

But all my tops go like halfway down my butt, not up the wear the jeans start so maybe it'll like pop up at the top/front?

omg your a size 1 and ur complaining about not being able to wear skinny jeans. I think you should wear em. Im a size 7 so i really know i can't pull them off. I would definitely think you should go for it.

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16/f

This past summer me and my best friend hung out with a group of guys. We spent like the whole summer with them. We all started out as friends. Then one day my best friend told me that one of the guys liked me more as friends.

So we had a little thing. We held hands and kissed and things like that. I guess you could say we were dating.Everything was going good and we had a lot of fun when we hung out.He would always text me and stuff. And at first i loved it. But he wanted me to hang out with him almost EVERYDAY. And i wanted time for my other friends too. So i kinda ignored his texts and didnt say anything to him for a while.(yeah i know that wasnt the right thing to do)After that we just didnt even talk anymore.

Well anyways now that school has started and i see him every single day, i think im might still have a thing for him. And i drive myself crazy thinking about how it would have been if we still were together.I want to be friends with him again. The only thing is, he doesnt even look at me. And i know that he is mad but,i have NO CLUE what to do!!!!! PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!!!!!

Thanks to anyone that answers, i really appericate it! (:

Start talking to him, but do it slowly. Text him first and ask how he is doing. A day later you can call him. Depending on how he is reacting start hanging out with him in school, and take it from there.

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Ok, I really want to be Snape from Harry Potter for Halloween. I'm going to my brother's halloween party and he said that would be perfect. Here's what I've decided so far:

Hair: dye it black and before the party, put some kind of oil in it to make it look greasy (not lookin forward to that hahah).

And, that's about it. Keep in mind, we just thought of this today, so I don't have many ideas. But here are my questions:

1. What kind of hair dye could I use that will only last a day (max. of 2 days preferably, I do have to go to college hahah)??

2. What kind of clothes should I wear? I know I need a black cape, but what else should I wear? I know I'll need something like this: http://snapecast.com/2006/11/02/as-promisedrachaels-halloween-costume/
Does anyone know where I can find something similar to that?

3. Any other suggestions or advice?

Please help me, I'd really appreciate it. :]

18/f by the way.

Try semi permanent, or demi permanent hair color, i think it would stay in a litte longer than 2 days tho, maybe a week or two at the most, but that is the closet thing i can think of when it comes to hair color that is not permanent, you can try Sally's beauty supply.

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does anyone know anything creative that would be good for a haunted house? it needs to be something scary, but not too scary, cause were going to have kids there.

I saw this chandelier that shakes, you can get it from spencers. I think that would be nice.

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Alright,theres a cute hollister dress that i bought.And it would look really cute with leggings,andd it says that to.But idk heres the dress.Tell me what you guys think I should wear it with??
http://www.hollisterco.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/product_10251_10201_361558_-1_12602_12552

I think you should wear a white or blue long sleeved shirt underneath it. Ballet Flat shoes.

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i think hes in a movie that i dont know the name to but i remember one line from ..

"my mother died before i was born"
"thats impossible that she died before you were born cos then you would have never been born"
"well, i didnt get the chance to meet her"

or something like that .. what movie is this from?

That quote was in the movie Milk Money.... the kid from the sixth sense is not in the movie. but it also could of been used in another movie as well.

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To get lemon juice i put lemon juice with a little water in my hair but can i go swimming with it in of will it come out in the pool??? Help and hurry!!!

I Don't think it would work if you go swimming, you should put it in your hair and sun bathe.

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So basically, my hair is reallllly dry/damaged from me straightening it everyday.

Well sometimes, I don't wash my hair so it stays straight, and I skip a day or two. But it looks downright AWFUL if I don't straighten it.

So I was wondering if I could do anything to un-damage it??

Try the chemistry treatment from hair cuttery. It cost about $10-$16. It's basically a deep conditioning treatment that they provide. It helps a lot, but i would recommend a trim along with the treament. Also get the treament done once every 4-6 weeks.

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(15/f)
I have this friend, let's call him "Denis". We've been really good friends for quite some time. People are of divided opinion about us; a third of them think we're brother and sister, another third thinks that we're a cute couple, and the last third wants to kill me for being close to him(sadly, he has a fanclub, which he remains oblivious to).
I've come to realize, about a year or so ago, that I love him. And, I think the feeling could be reciprocated. People have told him to "Stop flirting with (me), and answer my question", causing him to shut up, and if I didn't know better, I would say he was blushing. And sometimes he stares me in the eyes for a long time, goes to say something, but stops before he does. He's a really sweet guy.
The thing is, his parents are divorced. And recently he found out that he is going to move in with his dad. His dad lives on the other side of the country. Three timezones away. I'm at a loss of what to do. Should I tell him how I feel and hope for the best. Risking breaking our friendship if he doesn't feel the same way. Or should I just keep quiet, and just hope that I'll eventually get over him? Key word: eventually.

I appreciate all advice, and thank you in advance.
Sorry about the length, thank you for your time.

I definitely think you should tell him. It does sound like he likes you by the way you described your relationship with him. I believe friendships can be restored, so even if he does not have any feelings for you and you do tell him i think things will work out for you. You may not have a relationship with him, but if he's a nice guy he probably will still want to be friends with you.

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i'm cutting my hair up to my chin [about] tomorrow, and i need ideas of how to style it.
here's a picture of me:
http://img235.imageshack.us/img235/6888/dsc04014ux2.jpg
any suggestions? i'm open to pretty much anything.

Your hair is a nice length, don't cut it.

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hey guys, my boyfriend told me last night that "he knows" that I am deleting text messages from my cell phone that I don't want him to see...Well, he's right, but of course, I denied it. I'm not flirting with any guys or anything like that! I love him to death and I would never think of doing anything stupid to mess up our relationship, but I do delete stuff that i don't want him to see, like things I'm talking to my girls about or stupid stuff I dont want in my message box...But I cant tell him that or he will assume its cuz its a guy or something blah blah blah...So, what I'm asking is how CAN he KNOW? He told me again today!! I delete them from my inbox and outbox and from a message recipients list I have in my nokia...He doesnt go online to check our account so I dont know how he knows!!! can someone who is savvy in cellphones help me figure out how he knows I'm deleting stuff? It's weirding me out...

With some nokias it lets you have a certain amount of text messeges. And if you have less than that amount and he'll assume that you have been deleting them.

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Is there any way, i can get free ringtones on it?
Because you can't record a song and make it a ring tone like my previous phones.

That phone should come with a usb adapter, you can transfer MP3's to that phn and use the as ringtones. You take the usb adapter plug it into your phn and the other end to the computer, go to my computer, click on removable device, and than you can just drag the music from the file on ur computer to the your music file. I dont think i explained it well. You can also edit the songs to make a ringtone using a program such as adobe audition.

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would a big tattoo on your back hurt? well i know it would hurt, but how much?

It hurts more where ever you have less meat on your body.

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