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Boyfriend is checking my celly - advice please!
hey guys, my boyfriend told me last night that "he knows" that I am deleting text messages from my cell phone that I don't want him to see...Well, he's right, but of course, I denied it. I'm not flirting with any guys or anything like that! I love him to death and I would never think of doing anything stupid to mess up our relationship, but I do delete stuff that i don't want him to see, like things I'm talking to my girls about or stupid stuff I dont want in my message box...But I cant tell him that or he will assume its cuz its a guy or something blah blah blah...So, what I'm asking is how CAN he KNOW? He told me again today!! I delete them from my inbox and outbox and from a message recipients list I have in my nokia...He doesnt go online to check our account so I dont know how he knows!!! can someone who is savvy in cellphones help me figure out how he knows I'm deleting stuff? It's weirding me out...
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With some nokias it lets you have a certain amount of text messeges. And if you have less than that amount and he'll assume that you have been deleting them.
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Ok, you say "our account" so I assume you share a phone plan?
It says on the bill how many texts came to each phone number on the plan. It shows the phone number each text went to and came from. With TMobile, if you have unlimited texting, it only shows the number of texts per phone, per month, but it may depend on your phone provider. If he reads the bill, that is how he would know.
But my question to you is, why is he so worried about your text messages? That is your personal business, not his.
Hell, my husband and I have separate phones, and he gets a lot of calls and such, but I never fret over what is or isn't on his phone. It isn't any of my business or concern. It's called TRUST.
There are two key ingredients to a healthy relationship. Trust and honesty. Without that, you are getting nowhere fast- you just don't see it until it slaps you in the face.
I hope this is something you can resolve by being honest with him by letting him know he has nothing to worry about, and that he trusts you and lets it go. If he doesn't trust your honesty, then, sadly, you need to seriously reconsider this relationship.
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maybe he was bluffing and you fell into it
like saying i know what you did yesterday...when they really dont....
just dont let him play with your phone anymore
its a violation of trust
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The only way that he could possibly know unless he went on your cell phone account to see how many text messages you have gotten is if he checks your phone when you're not around. Otherwise, there's not really a way for him to know for sure that you're deleting them.
I know it's not really any of my business, but when a guy acts like you've got something to hide, it's usually because they're trying to hide something and by blaming you, you won't blame him.
Hope this helps.
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