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I have this friend, let's call him "Denis". We've been really good friends for quite some time. People are of divided opinion about us; a third of them think we're brother and sister, another third thinks that we're a cute couple, and the last third wants to kill me for being close to him(sadly, he has a fanclub, which he remains oblivious to).
I've come to realize, about a year or so ago, that I love him. And, I think the feeling could be reciprocated. People have told him to "Stop flirting with (me), and answer my question", causing him to shut up, and if I didn't know better, I would say he was blushing. And sometimes he stares me in the eyes for a long time, goes to say something, but stops before he does. He's a really sweet guy.
The thing is, his parents are divorced. And recently he found out that he is going to move in with his dad. His dad lives on the other side of the country. Three timezones away. I'm at a loss of what to do. Should I tell him how I feel and hope for the best. Risking breaking our friendship if he doesn't feel the same way. Or should I just keep quiet, and just hope that I'll eventually get over him? Key word: eventually.
I appreciate all advice, and thank you in advance.
Sorry about the length, thank you for your time.
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hi there..
you have many questions in one problem.
you ask should i tell him how i feel?
- yes you should
is it going to make things awkard?
- you guys are really close and it may be obvious he likes you to .. it will not ruin your releationship ..because he should understand that you like him as u probably spend alot of time together anyway and you know each other from the inside out ..
but as you said he is moving to the other side of the country ...soo yess of course tell him but think about if you would date him as in "is there any poiint?" ...you need to think hard about if there is any point going out with him if he is on the other side of the country.
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I agree with the other set of advice. If he really is as sweet as you say and you are such good friends, even if he doesn't feel the same for you, you two should be able to stay friends. If you cannot stay friends because you like him, maybe he's not worth your friendship. If he does like you, you're all set. The worst thing that could happen is you could stop being friends which may happen anyway because he is moving. The best of luck - Dida
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I definitely think you should tell him. It does sound like he likes you by the way you described your relationship with him. I believe friendships can be restored, so even if he does not have any feelings for you and you do tell him i think things will work out for you. You may not have a relationship with him, but if he's a nice guy he probably will still want to be friends with you.
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it seems like this is a "time can cure all" case.
I think instead of putting yourself in agony by restraining your feelings for him is wrong. I think little by little you should tell him, not to bluntly... but not to meekly.Make sure its the right time to tell him. I mean not like when your talking on the phone. this is a face to face deal. i hope it all works out <3
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