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i am 7 months pregnant. i honestly do not like my boyfriends mother that much . she is 37 years old and i am 20. she is a very very pushy woman and always needs things to go her way and has no problem whatsoever putting her 2 cents in any given situation, even what to name our son. to make things short, i want my mom to be in the hospital room when i give birth, however, do not want my boyfriends mom in there because she makes me uncomfortable and i do not care for her much. i understand and respect the fact that my boyfriend loves and adores his mother and would never do anything to try and change that, however, we have not always seen eye to eye(his mother and i) ..my question is : i need my mom to be in the room when i give birth, but is it wrong of me to request that my boyfriends mother stay out? ..it would really hurt my boyfriend, since he wants his mother there, however, would really bother and hurt me if she were in there because i feel she would ruin my experience of bringing my baby into the world. Also, my mother feels that since i am her daughter, she should be in the room and she does not like my boyfriends mother as well. i feel as if she will be offended and hurt (my mom) if i invite my boyfriends mother in the room as well because she feels like she is fighting for the fact that i am her daughter and she is my mom, not his mom.
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talk to your boy friend and let him know the issue. no one should ruin tht time in your life girl ! your the one having the baby so u must be as comfertable as possible & your mom must be thier kus thats youurrr motherr !
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I would privately talk to the doctor and request for him limit the amount of people allowed in the delivery room and explain this situation to him. Than you can just tell your boyfriend and mom that they are only allowing two people in the room, and that should be your boyfriend since he is the father, and your mom, since she is your mother. There is no need for him mom to be there over your mom, he isn't giving birth you are, you are going to need your mother. She needs to understand that, and if she doesn't than tough. As far as your boyfriend, explain to him that your mom has always been there for you and you need her at a time like this because you are scared.
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There's nothing wrong with not wanting your boyfriend's mother in the room. Just lay down the law and say no.
Then, after she intimidates you and claims that your like a daughter to her blah blah blah, still say no.
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At the hospital, the doctors WANT you comfortable. If having her in there makes you feel weird & uncomfortable, then request she not be there. However, you need to explain this to your boyfriend. Tell him that his mother & you do not get along & you don't want her in the room because she'll make you tense & uncomfortable which defies everything there is about giving birth. I'm sure he wants you comfortable as well, and he might put up a fight, but then again he'll eventually give in because you & the baby are important to him.
So no, it's in no way wrong of you to not want her there. If someone makes you uncomfortable, then they don't need to be in the room with you. My cousin gave birth in the room that they gave her & practically the whole family was there. The doctors couldn't tell us to leave either because she wanted everyone there to see the birth of her son. So we got to stay. But if you request she shouldn't be there, they'll ask her to wait in the waiting room.
I hope things go well for you, and congratulations on the journey to bringing a new life into the world. I hope your son turns out very healthy. =]
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ok, im a aunt of three and my sister and i are very close, so i know what im talking about even though im 18 and childless. you dont need to feel bad about not wanting his mom there. youre doing the work of pushing this baby out, so you shouldnt have to feel bad. as long as your comfortable. so dont worry about it.
good luck
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