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Hey Everyone :) I'm Kate and a level 2 mod on here. I've had this account since July 2004, so I've been on here since I was 13! Wow ... crazy for me to think how long ago that was. I will admit I don't check in as often as I once did, but being away at college, being in a sorority, and having a job when I'm not at school is very time consuming. I still try to help out as much as possible, and if you send me a question I WILL answer it. This site helped me a LOT when I was in high school and had a lot of questions, and I'm here to help anyone who needs it :) Feel free to write in my forum or send me a question any time!

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I am doing a huge project for my college sociology course and I got stuck with polygamy in the United States. Anyway, I know there are some groups in the U.S. some place that are active in the whole polygamy thing because it's based upon their religion (I think). The problem is that I was told that it was illegal in the U.S. right now. I can't really find much information on WHERE in America polygamy is LEGAL. I tried looking for what states allow polygamists but everything I found says it's illegal in all states. Could someone explain how it's illegal everywhere yet allowed in some place? Or maybe it's a city or something it's allowed in that I'm not finding (and somebody could tell me)?

Polygamy is ILLEGAL in the United States. I actually had this discussion yesterday with a Mormon family that I had met. Some friends and I were cracking jokes about polygamy at work when one of our customers informed us that it is indeed illegal in all of the United States. Now, I suppose since it's just hearsay, you can't take what I say as 100%, but this is just what I was told by a few members of a Mormon family yesterday afternoon.

Ok i want a new tattoo but i have so many ideas i dont know what to get, i love zebra and lepord print and color things but i also want to get some meaningful words because im a strong and loving person. I was like somwhere on my foot or something. I could really really use some ideas and pics of cute things like asap oh by the way im 19/f if that helps all suggestions are welcome :) thank you!

I have a baby lion cub on my back :) I love tattoos and my sister and I are considering getting matching ones. Anyway, here's a good link for you.. http://www.tattoofinder.com/Default.asp? and here's another http://hubpages.com/tag/quote+tattoos/hot

hope those help :)

I was playing around with my cell phone and all of a sudden my phone is asking me for this "PUK Code" How do I fix this? I need my phone! Can anyone please help?

so I know this is a little late, but I suppose for future reference for anyone else - this happened to be right before Thanksgiving ... a PUK is some kind of pin unlocking code or something... I had to take my phone to the at&t store (that's the provider I use) and the guy who worked there looked up the number he needed. In my case, he couldn't even find it and had to replace my sim card, but it was all free of charge. I'm assuming you've already fixed the problem somehow, but for future reference, something simple like that, you can just take your phone to your provider and they should be able to fix it simple and free.

i found out i was 8 weeks pregnant and went to planned parenthood 10/8. i took a pill for the abortion there. they then gave me 3 sets of pills, one for nausea, one for antibiotics, and one for the actual abortion process. i got pain pills too (hydrocodone 5 mg) from the doctor.

after i took the abortion pills at home, it was the worst pain of my life. the pain pills i got didnt help at all. and when the pain stopped, i was so happy and relieved.

however, starting about a few days ago, i have been having terrible pain.

i have sharp pains in my stomach, it hurts to get up and do anything, and i have horrible cramping. its almost like a menstral period, however the pain is really unbearable. i had to work today and just had the heating pad on my stomach crying, it hurt that bad.

i feel that something may be wrong with me. i am worried and do not have my appointment for a follow-up until 10/23.

is it possible the abortion didn't work?

i thought i was supposed to feel better by now, not worse.

please help. thank you very much

18/f

Honestly, there is absolutely nothing we can do for you here. You really need to see a doctor. There is no need to wait until your follow up appointment. You are in pain and worried about what might have happened. If you can't see your doctor, make an appointment with another. You should really get checked out!

ok what is the age to start baby- sitting? and how much should i ask for them to give me and hour?

I figure once you're 13 it's okay to start babysitting for family friends and neighbors .. anywhere walking distance (because you can't drive, so you'd have to depend on rides if it's far away).

In If you're under 16, then $5-$7 is appropriate to ask. If it's just one kid, then you really don't need more than $5/hour because it's not remotely difficult. If you're at least 16 and/or there's more than one child, it's find to ask for $7 (it's just under minimum wage, but since you're being paid cash without taxes, it's actually more than what most kids in fast food restaurants and other places are making).

I've never specifically asked for an hourly wage. It was always assumed that $5/hour was the minimum, but that was 5-6 years ago years ago when I was in high school and was babysitting. I had one neighbor who always paid $10/hour whether I was babysitting one of her kids or all 3.

I heard that betty white from the golden girls was on SNL and it was awesome, but i didn't see it. can you tell me where i can watch the betty white video for free on-line?

Oh man, I watched it - it was AWESOME!

It's already up on Hulu
http://www.hulu.com/collections/444/147973

Also, here's the SNL crew doing the Golden Girls theme song with Betty White adding her own twist at the end: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/05/09/betty-white-goes-metal-fo_n_569275.html

Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?

I use both pads and tampons. It depends on how heavy my flow is. I don't like wearing tampons to bed because even though it's easier to leak while sleeping with a pad, sleeping with a tampon in makes me uneasy.

Brands for pads, I suggest Always or Stayfree. For tampons I really like tampax pearl ... my big suggestion for tampons is to NOT use the cardboard ones ... it's so much easier/comfortable to use the plastic applicator tampons.

I have a bad sunburn on my face and I would like to know what to put on it OTC or if I should see my doctor.

Aloe should work just fine. You can buy it at any store such as wal mart, CVS, Walgreens, Harris Teeter, Wegmans, etc. It's just an OTC gel type substance that cools burns. It works wonders. I apply it quite regularly when I get burned because I've got sensitive skin and it really helps soothe the pain.

i am writing in regard to my fiance, she just recently joined a sorority and became a founding sister, she liked it at first but now she hates it, she's always stressed and her grades are starting to drop, she spoke to her president about leaving but she wont let her go, how can she get out of this sorority

I'm in a sorority and I've never heard of what you're saying going on. If a girl wants to de-sister from her sorority, of course they'll try to figure out why and solve the issue, but if the girl really wants to go, all she has to do is fill out//sign a form that says she wants to de-sister.

If her president is giving her issues, tell her to get in touch with their sororities nationals. Each sorority has a national website, a chapter website, etc. Tell her to go to their nationals website, find contact information, and give someone a call.

Before I explain what's going on, let me point out a few things. I use to be anorexic. I use to consume about 600 calories a day and work out for two hours. Obviously, I didn't really think I had a problem until everyone told me I needed to do something because the bones were popping out of my face and my eyes looked like they were going to fall out. I've been officially recovered since maybe late November/early December. It was still iffy around that time because my eating disorder was turning in another direction and I was bingeing. It was "a sign of recovery," but still, very unhealthy. I was so scared that I'd never be able to have a normal relationship with food again. But, I did. Now, I can officially say that I'm ok. Of course we all want to look good, and I do eat very healthy and watch myself. But, the obsessive behavior has stopped. I am, however, not exercising as much as I use to. This started about 2 weeks ago. I love to ride bike and actually enjoyed exercising. I even bought a spinning bike for my house because I wanted to get certified to teach spinning since I love it so much. But, it's like I'm really scared to go on it. I can't explain it. It's like a fear I have of exercising. Maybe it's just a phase and my body needed a break? I don't know... but, yesterday, I did go on it, and I was able to ride it for about 30 minutes. I usually go on for an hour, so I decided to go on it for 40 minutes yesterday, to start off slow, but I felt bad, nervous, and anxious while I was on it and had to finish early. I don't know what's going on with me. Could anyone have any ideas?

I am also someone who has recovered from anorexia, although for me it was a few years ago that I considered myself recovered. I'm still a little anxious when it comes to riding the bike or doing the elliptical at the gym because I was so used to overdoing it at that point in life that I was afraid I'd take it too far again.

My guess is that you are subconsciously afraid to work out because you're afraid of any kind of relapse. My suggestion is to talk to your doctor, a counselor, or a nutritionist who knows about you. They can help you come up with an exercise plan that works for you, and maybe with someone elses approval you'll feel more comfortable and less scared/nervous/anxious, etc.

I'm no expert on this, but that's kind of how I felt when I first started exercising again after recovering. It's a scary experience, and I'm glad you were able to pull out of it and want to get your life back on track again :)

latley, facebook wont let me send pictures??
is something wrong with my phone? or my mobile account or whatever? plleeasee help.

That has happened to me sometimes. I chalk it up to facebook being dumb or some kind of kinks or something.

Hi,
I was looking at stuff online and was really surprised to find all this conflicting information on the effectiveness of condoms. My girlfriend doesn't take the pill so I've been using condoms.
She's not goin on the pill since she's from another country and only here temporarily. I only use the latex ones too.
So if I use non-outdated condoms, and put it on correctly and at the end it doesn't tare or anything and after inspecting it before throwing it away I see that no semen is leaking out somehow then shouldn't the chances of her getting pregnant be close to zero?! I hope so anyway...
I'd like to hear what others think about this.
Thanks a bunch-

In a high school parenting/child development class we learned that if condoms are used 100% correctly, there's only a 2% chance of pregnancy.

That class was 6 years ago...
So, I'm assuming that's still the case.

If it doesn't tare, there are no leaks, etc, then things should work out.

However, there's always that one-two percent chance that it doesn't work. Be prepared for that to happen. People shouldn't have sex unless they're prepared for any/all consequences!

i applied to 3 colleges sometime around mid November. A lot of people in my class are receiving acceptance letters already and i'm just wondering how long it will take for my letter to come? they're rolling admissions and it says at least 2 weeks, but it's been 2 weeks and i'm getting anxious. so maybe if you've been through the college process, can you tell me how long yours took to come?

When I applied to college I didn't really find anything out until the end of January and into December for some schools. The college I'm currently attending sends theirs out in Januray (and I was wait listed, so I didn't really hear back until March - talk about a LONG wait!)

It all depends on the school, though. Check the school's website and it should have information (or you can even call the admissions office asking when replies to applications go out.)

GOOD LUCK! I know how insane it is applying for college & waiting to hear for that first choice. I just finished my third semester today and I love it!

17/f. well i've been on Ocella, my birth control, for about a year and a half. i'll admit, i party and do drugs, but not in an addictive way. i don't want a lecture on it. my question is, this month i've missed 5-6 pills on accident, and took them the next day. in addition, i've smoked ALOT of weed, some DMT, dropped one hit of acid, and snorted a line of meth 5 or 6 times. could these make my pills ineffective? besides missing a bunch. my mom told me acid can; it made hers not work and she got pregnant at 16 from it. plus, my boyfriend and i have unprotected sex 10 or more times a month, if that info helps. help/opinions?

Drugs and alcohol can definitely effect how well your birth control pills work.

There's a certain way to do birth control... if it's not done THAT way, then it's accuracy percentage goes down (accuracy's the only word that I can think of right now)...

Basically, if you do drugs, drink, miss pills, take them at different times each day, etc. they won't be as effective as they could be.
Basically, there's not much point in you taking the pills if you're doing all of that because they're going to be just as effective as using a condom, except the condom may be much more effective at this point.

Okay so the topic is: "ask and answer the one question you wish we had asked." it is very hard to incorporate the question into my essay without making it sound unappealing. I wrote this for my second paragraph:
I wish the question “What are your career goals for after college?” had been asked. I believe this is a very important question to be asked because it explains my reason for wanting to be in college. Having goals and expectations are very beneficial to my future. There are many people who go to college unaware of their major; I think it is very essential to know what I plan to do. I will be able to keep myself focused on my goals and know what work I will have to accomplish in order to take on the career I intend to pursue.

I feel like i sound to cocky and sort of rude to others who are undecided about their major. Does anyone else get that kind of feeling when they read this paragraph? or do you think it's okay to incorporate into my essay?

In all honesty, your answer isn't good. It's not all that cocky... I also don't think a university is a place for people who don't know what they want to do - that's what a community college is for - cheaper & helps you figure things out.

Anyway, your answer is no good because you never answer the question. You don't ever say WHAT your post-college plans are. You just say you think undecided majors are useless.

If you actually ANSWER the question, you could be fine. But your answer has very little to do with the question you came up with.

okay. so i am 15/f. i have been free from anorexia for 5 months now. but i think it is coming back. i am starting to act like i used to. anorexia is triggered when there is something bothering you and you use your anorexia to distract yourself from it..it is a coping mechanism. so my depression is coming back as well and i have really low self esteem. and as i am writing this i refuse to eat. i want to lose weight. i feel like i gained so much. not eating is the only way that will make me lose weight the quickest. i just don't care about myself. i feel lonely. i don't understand why i feel this way. i feel crazy sometimes. i feel like i want to be sad and i want to be weak and broken. i have problems.

As someone who has been a recovering anorexic for 6 years now, I strongly suggest you seek help.

I'm not sure if you were being helped while you were actively going through this, but you need it now. Relapsing is one of the worst things you can do. I relapsed once and it was so difficult to get out of it. Think about the life you want to have and everything you have going for you, and do this for you.

You should watch the movie For The Love of Nancy. It's a tear jerker for me every time I see it because of how much I know what she is going through and how I remember those feelings. But it also is a true story, and helped me to realize that if she had the strength to do what she did, we can all find that strength.

If you want to talk, inbox me. I do understand a lot of what you're feeling and going through.

And please, seek help. Teacher, parent, psychiatrist.. anyone. I went to a psychiatrist for 3 years and it helped me so incredibly much. I went through about 3-4 of them before finding one who truly got me, though. It's a process, to recover from something so scary, but it's always worth it!

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Ok, so my boyfriends dad offered to sell me a car, that was valued at 6000, for 1500. He said eh wanted to keep the insurance and title in his name until the car was paid off. I had no problem with that, but when i was on my way to take him somewhere, someone ran a red light and smashed the car. its gone, totalled. now he wants to pay his random bills with the settlement! My bf thinks im being selfish by thinking that he should keep the 1500 that he would have gotten from me out of the settlement, and give me the rest to get a new car. Am i being selfish, or is his dad being a real jerk? I really think that he only wanted to keep it in his name so that he could reap the benefits if I got in an accident. Help! dont want to see his face everyday while im so angry at the fact that he's gloating that hes making out on the deal!

Honestly, it was his insurance. The car was in his name. It sounds like you were basically paying him $1500 to use his car. Which means that if it wrecks, legally, it's his to deal with. If it were your fault, he'd have had to pay (or his insurance would have, making that price go up). It's only lucky on him that the accident wasn't your fault.

If you've given him any money so far, he should give you what you paid. For example, if you've already coughed up $500, he should give you $500 from the settlement. But in all honestly, I think the law favors him.

No offense, but I hope you learn from this - never take this kind of favor. It will usually come back to bite you in the butt.

I am a 15 year old male. I recently discovered that I have a foot fetish, and the thought of smelling girls feet really turns me on, and I'm not sure why. My girlfriend doesn't know, and I really want to smell her feet when she's done cheerleading one of my games. Is there any way I can ask her without her thinking I am a freak? I already feel like one, and she is kind of snobby, and was the Freshman Dance Queen last year, so I'm afraid that she will tell people if I ask her, and call me a freak. I don't know what to do. Thank you, and please don't be disrespectful or think I am weird.

The only thing I can think of is to offer to massage her feet after cheerleading... let her sit on the couch or something and you sit on the floor... you can massage them, which she likes. You can smell them discreetly, which you like.

I know why you think it's embarrassing, so I don't really know how to tell you to go about telling her. Like, it'd weird me out of a boy said that to me, but I'm really chill and would probably be like, okay have at it.. but massage them while you're doing it! haha.

Good luck!

Tomorrow I'm going to my town's annual carnival. Usually I don't bring a purse, or I leave it in the car, but for personal reasons I'll need to take it with me, & I won't have time to walk to the car every time I need it.

So, any advice on what to do with your purse when you get on a ride? I'd take it on with me, but wouldn't it just fly off the ride or something? Also, I know some ride operators that will hold your things for you, but I'm really untrusting about things like that, & pretty much anyone could just walk up & take it when the operator is distracted. Any advice?

I have a few suggestions.

Is the carnival at night time? It's usually a little chilly at night, so you could wear a jacket with zip pockets and put what you need in them (not to be embarrassing, but I assume you're on your period or something?)

If the jacket idea doesn't work, do you have one of those small draw string backpacks... like those nike bags and stuff. I went to Disney World my senior year & kept a water bottle, sunscreen, and tampons in it while walking around the park.. you know, one of those just in case scenarios. I closed it and put it on my back while walking around & kept it on my back during the ride - very convenient to have, better than a purse for that reason (or even just a small back back should be okay.

If you really do need a purse, make sure it's closed when you're on the ride and put one arm through the shoulder strap and hold on to whatever bar thingy they might have that way the purse can't fall of the ride or anything... it may move a little, but you're basically holding onto it... as long as you're not one of those people who throws their arms in the air during rides - then I have no suggestion for you with that.

When I was younger I had a purse where the shoulder strap part was actually a clip thing.. I used to be able to unstrap it, clip it to my bookbag, beltloop, etc... I bet you could find a cheap one of those... I'd always take it with me to amusement parks because then I could snap it onto the ride & it'd be fine.

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