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Hey there (: I'm Bryttnii ♥ I'm a Senior. I'm 17 and I seem to have been through a lot in my seventeen years. I love giving advice & recieving advice. I'm here to give you my honest opinion & responses to your questions. I don't give the answers you want to hear, I give the answers you need to hear. I've had an advice column since I was 14. But of course, I made a new one that I stay on constantly! I take Cosmetology in school and I love it. I get my Cosmetology license in 9 months. I'd like to go to college for Criminal Justice and be a Detective ;] Speak to me about anything.




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I am thinking about getting a new LG Rumor phone (Sprint), but heard mixed things about it...any thoughts?

I have the white one & I love it! The first one I got, I dropped in the toilet =/ When they sent me another one, the screen didn't work. I sent it back and they sent me another one! I've had that one for a while now & it's still in perfect condition. I love the Rumor. The speaker on it is extra loud, which is something I like. It's all around a good phone & I do recommend it.

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i don't know what's wrong with me!! i went to a doctor and she prescribed anxiety pills (2wice! 2 different types!) but one makes me depressed and hopeless the other makes my bite on my teeth and loose control over my muscles and sleep alot... i am really depressed! and i am panicking so much but i am very bad at showing my emotions.. and because of that i rely on "Telling" it so my family thinks i am faking... but it really hurts inside! i don't know what to do anymore and the doctor is not helping... i feel so alone when there is a million people around me ! :'(

I've been put on every depression medication there is and none of them have helped me. Depression isn't something that can be fixed with a pill. I learned that. You have to pull yourself out of depression. Some of the medicine you are taking might have started kicking in, which results in your excessive sleep and your muscles changing. It takes 2-3 weeks before the medicine starts to work, so give it time. I showed my emotions by making huge scenes. It normally was towards my boyfriend or my father. I'd get so over-whelmed and anxious that I would scream at everyone. I didn't mean too, but it's how I expressed my feelings. After being in and out of different hospitals and being put on every medication there is, I learned that nothing was helping me. I had to help myself. I started taking control of my life. Depression can kill you if you don't get yourself out of it in time. If you don't feel like going outside, get up and go outside anyways. If you wake up in the morning and don't want to get out of bed, get out of bed anyways. Little things like that, can make a HUGE difference in your life.

As for your family, most parents that have never been through things like this before, really have no idea how you feel. They will say it's a stage that you will grow out of, but in reality teenagers are just as likely to go through depression just as much as adults. I would recommend seeing a therapist. They really do help a lot. It's someone that you can talk to about anything and they don't judge you and they keep it confidential even from your parents. The only thing they would turn in, is if you were wanting to hurt yourself or others. But they will have a session with you & your family to talk about what your going through and what makes you feel the way you do.

Good luck hun, let me know how it goes!

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http://www.sallybeauty.com/curved-flat-iron/JLBERE36,default,pd.html

does any one have experience with this flat iron?
i dont know if i shud buy it.
would you recommend it?
how much wud you rate it.

oh, and does it curl hair too?
thanks!

It all depends on your hair. Those really don't get as hot as needed for thick, non-straight hair. If you have thick hair with curls, I don't recommend it. If you have thin, non-curly hair, then yes it's alright. It's an alright straightener, but it just doesn't get hot enough for me.

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I just came back from a trip to Quebec. A lot of people there were wearing sling backpacks, and there was one particular style I saw often... I never got the chance to figure out the brand name. They're triangularish, with two diagonal zippers, a waterbottle mesh pocket on the outside, and a cell phone holder in front on the strap. Any ideas? Specific brands would be helpful.

If you're talking about the ones that have one strap that goes diagnal over your shoulder, they sell them at Walmart, Target, K-Mart, and Sears. I had one last year and I bought it from Walmart.

Let me know if you find one!

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I have two guinea pigs who drink A LOT of water. On some days I have to fill there bottle up twice a day. The bottle isn't huge, but its not samll either. Is this normal?

Also, they smell like their urine.
How should I give them a bath?

thanks

A guinea pig is just like any other animal when it comes to water. They drink a lot! If it's hot where you live, it will make them drink more water than usual, to cool themselves off. Also, if you have two guinea pigs and one water bottle, you're going to fill it up more. It's perfectly normal!

As for giving them a bath, I would just take a warm washcloth and rub them all over real good. If the smell still doesn't go away, use a mild soap on the washcloth. I don't recommend getting it anywhere near their head because you don't want the soap to get in their eyes!
Good luck!

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Hey.
So I'm turning 15 and a half sept. 23rd. and I would really like to get my temps. My mom has no problem with it, but my dad does. He says I should'nt get them until I'm 16, because thats when he got his. Well I want to get a part-time job next summer, and i dont see why i cant start driving, like practicing! I'll have to wait like 6 months anyway to get my liscense and i need like 50 hours. And I've driven before and I'm ok with it. How do I convince my dad to let me get my temps? Please help!
thanks!
15/f/usa/ohio

First things first. Let your dad know that you would like to get a job next summer and you would like to be able to drive to your job. Tell him that you want to be more responsible and independent. Make it known that if he lets you get your temps, you can get your driving time in, get your license, and then get a job. By having a job, you would make your own money and wouldn't have to ask your parents for money. Parents really like to hear that one! If he still doesn't want to reconsider his decision, talk to your mom about it. Ask her to talk to your dad about it. If he STILL will not go for it, start by showing your more responsible. Do a few chores around the house. Get good grades. That sort of thing. Parents do not like to see their babies out driving by theirselves because driving is such a dangerous thing these days. If you show him you can be responsible then he'll figure you'd be responsible enough to drive. Good luck!

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well first off i sorta like my friend "bob"
butt theres so many rumors going around about him.
they seem true.. butt i dunno.
like hes been texting my friend.. and saying the same exact stuff to her that hes been saying to me.
so im not really sure..
he says he loves me.. and wants to become a little more than friends..
butt i sorta feel like hes using me..
and i beleive stuff to fast..
so like when i hear something bad about him i get all mad..
then when he talks to me about it..
i believe him right away..
i just need someone who can be honest with me i just like him wayy too much..

its sorta cheesy butt i dunno. :/

help?

Most of the time "rumors" aren't true. They are exactly what their called, RUMORS. But, if he is texting your friend and saying the same thing to her that he is saying to you, then he is probably just wanting to mess around instead of dating. He's telling you he loves you? First off, when a guy tells a girl he loves her when they haven't been together dating wise, then he most likely is just saying that to make you feel special. Don't listen to that crap.

Not only is he telling you and your friend the same thing, but he is most likely telling every other girl in the world the same thing. Don't fall for his sweet talk because I'm sure every other girl is falling for it too. Be strong and find someone that is faithful and right for you. Trust me, dating this guy will lead you nothing but heartbreak and pain. Hope all goes well!

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how do you like control your emotions, because when i get angry or when i am hurt, i like say things i don't really mean and it hurts the people i love, like my boyfriend, i always hurt him by saying mean things, that i feel at that very moment, but not like always... if you get what i mean. so how do i control it, i just like burst into some hysterical frenzy and he calls me crazy and stuff, i don't know what to do.

16/f

I have the same problem too! I always take my anger and frusteration out on all the wrong people at all the wrong times. I've learned to stop getting mad so easy, because it doesn't get me anywhere to begin with. I have a jealous streak when it comes to my boyfriend and his friends. Sometimes I feel that he'd rather be with them instead of me, which makes me mad and start going off. He's learned how to deal with me though, which is something no one has ever done before. Now, I just think about the reason I'm about to get mad and decide if it's a good reason or not. Sometimes I let silly things bother me and I'm slowly progressing. My advice is, to think about what is making you mad. Instead of blowing it up into a big deal, decide whether there is a point in getting mad over it or not. Chances are, there really isn't a point. I've learned that the hardway. I've almost lost all of my friends and my boyfriend because of my temper. I'm sure you don't want that. Take deep breaths and listen to music or think about something else to get your mind off of being mad. Trust me, it does help. Clearing your head really does calm you down. It's a slow progress, but once you start handling your anger in different ways instead of blowing up on people, you'll always be that way. I hope all goes well for you doll.

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Basically, I'm one of those people that rarely straighten their hair (only on special occasions) so I decided to come here for help.

Anyway, in 2 weeks I'm going to party. I was wondering should I straighten my hair on the day of the party, or do it the night before?

My hair is really annoying because it gets greasy real fast, obviously overnight isn't enough to make it completely greasy but sometimes it'll lose shine and volume.

Obviously I'm leaning towards to doing it on the day, but what do you think I should do?

If you wash & dry your hair the night before then straighten it right after. While your asleep, it will probably get a little wavy, but it will be a lot easier to straighten the next day. Only do this if you don't plan on washing it again the day of the party.

If you plan on washing it the day of the party, give yourself a reasonable amount of time to blow-dry and straighten your hair. 3 - 3 1/2 hours is reasonable.

Also, if your hair gets greasy easily, I do reccommend washing it the day of the party. Scrub it really good with shampoo & conditioner to help avoid a lot of the greasy look.

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One of my best friends has recently been diagnosed with chlamydia and she is very scared that something will go wrong with her baby because she is 5 months pregnant and has this STD. I know because of the STD she had to see her OB/GYN a lot more frequently. This is her first baby and she's only 16 in 10th grade.

Anyway, she is really afraid to tell her boyfriend that he gave her chlamydia because he promised to her that he was clean and had been tested recently. She lost her virginity to him the night they met, he was openly not a virgin then. Honestly, I'm convinced that the only reason they are really together is because he got her pregnant the first night they met and he feels bad about it because she's scared. I know she's also secretly afraid that when she confronts him about the STD transmission that he is going to leave her and the baby, but she has told me many times that she knows the right thing to do is to tell him.

She's going through a lot. She's still a teenager and is pregnant with her first baby. She's still trying to attend high school so she can graduate next year but also is holding down a part-time job. She lost her virginity only 5 months ago to a guy she met when she was drinking. Before that night, she had been wanting to save her virginity for when she actually got married. I understand that she's in quite a predicament now and is probably feeling very scared. I'm trying to be there for her.

How do I convince my friend to tell her boyfriend now, and how should she go about confronting him that he has given her an STD (chlamydia in particular)? I really think the only reason she hasn't confronted him yet is in fear he will leave. What can I say to encourage and support her in telling him about the STD she contracted from him?

The best thing to do in this situation is for your friend to confront her boyfriend. She NEEDS to let him know as soon as possible no matter what the outcome of telling him will be. If he ever cheated on her or planned on cheating on her, think about the other girls out there that are at risk for having sex with him. You need to tell your friend to tell him as soon as possible that she has an STD and he has been the only guy she has been with. More than likely, he will go get tested and treated. If he leaves your friend because of an STD then she deserves a lot better than him anyways. She is pregnant and has more things to worry about than him right now. After the baby is born, it will be a lot easier on her to make the decision of whether she wants him in her life or not. She probably just needs a lot of love and guidance right now. Be there for her as much as possible & show her that you care even if her boyfriend doesn't. Hope all goes well.

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which of these is the best curly hair style?
oh and i have a round diamond face shape, and dark brown hair if that helps :)



http://i36.tinypic.com/294j506.jpg"

Christina Aguilera's hair looks like it's formal curls for a party or special event. It is cute though.

I'd go with Miley's curls because their easier to manage and do.

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my parents smoke and its not fare on me because it feels like I smoke when they sit next to me and it makes me feel sick what should i do?

My dad use to always sit right next to me when he smoked & it just made me so mad! Tell them that if they have to smoke to please don't smoke around you because then you're going to smell like smoke ALL day. Tell them that secondhand smoke is a lot worse than regular smoking. They should be a little considerate if you talk to them about it.

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I went shopping at the Gap yesterday with my best friend. We did our normal routine and checked out a few places in the mall before heading over to the Gap, where my best friend spotted a really cute top. She couldn't (and still can't) afford the top at the Gap though so we ended up having to pass it up. We had lunch at Subway after shopping and she started talking about the top at the Gap. Her sweet 16 birthday is coming up and, even though I'm throwing her a party, I think it would be kind of nice to buy the top for my best friend as a birthday present.

The Gap top is actually $48 though.
Do you think it's appropriate for me to give this to her as a birthday gift or do you think it's too expensive? She has no idea that I'm thinking of purchasing the top from the Gap for her so it isn't a big deal if I pass it up. I could always pick her up something from Hollister since she is crazy about Hollister too. My first though was to pick her up a shirt from Hollister actually until she fell in love with this shirt at The Gap. (Anyone have a general preference to The Gap or Hollister anyway?)

I guess what I'm really questioning is: How much should I spend on a birthday gift for my best friend who is turning 16?

It all depends on how close your best friend and you are. Would you want to spend that much on just a friend? If she is you best friend then yes it's perfectly okay! Sweet 16's are a big deal for girls. She would probably really love the fact that you got her something she really wanted!

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what would happen if you were walking on a street drunk but underage? would you get arrested? or have to go to court?

Like the person below said, it all depends on where you live.

I live in Virginia and laws here are very strict. When it comes to drinking especially.

You would get a drunk in public charge. Then you would also get a underage possesion of alcohol charge. [If your underage] Whether you have it in your hand or in your belly the police still write it as underage possession of alcohol. They will also try to make you tell them where you got it from and who bought it. You don't have to tell them, but they'll go easier on you if you give up names. They can't do nothing more extreme if you don't tell though, so don't let them fool you. Also, your parents can get into a lot of trouble too.

I don't reccommend walking around while being drunk. If you do it, please stay at home & be safe.

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everytime i start liking a guy i really really like them but once i figure out they like me back i stop liking them. why is that?
and right now this guy likes me (he's perfect everyone wants to date him) and i liked him back but then all of a sudden i stopped liking him cause he started to be really flirty.
whats wrong with me?!
15/f

It just seems like you're not ready for a relationship right now. The guys you are dating probably are looking for a good relationship and you're just not ready for one.

I think you should just be single and hang out with people until you feel comfortable enough to date someone. There is nothing wrong with you at all. It's perfectly normal!

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15/f
Ya I have an Ex that I broke up with over the summer because he was cheating on me, and now he wants to go back out again and I kinda still have feelings for him, what should I do?
plus nobody wants me going out with him.

I agree with Danielle for the most part. Most of the time family and friends can always see the truth in your boyfriends before you can. You probably just focus on his good qualities and try to block out the bad ones. Don't feel bad, we all do it. That's why we have to always look to other people for guidance and their opinions. I don't believe in that saying "Once a cheater always a cheater" because in some cases it really isn't true. I believe anyone can change but they have to want to change first.

If your only 15, I suggest you just move on and meet new people. At this age, you'll come across many boys that will cheat on you and break your heart because their still growing up and experiencing things theirselves.

Give it time, the right person will come along and you'll know it because they wouldn't ever do anything like that to you in the first place.

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me and my boy have been together, here, for a year. he just moved to live in florida.. we together in person would have so much to talk about do, we get along so good. now that hes gone, like, on the phone, theres not so much to say, its really hard to keep this relationship, i feel like eventually we'll just fall outta love cause the things we loved about each other we cant do cause hes far away, we can just talk, i like in NY by the way. Anyways, idk what to do.. any advice..

I'm going to be honest with you. Most long distance relationships do not work. There are some people out there that are very dedicated to their boyfriend/girlfriend and they can keep the relationship, but that is a very small percentage of people.

The problem with long distance relationships is trust mostly. You'll always be wondering if that person is being faithful to you. You'll always wonder if they are lying to you. You won't be able to see eachother often. Could you handle going months without seeing eachother?

Their tough, but for some people they can work. It's all about how much the two care about eachother and want to make it work.

I hope I helped you hun!
x0*-Bryttnii

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So I got my wisdom teeth out, and my face is starting to swell up. I know this is normal, just wondering what I can do to minimize it and make it go away faster.
Got all four out.
Have a prescription for Vicodin but I'm not taking it unless I have to, it makes me sick.

Avoid extremely hot & cold foods. It will make the pain a lot worse. Try to sleep on your back, so your cheeks aren't touching pillows because that can cause a lot of swelling. Keep cold washclothes and ice on it as much as possible which will cause the swelling to go down.

Good luck!
x0*-Bryttnii

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ok so im 15 (gonna be 16) female me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 months sept.12th he purposed to me basically, so were technically engaged. well he is really shy.he started holding my hand, and hugging me, and just recently like hmmm... last week he kissed me for the 1st time. he doesnt want to rush anything but finally he kissed me but it was just a peck, but i no it will be more later, it will just take time, well my question is how can i get him to be less shy, and talk more, and hold me and stuff by feeling more comfortable around me. please help me, i really wish he can be more comfortable with me, and how can i control my jealousy, i have this huge jealousy problem, i dont even trust him round my friends, only 1. =/ please help me, im even jealous of his girl cousin. i feel horrible

Well considering your only 15, you shouldn't even be thinking about marriage. You still have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy life and leave your options open. One day, you'll meet the right guy that will be the one. You'll know the true meaning of love as you get older.

Think about this: If you were to marry this guy tomorrow, how are you suppose to have a marriage when there isn't trust and he's this shy around you? You're going to date a million guys in your life before you find the right person. Just take things slow.

But for boyfriend advice, it takes time for some people to open up. He might not want to rush into things with you right away. Try things like holding his hand when he leasts expects it. When you two are by yourselves, ask him questions to get to know him better & let him ask you some too. The more comfortable you two are around eachother, the less shy he will be.

Good luck!
x0*-Bryttnii

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One day my sister had a bunch of friends over for a sleepover and they decided to play a prank on me. THEY CUT MY HAIR OFF! Now its this short ugly little thing, I use to have long, really pretty hair but now its so ugly! I want my hair back. How can I make my hair grow long really fast, i was growing that hair since i was about 6. I hate it, i hate it, i hate it! please some one help me get my hair long again. Im tired of going places with everyone thinking im a freak cause im practicaly bald. some one help me, and i need real help not just "oh sorry there is no way to grow your hair fast". PLEASE HELP!!

Where was your parents when this happened? Why don't they step in and be parents and make her pay for you to get your hair done? That's a little ridiculous, I hope she got some sort of punishment.

But, there really isn't any magical potion to make your hair grow over night. It does take time.

While time is going by, I do reccomend extentions. Their not that expensive. I bleached my hair blonde all summer one time and my hair was passed my boobs. The bleach broke it off so bad it was above my shoulders and I didn't cut it! So I decided to use extentions until it grew out some and I really liked them.

If you have a Sally's Beauty Supply near you, stop in and look at their extentions. They have different lengths and colors. You can also dye them, cut them, straighten them, curl them, and wash them like it was your real hair. They also have different kinds. You can get them glued in (it's hair glue), clipped in, or braided in.

I'm sorry that happened to you hun.
Hope I helped!
x0*-Bryttnii

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