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lolng distnace
me and my boy have been together, here, for a year. he just moved to live in florida.. we together in person would have so much to talk about do, we get along so good. now that hes gone, like, on the phone, theres not so much to say, its really hard to keep this relationship, i feel like eventually we'll just fall outta love cause the things we loved about each other we cant do cause hes far away, we can just talk, i like in NY by the way. Anyways, idk what to do.. any advice..
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I'm going to be honest with you. Most long distance relationships do not work. There are some people out there that are very dedicated to their boyfriend/girlfriend and they can keep the relationship, but that is a very small percentage of people.
The problem with long distance relationships is trust mostly. You'll always be wondering if that person is being faithful to you. You'll always wonder if they are lying to you. You won't be able to see eachother often. Could you handle going months without seeing eachother?
Their tough, but for some people they can work. It's all about how much the two care about eachother and want to make it work.
I hope I helped you hun!
x0*-Bryttnii
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Long distance relationships are tough, I'm not even going to lie to you on that. They're tough because the distance really puts a limit on the things you can do (more on that later).
1. I implore you to be very open to each other about your expectations. "Expectation Management" is HUGE when you only have a phone to talk with. Honesty is the best policy! The things you choose to hide *will* act like a wedge between you two.
2. Be open to changing moods. Frustration and ambivalence are popular emotions because both of you are powerless to do anything short of traveling to see each other.
3. Try taking things one day at a time. Rushing "closeness" will get you nowhere and will only add to your mounting frustrations that you're not with your special someone.
The remedy:
Invent new things to do "together" either online, or over the phone. The world we live in today is very helpful when it comes to communication and there are limitless possibilities for you to explore. Try watching a movie together via the phone (if that isn't too expensive for minutes)--Timing the start so you both can see it at the same time adds an element of teamwork.
Playing scavenger hunt with camera phones (assuming you have them) by making lists for each other and the first to take photos of the other list wins.
It's all about keeping the novelty of dating while living 1000+ miles apart. It can be done, you just have to be creative.
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