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Hello! I'm Jenn! I LOVE my friends and I'll try really hard to give you good advice. I like to sing, dance, and act and I love theater! So go ahead, ask me anything!
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ok so here's my problem, I can't stop thinking about like death and when the world is going to end. Like, I always thinnk about what happens when you die..I mean like, do you become a ghost and stay a ghost forever and ever and ever, is your spirit just gone and like what happens? your just gone away and never return?!! and like the world ending. because like of the tsunami and then 9/11 and hurricane katrina. All those things were in the bible, and they happened!!I HATE IT! I always get scared when I think about it but I can't stop! Please someone tell me how to stop thinking like this!! Is it normal? Does it mean I'm crazy?! I want to stop!!
When you feel yourself thinking about it just try and think about other things, like your friends and family and hobbies. Also, if you don't stop thinking about death, how are you going to live your life? And, are those things really in the bible?! weird...
15 F Chicago and i'm always hearing disrespectful things about President Bush and how he is so insuboordinate(to sum it all up becuase i probably cannot swear on here) so basically my question is..why do so many people hate Bush? I mean he is our president and its a hard thing to do, i suppose? Just opinions guys. Thanks so much.
You're right. Being president is a one of the hardest jobs out there. President Bush is under a lot of stress and strain but compared to previous presidents, he isn't nearly as good. I guess it's because he does what he wants, not what the people want. He also took us to a war that we could've avoided (In my opinion.) Now everything I said is a matter of opinion. I don't want to change the way you feel about him. Hope this helps!
Ohh boy, i just turned 15..had sex, didnt use a condom, im so stupid and im so scared now :( im stressing out so much and i dont know what to know, i had sex like exactly a week ago now, and i dont know if im bloaded or what but my stomach is starting to get big and ive gained 3 pounds-ive also been noticing im eating A LOT latly :-/ should i go get checked out..or take a pregnancy test? ohh lord help me!!
ok, first of all, if you just had sex and you are pregnant, then your stomach won't get big until about your 4th month. But since you're really not sure I'd first tell a parent or guardian and such. Then I'd go take a pregnancy test and go to the doctor's. If you have sex in the future, remember to use a condum (I'd also go on the birth control pill).
Here's a website that shows the symptoms of pregnancy.
http://www.americanpregnancy.org/gettingpregnant/earlypregnancysymptoms.html
Hope this helps and good luck!
Hey, may 29, this kid Mark asked me out. I love him so much, and a week later he dumped me. I loved this kid alot.
July 15, this kid Felix asked me out. I said yes, he was cute. I forgot all about Mark. I seemed to love him. I just spoke to Mark, and he seemed to like me again. Gosh, now i like BOTH of them.
The problem is, Felix really likes me, and i feel so bad if i would dump him for Mark. Mark on the other hand dumps every girl after a week or two.
Felix said, he would commit succide if i broke up with him. I know he ment it. Last night he said he had a pocket knife to his throat, because he had no one to live for. But then he relized he loved me. So, he put it down.
HELP! I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I CRY ALL THE TIME
holy shit. Well, I definitly wouldn't go out with Mark seeing as though he dumps everyone within a week or two. And for Felix, as long as you're happy with him I'd stay with him. But to me, he seems a bit crazy. it sounds like he really loves you. As long as you love him back... But I think he needs to see a therapist. Hope this helps!
How long does it usually take to tan? I`m have fairly pale skin and I do burn, but I tan also. If I stay out for about an hour, nothing happens, but if I stay out for much longer I get burned!?
There's no set time on how it takes to tan. If you burn pretty easy but you want to tan, I'd do a sunscreen with an spf 30. A really great way to tan is to go in some water like a pool or a lake. Because with your reflection in the water, you actually get a lot more tan! good luck with your tanning!
I'm a 14/f and i haven't had a bf in like over a year!i think i might be giving off the wrong vibe to guys but i'm not a les.I'm supposedly the prettiest out of my friends and i like guys but they dont seem to like me!Help please!
Don't worry. The same thing actuslly happened to me. I was in a relationship and then when that was over I almost went 2 years w/o another one. I'd be open, honst, and very flirty. Just find a guy you like and connect with him. Deff. flirt with him and such. Good luck with finding a b/f.
i like this guy who likes me as well but the problem is........ im going to high school and he's staying in middle school. he might ask me out and i don't know if i should say yes, or just stay single for summer and find someone even better in high school. help please
It all depends on how much you're willing to do for this boy. If you really like him and you're sure you want to be with him, then yes I'd date him. But if you're having second thoughts, then I'd pass him up. I have a friend whose going into high school while her bf is staying in middle school, she dumped him and she already has a high school guy who likes her! But I also have a friend in high school while his gf was in middle school. They're made for eachother and they love eachother. It all depends on what you're willing to do for him!
so i couple of days ago me and my boyfriend had sex..and the day after i started feeling like i had to pee all the time and its still continuing. and it burns. could this be a bladder infection or something else? if so how can i get rid of it???
thanks ill rate all 5's
It's a urinary tract infection. In some cases, you'll develop it if you take a lot of bubble baths. (But only in some). If you go to the hospital or the doctor, they can give you antibiotics for it right away. If you wait, it can move to your kidney and it'll be a lot worse. The sooner you go to the docter's the better. Hope this helps!
heres a simple question, am i weird? i am 13 and i like old songs like by the 4 seasons and i have them on my ipod and stuff. and also ALOT of other oldies or old songs. not just oldies, like stuff from 80's and 70's. and i loved the jersey boys musical. i dont think of myself as a geek. i also love new songs but i love old songs just as much, am i a little.. odd?
no. Hello, Jersey Boys won best musical if I'm not mistaken (at the Tony's) of course it's not weird to like them! So what if you like oldis music? I personally think today's music SUCKS! You are deff. not weird, you just have diff. interestes. Yea, I'm probably one of like 10 people at my school who like Queen. Just keep on liking what you like and who cares what people think?!
Allright well im 16/f!
and i just wanna say im like really gettin upset and down on not having a boyfriend. i just want to feel needed by someone and know that someone is always there to cuddle with me,hug me, kiss me. ive NEVER had a boyfriend before but now..i just really want one. i know you cant just say you want one and have one because someone just has to come to you..has to be at the right time. but you see im a shy girl around 120 pounds 5'6 brown hair and eyes..tanner..and i just dont know whats wrong with me?? no guy has ever liked me how sad is that. i just want a guy that i can be with and know that they like me back. im just so sick of trying to look and WAITING ... im scared one will never come i feel like such a loser. but i am so shy as i said before so what can i do to help this? there is this kid that my cuzin likes and his name is bobby and well ive always thought he was hot!! but ive never got to meet him before and she wants me to hangout with him and her sometime soon! i want to get his attention but i feel bad cuz my cousin likes him =p i love her so much that i wouldnt wanna do that to her but it would be such a perfect opportunity and she knows that i think he is hot! well thats not the problem really..the whole problem is the boyfriend thing! lately ive been feeling so down and ugly..and alone.
what should i do?
i'll rate 5 for anyone who helps me
ok, well I know what you're going through. Although I have had a couple boyfriends, it was about a year in between them. So for that year I was feeling ugly and lonely. If you want a boyfriend, all you have to do is do massive flirting! Just hug them and make eye contact and flirt with them. I'd also flirt with other guys around them. Trust me, they'll like you in no time. As for you thinking you're ugly, every girl thinks that! Think of the one quality you like about yourself and focus on that. And for the cousin thing, DO NOT FLIRT WITH HIM! She saw him first and she liked him first. Let her have them. Hope this helps!
i straighten my hair every day, so it's pretty dry at the ends especially near the front.i use panteve pro v daily moisture renual conditioner and shampoo but it doesnt help. once my hair dries, its gets frizzy and poofy. i want to get leave in conditioner, but near my scalp gets greasy pretty easily(like if i skip washing my hair for a day or 2) so would leave in conditioner help my hair and not make it greasy?
I wouldn't straighten it everyday. That's what's causing most of your problems. But if you must do it, then use sleek look, smoothing system, iron smoother by matrix. You spritz it on your hair before using and it protects it so it doesn't friz out or ruin your hair. It protects heat damamge up to 450 degrees. You can probably get it at a hair salon. Hope this helps!
Hey im trying to write my own songs and i just cant seem to get the "flow" going. And i dont know what to write songs about. I cant get a rhythm of the song either. Or beat even. I know it sounds pathetic but i have no idea where to start! Please help!! I'll rate 5's!!!
Instead of writing down rythems and beats and phrases. i'd start to write a poem about how you feel. Write about how you feel about life, and the world, and what you'd wish to do to change it. After you have a good poem, add all of the technical music stuff like a tune and such. Remember to make a chorus that stands out and a bridge. Hope this helps!
Ok, so my friend and I had this really huge argument last night over which brand was better: Hollister or Abercrombie and Fitch. She thinks Hollister's way better, I think Abercrombie's waaay better. What do y'all think?(o yea, then there's my other friend who thinks American Eagle's better)
AMERICAN EAGLE ALL THE WAY. I don't really like abercrombie and though Hollister's clothes are cute, it's too thin and holes get in them too easily. I LOVE American Eagle, Forever 21, and Delias.
lately ive been getting these gross little teeny zits on my butt. what can i do about it, and how can i get them to go away? I RATE HIGH!
Do you have proActive? Try it out there and see if it works. I'd also go to the doctors.
I invited my friend to go to Santa Barbara with me but her parents won't let her go until they see her report card.The problem is the report cards don't get mailed until after the trip! HOw can i get my friend to go on the trip now?
Talk to her parents about it. Explain to them that report cards don't get mailed until after the trip. IF that doesn't work, invite another friend but do something special just one on one with the friend who couldn't go. Hope this helps!
I just found out that my best friend's dad passed away today. I knew that he had some kind of cancer and she'd been visiting him in the hospital for some time now, I also know that she did NOT get along with him. I never met him because he lived in SC and her and her mom lived in NC. (they weren't divorced, it's actually kind of confusing) Anyway, I'm just not too sure what to say to her. We've been friends longer than I can remember and I know this must be tough for her. I've had some friends pass away, but the only family I've had pass away was my great grandmother and my sister- I was young when my great grandmother passed away and I wasn't even born yet when my sister passed away, so I don't know everything she's going through.
I was just wondering if anyone here lost a parent and what others said to you that was comforting.
I plan on telling here that I'm here for her no matter where I am or what time it is, and I will be there, but somehow that just doesn't seem like enough... I don't know, I'm just looking for some advice on what I can say and what would be comforting. Thanks in advance.
i undertsand how hard this can be. When my best friend's dad died last year, I didn't know what to say. Don't say: I know what you're going through. Because you don't. Also, don't ask her if she's ok because that will make her feel worse. I'd just say, "I'm so sorry and if you need to talk, I'm here." If she does decide to talk to you. Don't say a word while she's talking. Listen intently and then give her a hug. Hope this helps.
my friend is mad at me because of a misunderstanding. i have tried everything, but no matter what i do she refuses to be my friend. I have told her i was sorry more times than i can count. i was literally in tears before because her friendship means a lot to me. i even told her this. she has blocked me on aim and wont answer her phone because my name shows on the caller id... and she wont talk to me at school. there is no way i can get through to her that it was a misunderstanding. i feel awful and i don't know what to do....please help.
I would give her a couple of days distance. Usually it's easier to stay mad at people when all they do is apologize and such. Once she sees your absence, she'll remember all the cool stuff about you and hopefully miss you. You can also write a note explaining how it was a misunderstanding and how sorry you are about the whole fight, and have a friend give it to her. Have the friend make sure she reads it and doesn't throw it out when getting it. Hope this helps!
umm.. i dont know what this goes under but...
you know how girls dance at parties like they move their hips around a lot so it looks like they're a wave or something?
like im the only one that can't dance at my school. at my school dances like the girls are like all back to back w/ each other and moving their hips but i don't know how 2 do that.
like my body's too stiff and it's not loose or whatever. can you tell me how to do it or give me a website that has a video of girls dancing at a party like that or something? plzzz i rate high!!!
If I were you, I'd either dance how you normally dance or I'd watch them and try to mimick it. Maybe a friend of yours who can dance like that can teach you. Hope this helps!
I've been friends with a married man for about 3 years and we have never crossed the line. I knew him and his wife before they moved last year. I thought of him as one of my closest friends- he was someone I could always talk to. Well yesterday we got into a big fight on MSN messenger. I told him that I missed him (because I harldy get to see him since he moved) and then he made a comment "I'm a married man". Then I said "I know- just friends". I was upset and told him I didnt think we should talk anymore. He wanted to know why. I told him that his comment " I'm a married man" made it sound like I wanted an affair with him. I assured him I was not like that. I said I would never cheat with a married man because it happend with my mom and dad. I also said I hoped we could still be friends. Well I thought he would have respected me for saying that but instead he coldly responded with "good bye". He gave me no explanation either. I thought this man was my friend- surely a true friend would understand. Now he has completely shut me out. He won't answer my phone calls and I sent two emails saying that he was the best friend I ever had and I hoped we could still be friends. He is not responding. This man has been an important friend in my life for the last 3 years- this just doesnt make sense. Why do think he's being this way? Do you think he really did want an affair with me and now is miffed that he knows he won't be getting any?
oy, this is a tough one. I'm sorry that this happened to you and I know, it sucks. I'd try calling him a couple more times and leaving heartfelt messages. Explain to him that you are truly sorry for the big misunderstanding. If he really won't budge, then call his wife. Explain to her the whole situation and how he took it the wrong way. Also tell her that you would never do anything to hurt their marriage. Ask her if she could talk to him about it. Maybe his wife's words will help him see that he took it the wrong way and you guys could be friends again. I really hope this helps and good luck!
Alright, so, my sister and I have a great relationship with our mother. We talk to her about everything and anything and we love being around each other. Well, most of the time that is. Yeah, we have arguments and sometimes we don't get along just like other mothers and daughters. But, within hours, sometimes even minutes, we make up. That is, unless her sisters are around, then she turns into a bitch.
When they're around my mom nitpicks at everything we do and lectures, yells at us about it. It's insane because she's NEVER like this when they're not around. When they're not here, she only gets us in trouble when she feels she needs to but when they're around, it's for EVERYTHING it seems.
My sister and I argue about clothes all the time, we're sisters, we do that and usually, if she was wearing one of my shirts that I wanted to wear that day my mom would take the shirt and tell both of us to find something else to wear. Well, around my aunts, she tells us to go to our room and doesn't let us go out that day.
And today, my sister got these new Coach shoes that I've wanted as a birthday gift and never got. They're the white, turquoise, and pink wedges with the bow around the toes if anyone knows what I'm talking about. So anyway, I went to my mom and asked her was up because I was the one that wanted and asked for them. I made the mistake of asking in front of one of her sisters and she rolled her eyes at me. Then, my mom started bitching at me so I asked her what her problem was and she said "I'm so sick of my two irresponsible, disrespectful, ungrateful daughters!" After that I just went up stairs.
When we talk to our dad about it, he says he'll talk to her but of course he never does. And he doesn't notice because he's always at his office. What do we do? If it helps any, I'm 17 and my sister is 16.
Ok, so your mom is probably acting like this because it's how she was grown up around her sisters. And now they're bringing up the worst in her. If she's the youngest child it may be because she wants to own up to her sisters and be more like them. If she's the middle or eldest, she may be wanting to set a "good" example of how to raise kids to her sisters. (But obviously the example she's setting is very bad.) I think you should talk to your sister and think about what you guys want to say and then sit down with your mother and have a heart to heart. Tell her how you feel and give certain examples of how she acts. (Say like, "on march 25th when aunt____ and aunt_____ were over, i did this. Normally you would punish me like this_____ but instead you did it worse and were cruel" and stuff.) At first she may be upset or angry, but let's hope eventually she'll think before she acts (in front of her sisters). I really hope this helped and things between you anf your mom get better.