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My mom guURrr
Alright, so, my sister and I have a great relationship with our mother. We talk to her about everything and anything and we love being around each other. Well, most of the time that is. Yeah, we have arguments and sometimes we don't get along just like other mothers and daughters. But, within hours, sometimes even minutes, we make up. That is, unless her sisters are around, then she turns into a bitch.
When they're around my mom nitpicks at everything we do and lectures, yells at us about it. It's insane because she's NEVER like this when they're not around. When they're not here, she only gets us in trouble when she feels she needs to but when they're around, it's for EVERYTHING it seems.
My sister and I argue about clothes all the time, we're sisters, we do that and usually, if she was wearing one of my shirts that I wanted to wear that day my mom would take the shirt and tell both of us to find something else to wear. Well, around my aunts, she tells us to go to our room and doesn't let us go out that day.
And today, my sister got these new Coach shoes that I've wanted as a birthday gift and never got. They're the white, turquoise, and pink wedges with the bow around the toes if anyone knows what I'm talking about. So anyway, I went to my mom and asked her was up because I was the one that wanted and asked for them. I made the mistake of asking in front of one of her sisters and she rolled her eyes at me. Then, my mom started bitching at me so I asked her what her problem was and she said "I'm so sick of my two irresponsible, disrespectful, ungrateful daughters!" After that I just went up stairs.
When we talk to our dad about it, he says he'll talk to her but of course he never does. And he doesn't notice because he's always at his office. What do we do? If it helps any, I'm 17 and my sister is 16.
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Ok, so your mom is probably acting like this because it's how she was grown up around her sisters. And now they're bringing up the worst in her. If she's the youngest child it may be because she wants to own up to her sisters and be more like them. If she's the middle or eldest, she may be wanting to set a "good" example of how to raise kids to her sisters. (But obviously the example she's setting is very bad.) I think you should talk to your sister and think about what you guys want to say and then sit down with your mother and have a heart to heart. Tell her how you feel and give certain examples of how she acts. (Say like, "on march 25th when aunt____ and aunt_____ were over, i did this. Normally you would punish me like this_____ but instead you did it worse and were cruel" and stuff.) At first she may be upset or angry, but let's hope eventually she'll think before she acts (in front of her sisters). I really hope this helped and things between you anf your mom get better.
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My gut feeling is that your Mum has a problem with her sisters and not with you. She obviously feels that she has to discipline you "properly" so that she looks in charge to them. I suggest that you do not engage in conversation with your Mum about anything important whilst they are around. Accept that she is like she is around them and work out a strategy with your sister so that you can cope during those times. Don't take it too much to heart. It will all pass sooner than you think. Time doesn't stand still for anyone. I wish you and your sister all the very best.
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well the best thing to do is ignore her when shes like that. or talk to her about it when she calms down or whatever. tell her that u dont like it when shes soes that and maybe shell stop. but yea i hope that helps.
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Well i've got to say that it does seem like your mom is tryin to impress her sisters. You could try just not talking to her much when her sisters are around and then when they leave talk to your mom. And ya sisters do fight i have a younger sister and she is the most annoying thing on the planet...at times anyway and we're 5 years apart and we always argue about stupid stuff...and ya even clothes...weird but i'm very small and like she loves my clothes...lol but just talk to her that's all i can say...hope that helps!
-STEPHANiE xx
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When i read this it seems to me as if when your mom is around her sisters she wants to impress them by diciplining(sorry for the spelling) you to prove shes a good mother maybe? my advice to you is to maybe talk to her when her sisters ARENT around one day and tell her how you feel that she acts different and treats you adn your sister different when she is around her sisters rather than not. let me know how it goes =)
♥BLAiR
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