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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.I'm one of the very blessed.
I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.
Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.
Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.
I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.
advice
Firstly, anyone who answers please don't judge,as many people do.
I'm a shy girl, going to uni in england in september. Alot of people think shyness is just being ignorant-but I can't help it-its my predisposition you see..
Anyway, I have only a few friends now, but obviously want to make more when I go to uni.
The thing is-I don't think I fit in with other girls my age-like at all.
I guess I'm more career driven than most ppl-idk.
How would you make more friends at uni?
(I'm used to having one or two really close ones but quite like the idea of being in a group)
Maybe you don't fit in with girls your own age at your other school, but you must remember you're going to a new school with a whole new bunch of girls. Perhaps you'll feel more comfortable with the girls at Uni.
Even if you do want to branch out and have a group of friends, its still a good idea to have one or two really close ones. I know you're shy (which doesn't make you ignorant at all) but you'll just have to try to be brave and put yourself out there.
Hello I'm a f/14 and in 8th grade. So its halfway through the school year and my friends (fake nicknames) slaughter kibbles and melissa are ALL starting their own little drama and practically throwing me back into my depression but here's the problem, those are my only friends! Nobody else in my school really likes me because of how I act and look anything that you could recommend would be AMAZING thanks you if you do answer
You need to confront these friends about their behavior. If they're really your friends, they'll listen to you and apologize. Then they won't do it again.
Don't forget- high school is just around the corner. A world of new people means a world of potential new friends who won't pull this crap.
i was looking for a video called Barry Manilow or Michael Bolton vote what do you think but i could not find it so will you please help me maybe upload it thank you
I have tried and tried. The only thing on the internet I can find is a New England Patriots forum where they are voting who's better, Barry Manilow or Michael Bolton. If that's what you're looking for, then just search Google : Barry Manilow or Michael Bolton vote
What on earth is this video you are looking for? Some information about it might be helpful.
i like in chicago illinois & i was wondering where i can go to meet guys... that are pervs
im a senior in high school (17, female)
Why in the hell would you want to meet pervs?
per·vert
/pərˈvərt/
Noun:
A person whose sexual behavior is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable.
Lately I've been feeling like I'm falling back into my depression after just being taken off prozac 25mg (being only 14 that takes a lot out of you) does anyone know the signs of it? Please let me know so I can see my doctor I really hate the prozac because it changed my entire personally to something different and my doctor even told me I might devolp split personallity so any ideas?
" Depression symptoms include:
Feelings of sadness or unhappiness
Irritability or frustration, even over small matters
Loss of interest or pleasure in normal activities
Reduced sex drive
Insomnia or excessive sleeping
Changes in appetite — depression often causes decreased appetite and weight loss, but in some people it causes increased cravings for food and weight gain
Agitation or restlessness — for example, pacing, hand-wringing or an inability to sit still
Irritability or angry outbursts
Slowed thinking, speaking or body movements
Indecisiveness, distractibility and decreased concentration
Fatigue, tiredness and loss of energy — even small tasks may seem to require a lot of effort
Feelings of worthlessness or guilt, fixating on past failures or blaming yourself when things aren't going right
Trouble thinking, concentrating, making decisions and remembering things
Frequent thoughts of death, dying or suicide
Crying spells for no apparent reason
Unexplained physical problems, such as back pain or headaches
For some people, depression symptoms are so severe that it's obvious something isn't right. Other people feel generally miserable or unhappy without really knowing why.
Depression affects each person in different ways, so symptoms caused by depression vary from person to person. Inherited traits, age, gender and cultural background all play a role in how depression may affect you.
Depression symptoms in children and teens
Common symptoms of depression can be a little different in children and teens than they are in adults.
In younger children, symptoms of depression may include sadness, irritability, hopelessness and worry.
Symptoms in adolescents and teens may include anxiety, anger and avoidance of social interaction.
Changes in thinking and sleep are common signs of depression in adolescents and adults but are not as common in younger children.
In children and teens, depression often occurs along with behavior problems and other mental health conditions, such as anxiety or attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
Schoolwork may suffer in children who are depressed.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/DS00175/DSECTION=symptoms
I'm going to my first ever concert which is a rock concert (Papa Roach!) and I was wondering what to bring with me and what to wear there if you got any advise. Thanks.
My favorite rock concert attire is a comfortable t-shirt and a pair of blue jeans. Sneakers, because you'll be on your feet all night. No need to try to dress all snazzy. You're going to a concert, so a T and jeans and sneakers will be comfy gear for you to rock out in all night.
Don't take anything like a purse, or anything like that. Nothing you have to carry or hold. You don't want to be standing there holding something all night. You can't just set it down beside you, because someone will likely steal it.
Take some money with you so you can buy yourself something to drink (your cheering 'til you're hoarse throat will thank you), or perhaps buy a Papa Roach t-shirt to pull on over the T you wore to the concert. You can safely stick that money in the pocket of your blue jeans.
Have fun!
I'm a 14 year old girl and my parents are very over-protective and they practically control my life. (My Mum especially) I don't hate them, I just wish they would let me do what I want to do. I don't want to do drugs or smoke or have sex or anything, I'm a good girl, I just don't want to be singled out by society. I know people say 'be yourself' and 'don't be afraid to be different' but at school I just want to blend in and get through the week.
My friends would all go out to the movies or go shopping but I can never go because that's too grown up for me. I can't decide on anything to decorate my room so it ends up being furnished for a 5 year old. I can't wear 'provocative' or 'suggestive' clothing which means a long sleeved rash shirt and knee length board shorts when I go swimming. I can't wear dresses above the knees or strapless dresses. No short-shorts and no hanging out with people my parents don't know.
That's just the tip of the iceberg. I don't know what to do to change the situation without upsetting my parents.
You're really going to hate me for this, BUT....
I can totally see where your parents are coming from. You are, as you said, a 14 year old GIRL. I would let my daughter do the things you want to go do when she turned 16.
They are never going to just let you do what you want to do. That would be very highly irresponsible of them. I know you don't see it now, but they have these rules to keep you safe, and they want to make sure they know for fact that you are mature enough to do these things you want to do.
I know you are extremely frustrated, but try to remember their hearts are in the right place. They are making these rules because they love you. There are kids out there who aren't so lucky.
See, there are kids out there who do get to do whatever they want, whenever they want, because their parents don't care. They also don't care if they eat, have clean clothes, go to school, etc.
Can I pregnant by using my brother toilet seat.Im 13 and really worried.
I'm sorry, but I have to ask... Are you serious??
NO. You have to have sex to get pregnant.
I've noticed that these days, everybody belongs to a group of people, and that people call these 'cliques'. I know what a clique is, and I am part of one at my school. Teachers always say crap about how we kids need to get along with one another and that cliques should be "outruled" from public schools. What is so wrong with a clique? Are they dumb? Are they considered a sterotype? I'm confused.
Well, if you think about it, cliques can be sort of a stereotypical group of people, if you think about it. Do jocks tend to hang out with the chess club? No, not typically. So there is the Jock and Chess Club Nerd stereotyped cliques right there.
All school kids encircle themselves with their friends, like-minded people, people with the same interests and goals, people of the same popularity status, what have you. It is in every school, everywhere, and there have been cliques in school for many years gone by.
In fact, I'm willing to bet your teachers were all in some sort of clique in high school. Whether they were popular, outcasts, in the get-along-gang, or whatever, they hung out with their circles of friends.
Are cliques dumb? Is there something wrong with them? The only thing I can say is cliques are a part of normal school life.
What's dumb and what's wrong are when the people in them step out, put down, bully, beat up, and be cruel to people in other cliques.
They'll never be out ruled, but yah, you kids do need to get along better. ;-0
So i have made a Roxio VideoWave and now I want to export it or upload it to youtube but each time I do, it will upload or export as a 3D file but I dont want it to be a 3D file, and im not the most technology advanced person and im not sure how to turn the settings off for 3D. any advice you could give me is awesome!
I don't know if this will help you, but I got this from a forum:
Question was How can I upload Roxio videos to Youtube?
"Thanks everyone! I made the video on the DVD builder and then went back to the main roxio page after I saved the video. Then I opened up Video Wave and opened my project. Then I pressed file/output production to.... It asked me what I wanted to convert the video to, so I chose to change into a video file. When it asked me what I was going to use the video for, I chose posting on internet. After it was changed into a different kind of file, I went onto YouTube and followed all of their instructions for uploading a video."
http://forums.support.roxio.com/topic/20943-posting-on-youtube/
I have been dating a guy for awhile now and we recently started having sex. Everything is great in that regard except for one issue. He likes me to go down on him every time we have sex. I don't mind it and actually enjoy it, but I think every time is a little much because in my opinion, it will get boring and repetitive. On top of that, he does not go down on me. I don't believe that to be much of a problem since I've never really been into it, but I'd feel better if he'd at least offer. How do I navigate this touchy situation in a still new relationship? 25/f
Ok, I'm going to speak to you woman to woman, so anyone who can't deal with that, just stop reading now.
Think of something spicy and new you'd like to try with him, and next time when he starts expecting the same old thing, give him a big horny grin and tell him "I thought we'd try something a little different tonight..."
What is something you'd really like to try? Don't be bashful, just do it. Unless its giving him lashings with a belt, he'll be 100% down for anything you want to do.
He probably feels things are just as boring and repetitive as you do! He just might not have an imagination to mix things up. You have to use yours and come up with something that will drive you wild to do. If it will drive you wild, it will do the same for him.
And don't forget, you could always wear lingerie, turn on some grooving music, and dance around for him. Follow it up by giving him a lap dance rather than going down on him. I bet he'd LOVE that!
You can also get yourself a sexy costume and introduce roll play into the bedroom now and then to keep things from getting too boring. Perhaps you could be a naughty cop, and handcuff him to the bed with some fuzzy cuffs? That is just one of a ton of costumes out there. Go to an adult store or website and browse the costume section until you find one that you would feel best wearing.
I don't know, maybe you think that sounds silly or embarrassing to do, but give the ideas a chance. Doing stuff like that changes up not only the every day repetition, but also routine, positions, places, etc. and its really fun to do.
And nothing makes you feel more attractive and desired than putting on some lingerie or a costume and totally rocking his world.
Doing stuff like this will get a different response out of him, and he will react to you differently. Of course he's going to give you some attention while you give him a lap dance. If he doesn't put his hands where you want them, you take his hands, suckle one finger a little, kiss another, and place them in the right spot. You're in charge at this point!
Gently lead him into doing what you want him to do for you. Especially when you are the one in charge. Make sense?
AND as an added bonus, you get to avoid navigating the touchy situation in your still new relationship.
Unless, of course, you'd rather talk to him about it now. In that case I was probably not very helpful.
P.S.
I'm not some sort of perv or anything. I'm just a married woman who sometimes has to spice up boring and repetitive, myself. Such is life! ;-)
Hi all! Hope somebody here can help asap!
I'm doing a report on arousal and just need to know if each condition is capitalised
E.G.
Heart Rate was found higher in Exercise rather than Relaxation.
Also is "Post Hoc" capitalised?
E.G.
"After doing Post Hoc tests we found that..."
I sure wish I could be more helpful than this, but....
Post hoc in the sentence you wrote would be
"After doing post hoc tests we found that..."
I think the conditions don't need to be capitalized. I'm not 100% sure, but I'm saying most likely not. Don't take my word on that.
As for your sig. result, I don't quite understand. What does p represent for .05 to be either greater than or equal to?
Oh balls. You've probably already turned this assignment in. How about you inbox me and show me how to figure out this sig. result question anyway, because now I'm really curious as to how you figure this question.
Seriously. I want to know how to figure that question, now. LOL
13/f hi my sister just got a 3DS for Christmas and she dropped it two days ago and the paint has chipped on the corner. How can I fix this and will it be covered by the warranty?
It should be covered by warranty, but I did some research in forums on Google, and a couple of people said the paint was peeling off of theirs, one black one blue, and they sent them in to be repaired, but Nintendo didn't fix the paint job.
DO call Nintendo's customer support number and ask before trying anything else.
1-800-255-3700
I did find a site that may interest you. They sell skins for all sorts of devices, including Nintendo 3DS. Maybe a skin would make it look jazzy to you again?
http://www.decalgirl.com/
Or maybe go to a store that sells auto paint and try to match your 3DS to one of those small jars of touch-up paint. (I think you can even get this paint at Walmart) A little dad'l do ya. You have to take care not to get it on too thick or it will ugly up that spot.
I love making videos like MEP's (multi editors projects), AMV's (anime music videos) and MMV's (movie music videos). And lately i noticed the editor I use (windows movie maker) SUCKS! I cant do a lot of things like over lap video or proper affect and I need a new one! What kind of video editing software would you recommend? Preferably one I dont have to pay for and wont give me a virus when I download it. ~Cheers!
Im a 17 year old girl if that makes any difference
Windows Movie Maker is indeed a frustrating program. If your video is too large, or contains too much information, it constantly freezes up and you have to start over. At least that's what it did to me.
Now. I know you said preferably free, but the one I have in mind does cost $50. BUT. It is worth every penny. You will be very satisfied!
Corel VideoStudio Pro X5:
http://www.corel.com/corel/product/index.jsp?&skuId=PK_ESDVSPRX5ENAM&trkid=USsemKWS&1=1&storeKey=us&mapcounter=1&pid=prod4650075
Or you can order a slightly older version (The one I use) for $24 on ebay. Free shipping, even:
http://www.ebay.com/itm/ULEAD-VIDEO-BUNDLE-VIDEOSTUDIO-9-COOL-3D-3-MOVIEFACTORY-4-LEADTEK-MOVIE-PACK-1-4-/380408541187#vi-content
You can Google search "Ulead VideoStudio 12 full version" and get several links to download that program for free. However, after having to buy a new computer, I don't trust free downloads.
Its worth it to me to buy the hard copy of the program. Especially since you can always search the internet for a better deal on that new version.
As a person who got hooked on Windows Movie Maker and had to find something better, I promise you that the VideoStudio programs are worth spending money on. Especially if you love working on that type of program, and spend a lot of time doing it. You'll definitely get your money's worth.
Hope that helped!
So I have this guy friend and he has asked me if I could sleep over his house, we are best friends but my mom always says " Absolutely not!". Why is she not letting me. I really want to sleep over his house but my mom is like WAY OVER PROTECTIVE. Any way I can convince her to let me stay the night. ANYTHING WILL DO! Please like HELP ME!
She's not being overprotective.
Any sane minded parent wouldn't let their daughter spend the night at ANY boy's house.
I don't wish to stir up a lot of controversy but rather to get info and opinion on circumcision. My friend just had a baby and wasn't sure whether to have this procedure performed. She's asking male friends their view.
She doesn't nor do I like the idea of inflicting pain on a child. I've read this operation takes 10-20 minutes and is hard on the infant. However, I've also read that an intact foreskin is hard to clean for a child, there can be cheesy discharge that hardens under the head and that the foreskin can crack or tighten as an adult needing the procedure. I don't know if any of this talk of preventing STDs, AIDS or cancer is true either.
I'm just hoping I can go back to my friend with a better idea of what I feel about it after hearing from people hear especially parents who did and didn't have it done and whether they would do it again based on what their experience was.
My sons and my husband are uncircumcised.
Does it prevent STDs, Aids, Cancer? False.
It is hard for a child to clean? False.
The foreskin doesn't detach from the head of the penis until around 14 years of age. At that time, he will have to pull the foreskin back and wash beneath it when he showers.
My husband has never experienced foreskin cracking or tightening. Neither my husband or my sons (ages 4 and 5) have ever had cheesy discharge that hardens under the head.
As said before, there is no medical reason to circumcise. Most people do it "to look like Daddy"
We didn't choose to not circumcise for that reason, but because we felt it is how their body is meant to be by nature.
i had sex with my bf bt he didnt ejected on me. bt i feel if sumthing is wrong thats why for being on a safe side i have taken an i-pill within 72hrs(exactly at 49th hrs). so is there any chances of being pregnant?
The best way for you to find out is to take a test. We can't honestly answer your question.
So I just got 4 parakeets and I realized one of them laid eggs. She did so about 3 weeks ago and now she laid 2 more. So there are 5 in total. They haven't hatched butbshe keeps going inside the nest and warming them up. Do any of u guys know how long it takes an egg to hatch? Also I seperated the male parakeets from the female one so they dont try to go inside the nest. But she's sort of sad and misses her friends. Because when I put both cages together they all get near her cage and call her our and she comes out and they all make alotbof noise as if happy. O dont know anything about parakeets giving birth so of anyone does advice is greatly appreciated! Thankyou!! Also please dont say to go to a vet because my mom doesn't want to spend money on birds since they're mine and I honestly dont have a great job right now to even take them.
Thankyou!
Parakeet eggs hatch in about 18 days after incubation starts, which starts after the 2nd egg is laid. If they don't hatch in 18 days, the eggs are infertile- remove them from the cage and throw them out.
Hi im a 13f
sry if its long!
Ok so theres this guy that ive had a crush on for about.... 4 months. He is really funny and sweet. :)
but ya he had a girl friend for a while (when i still liked him) and they FINALLY broke up because he found out she was cheating on him.
we would play around and tease each other and talk and stuff even when he had a girl friend.
but now its kinda like he is a little more nervous to talk to me. i can see out of the corner of my eye that he seems to be starring at me more. (i have all my classes except connections with him)
and today is what really got me thinking if he likes me or not...
so we went to the library in out last class today, and he said "hey shinney can i take a picture of you?" and i said "why?" ( stupid me ik, im shy soo... :\) and then he said " beacuse my mom wants to know what you look like" and then he said "you know my mom" and i was like ya and ive seen her before i think, and then i said why does she need a picture of me, if she already knows what i look like? and then when we were in line to check out our books, he came up right behind me and was like REALLY close which kinda made me uncomfortable (like i said im the shy type) and he was messing around and smelling me and my hair and all haha :)
so my question is...
does he like me?
P.S. reminder im asking guys thanks!!!!! :P
Sounds like he is interested in you to me.
Is it better to choose a college roommate with more in common with me, or one who is more religious?
(sorry this is long, i just really need help and i really appreciate all genuine answers)
I want to be more religious, but at the same time I think I need to learn how to have fun. Both girls were nice to me last semester, even when I became really depressed and tried to hide it. I have similar interests with one of the girls, but I don't think she's religious. While the other girl, she has many friends and is very religious, but I don't have much in common with her. I can't tell if that girl really wants to be my friend, either.. when I dropped from the class we were both in it was kind of like she was looking down on me for it, or something. But she'd still be really peppy to me at the same time? What if I ask her to be roommates and she rejects and it makes our "friendship" awkward? Or if we become roommates and then we end up being driven apart? I want to learn to be more social and have meaningful relationships, because I've realized that I need to get closer with my faith and realize my current limitations and needs. I want to learn what it's like to be friends with other people, because I think it will help me a lot. I learned a lot from my last roommate, who was very different than me, as she was a foreign exchange student, but I didn't feel I could really connect with her. I mean, on one level we connected, but I wanted to have a friend I could talk about my interests and everything with her understanding. I haven't truly had a best friend like that before. Not for a very long time. I just closed myself off to people, and it was a vicious cycle til I couldn't feel happiness or pain. If it weren't for my realization last semester where I realized I was being ungrateful and self centered, I wouldn't have seen a reason to live. And now I'm trying to stay humble and learn.. you know, really listen! I think my heart hardened in the past as a defense mechanism, due to feeling really lonely and out of place while growing up. Idk. Like I had this perfectionist mindset, that I had to achieve things and be recognized by others to be happy. I still struggle with this, and I now wonder how I should change my habits to improve my life, and also not become prideful. When I felt my very worst, last semester, one night when I just wanted to escape from myself because I hated actions so much, I prayed and felt the most serene peace. I think about it everyday now. It's hard for me to explain but I've never felt that.. I felt like a very young child again, free from worry and what not. I was afraid of demons in the room and kept feeling anxious but I could finally sleep peacefully while playing christian music to keep my mind in the right place. For the first time then I opened the bible and started reading and words started to make sense. I couldn't believe it, because before, happy, religious people really pissed me off. Cause I couldn't understand it. I was agnostic. Wow, so I'm going all over the place with this question but I really don't know what to do. I still sometimes catch myself falling into my old traps, with perfectionism, so would it be better if I chose a roommate who could teach me how to have fun and develop relationships with others? or one who knows more about scripture? maybe the more christian one is nice but i'm interpreting her the wrong way. I dont know. same with the girl I have interests with.. like maybe she has the same interests but I can learn from her mindset better? she's really music oriented like me, and it's rare for me to find people to talk to about music at my school. i think god provided me with music to try to lift my spirit during high school, cause when i look back at my high school years music was by far the thing giving me the energy to get through each schoolday. I was blinded by my self hate that I couldn't see my many other blessings, but that was one that I acknowledged, you know, so it has a place in my heart. I'm not an elitist or anything, but it's just fun to talk about common interests you know? should i feel guilty for that? she also is good at an instrument i want to learn to play. It just freaks me out when people have common interests with me. I tend to be drawn to homely, unassuming people, because I feel like they won't judge me and what not, so I feel comfortable enough to be myself and not rigid. When something is too good I over question it and I think maybe it's too good and that's not good? Idk. Like I've even been thinking that maybe I should become a nun, but then I get confused because I don't understand the purpose of the sacrament of marriage. If god favors nuns who practice celibacy then why did adam need eve? is this just more pridefulness, that I can do things on my own? I realize that I can't do that anymore, but I don't know how to change. I've been trying to learn as much as I can through this site, other catholic sites, and by reading the bible, but I'm kind of overwhelmed and feel like there's so much more to learn and I accept I won't know everything, but I just want to learn a lot so that I can be a better person to myself and others. Like I used to reject people closest to me.. I mean I wanted their love but I never felt like I deserved it. It's very hard for me to explain. I still sometimes fall into that trap and consciously think of how god influences many things in the world that i didn't know before. i'm also kind of afraid of learning more, like pursuing a career to make a lot of money and do good works, all in the name of the lord, but i'm afraid if that is pride? i want to make money but give most of it to charity, but is it prideful for me to think I am capable of doing that, when many people, when they become rich, become more prideful and what not? i really dont want to go to hell. it's like i'm just going in circles. my second semester of university just started and i cant spend all day looking up how to live my life through christ, and im a baptised catholic but rarely went to church and didn't think it was relevant. i used to think it was smarter to be atheist too. i know now suffering brings us closer to christ, and it just.. like right when i think i've understood things, i get put back in my place. is this normal? will it happen all my life? how am i thinking wrong? i just dont want to get depressed again and let down my parents for all the hard work and love they have for me. i know they love me but it's like i dont know how to feel it. they worked a lot while i grew up so i spent a lot of time home on the computer, from the age of 8. it's easier for me to spill my heart to strangers like this than to someone who knows me personally and its something i need to change. it's always easier for me to relate to others online than in real life, because i think im not afraid of rejection online. gah, what do I do? im a college freshman btw
Wow, that WAS long, wasn't it?
Ok, listen. You don't have to share your room with a religious person to be moved by your religion.
This is my thoughts on it:
Choose the fun roommate. You need to get out there and experience the fun side of college. Get out and meet some people. You're having confusion and concerns over your religion and where you stand within it, and I don't think the religious roommate will help matters any. In fact, I'm willing to bet you may face that depression again. You need to get out and enjoy life! Live it up a little! FUN ROOMMATE. That's my opinion on that.
You may or may not want to be a nun. Have you done much living of life? Have you had a boyfriend? I think God favors nuns, not just for their celibacy, but for their sacrifices in order to serve God and the church. Hey, if you want to be a nun, then go for it. But I think you should get out there and experience some life before you decide that. You don't want to regret it later, or start wondering "What If?" and then feeling guilty about that.
I don't think it is pride that you can do things on your own. That's called standing on your own two feet. Its called strength! You are not a weak woman if you can do things on your own. Why should you not be that way anymore?? That is not pride. That is not a sin. God wants his children to be strong.
You feel like you don't deserve the love of others? Do you love yourself? Before you can accept the love of another, you first have to love yourself. You should accept yourself for who you are, and love every inch of you. You sound like a very intelligent, very nice young lady. You are someone who should love herself, and who is absolutely deserving to receive love.
Why should you not pursue a successful career? If that is a goal you achieve, then that is what God has meant for you to do. Wouldn't you agree? That is not pride, it is God's will. Let's say you become successful and make a lot of money. As long as you remember you aren't above anyone, donate to the less fortunate, and continue to follow God's path, then how could that be pride? How could that be sin? You can still be a good person and do good things no matter what your income is.
Of course its easier to spill your heart out to strangers. I'm just words on your computer screen. I don't know the ins and outs of your life to say, "Well, you should be doing this with your life, and "you should be spending your time doing this" and what-not. BUT. I'm also a real person, and I'm looking at your story from way outside your box.
You need religious council. Not with your religious friend, but you need to find a catholic church nearby and seek guidance, ask questions and get answers. If you don't understand the answer, ask for an explanation until you DO understand.
I wish you nothing but the best, and I hope everything works out for you.
I hope I was helpful to you.