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i've been molested, as a child. it happened often and i've tried so hard to block it out but now i feel like it defines me. nobody knows, i can't say anything nobody will believe me. everybody will hate me. he ruined me. i picture how my life would be if it never happened, the way i am now is horrible. i make so many mistakes just trying to make myself feel better but nothing works. i dont know what to do, i cant talk to anybody. im 16, this happened the summer going into 5th grade then into the year.
nothing makes it go away i don't know what to do i want to die so badly. (link)
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I am really not the one to help you,
but people who can and want to help might wanna know some details.
Who did it? Was it some relative? Some teacher? Some kid from school? Where you 11 years old at the time?
Its OK, the advicenator community is here to help you, eventually you ll be just fine.
You are only a child and worts of all...a teenager. Teenagers have a lot of problems even when they dont have issues...its worst for you if you DO got issues.
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For the past couple of days my urin has come out a cloudy yellow. should i be worried?
p.s. im on my period so i know it isnt discharge, (link)
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when your on your period your pee is affected by the mixture of your blood. that is most likely it, other wise, like the others said it could be that your not getting enough liquids
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I am a 14 year old female and i havent gotten my period yet but i want to have sex. My question is can i have sex even though i havent had my period yet. and if i can have sex is there any chance of me getting pregnate?? (link)
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Yes you can. You can always get PREGNANT even if you haven't gotten your period yet. Although if you can't even spell I doubt you could handle the emotions that go along with sex. Before you have sex though I suggest you brush up on your information about sex. Everyone should at least know about the various risks of sex before they have it. =)
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i need a new screenname. but i want it to be something sort of random.
my nickname is caro, pronounced "care-oh", not "car-oh", haha. so i was thinking of something like "carosaurus" or something stupid like that. i like my friends, which is "x3 (name)". just something simple. any ideas?
(i didn't include info about myself in the question because i want it to be something that has no revelance to my hobbies or appearance, etc.) (link)
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carosaurusREX
CarogoesRAWR
omg_itsCARO
x_omfgCARO
care_OHHH
caroTASTIC_x
idk i trieddd
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Okay so, I really really need some money.
I really want to go to Warped tour on the 8th, and I need some money for tickets, and stuff.
My friend and I are going to have a lemonade stand, lame right? But we really need some cash.
Any other ideas.
I really wanna do something fun to make money.
Any creative opinions would be really appreciated. (link)
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You could go around and put flyiers in your neighbors mail boxes askin them if they need assistance or anything... like lawn mowing or gardening or dog grooming/walking/pooper scooper lol! If you do it with a friend it can always be more fun! GoOd LuCk!
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Hello,
thank you in advance for helping me
well.... there is this guy i really like and i might love... but we have known each other for our whole lifes. So you can say that we have grown up with each other. We use to be GREAT BEST FREINDS!!!:) And after my parents got a divorce we weren't best friends anymore but friends... after about 3 more years I found out that he really likes me but i didn't feel the same way then.... but another year later I like him and he liked me... but he has never had a girlfriend and he didn't want to ruin our relationship as bf and gf and friends! He is perfect... we are 1 month a part (I am older) but he is going into 7th and i am going into 8th... he is 100% dedicated to the Lord just as much as I am! I think that we are perfect. I know right it sounds like a dream come true.. but 2 months later we like each other again! but how can i go out with him if he doesn;t want to ruin our friendship?
please help (link)
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Awww...I think that you should confront him in person, catch up with him, renew your feelings with him so that he can do the same, and then tell him how you feel...do YOU think that it will really ruin your frienship? Mabey if it IS true love then it truely is worth the risk. But dont get forced into anything and be yourself :-)
GoOd LuCk!
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I have been so paranoid lately and I have no idea why. Today this link popped up on my computer and it said 'do not click here' and I did because it wouldn't go away and then it had a picture of a devil and it said 'Beyond God just stole your soul' and I know it's completely idiotic and everything but it's freaking me out. How can I become not so paranoid? (link)
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I dont think you're paranoid...if that link came up on my computer I would freak out too...that is freaky! [[Just trying to make you feel better]]
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i need to loose 20lbs.
can anybody give me good advice on that?
i don't really have a huge time limit on when i need to loose it. (link)
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okay...i'll list suggestions below:
~Try to eat a lesser quality of what you normaly eat
~When you get food cravings...drink water, tea, or coffee, it is like when you drink too much before you eat dinner and you're not that hungry anymore
~Eat healthier!!!!lol...when your mom asks you what you want from the super market, ask her to pick up more fruits and veggies instead of snacks
~Replace ordinary snacks with pretzels, twizzlers, or 100 callorie bars
~Make a smoothie with veggies like brocolie and spinach...then add fruits like rasberries, strawberries, bananas etc...it over takes the taste of the veggies so you dont even taste them!
~do push ups, CRUNCHES, mountain climbers, and if you have weights lift them every morning and night
~Try to wake up earlier and take a short jog around your neighborhood
~Get more active in a day instead of watching tv, playing video games, and being on computer [[unless you are active all day lol]]
Well i hope i helped! GoOd LuCk!!!
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I have this friend and she falls out with me EVERY day literally but we have the same tastes in everything but she really annoys me and says shes my friend but will go bitching behind my back, i've tried confronting her but she just ignores me and says more stuff. And my other friend thinks the same about her too, she finds harry potter scary yet gos to see it at the cinema and thinks sharks are cute but doesnt like them and she's scared of my pet tortoise, what should i do, she's really bugging me (link)
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Anyone who talks behind your back, especially often is not your friend. Similar interests between people do not always work out. She isn't even listening to you when you're confronting her and trying to fix things. She isn't worth your time, ignore her. You'll always make new friends anyway. =)
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15/f
I get bad period symptoms.... well I think they're bad anyway. I'm pretty sure they'd be classified as bad symptoms too.
i'vw talked to my mom about it a little, but i dont want to talk to my doctor because im pretty sure that if i did, it'd end up being something really serious and i dont want to deal with that.
i heard that birth control pills can make ur period go away.
is that true? because thats the answer ive been looking for.
if i dont have a period, then i wont have these problematic syptoms. ok....
so my mom says that you can be permanently infertile by taking birth control pills, but ever since i was little, i NEVER wanted to have biological children.
so i wouldnt care if i was infertile. whatever.
i dont need birth control pills for actual birth control, cause im a virgin and im waiting for marriage,
but i want to know
do birth control pills stop ur period?
are there any risks?
and if the risks are low and it does stop periods, is there any way i can convince my mom to let me take them?
help me!!!!!!!! (link)
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First of all I have never heard anywhere that birth control makes you infertile. I've been on websites, etc. So she is lying about that or she may have a misconception about birth control. Birth control pills do NOT stop your period. However, this one brand called 'Seasonale' allows you just 4 periods a year.
Risks/Side effects:
Stroke, blood clots, spotting or unpredictable menstrual bleeding.
Go here for more information:
http://www.ourgyn.com/article_retrieve.php?articleid=61
I myself am on Loestrin 24 and I've had no problems period-wise. My periods are lighter since I've been on it. Then again, I've been more 'emotional' unfortunately.
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if i took home hermit crabs from the ocean and put them in a box filled with ocean water and took them home, what do i feed them? would they live? would i have to change the water? does anyone know how salty the ocean is? could i just make a mixture of salt and water for them? (link)
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hermit crabs dont really need water. they need a little section for water, and ocean water would be good to have... they might not be able to survive in not salt water because these aren't pet hermit crabs
put them in a little cage or container. depending on how many there are i can tell you i used to have them
if the water got dirty, you would need to change it
and there is hermit crab food you can buy
and you need to get a bowl and put a sponge in it so that a hermit crab can drink
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Sometimes I don't understand or hear what people have said to me. What could I say besides "Pardon" because that's a bit old fashioned? I also don't like the phrase "Excuse me" because it sounds as if I have been offended. Thanks for the help! (link)
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You could say "huh?" or "what?"
EDIT: Really now, I don't care if my feedback score was averaged out as 1, I'm here to help people. If people don't like my advice, that's there opinion. But my advice really wasn't that far off from the others before me. All I'm lacking is irrelevant fluff like "I hope I helped". I really dont care about your problems, because they're so minor compared to everything else going on. But I was still trying to help, and deserve to be respect like the all of the other columnist on this site.
If you don't want to sound uptight you could say "Huh?" or "What?" because that is commonly used, and is on the level of slang. You won't be considered old, or proper. I gurantee, because this is what I say when I don't catch one someone says. If your attitude isn't shit, then no one really cares if you say excuse me, because they understand what you meen.
Bravo for lacking the ability to elaborate and think outside of the box a little bit. The world really is a frightful place when my peers are using words such as pardon, as they sound "old fasioned". Bravo, indeed.
I hope I helped, but don't bother giving me a better rating. Even you didn't even leave a comment with that mediocre number I would have been satisfied, but the opinion of someone who doesn't know how to respond when they don't hear what is said isn't valued by me. I dont need to help people on this site, including you. Though some people need help once in a while, and I'm doing it out of the goodness of my heart because I know life can be rough. My attention could be focused on someone else, other than you. Especially with a question like this.
Have a nice day =)!!
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I have honey blonde hair that is fine, but I have a lot of it. It comes down past my shoulders. Because it is naturally wavy/curly, when I get out of the shower, I towel dry, put in leave-in conditioner, and then put it back into a ponytail (while it's still wet). That way it dries straight at the front. My hair seems very healthy. However, is it damaging to my hair to pull it back while it's wet? Thank you! (link)
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hey
hm. well how tight is the ponytail? like if it's really tight, you MAY have hairloss problems later in your life because the roots are being tugged at while they're in your skull's skin. so, more hair is likely to fall out as you age because the roots have died. it's like a loose tooth - the looser it is, the more likely it is that it will fall out.
if the ponytail is loose-ish (like how many times over does the scrunchie go?) then it's probably not harmful.
use the thin kind of scrunchies rather than the thick kind because the thin kind don't hold AS tightly. i understand that you want your hair to be straight in the front [thats fine] but you'll still get the same results even if you don't do it as tightly as you are right now. :]
thick- http://www.thinksimian.com/images/hair_tie/hair_tie_3/hair_tie_3_2.JPG
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ok my mom had been totally freaking out about my b.f and that i spend to much time with him and that im never home or help around the house ...any ideas???? (link)
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There's your problem...
"im never home or help around the house"
You don't even have a problem because you already solved it, duh! All you need to do is do what your mom is nagging about and she won't be freaking about your b.f.!
DUH!
(Sorry but this is an obvious question)
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she is a honey shandy colour with a whit strip down the middle of her bellie (link)
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Cinnamon would be cute =]
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16/f
Recently, my boyfriend and I started having sex. The first time, it hurt pretty bad.. but it doesn't hurt so much anymore. But, the thing is, i haven't bled yet. Does that mean that he didn't tear my hymen? I know some of my friends didn't bleed either. Am i still concidered a virgin? (link)
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No you are not a virgin. I've been having sex for my boyfriend for months [not necessarily often] and I've never bled. Most girls break their own hymen before they even have sex..through sports, or even inserting a tampon in wrong. So you've probably torn your own. =)
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Hey.
Well my boyfriend and me are quite close.
And i know he likes me and just doesn't want sex!
He is horny (which is embarassing to say)!
But he's like --wanna root--wanna fuk--lets have sex--
But i don't know if i should and im a virgin ... i need to know if i should have sex or not!
HELP PLEASE!!!! (link)
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Definitely not if you are questioning yourself. All boys are horny, he can wait. You both should have sex when you're both ready. How often does he say that to you? Honestly if a boy were asking me like that, even if I was ready I would say no. The way he's approaching with this idea makes him sound immature and almost as if he has no concern of what you think about it. I don't know if that is true or not but it seems that way to me.
Don't have sex until YOU want to. Also, don't have sex with anyone if they're pressuring you, they wouldn't do that if they respect you and your body.
=)
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i'm not fat, i'm not skinny, but my hips are way disproportional to my body. they're so wide. if i lose weight, will they get skinnier? it doesn't make sense to me that they would since they're bone. (link)
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They probably won't get smaller. =( Be happy you have hips, love your body for what it is. It's our flaws that make us unique. Besides, I know girls that are built like boys so at least you have curves. =)
Sorry if this doesn't help you. =/
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can anyone give me a site where there are heaps of pictures of emo/scene boys?
thanks (link)
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myspace
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if i walk for two hours a day (leisurely pace) and cut out junk food from my diet, drink a lot of water.. how much weight will i lose in a week? any tips on how to lose the fat on my face? will walking help this? (link)
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Your face will lose fat as your whole body slims down.
Water wont help you lose wait, but it's still really good for you.
Eating healthy will help you ALOT.
Walking is better than nothing, but you could burn the same amount of colors as walking 2 hours a day, by jogging 30 minutes. You need to get your heartrate up to lose the calories faster.
Hope I helped.
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