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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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You ask:

How exactly do you look at her?
A hot friend

Do you see her & other attractive females sexually?
they can be but i look at their body and compear it to mines.

Can you see yourself doing sexual acts on females?
i think of it, but with only her and i think of it with a guy too. But i'm a shy person. when i watch porn i get trun on when i see guy on girl, but if its girl on girl i get gross out but curious. porn is not for every one and i dont always like to watch it cause it get gross.

so i dont know if i really am bi but i know i do want her in my life and i do think about being sexual to her.
its so confusing!

I think you're bi-curious.

I'm in 9 grade 1st of all. I live in a small town, so in my high school, its the same people from all 3 years of middle school. But I reall ywanna byofriend or just to have fun with guys but its hadr because they think of you as the reputation you earned in middle school, and of course Ive changed. How do I show that Im different from what i used to be like? and any other suggestions for having fun etc with the same old people?

If a guy can't look past something that you did in your past, then he's shallow & stupid. And he's definitely not worth your time. Maybe meet someone who doesn't live too far from you. If someone new goes to your school, talk to them. Besides, there are older guys who haven't gone to school with you. Check out the guys in the 10th grade.

can someone explain to me the connection between izod and lacoste?

I'm pretty sure that Lacoste is more for women and Izod is more for men. I could be wrong though.

Click search.

we had this project and we have to cite our sources. i used a Funk & Wagnalls New Encyclopedia as one of my sources. it doesn't really say who the author is/are, so should i put Funk & Wagnalls as the author or just leave that blank?

thank you.

If there is no author, leave it blank.

Use this:
easybib.com
Select the type of citation, & then follow the stops. =)

okay so me and my boyfriend had sex last night.
im 14.
and you guys prolly think thats young.
but we were ready.
and we used prtection.
but now im like bloated and i have REALLY bad cramps.
and im not sure if its normal.
i asked my sister, and she wasnt sure cause its never happened to her.
so my question is will the bloating and cramps go away?
thankssss

Yes, they will. Besides, you used protection. Unless the condom broke [which I'm sure it didn't], then you couldn't possibly be pregnant.

ok so my best guy friend has recently started holding my hand walking down the hallways and people keep asking if we're a couple. and no we're just friends but i really like him and i dont know if he likes me though. he doesnt know that i like him cbecause i never told him. i dont wanna tell him either. today he saw my bottle cap bracelet- like if a guy breaks it then you have to makeout with him. and he was tugging on it lol i think he was just playing around but what if he really wants to kiss me? ok so it started off with just hugging and then he satrted telling me he loves me and now the holding hands - on a daily basis in public. does he like me? and if he does whats the next step? is it kissing cuz i havent had my first yet and i dont know when its gonna happen but im pretty sure its gonna be really soon. ahh im nervous in a good way. thank you!

Either he is:
[A]Flirting.
[B]Messing around with you.
[C]Crushing on you.
I'm going with choices A&C here. The next step would be getting to know each other more if you don't know enough about each other now. Once that happens, do what makes you feel most comfortable.

so my dad really worrys about me and my boyfriend.and like we've gone out before..but my dad wants to meet him.and is like oh he shuld be afraid,like i know he is kidding, but idk how can i make everyone happy? like my dad wants him to come over my house and stuff..its just weird b/c my bf is a little uncomfortble..but is fine with the idea?

If your boyfriend is fine with the idea, then what's the big deal? If your dad is just kidding, then stop freaking out. The most he could do is just ask him a lot of questions.

i was on limewire about 5 minutes ago and i was looking up albanian music, and it gave me stuff like "albanian porn" or "albanian sluts" that happens WHENEVER i look up a song, it always gives me adult content which i don't want! how can i get rid of this?

Make sure you click AUDIO & not ALL TYPES because when you click ALL TYPES it'll give you everything. Pictures, movies, videos, songs..everything.

how do i get used to walking in heels? i need to wear heels for a wedding and i'm not used to wearing high heeled shoes and i always walk crooked-like and weird, lol thank you!

Wear them around your house.

13/f

One day, I was coming home from school, and told me that I'm getting older, and she'll let me have sex(protected) next year when I turn 15.

I'm scared, I have a great b/f, but i don't like him that way!!!

what do i do???

Did your mother tell you this? Is she serious? Did she really just give her daughter permission to have sex? Do me a favor. If this is your mother, slap her in the face & call her an idiot.

If you have to ask if you're ready, then chances are you're not.

I am 20/F

I sent advicenators.com thousand questions about my love life and they all answer "talk to her"
So I did but not face to face.(because I couldn't do it) So I told her to chat with me online and so she did.
I told her how I felt about her more than a friend and i told her that i'm bisexual. (we been friends for almost 8 years) and she respond:
"I don’t know what gender I like. (Yet), male, female, I’m not looking 4 a relationship at the moment so I not looking at them like that."

I told her I was glad that she told me the truth and we went on chatting.

Questions are:

What did she mean?
Did you think she doesn’t want to go out with me not yet unlit she is ready?
Should I wait for her?

i didnt want her to say she would like to go out with me. becuase i myself cant find out who i am. i just stated that i'm bi because i always had a crush on her and she was my first female crush.

I never look at women mostly guys, but when i gain feelings to her i thougt i was becoming something more than stright, i'm be moving to hawaii in one or two years, and i told her "i know you dont want me to move but i want to so i can find myself" she understood that.

me and her are close friends she always leans on me and i never mind it. if i ever go out with her it'll be differnetcult cause their is more in a romantice relationship. i do will like to be with her but if she is not wanting to be with me like that then i would gladly step back and let her go.

so what do you think of this?
do you think in the futuer she might come around or she wants me to be her friend?

i dont want a reltionship right now too.

How exactly do you look at her? Do you see her & other attractive females sexually? If you do, then you may be bi. If not, then you might just think they're pretty. Can you see yourself doing sexual acts on females? Again, if not, then you might be bi-curious. Don't declare anything until you're sure that it's official.

Anyways, she basically meant exactly what she said.

She's not looking for a relationship right now. She's not sure which gender she likes [questioning her sexuality, may be bi-curious], and she doesn't look at them in the dating way.

It could mean she doesn't wanna date you until she's ready. It could also mean she doesn't wanna date at all. Whatever it may be, you need to respect her decision. If you want to wait for her, that's completely up to you. For someone to find who they really are could take days, weeks, months or possibly even years. She may not know for a while & if you want to wait, then that's your choice. I can't make that decision for you.

I think you're right. If she doesn't want you, then let go. I can't speak for her & say that in the future she'll want you or she won't because I'm not her, and I'm not exactly sure what she wants. That's something you'll have to wait for. Also, if you don't want a relationship right now, then lay low & relax yourself. Don't get caught up in these worries.

what are some things Not to eat before bed and what are some things that are ok to eat before bed because i want to loose weight and i have a habbit of eating and watching tv before bed. thankss.

Don't eat anything before bed. Whether it's good for you or not, your digestive system will still shut down when you're asleep.

I think I may be Bi, but I'm not sure. I asked a question on here earlier, about the guy, "Jon", that I knew on Myspace, that turned out to be a girl, who looks and acts like a guy. (She is Bi.)

Until I met her, I had never really had much feelings for girls. But now I've realized, I loved "Jon" when I thought he was a guy. Why shouldn't I love "Jon" now, even if she is a girl?

I'm 16, and I'm just trying to figure out what I want. Sometimes I think that I only liked "Jon" when I though he was a boy. Now, everything is different, now that I know that "Jon" is really a girl. I don't know how to feel. If I like her, I get this sickening feeling like I'm this "disgusting" and "wrong" person if I like her.

But then sometimes I think that I'm just hung up on "Jon," and I'm having a hard time accepting the fact that Jon was never a boy. Also, all of my friends are saying they are Bisexual, so why shouldn't I as well? I feel like I'm missing out on something.

Should I just take a chance and say that I'm Bi? (even when I don't really know if I am or not.) Should I tell "Jon" how I feel about her? I feel so wrong just thinking about being Bi...

First of all, if all of your friends are saying they're bi because everyone else is doing it, then they're stupid, dumb, ignorant & fake. They're not really bi. If you say it or "turn it" because your friends are, then you're just as fake & ignorant as them.

There is nothing wrong with being bi. You're not disgusting. You're not wrong, and there is nothing wrong with you. I'm bi. Whether people seem to accept it or not, I don't care. I do what I want, and I am who I am. There is no changing for anyone else.

If you're not sure if you're bi, then you're bi-curious, or you're questioning your sexuality. If you want Jon to know how you feel about her, tell her. But don't say you're bi because everyone is saying they are. Say you're bi if you're positive that you are.

Finding yourself & coming to terms with your sexuality may take months, even years to find out. And that's okay.

hi, my friend is having a problem about one of her friends liying and i really like her and i want to help he but i dont know how please help

thanks

If you know what the truth is while other people that she's lying to don't. Confront her when she's lying & catch her in it. Make her feel stupid & embarassed. She might not learn her lesson, but if she doesn't, then whatever. It's not like you'll be friends with her anymore anyways.

i really like someone at my skool and i dont know how to tell him. i have never had a boyfriend before and im not too sure how to tell them. i had my heart broke a really long time ago and well...i scared that its just going to crumble even more. im a shy person when it comes to my relataionships, and yet im always the one giving my friends advice and hooking them up. i have a lot of guy friends so i know how they act with girls. im like a matchmaker and yet i have no idea to tell the guy that i like i like him. ugh what should i do i need some help.

Do you guys talk at all? If so, just tell him while you're talking, or pull him aside. Tell him you've gotta talk to him about something important & then tell him that you like him. If he doesn't like you back, then it's not the end of the world. It's his loss & his problem, not your's. Don't let it get to you. Yeah, it'll hurt, but he's not the only guy out there. Remember that.

Besides, you're probably really young, so guys will come & go for you.

i really don't like the side of one of my best friends, kim, ive seen this year. i believe she's always been like this, i just saw through her and figured it out this year since i've gotten maturer and smarter with that type of things. kim just shows through as a manipulative, lying, flat out mean person. not everyone sees through her act, but some do. i don't know what to do about it though, cause she's been one of my best friends (i have alot of other friends though) for awhile. any suggestions?

I agree with Rob. You're already sick of her shit, so confront her about it & call her out. Tell her you're sick of the drama, & nonsense, and tell her you're not taking it anymore. If she gets mad, who gives a damn? You don't want her as your friend, so leave her by herself.

Then again, you could just stop being friends with her & let KARMA bite her in the ass.

my boyfriend is coming over tonight. usually we just like hang out in my room and stuff. what is some stuff i can do to him that would REALLY feel good? please dont say like bj or hj becuz i already know those

If you don't want us to say blowjob or handjob, then there's nothing to tell you.

Why don't you play some video games?

14/m me and my gf were fooling around and i put my penis against her panties, i think most of my precum got wiped off when i took it out of my pants but its there any chance of her being pregnet?

Nope. You never actually inserted your member into her, so since there was no skin penistovagina contact, your girlfriend should be fine.

what are some fun ways to make out?

example: with pop rocks, gum, etc.

or like what to do to a guy while youre making out and how

kthanks.

I've used pop rocks before. It's a fun way to make out, haha. Try it.

mother's day is coming up, and i wanna give my mom something. i don't usually buy her something, but today, i bought saw a really good present. but since i bought it, it's not really that personal. what can i add with it to make it more personal? something that i can do.

thanks.

You can make her a card & right something really nice in it. Maybe write your mother a poem. Or take her out to dinner.

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