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finding out of what i should do
I am 20/F
I sent advicenators.com thousand questions about my love life and they all answer "talk to her"
So I did but not face to face.(because I couldn't do it) So I told her to chat with me online and so she did.
I told her how I felt about her more than a friend and i told her that i'm bisexual. (we been friends for almost 8 years) and she respond:
"I don’t know what gender I like. (Yet), male, female, I’m not looking 4 a relationship at the moment so I not looking at them like that."
I told her I was glad that she told me the truth and we went on chatting.
Questions are:
What did she mean?
Did you think she doesn’t want to go out with me not yet unlit she is ready?
Should I wait for her?
i didnt want her to say she would like to go out with me. becuase i myself cant find out who i am. i just stated that i'm bi because i always had a crush on her and she was my first female crush.
I never look at women mostly guys, but when i gain feelings to her i thougt i was becoming something more than stright, i'm be moving to hawaii in one or two years, and i told her "i know you dont want me to move but i want to so i can find myself" she understood that.
me and her are close friends she always leans on me and i never mind it. if i ever go out with her it'll be differnetcult cause their is more in a romantice relationship. i do will like to be with her but if she is not wanting to be with me like that then i would gladly step back and let her go.
so what do you think of this?
do you think in the futuer she might come around or she wants me to be her friend?
i dont want a reltionship right now too.
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How exactly do you look at her? Do you see her & other attractive females sexually? If you do, then you may be bi. If not, then you might just think they're pretty. Can you see yourself doing sexual acts on females? Again, if not, then you might be bi-curious. Don't declare anything until you're sure that it's official.
Anyways, she basically meant exactly what she said.
She's not looking for a relationship right now. She's not sure which gender she likes [questioning her sexuality, may be bi-curious], and she doesn't look at them in the dating way.
It could mean she doesn't wanna date you until she's ready. It could also mean she doesn't wanna date at all. Whatever it may be, you need to respect her decision. If you want to wait for her, that's completely up to you. For someone to find who they really are could take days, weeks, months or possibly even years. She may not know for a while & if you want to wait, then that's your choice. I can't make that decision for you.
I think you're right. If she doesn't want you, then let go. I can't speak for her & say that in the future she'll want you or she won't because I'm not her, and I'm not exactly sure what she wants. That's something you'll have to wait for. Also, if you don't want a relationship right now, then lay low & relax yourself. Don't get caught up in these worries.
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