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controlling father?
so my dad really worrys about me and my boyfriend.and like we've gone out before..but my dad wants to meet him.and is like oh he shuld be afraid,like i know he is kidding, but idk how can i make everyone happy? like my dad wants him to come over my house and stuff..its just weird b/c my bf is a little uncomfortble..but is fine with the idea?
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Hi there,
Put simply, all dads were once teenage boys.
Your dad is your best friend in this situation. He is the one who will stick up for you when/if this boy does something to hurt you.
What you are describing is completely normal. If a boy doesn't want to meet your dad, your dad KNOWS he has something to hide. It is a fact.
Since your boyfriend is OK with it, everything will be fine.
Remember: Your dad WAS the same age as your boyfriend once... believe it or not. :-)
He knows what it is like to be the boyfriend, and isn't going to be too hard on him.
All men talk about protecting their babies. Frankly, when push comes to shove in your life, it is your dad who will amaze you with his ability to help.
Step back from the situation and see it from his point of view. Everything will be fine. :-)
Have fun, and don't worry.
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You can make the situation less tense by doing some talking when everyone goes quiet. Tell your bf to be as polite as he can. All parents love polite kids.
Tell him to dress presentably as well. I don't think your dad's gonna grill his ass right? He just wants to make sure the guy that you're dating is not a playboy, jerk and he wants to see what kind of vibes your bf gives off.
To make things less wierd, have the meeting session over dinner or over something to eat. Having something to eat helps to reduce the tension. Like even though the conversation goes dead, you can pretend to get busy by eating.
Don't worry. Everything will be fine. Just make the preparations that you have to make such as making sure he dresses properly, telling him to be polite, etc. Leave the rest to the day itself. Don't worry over things that hasn't happened yet.
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If your boyfriend is fine with the idea, then what's the big deal? If your dad is just kidding, then stop freaking out. The most he could do is just ask him a lot of questions.
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Well your bf shouldn't be uncomfortable meeting ur dad b/c sooner or later he will end up meeting him. Since you know that your dad is just kidding, then you really shouldn't sweat it. It may be kinda uncomfortable and ackward at first it will get better trust me :)
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Tell your boyfriend that your father is a very kind man and just likes to meet the boys his little girl dates.
Tell him there's nothing at all to fear and that your dad might just ask him a few questions about goals and interests, crack a few jokes and that's it. Tell him that your dad just wants to make sure boys have good intentions towards his baby.
There's nothing weird about this at all. It's very common and just two people meeting each other who both care about the same thing (YOU).
It will go just fine and shouldn't be uncomfortable at all because your dad knows he just wants to meet him and that this embarasses you and probably the guy. He'll make it short and sweet no doubt so you and your boyfriend can go about what you had planned.
Make everyone happy here and introduce him to dad who will meet him and then let you go about your business. In fact, tell your father how you feel and that you don't want your boyfriend to be uncomfortable and to keep the meeting short.
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