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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

15/f im kinda short compared to my friends. im only 5'2. i kinda like my highth, but my friends constantly tease me because my boyfriend is 5'9. how do i grow a little taller?

i have a little flab. i weigh 127 pounds. i look skinny, but only because of the clothes i wear. when im in a bikina i look nasty. how could i shed a few pounds?

my friends all wear c's and d's in bra sizes. but im only an a. ive seen my boyfriend look at other girls chests and it makes me kind of jealous. im not mad at him or anything because i know i have nothing to look at. how do i grow in the chest area?

thanks!

Your friends are lame. You can't help the fact that you're short, nor can you change it & make yourself taller. Taller guys are good anyways. If your friends cannot get over the fact that you're short, and he's tall, then stop hanging out with them. They're dumb. You can't grow taller. You could wear heels, but they hurt your feet if you're not used to them. You just have to wait for yourself to grow. You've still got a few years, and if you don't seem to get taller, then it's not the end of the world. You should accept yourself with everything. You're like that for a reason. I'm 16, and I'm 5'2 & 3/4". I'm short. There is no getting taller for me. I've come to accept it, and personally, I love it.

To lose weight, just eat healthier. Cut out junk foods, sweets, candies, munchies, fast foods & sodas. Drink 8 glasses of water a day and 4 glasses of milk a day. Eat fruits & vegetables & work out. Do crunches, go for runs. Don't eat or exercise before bed.

You can't grow there overnight. Same as your height. It takes time. The most you can do for yourself right now is to wear pushup bras or wear a sports bra to sleep. Underwire bras don't give your boobs room to expand when you're sleeping, and sports bras do. Wear those. But to grow other than that, you need to wait. Don't take any type of enhancements because they don't work, and I'm pretty sure they're not good to your health. Just wait things out.

And as for your boyfriend looking at other girls chest; even if you don't have much, it doesn't give him the right to look. Not only does it make you feel worse about yourself, but it probably means that he thinks he can do better & wants your boobs to get bigger. If your boyfriend cannot accept you for who you are & what assets you've got [or don't], then he's lame.

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26/f

My boyfriend is 29, we've been dating two years and we're getting married in three months. He has a nine year old daughter in another state. She doesn't know about me. He only visits her once or twice a year because she lives really far away, but he tries to call a lot and always sends money to her mom. I'm just scared because I've read articles about how a lot of kids have a harder time dealing with a parent getting remarried than they do dealing with their parents getting divorced in the first place! What's the right thing to do? I don't want to make her accept me as this new "mom" if she doesn't have to, but I also want to be honest, and I feel like I should get to know her if we're family now. The most important thing is that she's not emotionally traumatized... how can we do that?

Don't try to be her best friend, and don't try to give her rules. If you try to be her best friend, she might see through you. If you give her rules [and try to act as her mother], she'll probably laugh at you & won't follow them.

When you meet her, spend time with her. Get to know her. Take her places. Be honest with her. Don't act like you're her mother.

And don't freak yourself out with those articles. A professional might be writing them, but are they writing for experience, or observation?

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Im 14/f and im 5'10. I know I'm tall. I HATE being tall. Anyway, how do I make myself look shorter? And also, do you think people think differently about tall girls? PLEASE BE HONEST. I would rather you say people dont like tall girls. Thanks so much.

I don't think people think differently about tall girls at all. Tall girls have an advantage that short girls do not. They're thinner, and they can be models. Most of their clothes look good on them, and they can see things that we can't, haha.

But, there is no way to make you shorter. Being tall may be in your genes & there is no way to fix it. Basically, to look short, don't wear heels or shoes that elevate you. Wear shoes like flats, or flip flops.

And in all honesty, girls who are short [like myself] would kill to be your height. So you should accept it. You may be different, but there's nothing wrong with that. It's wrong to be the same as everyone else. Cherish your height difference. It'll work to your advantages.

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Hey im a 13/f and i have a b/f and he is so cool and i love him to death. But he is getting absessed with kissing me should i let him or not ??? but please help.....

If it makes you uncomfortable, tell him that. Just tell him he's moving too fast & you wanna take things slow. If he doesn't accept it & still tries to put moves on you, either kick him in the balls or leave him.

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i wear and a and im 15. all my friends wear a c-d and alot of them are 12-13 years old. someone please tell me how to make my boobs grow!

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You can't make them grow. You're 15 years old. You still have a few years to grow. Your boobs aren't going to grow overnight. Don't take enhancement pills because they're stupid & probably harmful to your health. Just wait it out. If they don't grow anytime before you're 19, then you weren't meant to have big boobs & you should cherish the joy of not having back pain because of your boobs. =)

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what is dry sex/what is dry humping? thanks.

Dry sex & dry humping are the same thing. It's sex with your clothes on.

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Hi... remember a while back you answered my question about bob . And how , bob and i hung out and my best friend got mad? well my bestfriend stopped talkign to me for liek a couple days and turned my other best friend against me. So i told my bestfriend Bob and I wouldnt hangout for a while untill she was comfortable with it. Its been a month and a half since she and bob broke up ... and bob and i waited 2 weeks and she told me she still isnt comfortable. I needddd to hangout with bob i miss him so much. Should i just go for it ?Even if she gets mad?

Yeh, just go. She's gonna get mad but you can't put off your wants/needs because of her feelings. It's not like she's dying or anything. Just hang out with him & go on with life. Be happy.

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no, i meant a playful scream

Okay?

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15/f. i was just wondering who on here shaves there entire pubic area or just trims it.

i currently just trim it and leave a little strip since i'm not sexually active, but i've been thinking about shaving it all off recently.

so i was just wondering if you shave it all or or trim it and why.

thanks :]

I shave it completely. I do it because I think hair on a girl is gross unless it's on her head. Any other place, and it's...ugh. Disgusting.

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14/f
I don't know if I'm depressed or if it's just teenage hormones but...
Since 4th grade, I've been getting multiple suicide thoughts and in the past year and a half, I've been attempting to kill myself but backed down at the last moment. & I feel like a horrible person, friend, daughter, sister, and everything. I feel like no one cares about me and that no one would miss me if I'm gone. I feel like I'm not good enough for anyone and that everyone deserves someone much better than me. I've tried to drug, drown, strangle, and cut myself to death. And I always seem to stare out of my window wondering where I'd fall and if I would die. I've been cutting myself for over a year now and blah. I'm afraid to let anyone get close to me and I just pretend like everything is fine. But when I get home, I just want to kill myself and start crying.

What's wrong with me? This has been going on for 5 years now and it's not getting any better but getting worse and worse

It sounds to me like you're depressed. You need to a see a doctor & a counselor. If you don't do anything to get help, these feelings you're having will just get worse.

If you would like to talk, all of my information is on my column.

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ok.
i have this boyfriend and he really likes me. He wanted to have (you know what starts with a "s") i said no. we are too young! he said ok and it was fine. a couple weeks later, he was at me house and we were the only people there. We were studying for a big test. He said lets take a brake. i said ok. i started to sit on my beD AND eat some popcorn. when my back was to him, he jumped on me! i almost screamed. he was flat faced on top of me. He said "how does this feel?" and he started to have it! i kinda liked it at the time. He was very vigerous with me but gentle too. after, he slid off me and pull all me clothes off. EVERYTHING except my bra/underwear. then, he put himselft close and tore it off. he said "oops!" i pulled away but he had me. then he took off everything and he started again. kissing and touching me everywhere. Even me private spots then he sucked on me breats like a baby. and puuled his arms in between my legs. naked. and said like this? i didn't answer. he started to touch his under private part with mine. while still sucking on me. then he said this is boring. and stopped. then he pushed me into the shower. by now i was getting into it believe me, this is not rape. he turned on the shower me got us wet and went out on my bed and he started sucking on my underprivate part and feeling my breats. I started to love it. it felt tingleing. he stayed like this for a long time. then he took my hand and putit on his private part and kissed and everywhere even my parts. now, i can't face him.. what should i do?

Uhm, if you were gonna scream, then it was rape. Whether you liked it or not, it was rape. You can't even face this kid.

Dump him. You said you didn't want to, but then he did it anyways. Call the cops, tell someone.

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I need to trim up for a dress I'm wearing to a wedding thats in 8 days..the dress isnt to tight its just a little snug..any ideas how to??

Thanks

Snug in ohio

Cut out all greasy foods from your diet. Don't drink soda. Try eating healthy, go for runs. Eat fruits & vegetables. Drink milk, eat meats, & drink lots of water.

Once you lose this weight though, don't stop what you've been doing. If you do stop, you'll just gain it all back.

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Hi, im going to ask a girl out tomoro and i only see her once a week. can someone gimme some tips on asking her out? im a bit nervous please supply me with any information asap!! thnx!

Just come right out & say it. Don't hesitate, be confident about this.

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Please can you explain this joke to me.
http://www.stripcreator.com/comics/jd_10/392075

Thanks:)

Apparently they were singing Candy Shop by 50 Cent [who is the worst rapper I've ever heard]. The bunny asked that other thing if he knew what the lolly pop was in the song, and he said no. Then the bunny told him that he was gonna do it. Basically saying that he was gonna suck him off.

In my opinion, there was no joke. And if there was, it wasn't funny. That's a seriously dumb comic.

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k well first i'm a 13 year old girl and i know this guy (danny) and he just turned 15. i really like him and when ever i talk to him my heart races like crazy! but he has a girl in san diego and it's like oh...i mean he was my first friend in the nieghborhood when i first moved and he introduced me to his friend (mike) that didn't turn out well cuz i thought i was in love with mike but then he hurt me so much. then i was introduced to mikes step brother and that was a desaster to cuz he basically took everything from me if you know what i mean. then when danny heard about it he went to mikes house and kicked his step brothers butt. we stopped talking for a while until he came to me and said we should be frfiends again. i mean he was my first kiss and he treated me so well. he never talked about having sex and was so patient with me. i mena i want to get with him but he has a girl and i'll be grounded for the next year so wat should i do?
i want to be with him but how?

please help!! and thanks.
ps. sorry it was so long

Talk online if it's at all possible. Or on the phone. If you can't go out, then you need to find other ways to communicate with him.

Does he still like his girlfriend? Are they close to breaking up? Or are they going to be together for a while? If he doesn't like her & they're breaking up, then tell him how you feel about him & wait until they're done to do anything with him. If they're gonna be together for a while, then you need to wait.

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My boyfriend and I have been having serious problems. I don't trust him AT ALL!! And that makes our relationship stressful. Although he has given me reasons not to trust him so it's not 100% my fault. Well heres my question, yesterday I went to his house and when I got there, he was asleep and his phone was on the counter. So I went through it and found all these texts to girls and theres more to the girls, but we got into a HUGE fight about it, and I'm still with him. Some of those girls are his friends (but I've heard that one of the girls have him head) and 2 of the other girls, hes either had feelings for or I have a VERY strong gut feeling her has feelings for her now. I dont know what to do!! It's been almost 2 years, and I'm sick of being unhappy, and not trusting him, yet i love him and I want to be with him.. what do I do? How should I approach this situation?

If you cannot trust your boyfriend, and there are good reasons not to, then you need to confront him about it. If you've heard that she's given him head, it could only be a rumor so don't assume because if it's not true, you'll be in the wrong, and you'll look dumb.

Just confront him about these things. Tell him to be completely honest with you, & you don't wanna hear any bullshit. If he's lying to you about this shit, then leave him. Why the hell should you stay with someone who does this to you?

You deserve much, much better. This guy is continuously lying to you, breaking your heart & giving you reasons not to trust him. You can do much better, and you'll find someone that really loves you as soon as you leave this guy.

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Can someone help me in a nice way like not to hate everything?

Like I didn't have a heart break with boys or anything, I just like hate everything and these days I feel like my heart or something insde is burning so bad when I have this hate feeling that I'm going to die or have a heart attack or something.

Like one time my friend went up to me and all of a sudden started bragging about how she found this singer and starts obsessing over the songs and stuff but i already new the singer long time ago. She doesn't even techniquely know and like this singer or band because she knows nothing about them, doesn't know what are all the band member's name, etc she just searches their songs and it pisses me off.

See? there I'm at it again! I feel liek im going to die soon for hating so much

It's not that you hate it, it's that it makes you mad & you're confusing it for hate.

Things like that make me mad too, but then again it's not a big deal. So your friend found a new band to listen to? You've known them before, so you can help her to like them more instead of just claiming they're her favorite band over just one song.

Some guys are immature & dumb. I can see where those feelings are coming from. Just ignore it though. It's just a feeling & it's not anything major.

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i heard it's not good to tan with contacts because they could melt, is this true?

No, but wear googles or take them out.

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ok so when a girl shaves down there like first is it a good idea and does it leave after a stuble and wat should i use if i do decide to shave down there!! help!

I think it is a good idea. Hair on girls is disgusting, why would you want it?

Shaving is your own personal decision though. So I can't tell you to do it or not to do it. It's your choice.

If you do decide to shave down there, use a new razor. Use lots of cream. Then go over it with regular soap. And then go over it again with body wash. When you're all done with your bath/shower, and you're dried off, put lotion on it to keep it smooth. Chances are there will be some stubble but that's because it's your first time & you can go over it again the next day.

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ok heres the thing. i'm so upset because my mother always does this to me. she's like "oh, we're going someplace," and then i get all happy and right when i'm about ready to go, she says "no, i'm too tired." or "no, it's too far, we'll go tommorrow!" and it just pisses me off soooo much!! the thing that i'm even madder about is that she's the only one who CAN drive me around, because first of all the place i want to go is a little bit too far for someone who doesn't have much practice to go by myself on like the turnpike, but for her, it's a piece of cake! and she really wanted to go before that, but she just does this to me every time. she's like, go study, but i have no homework. i don't have to do anything for school. all i wanted was to go watch a wrestling tournament that i told her about YESTURDAY and she won't take me!! and i'm super, super upset. i want to get there before it ends, which is like at 3:00, and i want advice on how to get there. let me point out that like i have no friends, because i hate everyone in my school because it's a stupid snobby little empire and i've just excluded everyone, so friends or anything can take me. the only person who CAN take me is probably my cousins or something, but i don't really think they like me too much, the ones who can take me. i don't know why, they're just very quiet. but, please please give me advice, because i'm like smoke coming out of my ears because i don't like it when she does this, and she does it ALWAYS. plus, i've pointed it out to her and she tries not to do it, but she does, so i just don't want to talk to her about it anymore!! i just need some advice on what to do. please and thank you

Sorry to say, but you don't really have a ride there, and chances are, you're not going.

Your mother doesn't wanna take you. You've got no friends because you told everyone to go to hell, and you don't think your cousins like you [which may not be true]. Just because someone is quiet doesn't mean they don't like you. If you don't see them often, they might just be shy, or you haven't gotten to know them yet.

If she keeps doing it, then forget about it. I'm not sure how old you are since you didn't state it, but maybe try & find other ways. If it's not cold out, then walk or blade there. Possibly ride your bike. If you've got no quicker ride, those would be your only choices, and if you don't wanna do those, then you're pretty much staying home.

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