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ok heres the thing. i'm so upset because my mother always does this to me. she's like "oh, we're going someplace," and then i get all happy and right when i'm about ready to go, she says "no, i'm too tired." or "no, it's too far, we'll go tommorrow!" and it just pisses me off soooo much!! the thing that i'm even madder about is that she's the only one who CAN drive me around, because first of all the place i want to go is a little bit too far for someone who doesn't have much practice to go by myself on like the turnpike, but for her, it's a piece of cake! and she really wanted to go before that, but she just does this to me every time. she's like, go study, but i have no homework. i don't have to do anything for school. all i wanted was to go watch a wrestling tournament that i told her about YESTURDAY and she won't take me!! and i'm super, super upset. i want to get there before it ends, which is like at 3:00, and i want advice on how to get there. let me point out that like i have no friends, because i hate everyone in my school because it's a stupid snobby little empire and i've just excluded everyone, so friends or anything can take me. the only person who CAN take me is probably my cousins or something, but i don't really think they like me too much, the ones who can take me. i don't know why, they're just very quiet. but, please please give me advice, because i'm like smoke coming out of my ears because i don't like it when she does this, and she does it ALWAYS. plus, i've pointed it out to her and she tries not to do it, but she does, so i just don't want to talk to her about it anymore!! i just need some advice on what to do. please and thank you
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Hi there,
I know this is past your deadline for this question, but I thought I would add something you might not have considered:
Why does your mom do this? Could it be that she is always tired from working and stuff?
If that is the case, maybe it is time to stop being mad at her. Obviously she WANTS to do stuff with you, because she offers, but when the time comes maybe she is just too worn out to be safe driving.
Maybe if you want her to work less and have more time when she isn't tired, the key is for you to help her out by bringing in some money and helping to pay the bills.
I am not being smart here... it is just that there are only so many things you can do when your parent is stretched to the limit and tired all the time.
If you aren't old enough to hold down a job and help your mom out like that, maybe you could do all the housework for her, so she didn't have to come home to that.
If you don't know how, you could also learn to cook. If you do know how, maybe you could have dinner made when she gets home, so that she doesn't have to do that too.
See, there are lots of things you can do to give your mom more energy and time to take you places. Just pick one, or more, from the list and start helping her out.
I hope things get better for you, but no matter what, remember this: Don't hate your mom... you will find out soon enough that she is there for you even when you think she isn't.
Mom's are really something.
Oh, and don't forget Mother's Day is coming up, so do something extra especially nice for her and she will want to do something extra nice for you too. :-)
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Sorry to say, but you don't really have a ride there, and chances are, you're not going.
Your mother doesn't wanna take you. You've got no friends because you told everyone to go to hell, and you don't think your cousins like you [which may not be true]. Just because someone is quiet doesn't mean they don't like you. If you don't see them often, they might just be shy, or you haven't gotten to know them yet.
If she keeps doing it, then forget about it. I'm not sure how old you are since you didn't state it, but maybe try & find other ways. If it's not cold out, then walk or blade there. Possibly ride your bike. If you've got no quicker ride, those would be your only choices, and if you don't wanna do those, then you're pretty much staying home.
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Stop getting excited about things she says, take a cab, take the bus, make a friend, get your permit so all she has to do it sit there in the car while you drive, make her a deal like "Okay, you are tired. If you drive me here, I'll clean up after dinner when I get home/or I'll clean you sheets and make the bed/or I'll clean the bathroom. Would that help?”
Parents are people too. That means they make mistakes, do selfish things, lie and just generally screw up. Hating her for it is a waste of your time, so instead of getting upset and defeatist, get creative and find a solution. It might be something so stupid as getting her favorite cup of coffee ready when she gets home for work, or having started dinner or set the table in advance, anything that makes her life simpler and less overwhelming might make her go “Sure I’m a bit tired, but why not?” It also might not work, and then you move on to things like getting yourself a bus pass.
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ok you cold walk or ride a bike if it is not far. or just try your cousins. Maybe or maybe not. Ask your mom if she could drive, stay in the car or sleep in the car and you will come out when it is over. my mom sometimes does that to me because me mom works nights. or, just watch it on tv!
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