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hey im 13/m and i was wonder for my girlfriend wut would make her really happy im taking to the movies and i ually pay fr everything cause i dont wnat her to waste her money i want her to use it for something eles....so wut can i do or give her?

Don't spend a lot of money.

Do something simple that doesn't require a lot of money.

Money doesn't buy happiness, so you have to ease up a little. Pretty soon, she can start taking advantage of your money and you'll find yourself buying her everything she wants.

I am having this after party after my school dance and a lot of people are coming. Except this one girl, she has been so rude and mean and bitchy to me and she NEVER talks to me. But now she expects to be invited. Her two freinds who were invited, (who i'm freinds with) won't come unless she is invited, and I want them to come. My question is, should I invite this girl and be the bigger person? Or not invite her?

Don't invite her.

It's not her party, its yours.

Its like my friends party invitations last week, she was handing them out and this really rude and bossy chick was expecting one. She gave one to her friend which is also our friend [shes not mean like the other one] so it turned out good.

If they bug you about it, don't give in. You can't let her take advantage of you like that.

My friend has a peanut butter allergy and she has been wondering how to make yourself puke. One time at her house, she accidentaly had something she didn't know had peanut oil in it, and her mom gave her ipecap syrup to make her puke it up. But what if she isn't home, what is another way to make youself puke? Thanks.

Why would you make yourself want to puke?

hey, well im 13/f and i recently just got a gift from my aunt. she bought me clothes from LIMITED TOO! EWW! well im not just going to ask her for the receipt so that i can get money back. so will the store let me return the items and get money back? also i just bought shorts from pacsun and decided that i dont like them anymore. i lost teh recipet. will i get money back? cait♥

you can say that you got it as a gift and you don't have a receipt and you can get store credit but it will have to be from the same store.

i'm so loney i love this guy but hes in 6th year im upsessed with him please help im also over weight! i will score high if this is answerd asap...X

well if you truly like the guy, and he likes you back, then he shouldn't worry about your weight. don't be so self conscious [sp?] learn to love yourself.

how much are contacts? averages prices? the cheapest and the expesaveste. i am lookin for a good quality but not so expensive. thanks

I use O2 Optix, they work very well. I forgot the price, but you probably want to consult your optometrist before you try anything that can affect you..

just to warn you, this COULD be long... im really sorry but i DO need help so please keep reading and help me if you can.

i just got back from a cruise where i met a FANTASTIC boy. ...well thats what i thot. his name was matt. we had a mutual friend on the cruise named tyler that was closer friends with him but me and him were friends also.. well me and matt were like always together and we hooked up a few times on the cruise too.

when i got home, me and matt still talked on the phone and stuff but we live like 2 hours from eachother so we dont see eachother. well matt actually asked me to his prom and i told him i would ask my parents. so a couple days later i was talking to tyler online and i told tyler that matt asked me to his prom. tyler acted REALLY surprised so i asked him wutsup. and tyler said that matt didnt really like me.. he actually had a GIRLFRIEND while he was on the cruise.. and that matt just kinda considered me a bootycall. well, this is what tyler said. so i was obviously PISSED so i talked to matt about it, and he denied the whole thing telling me how great i am and how much he likes me.

so i told matt that i believe him, but its still in the back of my mind that tyler was telling the truth, just because i dunno why he would lie about something like that. and now im just really confused.. i dunno what to believe. any opinions? please help.

I think that since you developed a relationship with both Matt and Tyler, maybe Tyler got a little jealous and decided to make up a quick rumor to get your attention. I don't think that Matt would do that if he already asked you to his prom. Maybe you should have a little talk with Tyler and ask him if everything is okay.

I have a friend..well she might be. She is from Taiwan and she has lived in the U.S. for 2-3 years already. What bugs me is this: she doesn't know very much English. And this BUGS me! She'll say something like, "He don't like fish" or something and I'm like DOESN'T! Anyways, that's not all. When we go to the movies or wherever, and she's paying for both of us, she won't talk to the people giving out tickets. She'll make me order them because "she's scared". Scared of being made fun of for her English. And she makes me go with her when she has to talk to a teacher. And we were at a party and we were playing a game where you describe something until someone guesses it. Well she got all quiet and she said that she was about to cry because she doesn't know much English.

Also when she eats she lowers her head to her plate instead of lifting her fork to her mouth. Just everything she does bugs me! I've told her and she started writing me all these notes saying "Are you mad at me? -Your best friend".

She doesnt even try to learn English, she and her family only speak Chinese in their house.

What do I do?

You're being a little inconsiderate. How would you feel if you were from a different country and you didn't know anything about it and just basically repeated things that you heard others say? You would probably feel bad too. Maybe you can actually HELP her learn some simple English phrases.

My friend's parents make her (a freshman) study non-stop. She doesn't get very good grades, but it is certainly not because of a lack of effort. She comes home from school and is forced to study and do homework from 4:00-12:00 (sometimes even until 1 or 2 a.m.). I constantly stress to her that she needs to get enough sleep and have some fun every once in a while because obviously working herself to death isn't the solution (her grades are still not that good). She has said to me numerous times that she brought a bad quiz/test grade to her mom and that her mom threw something at her. On the weekends, she is forced to study practically all day unless she is invited to go out.

Am I over-reacting or is this unhealthy? What can I do to help her?

Eight hours straight is never good for your brain. Although some may that it helps your brain be more complex or whatever, but it's not true. Taking breaks every hour is needed when studying, thats what our nurse told us.

OK My mom just got fired because she had a blood clot in her lung and now can't do anything. My dads job dont pay enough. We have the bills and my dads ex-wife is a jerk. She makes us pay child support and now that my mom is not working we will only be able to pay her. Then we will have to hunt to get food. The bodem line. I dont know how to help her. I just wanna die. What can I doooooooooo?

How old are you? Maybe you can get a job at a grocery store or something. You can maybe do extra jobs during the summer.

Okay here it is. Im the popular girl in school, and alot of guys think im hot. Oh yah,and please dont answer this if you are just going to say im a bitch or something.Yes,i am hot and pretty and im pretty much use to all the boys wanting me. But there is this girl in my school,a wannabe me. She got the exact same haircut as mine the other day!Can you say:BITCH!!! i know! Anyway,theres this HOTT guy and he barley knows her but he thinks she is hot.GRRR. This is a major problem if you are me! I dont share! Does any one know what i can do to you know well...get him away from her?Im so mad! Shes ugly but im not going to lie,has a nice body.I know people say you dont like someone because of there looks but,i mean come on! One thing i dont do is lie,and beleive me im not lieing SHES UGLY. Sad to day,for her anyway,a few people think so too. Im going to get this guy no matter how much it takes no matter how much clevage because people!, I had a dream that one day ugly people and pretty people(*Me*) do not mix! And i need your help. Maybe you think im concieded so what,if you are too you will probably be able to help! Thanks!I Rate!!!HIGH! ANSWER FAST! Time is wasting :/

Okay, I'm just quoting some things that you said.
pretty people(*Me*)
ugly people
I dont share

This isn't asking for advice, this is like something that came from your diary.

I don't want to be mean, but you're being conceited.

I just read "Confessions of a Shopaholic" and it was amazing! I already own 2 more books from the series but I don't know the order to read them in, sooooo....

In what order are the books from the Shopaholic series?

I've read the book, it's so good! I absolutely adore it. There's a special section in Google dedicated to books, so you can search the authors name and look at the description of the books.

ok im not sure what colors of makeup to use with my face. I have:
blue/grey eyes
lightly tanned skin
dark brown hair
and somewhat chubby cheeks

what colors are good for like my eyes? I want to look natural, but with a little bit of color(nothing too dramatic)

thanks...websites would be nice too( if awavilable...wonth elp rating) i rate high

I find that smoky colors work best.

Eyeshadow - Get some eyeshadow that actually shows up and isn't like a faded color. Go for a gray and dark blue combination. Start by covering your eyelid with the dark blue, then finish it off with the gray while layering it right above the top part of the dark blue. So it creates a smoky type of look.

Mascara - Go for a dark dramatic look, but don't overdo it. Make sure that your mascara isn't chunky otherwise it will turn out wrong.

Eyeliner - Don't use very thick layers, do simple thin ones, and if you want, use the end of your pencil or your finger to make it fade.

Hope I helped!

She always complains about my other best friends. I ask her to stop, but she just doesn't get it! And she's way to emtional, I want to help her, but how can I when she never tells you what's wrong?

Ask her if everything is okay around her home. Maybe she's having some hard times at home, so ask her if everything is okay. Tell her that maybe she should talk to your other friends if they are arguing or something and your friend is hiding it..

I don't know what to do! I really like this guys in my class, but I don't know if he likes me, he seems to but... he's already dating someone and I really like the girl. And if he likes me and dumps her for me or something like that I don't want her to get mad at me, cuz she POPULAR!

Well, don't be afraid to ask! After all, you are going to be the guy's GIRLFRIEND if he accepts. I suggest that you wait a little bit if they break up, don't rush into things. It can start a LOT of chaos and get a lot of people angry with you. There are also a lot of other guys in your class, don't be shy. Start up conversations if you want to get to know other guys. You never know, they might like you back but they're just as shy.

i'm 17/f (well, almost 18), my boyfriend is turning 19. instead of buying him something that he'll never use (i don't like the tie idea, and he's got all the music and movies he could ever want), i'm going to take him to the park for a picnic tomorrow afternoon. luckily, it will probably be a very nice day!

but i'm having trouble thinking of things to bring along, mostly food-wise. any ideas?? and also, do guys like doing this at all (provided there's enough delicious food, of course... :P )?

thanks in advance!

xD!

Match his personality! I think that will really catch his attention. Do you know his favorite foods? Maybe he'll be surprised that you remembered about the types that he likes to eat?

Some ideas..

Order take out, like Chinese Food, Cajun Food, Mexican Food, ect.
Go with the classics, don't make it TOO over the top. Chips, fruits, ect.
Get chips to match his personality, like BBQ chips, Doritos, Tortilla chips, Sour Cream and Onion [

I want:
Video game desighning
Nursing at nursing homes
cooking
photography

Which is the best?

I don't want to sound mean, but this is about what makes you feel comfortable and relaxed and excited about.

For example.

Nursing at nursing homes - Do you like caring for others? Do you like working with elderly senior citizens and spending time with them?
Photography - Are you energetic, ecstatic, lively, and fun? You can choose this one because you get to be expressive and theres no limit to your creativity.
Cooking - Do you like making interesting meals? Have you ever gotten really interested to try something that you see on Food Network?
Video Game Designing - Do you want to be the first to try out video games and preview them? Are you able to come up with different ideas for video games?

Haha I had no clue what category this should of gone under, so I picked randomly.

Anyway.. I am 14 and a girl and I was wondering.. how many people shave(or wax or ect) their arms? Should i shave mine? I feel like my arms have light colored hair (blonde) but the seem hairy to me. I read in a magazine something about shaving arms, but should I? Would it be weird or would it be weird if I didnt?

Get like the lasik stuff to remove hair from your arms. My mom got that a year ago and she has very very little hair on her arms. It truly works, but I'm not sure about how much it costs.

heyy guys well im 16/f if you needed to know that and not to sound conceited or anything but everyone always tells me how pretty/gorgeous i am! well my friends and all the girls. except no guys have called me beautful/hott/cute or anything and then i am SOOO self-concsious of my nose..its like sooo big! and i dont know what to do..i know there isnt much to dobecause i dont want to get plastic surgery or anything! whenever i take pictures thats all i see--my nose and its so embarassing! also my smile..i hate it my mouth is SOO small so my smile is all messed up and you cant even see much of my teeth i dont know..im just so jealous of many girls lately..and i know thats normal but i just dont know what to do anymore :

Guys are just as shy as you are when they want to tell you how attractive you are. Don't be so insecure, I hate my nose but I'm coping with it. Don't be jealous of all of the girls that you see at school, you'll be even harder on yourself. Here's a tip that my cousin taught me.

Every day, say 3 things that you like about yourself in the mirror when you're waking up, getting ready to go to school, ect. It will boost your self esteem and make you proud of who you are.

everyone at my school hates me.yesturday i got really upset so i didnt go to school today. We were talking on the phone and..a lot of people at my school dislike me. This hurt me a lot. i mean i knew i wasnt liked by everyone but i dont know what to do. apparently its because i "flip out" and this made me really upset, and now i think i should change so i am well-liked. what should i do? like, what kind of people would you be friends with?
(please dont tell me not to change myslef.)

I think that in order to get everyone to 'not hate you' is to start being comfortable around your friends. Don't react so suddenly when your friend tells you shocking/bad news. Maybe when people see how comfortable you are around your peers, they'll start to talk to you. If you want to do like extracurricular, like sports, or your drama club, or choir or something, then don't be afraid to join. Maybe when people see how cooperative you are, they'll want to get to know you better. Don't always look behind your shoulder just to see if people are talking about you, it just makes it worse. Don't be afraid to try something new.

Good luck!

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