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haters?
everyone at my school hates me.yesturday i got really upset so i didnt go to school today. We were talking on the phone and..a lot of people at my school dislike me. This hurt me a lot. i mean i knew i wasnt liked by everyone but i dont know what to do. apparently its because i "flip out" and this made me really upset, and now i think i should change so i am well-liked. what should i do? like, what kind of people would you be friends with?
(please dont tell me not to change myslef.)
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I think that in order to get everyone to 'not hate you' is to start being comfortable around your friends. Don't react so suddenly when your friend tells you shocking/bad news. Maybe when people see how comfortable you are around your peers, they'll start to talk to you. If you want to do like extracurricular, like sports, or your drama club, or choir or something, then don't be afraid to join. Maybe when people see how cooperative you are, they'll want to get to know you better. Don't always look behind your shoulder just to see if people are talking about you, it just makes it worse. Don't be afraid to try something new.
Good luck!
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You get more friends if you are fun to be around and easy to talk to.
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If you know for sure that people dislike you, then you have to think about what is it about yourself that might be hurting people around you to make them dislike you.
You said that it's because you flip out. Try thinking about the way you react to situations when you are mad. Do you think it's possible that you may have overreacted and got too upset? I'm not saying that it's you, but people can't just suddenly happen to dislike you unless theres a logical reason.
Change isn't the answer. Not a change like from being a nice girl to a really mean girl. The key to having good friends is respecting everyone even though you may not like them. An example of respect would be that if you heard a rumor about someone, you just let it go and don't spread it to everyone you know. You have to place yourself in other's shoes and think, "Would I want this done to me?" And then decide whether it's appropriate or not.
Think about what could be triggering people to dislike you and try improving on that. Not changing, just make improvements on yourself. If it's getting out of hand to the point where you aren't even going to school, then maybe you need to talk to your school counselor and they could probably call in a few girls that claim to not like you and straighten things out.
[You said that I didn't answer your question. You asked, "What should I do?" and I answered: You should think about what could possibly be making people dislike you. You asked, "What kind of people would you be friends with?" I answered: The key to having good friends is respect. By the way, girls under 13 aren't allowed to be posting here, and I'm pretty sure that you must be under 13 because you can't take some advice that you don't want to hear.]
-TheTeenGirl
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I was hated by almost everyone that knew me too. WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T CHANGE! It isn't you, if you "flip out" try and notice it, and try to stop. Did someone you know start rumors about you? That is what happened to me, one of my so-called friends started rumors about me saying I was a lousy friend, she is the lousy friend, anyway, if that is what happened, don't be friends with that person anymore, they aren't right. I would be friends with the person who told you this, that means they're a loyal friend and would tell you if people were talking behind your back. Make friends with the people you already know, maybe aren't the greatest friends with you, but you still know them. It is a good start. And remember, try not to "flip out" if that is what your "friends" call it. Try and notice when your flipping out, and tell your friends to tell when your flipping out so you can stop.
*~*~*~*Don't be shy~*~*~*~
Shygirl66
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