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I only have a 6 inch penis and im 13. i wanted to know if i could make it bigger.

- AJ

You're 13 and already above average.
The only thing you can do is just wait, I'm afraid. There's no magic pills/foods/drinks/exercises you can do to make it bigger.

what does it mean when your period blood is brown?

Usually nothing.
You could be nearing the end of it.
You have to remember it's not just blood, it's a mixture of things. :)

http://www.yogawiz.com/blog/home-remedies/dark-brown-menstrual-discharge-causes-black-blood-cycles.html

if your on birth control, can a guy nutt in you and you not get pregnant? lol

In a nutshell..

There is no birth control that is 100% effective. Whilst it isn't likely, there's still that small chance it COULD happen.

There's this cute guy I like. The thing is, we're not that close yet. Do you think I should add him on Facebook already or just wait for him to do it or until we're close?

xoxo

Just add him! It's only Facebook. :)
and if he accepts you, let the conversation roll on from there!

I like this guy i dated,but i dumped him for the dumbest of reason.I still liked him when i dumped him.one of my best friends started dating him..now me and her aren't so close,but the resons isnt cause of him.(we just kinda grew apart).now i know this is going to sound sick,but i need help on how to break them up.if you knew how much i liked him, you wouldn't think of me so badly.PLEASE help me!

Hunni, I'll save the lecture and tell you straight. I'm sure plenty people have been in the same position and I can imagine how much hurt this may be causing you, but breaking them up just won't work. Plus, it will be pretty obvious you were behind it.

You should let nature take its course. if they aren't meant to be, they will break up.
but in the mean time, he has a girlfriend now and I'm really sorry to say - you had your chance.
You shouldn't even make it clear you still like him.. because at the end of the day, you would HATE it if you were in this other girls position right now and someone was thinking of breaking you up to steal him away.
and remember, if he wanted to be with you, he WOULDN'T be with someone else right now.

There's plenty guys out there. Find someone loads better!!

heyy 14/f

I have no clue what i should do my make up like? This week I'm having a Halloween dance at my school. Any tips on how to do my make up real nice? (It's not a formal or costume dance) I might have my first kiss this Friday, and i want to look good haha plus i do need some new tips.
the make up i have is:
-black mascara
-brown eyeliner

It's a dance, not a formal and you want to IMPRESS!
Don't settle for normal, every day make up.

From what you have, I like the sound of the green OR blue eyeliner/turquoise eyeshadow (or both liner and shadow if you are daring) by the way, what are you wearing? You can either match your outfit or do a clever contrast ;)

If you can get hold of some liquid black eyeliner, put it across the top of your lids and make it flick out.
Here's a pic of me if you don't get what I mean:
http://photos-b.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc1/hs181.snc1/6011_123991069136_512059136_2082701_6680137_n.jpg

Anyway, put the coloured eyeliner on the bottom of your eyes (not the rim - save that for black pencil eyeliner if you have it) and try putting the shadow on the outer corners of your eyes, to bring them out and really make them sparkle.
I don't know if the pic's clear enough, but if you click on my column, I have purple eyeshadow on the outer corners.
Finish off with mascara and a dab of glitter on the sides of your eyes under the eye shadow.

In the time you have left..Experiment, experiment, experiment! Browse lots of pics from the internet and lastly, have an awesome night.

im a girl. obv. ok so ive nver been fingered but i plan on it soon. so i have no clue what happens? my bf says my pants stay on so we can be safe but life how would i sit or lay or stand? helppp

How can he finger you if your pants stay on? Does he mean just rubbing the area or something else? You need to ask him to be a bit more specific with that one.
and for your first time, I suggest just lying down.
and please make sure you really want to go furher with your boyfriend. (considering this says you're only 14)
and remember, if it hurts or feels uncomfortable, don't be afraid to say stop. :)
Good luck.

ok this is kinda random but im a girl and im wondering when your making out and your boyfriend is feeling you up(breasts) what are you suppose to do? keep kissing or what? where do your hands go???

You aren't SUPPOSED to do anything - It's entirely up to you.
If he's okay with you touching him (chest, neck, back, face, shoulders, down south) then do whatever feels good for you both.
Remember, if you're making out with someone, you should be comfortable with talking to them and asking them what they like.
Good luck. :)

hey! im 16/f.

my boyfriend and i had rough unprotected sex (dont worry i'm on the birth control pill) ... he lasted much longer then he usually does, we used some KY jelly and it was like warming ahha. idkkkk. like ive never had such rough sex in my life ahah, and no it wasnt my first time i lost my virginity a year ago.
well. the day after.. i have a slight pain in my vagina, and a light bleeding. its not like redredred. its like a pinkish red. i just ended my period the morning before but it was completely over by the time we had intercourse.

is everything okay with me? i know for a fact im not pregnant he didnt "let out" inside of me. i know that doesnt mean im preg. but im on birth control so im okayyy i rarely use condoms with him.

but is this normal? did he tear something? idkk whats going on im a little bit worried.

thanks in advance=]

It doesn't take much to do things a little TOO rough y'know. Believe it or not, the vagina is a rather tender area.
Maybe you did tear something slightly or if he used his hands at all, maybe his fingernails got in the way..
To me, it just sounds like you went a bit over the top, especially if this type of thing doesn't normally happen.
Remember, if it starts to hurt and it's not very enjoyable, tone it down a bit.
You should be okay in a day or 2, but if the bleeding does carry on, get a quick check over by your doc. and in the mean time, refrain from things sexual while you heal.

i have been with my girlfriend for 4 months our sex life was amazing we took showers together slept naked but its all stopped its like i have to beg to bbe romantic to her whats happening or how can i make the good times come back?

The fact it's faded out in only 4 months may suggest you rushed things at the beginning.
Stop worrying about it for a while and get out of the same old routine. Give it a few days of perhaps not doing anything sexual, then doing something you haven't done before. Maybe even go out for a romantic meal and take the romance back home with you. Share any fantasies you both have or maybe make up some fun games.
Remember, it's the little things which count, too.. Make a bit of effort with each other and get out of the comfortable stage - dress to impress, even wearing perfume/cologne helps. Plant random kisses and leave little notes, her favourite flowers/sweets/treats every now and then - anything to show her you care.
If it's possible, have a weekend away and focus on just yourselves.
If you haven't already, you need to talk to her and make sure everything's okay. Make sure she's not stressed etc, as sometimes, this can affect the sexual side of things.

If you want any more help, feel free to inbox me.

when my boyfriend is fingering me ill climax...then he'll keep going and it kinda hurts...i guess it gets really sensitive...is this normal? or is there a way to stop it?

It's normal. Most women find after they've climaxed, their sexual tension is released - therefore causing discomfort if they carry on. I get like it sometimes, too.

I have a friend and neighbor. I am 36. She is 32.several months ago I was going through mid-life crisis and she has a life time medical disorder. I also have diabetes. I did something her family did not like without consciously knowing I did it. Her parents live on the other side of town and 60 days ago told me to refrain from having contact with her. I abided and 10 days later sent the three of them an apology letter explaining what I was going through. did not hear anything. about 10 days ago I ran into her parents at the local Walmart and asked if we could talk for a few. Her mom's boyfriend said NO(in a tone meaning Drop Dead I think). While the girl and I friends I kind of told her how I felt and let her know I was going to ask her out, but decided to just remain friends. Since that day she was pushing me away everytime I asked her if she wanted to do something. I believe she was hiding behind her medical problem using it as a excuse. We would make plans and then she would keep me hanging for days. I would like to have her back as only a friend but do not want any legal trouble. Her family told me that if I did have contact with her they would charge me with stalking. I don't believe I have done anything seriously wrong. can any one help? I should also mention that the girl is going through painkiller withdraw and having problems. thank you.

"Since that day she was pushing me away everytime I asked her if she wanted to do something. I believe she was hiding behind her medical problem using it as a excuse. We would make plans and then she would keep me hanging for days."

Hun, it sounds like she's trying to let you down gently without any trouble starting up.
If you want to be the good guy in this, like you say you are, then leave her and her family be. If she wants your friendship, trust, she will come back to you - but for now, it's obvious she and her family don't want much to do with you right now, so leave them to it.
Remember, within time, most things sort themselves out, so there could be hope in the future to remain a friendship. but for now, just let it go.

I am experiencing recent problems with my girl friend, Katherine, of 2 years, who otherwise was in a very good, happy relationship with me. About two weeks ago, I went to her apartment after a short shift at work to take her to dinner and I found a man by the name of Anthony there. He is a friend of her good friend Andrea. At first it looked like he was just on the couch but as I walked by the window to her door, I looked in and noticed she was sucking him off. I instantly confronted her and all but attacked him. When I tried to ask her questions she was too distraught to answer, angering me, so I left.

I ignored her for about a week until finally agreeing to let her explain herself. She told me that she had no feelings for him, that it was just physical. She said that she still loved me and would do anything to get me back. And of course she apologized about 1000 times, between tears. I also made her confess everything they did. (Apparently this was the first time. He went to drop off an item from Andrea and stayed a little too long. They ended up fucking, but having no condom he didn't want to finish in her so she sucked him off. That's when I showed up.)
Although I was suspicious of her not having "any" feelings for him, I have always believed that people can make ONE mistake. If it happens again after that, it's not a mistake. However, in order for anything to work, she needs to be completely honest with me, including/starting with her reasons for cheating. I felt I needed to know that in order to prevent such incident in the future.

Well, after asking her a few times, I started getting annoyed. She kept hesitating, and answering vaguely that it was "just physical" and that she was "tempted in the moment." But finally after I showed my annoyance and pressed her further she broke down and admitted that she was tempted because Andrea had expressed "he was big." This of course made me mad again, because I couldn't believe that was the only reason. I have never actually heard a woman admit she was attracted to only penis size. So I told her I would reconsider but that is where I left it.

I decided to go to her friend Andrea to judge whether she was telling the truth; whether she in fact could be just attracted to his size. To Katherine's defense, when I walked in on them, I did notice Anthony's size. Based on what she told me, and what I saw, he was probably well over 8 inches long, and proportionally thick. Of course I didn't stare. But I had always been told by women that size isn't an issue for them, so I wanted to see if maybe Katherine had told Andrea a differently story she had told me.

As soon as I started talking with Andrea, it was clear to me that Katherine has talked to her about the penis issue. Although Katherine never told me I was small or not enough, Andrea instantly knew that my penis size was about 3.25 inches, which means that Katherine must have told her. And even though Katherine viewed this as a mistake and promised never to do it again, Andrea all but blamed this on my penis size saying that Katherine deserves to f**k someone bigger, after being under satisfied for 2 years.

Do you think that my girl friend Katherine is thinking the same thing? Or is this strictly only her friend's view, as Andrea claims?
Do you think it is possible that Katherine cheated on me just because of penis size? Or do you think she is trying to hide certain feelings she has for him?

Thanks for the question.
Firstly, I'm sorry for what happened and what you've had to go through. I can only imagine how upset and angry you must feel.

There's a problem though - I am not Katherine and can't tell you how she feels deep down. What I can tell you though is my gut instinct and opinion. Since this is only MY opinion, I don't want you to just take my word, I want you to follow your heart at the end of it all, but I'll give you a few things to think about.

You say Andrea spoke to Katherine about Anthony's penis size, which is fair enough, curiosity and gossip might have got the better of them, but since Andrea knows your penis size, it's obvious they have been talking about you, and possibly comparing your size to Anthony's and/or how your sex life is going with Katherine.. leading Katherine to be more curious about what it would be like to have sex etc with a bigger man.
Whilst this is definitely NOT acceptable, it's probably what happened.
I can't tell you if Katherine has feelings for him - although I think the whole "it was just physical" is bullshit. In my eyes, you have to be attracted to someone and have some feelings before indulging in the sexual side of things - but hey, that's just me.

If I were you, I'd seriously reconsider the relationship. You guys can either work incredibly hard to build the trust back.. or you'll be living in fear of curiosity getting the better of her again and making you feel like you can't satisfy her.

Follow your heart, but don't be a fool.

14/ F I am have a rib/tummy/back pain that is getting worse each day. I have told my mom about it, but she wont take me to the doctor. It gets so bad that i fill fall down, throw up, are even pass out. I have no idea what this could be. And i feel i need to see a doctor and soon. :/

Noone can say for sure on here, because we aren't doctors and can't diagnose you on the internet.
but what I can tell you is you are right - you DO need to see a doc to pinpoint what's causing this. Tummy and back pain can be many things, from something simple like gas, to something that may need treatment.
How long has this been going on? It's also an important factor.
My advice to you would be to do a little research on stomach and back pain and see if it offers any help.

and please talk to your mum about it. If she still says no, do you have any other family members who are willing to help? OR can you go alone? It's best you get checked over.

Ok, this is kind of a weird question... recently I noticed that my butt is un-even. My right cheek is larger then my left. I don't mean it's way bigger, but it is noticable. It doesn't really bother me too much, I guess that muscle is just bigger? I was just wondering why that is... anyway thanks :)

Noone has a perfectly even body, hun.
Don't worry - it's completely normal. Like you'll have one foot bigger than the other, one boob bigger than the other, ears aren't totally symmetrical, one smaller eye, etc etc!

I wore some flats today to school, and to be more specific, they were Keds, and the material is cloth-like? (Sorry, I don't know a better way to describe it!) So then after school, I stepped in some mud! D: Now one of my shoes is ruined because of the mud. :\ The design of the shoes are navy blue and white stripes. (if that will help somehow.) Is there ANY way I would be able to clean it off? For the white parts of the shoe, could I just bleach it? (there are some open spaces of white in there) But what could I do for the navy blue and white stripes that got mud on it? Is it too late to save my shoe? xD Thanks!

I clean mine with a sponge that has fairy liquid and water on it.
You can also put them in the washing machine - just make sure they're 100% dry before wearing them to prevent odor. If it's quite a bad stain, put stain remover in the washing machine, too.
Those shoes do look rather flimsy, but they're easy to clean and stains come out rather well.. so hopefully they aren't ruined. :)

I've eaten at two Chinese places now and am having really strange reactions afterwards. The first time I ate at the local Chinese food place I had a first ever migraine headache. It was REALLY awful. Then, I ate at another Chinese place a few weeks later. I got really sleepy after I ate and I took a nap, but when I woke up my tongue was hurting a lot and my head felt really weird--I think it is considered being lightheaded. I decided to not go back to the second one but I did try the first local one again, which ended up with me having a really bad migraine headache again. Is it possible that I am allergic to the MSG they have in their foods? They have a "warning" sign posted that the foods contain MSG. Is this a possible allergic reaction, you think?

Yes, yes, yes. I am exactly the same! I've just got over a migraine now even, from too much MSG. 3 days later, I'm still feeling some effects.
What you've explained has been nicknamed "Chinese food syndrome", because a lot of places use it.
You should just watch what you eat, especially after the attacks, because I feel when I've had a migraine, if I eat something spicy or strong (especially something containing MSG) afterwards, it happens again and again. So rid your body of what you put into it and try and keep away from MSG as much as you can. Doesn't mean you have to cut it out altogether I've found - I still enjoy the odd artificially flavoured food now and again, just don't go OTT.
MSG isn't the only cuplrit for me either, things like Phenylalanine (aspartame) is a baddy, so now you're aware your MSG allergy, keep a look out for others.

Research the facts about MSG and what it can actually do to your body... you might not even want to put it into your mouth afterwards..

What are all the pros and cons of taking medicine for ADHD?

This will forever be an on going discussion.
It depends on the drugs you are using to treat it because they have different side effects.
I remember watching a talk show where one girl was prescribed too much and it killed her - and her parents wanted to warn others of the dangers and to try and stop other people using the drugs.
Parents on the show also claimed it turned their children into "zombies" and weren't at all like themselves.. whereas others said they don't know what they did without it!

What people WANT out of the drugs is just for the person taking it to be calmer and have more self control.. but that's not always the case.

For anyone that gets put on medication for ADHD will have EVERYTHING explained by a doctor anyway, so it's your decision.

So, apparently I caught the H1N1 swine flu last week (verified by my doctor; yes, he ran some tests for it). It was pretty awful but aren't all flus? Anyway, do I still need the H1N1 swine flu vaccine? I mean, if I already overcame it, it means I'm immune for this year, right? I'm still getting a seasonal flu shot, but do I actually need the specific H1N1 vaccination?

I've had it too. and I got a booklet about it, explaining that it IS possible to get it again, because the virus mutates.

iam so very scared please help me .
me and my bf were intimate
afterwards he looked and notcied the condom ripped all the way down.
and there was cum on various spots on his sheets.
Im not sure if any got in me though.
But even if it did can there be a chance that i WONT be preg?

Basically im asking if a girl is exposed to cum at all is there any chance of her not getting pregnant?

Pregnancy is NEVER certain. but you NEED to protect yourself if you don't want it to happen.
It's 50-50.
When did this happen? You can get the morning after pill to be safe - it's effective for up to 72 hours after the accident.
If not, wait 'til your next period and if it doesn't come, you need to take a test.
Try not to worry in the mean time..

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